For children, - Creative and Innovative Story: There is always a better way

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A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat.
A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.
Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy. That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The blind boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?"
The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way."
What he had written was: "Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it."
Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing? Of course both signs told people the boy was blind.
But the first sign simply told people to help by putting some money in the hat. The second sign told people that they were able to enjoy the beauty of the day, but the boy could not enjoy it because he was blind.
The first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?
Lessons from Life:
1. Be thankful for what you have.
"Has there not been over Man a long period of Time, when he was nothing - (not even) mentioned? Then verily We created Man from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: So We gave him (the gifts), of Hearing and Sight." Noble Qur'an (76:1-2)
2. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively as Noble Qur'an admonishes:
"Those who celebrate the praises of Allah, standing, sitting, and lying down on their sides, and contemplate the (wonders of) creation in the heavens and the earth, (With the thought): "Our Lord! You have not created this for naught. Glory be to You! Give us salvation from the penalty of the Fire." Noble Qur'an (3:191)
3. Invite the people towards good with wisdom. Noble Qur'an says:
"Invite (all) to the Way of your Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious: for your Lord knows the best, who have strayed from His Path, and who have received guidance." Noble Qur'an (16:125)








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Fathwa, - Khul’ takes place regardless what the wife intends

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Does divorce by khula' take place regardless of whether or not the conditions set by the husband are fullfilled? For eg a man asks for the mahr as well as the wife forfeiting her rights to some other money.. the wife gives back the mahr but in her heart she does not give up her right to the money. Does the khula' still take effect? The husband in this case uttered the words of divorce and received the mahr, the wife wanted a khula' but not if it meant giving up her entitlements. Does the wife's intention matter in this case?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His Slave and Messenger.
The example you mentioned clearly indicates that the wife accepted both to return the dowry and to renounce some of her financial rights on the husband as compensation. If this is the case, it is obligatory on the wife to fulfill what they agreed upon and forfeit these rights. There is no consideration for what she intended. For further information about the definition of Khul‘, please refer to Fatwa 89039.
However, if the husband took the dowry and uttered divorce on condition that he would demand her to pay the rest and she did not accept that condition, there would be no consideration for that )condition(. The husband would not be entitled to anything except the compensation he took in return for uttering divorce because nothing would be obligatory on the wife except the things she made obligatory on herself.
In any case, it is better to take matters of dispute to the Sharee‘ah courts or its substitutes such as the Islamic authorities, in case Sharee‘ah courts are not available.
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Fathwa, - She feels unable to return to her husband who beat her

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Salaams, I am seperated from my husband for 10months, he did not give me my talaaq i left on my own. Things got very ugly between us, my parents were involved he even lifted his hand on my mother. He has made maaf he wants us to try and reconsile but i do not want to go back. He says he want a valid reason that he can understand to why i do not want to go back. eg I can not say because he beat me up, he replies he has changed i should give him another chance to prove himself. I do not have feeling for him anymore, how should i explain it to him in a way he would accept. Please advise me urgently. Jazakallah Salaam
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His slave and Messengear.
Both spouses should have good marital relationship with each other as Allaah ordered in His Book saying )what means(:}And due to them ]i.e. the wives[ is similar to what is expected to them, according to what is reasonable.{]Quran 2:228[
If problems happen, then they should be wise in solving them. Besides, the parents of the wife should endeavour to reconcile between their daughter and her husband and not be part of the problem.
In any case, if what you mentioned is true that your husband beat you, and he has no sound reason for doing so, or that this beating was through aggression only to harm you, then he is wrong. However, you also was wrong by going out of the marital home without the consent of your husband if this going out was without a sound reason, like fearing to be harmed by him and the like. Moreover, it is not permissible for you to ask for divorce without a sound reason as this is prohibited in the Sharee’ah.
On the other hand, if the wife is harmed by her husband by him beating her, for example, then this is a sound reason for her to ask for divorce.
However, we advise you to be patient with your husband especially that he wishes to reconcile with you, and reconciliation is good especially if you have children from him because in general the children are harmed when divorce takes place. Also, it could be that the wife asks her husband to divorce her and once she is divorced, she regrets. Therefore, you should take your time and ask the advice of rational people in your family.
Nonetheless, if you are determined to separate from him, then you may ask him to divorce you. If he accepts and divorces you, then this is what is required, but if he refuses, then you may ask for Khul’. For more benefit, please refer to Fataawa 89039and 84309.
Finally, it should be noted that we are unable to determine how you could convince him, and if you do not want to mention to him the fact of him beating you, then you may say to him that you are unable to live with him anymore.
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