General Articles, - Moderation in joyand grief

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Muslims’ commitment to Allah and His religion entails an unconditional loyalty.
For this reason, fluctuating conditions and circumstances never change believers’ zeal, enthusiasm and determination to live by the Qur’an.
Allah mentions two basic reactions shown by a believer.
First, hardship or severe conditions never daunt him.
Second, he never exults or feels pride because of what he obtains in this world. Allah reveals this in the Qur’an as:
That is so that you will not be grieved about the things that pass you by or exult about the things that come to you. Allah does not love any vain or boastful man. (Surat al-Hadid; 23)
Man is always vulnerable, since he has no idea about what awaits him in life.
A young person may suddenly be seized by a serious disease or become bedridden because of an accident. Anyone may lose all his wealth in a day or encounter events he never anticipated.
In such a situation, those of weak faith will despair or feel rebellious. Forgetting all the blessings of Allah in an instant, they may even lose their love for and trust in Him.
Aware that there is a divine purpose and good in every event that Allah creates, believers merely persevere in the face of unexpected events and trust firmly in Allah's wisdom, compassion and justice.
Meanwhile, believers may sometimes experience loss of material wealth, have to risk their lives or abandon their homes. Yet all such seemingly adverse occasions will bring great reward, joy and glory in the Hereafter.
As well as unexpected losses, people may also experience unexpected gains. Allah opens His infinite dominion to whom He wills and grants success, authority and power.
But He warns Muslims against exulting in pride since any person receiving a great possession, authority or benefit becomes only a trustee, while it is Allah Who is the real possessor of everything.
In the Qur’an Allah reveals this fact.
Mankind! you are the poor in need of Allah whereas Allah is the Rich Beyond Need, the Praiseworthy. (Surah Fatir: 15)
Aware of this fact, believers never forget their own weakness and do not become arrogant even when they enjoy great blessings and wealth. They feel only a deep gratitude to Allah, and they strive to use their blessings for His cause in the best way possible.

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General Articles, - Remaining patient in the face of difficulties

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“Therefore be patient with a patience which is beautiful..” (Surat al-Ma’arij, 5)
Patience is one of the most important attributes of a believer. What renders patience so valuable is “to be patient with a patience which is beautiful”. All Mighty Allah creates many incidents for a Muslim for which he should display patience.
Weaknesses and diseases peculiar to this world, unbelievers’ oppression and insults, people that Allah makes us encounter to test our lower selves are some of these.
It is a great blessing to live in the hope of and willingness to attain Paradise, which is a manifestation of infinite beauties Allah relates us in the Qur’an and the hadith. While hoping to attain Paradise, a believer has to show a beautiful patience towards the weaknesses of the life of this world.
One of the most important attributes of a beautiful patience is remaining patient with a serene heart. It is being assured that all incidents Allah shows us are created in the best way, in the most wise form. A convinced heart reveals itself from the expression of one’s face, the serenity in his soul and speech. In his face there appears peace in his face that patience gives. His statements reveal maturity and trust in Allah.
A person who shows patience with a beautiful patience does this with the consciousness of the worship he performs and awareness that he is patient for Allah. Therefore he takes pleasure from showing this patience. Just as how a person gives thanks to Allah with his words and deeds when he receives a lot of blessings, and uses those blessings in the best form, he should likewise meet those situations towards which he should be patient and act in the consciousness that they are also blessings from Allah. He must act with the awareness that those incidents are created with many wisdom so as to lay the basis for beauties and experience its beauty while displaying patience.
Another purpose of showing patience is this morality’s rendering one draw closer to Allah and increase a sincere Muslim’s love of Allah. A person who shows patience towards hardship, trouble or a sickness for Allah’s good pleasure knows that every moment, every second of this patience is very precious in Allah’s Sight. In the Hereafter, the rewards of a deed done by showing a beautiful patience and the one done under very comfortable conditions or with no effort at all may not be the same. If a person engages in a deed while at the same time showing patience, his morality may render his deed more worthy. For instance showing self-sacrifice while one is sick and while he is perfectly healthy may not be the same. If a person makes sacrifice for Allah’s good pleasure while he is sick, he, by Allah’s leave, experiences the profound and candid beauty of showing patience. For this reason, until death comes upon them, Muslims always show the kind of beautiful patience Allah describes in the Qur’an when they encounter an incident, whether big or small. In return for their moral perfection and beautiful patience he shows, he lives in the hope of earning Allah’s good pleasure.

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Fathwa, - Her mother-in-law interferes in her..

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Assalamu alaikum! iam really upset with the current situation.i don't know whats right in the eyes of allah.i was married while i was studying and i badly wanted to continue my studies after my marriage and my husband was not against it.But my mother in law never liked me to continue my studies after marriage.Since my husband recommended my father in law gave permission to study i went to college even though i had to hear from my mother in laws sharp words which hurted me and atlast i had to stop my studies because of this.But iam really hurt that i couldnot complete it.My question is whether all mothers have rights over their son in their family matters? a son should obey his mother and forget his wife's wishes and desires to make their mother happy? whether wife should always sacrifice like this for the mother?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammadis His Slave and Messenger.
Your mother-in-law has no right to interfere in the marital life of her son unless she wants to reconcile ]between the two of you[. If she really provokes you and says hurtful words to you, then she is wrongful in doing that. However, being patient and repelling a bad deed with a good deed is a characteristic of the people of virtue. Allaah says )what means(: }And not equal are the good deed and the bad. Repel ]evil[ by that ]deed[ which is better; and there upon, the one whom between you and him is enmity ]will become[ as though he was a devoted friend.{]Quran 41:34[
Ibn Katheersaid )about the interpretation of the above verse( in his Tafseer )interpretation of the Quran(: “That is to say that if you do good to someone who mistreats you, then this good that you do will lead him to have a good attitude towards you, like you, and be compassionate with you; until he becomes like an intimate friend to you, who is sympathetic and kind to you.”
For more benefit on the virtue of patience, please refer to Fatwa 83577.
However, patience does not mean that the wife should not request her rights over her husband. For more benefit on how a wife could solve the interference of her in-laws in her marital life, please refer to Fatwa 181485.
On the other hand, the son ]your husband[ should be wise; he should give his mother her right and give his wife her right so as not to wrong either one of them at the expense of the other.
In case a wife stipulates a condition at the time of concluding the marriage contract that does not contradict the purpose of the contract and he accepted it, then he is obliged to fulfill it as clarified in Fataawa 131714and 157809. However, the mere fact that the wife was studying at the time of concluding the marriage contract does not make it a condition that she continues her studies.
As for your husband’s obedience to his mother, it is not an absolute obligation; rather, the jurists stated that a child is to obey his mother in what involves benefit for the mother and no harm for the child, as clarified in 84942.
Finally, we advise you to be wise and cautious so that the problem does not aggravate so as to cause dissension and separation. Also, you should pray to Allaah to set the matter right and grant you stability.
Allaah Knows best.

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