Fathwa, - Diseases that may affect marital life should be disclosed before concluding the marriage contract

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I have a disease that affects the liver that is transmitted through blood, sex or childbirth. I caught it due to lack of antisepsis at birth. This disease usually appears between forty and sixty years of age, and once it appears, the affected person dies some days later. As yet, no remedy has been found but there is a vaccine against it. At present, I am 23 years old. I have a job and would like to marry. My question is: could I vaccinate the woman whom I would like to marry without telling her about the reality of my disease? If your Fatwa is in the negative, then, I would not be accepted. Is it lawful to spend my entire life without marriage? Is this not a violation of the rules of a sound innate disposition? I am content with the fate that Allaah The Almighty has decreed for me. What should I do to restrain my sexual desire and not fall into sin?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His Slave and Messenger.
A faithful believer must accept the fate that Allaah The Almighty decrees for him, and should do so patiently while hoping for the reward from Allaah The Almighty, keeping in mind that there is wisdom known only by Allaah The Almighty that lies behind whatever diseases and trials he is exposed to, and that they are a means to raise his rank and blot out his sins.
Undoubtedly, the disease that has affected you is a kind of trial, and perhaps Allaah The Almighty would cure you of it by virtue of your obedience and piety, and prayer to Him to cure you and restore you to health, since nothing but supplication can avert fate, as confirmed in the noble Prophetic Hadeeth )narration(.
As for your intention to marry and your question whether or not to tell your would-be wife about this disease, let us say that if it is certain that you are affected by that disease, due to your confidence in the validity of analyses and tests, on the basis of their variety and multiple sources, we are of the view that you should tell the woman whom you would like to marry about this. This is necessary so that she is fully aware of the matter, especially since you are going to vaccinate her against the disease, and you must have her permission before you give her the vaccine. Furthermore, after marriage, the symptoms of the disease might appear, which would put the family life to risk, for by then the woman would perceive to what extent she has been deceived and cheated.
No doubt, you would never accept to be treated as such by your wife. If you marry a woman and after marriage you detect that she is suffering from such a disease and that she has hidden this fact from you, of a surety, your impression would be that you have been cheated and deceived. It is narrated in a Prophetic Hadeeth: "None of you has believed until he likes for his brother what he likes for himself." ]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
We advise you to endeavor to treat yourself, and do your best to search for a remedy, and have confidence in Allaah The Almighty, seek refuge in Him, and treat yourself with the things which He made curative like the water of Zamzam, honey, black seed and other such things. Many sick persons whose disease was hopeless took refuge in that, with reliance on and confidence in Allaah The Almighty, and they fully recovered.
If you intend to marry, it may be that Allaah The Almighty would place in your way a righteous woman who accepts to marry you regardless of your disease.
We ask Allaah to cure you, restore you to health, and make your affairs easy.
Allaah Knows best.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M

Fathwa, - Marrying a woman who lost her virginity when raped

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I am a young Muslim man. I met a girl whom I intend to marry. She told me that she was deflowered after being raped by her uncle. This matter made me change my mind concerning marrying her. What do you advise?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His Slave and Messenger.
If you are sure of the truthfulness of this girl, then, it is permissible for you to marry her. Moreover, if you marry her, you will be preserving her honor. She told you what had happened, which indicates her truthfulness especially that she named her uncle as the perpetrator. It is most unlikely to accuse her uncle if she is a liar. If she was lying, she was more likely to claim that she was raped by any other man or to tell you that she lost her virginity due to a jump or a fall, and so on. In general, you are more knowledgeable regarding the condition of the girl, her truthfulness and circumstances.
We would like to bring to your attention that is it impermissible for a man and a woman to have a relationship before marriage.
Allaah Knows best.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M

Fathwa, - If a girl accepts your case,marry her!

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Is it permissible for a man to give up the idea of marriage completely and be patient with the Decree of Allaah especially because he knows that he suffers from impotence? It should be noted that he is twenty-five years old and has never had sexual intercourse.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, the Lord of the worlds. I testify that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad, is His Slave and Messenger.
The questioner does not clarify the reason behind giving up the idea of marriage. It should be known that it is permissible not to marry if the person does not fear committing sexual sins. The Prophet, urged those who can marry to do so. He said:“O young people! Whoever among you are able to marry should marry, as it is better for lowering for the gaze and more protective of the private parts )chastity(.”]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
According to the majority of scholars, the command on the aforementioned Hadeeth )narration( and the verse in which Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}marry those that please you of ]other[ women{]Quran 4:3[ indicates a recommendation for those who do not fear committing unlawful sexual intercourse. ]Bidaayat Al-Mujtahid by Ibn Rushd[
The ability to marry in this Hadeeth refers to potency and the ability to pay for the costs of marriage. Hence, we advise you to supplicate Allaah The Almighty frequently, perform guidance-seeking prayer )Istikhaarah( and consult doctors. According to a Fatwa issued byIbn Taymiyyahand other scholars; if you suffer from a disease that prevents you from sexual intercourse, then, you should not marry a woman without informing her because sexual intercourse is one of the foremost rights of the wife.
However, this does not prevent you from marriage if you can afford the costs of financial maintenance, because there are many benefits in marriage. Perhaps you will find a widow or a divorced woman who has children and has a desire to marry someone like you. You may find a woman who has no desire for sexual intercourse due to her old age.
If you find a woman who accepts your conditions, then, marry her perhaps Allaah The Almighty may heal you.
If you decide not to marry, you should do your best to direct the most of your financial abilities and physical energies in a way that pleases Allaah The Almighty. So, you should busy yourself with seeking and spreading knowledge and gaining money and spending it for the sake of Allaah The Almighty and relieving the impoverished people. You should follow the example of the righteous predecessors who did not marry but employed their abilities for the sake of high goals such asImaam An-NawawiandShaykh Al-Islam Ibn Taymiyyah.
Allaah Knows best.

- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M

Najimudeen M: Dought & clear, - Belief in the Books.

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