Soul Purification, - Severity and Violence Lead to Remorse

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In a Hadeeth on the authority of ‘Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, it was mentioned that some Jews came to the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and said, “As-Saamu 'Alaykum ]death be on you[.” ‘Aa’ishah, may Allaah be pleased with her, therefore said )to them(, “]Death[ be upon you, and may Allaah curse you and inflict His wrath upon you.” The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“O 'Aa’ishah! Be calm. You should be kind and lenient, and beware of severity and bad words.”She said, “Did you not you hear what they said?” He, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, replied:“And did you hear what I said ]to them[? I said the same to them, and my supplication against them will be accepted while theirs against me will be rejected.”]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
This is how the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, taught us to avoid severity and resort to easygoingness in all matters; he said:“Leniency adorns anything that contains it, while anything that it is void of is distorted.”
The Meaning of Severity
Leniency means moderateness and kindness while severity is the absence of these qualities in dealing with any matter. In other words, it is extremism and exaggeration that are accompanied by stiffness and rudeness when dealing with others, even if they have behaved impolitely.
Treating people severely creates a desire for retaliation when there is a chance to do so, while kindness reconciles the hearts and makes people obedient.
Deprived of Goodness
The one deprived of leniency and who lives among people and treats them violently would be deprived of goodness, as the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“The one who is deprived of leniency would be deprived of all goodness.”
Severity is a disgraceful and evil phenomenon that leads to the spreading of grudges and enmities among people. It creates a desire for challenging others and stubbornness that in turn leads to disobeying orders and directives, even if they are good. Severity in attempting to fix any mechanism leads to its breakage, while severity when facing calamities destroys one’s power and energy.
Violence, Severity and the Mass Media
Many studies and seminars have tackled the effects of violence and severity propagated by the mass media on the behavior of its audience, especially youngsters.
Unfortunately, many of the programs and series that are broadcast today represent the oppression that people suffer at others’ hands, beginning from snubbing, neglecting and ridiculing them up to hitting, cursing, or even committing crimes against them such as assault or murder. This, undoubtedly, affects young people and this effect appears later on in life, as some studies have revealed.
Violence and Severity with Servants and the Weak
An aspect of violence that people see in some communities is that practiced against servants and other weak people, in addition to despising them and burdening them with unbearable hard work, some people may even hit them and abuse them physically and mentally. This is something that should not, for any reason, be spread in Muslim communities. Here is an incident that took place at the time of the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam:
Abu Mas‘ood Al-Badri, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: “Once, I was beating my slave with a whip when I heard a voice behind me saying,‘O Abu Mas‘ood, you ought to know.’I did not recognize the voice because of my severe anger. When he ]who had spoken[ approached me, I found that it was the Messenger of Allaah, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and he was saying:‘O Abu Mas‘ood, you ought to know that Allaah has more dominance over you than you have over your slave.’I ]then[ said, ‘I would never ever beat a servant again in future.’” The wording of another narration of this incident reads, “Abu Mas‘ood, may Allaah be pleased with him, said ‘He is free for the Sake of Allaah.’ The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said,‘If you had not have done that, you would have been burnt by the Fire.’”
Violence and Severity Against Women
Statistics show that violence against women has become a widespread phenomenon in western countries, which may be due to the corruption and deviation of the methods of upbringing there. There is no doubt that our societies are not free from such strange cases where women and children are exposed to violence. In spite of the fact that these cases are limited in our societies, we should remind people that this is something that is despicable and contradicts the Islamic Sharee‘ah and its moral system.
The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“I forbid the ]usurping of the[ right of two weak people: orphans and women.”When the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, was informed that some men hit their wives, he said:“They are not the best among you.”
If women or children needed to be reformed, physical punishment should be the last resort. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}Men are in charge of women by ]right of[ what Allaah has given one over the other and what they spend ]for maintenance[ from their wealth. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in ]the husband's[ absence what Allaah would have them guard. But those ]wives[ from whom you fear arrogance - ]first[ advise them; ]then if they persist[, forsake them in bed; and ]finally[, strike them gently. But if they obey you ]once more[, seek no means against them. Indeed, Allaah is ever Exalted and Grand.{]Quran 4:34[
Even if it reaches this extent, the Sharee‘ah rules that guarantee the safety of the soul and the body and that allow no harm to be done should be observed.
Violence with Animals
Some people who have a corrupt disposition find pleasure in tormenting animals and use violence against them. Islam forbids this. The Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, once entered an orchard that was owned by one of the Ansaar and found a camel in it. When the camel saw the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, it shed tears, so the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, wiped his tears and asked about his owner. A man from the Ansaar said that it was his, so the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said to him:“Will not you fear Allaah with regards to the animal that He has granted you? It complained to me that you keep it hungry and exhaust it.”
In conclusion, it has to be remembered that the lenient person gains safety, while violence and severity only leads to remorse.

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Soul Purification, - Gossip: Sisters, beware!

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Gossip is perhaps the main menace responsible for the biggest volume of lies. Gossip, including, backbiting )gheebah(, slander, and more precisely calumny, )buhtaan(, sows the seeds of unending dissension and pain in many Muslim communities. Our communities are festering with this disease. A student of mine, a Muslim girl who recently had become religious and joined the company of Muslim girls, told my class roughly the following: "My non-Muslim friends gossiped and lied too, but that was a rare annoyance. But when I began to hang out with Muslim girls, gossiping, lying, and belittling others were at a totally different level.
It is hard to get through one conversation with a friend without engaging in some kind of gossip about someone."
The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhi wa sallam, said:"To convey all that one hears to others is sufficient to make one a liar."]Muslim[
Solution? Worry about the accuracy and impact of every word you utter—specially if you have friends in whose company you tend to engage in gossip, or who have a habit of gossiping with you. Be extra careful, and remind them again and again not to talk about others at all.

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Dought & clear, - He has Klinefelter syndrome; does he haveto wear hijab?

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A friend of mine, has been diagnosed with an inter-sex medical condition called Klinefelter syndrome. He is 21 years old and has female body characteristics such as breast growth, weak in strength and wide hips. He is asking me whether he is regarded as a male or female in Islam and if he needs to wear the hijab.
Praise be to Allah
Klinefelter syndrome is a condition that affects males because of irregularities in the chromosomes. It is named after Dr Henry Klinefelter, who first described it in 1942 CE.
Symptoms include:
1.Sterility, as a result of the lack of cells that produce sperm.
2.Larger breasts.
3.Weak muscles, like those of a woman.
4.Pubic hair may resemble that of the female.
5.Impotence and low sex drive.
6.Small testicles.
Individuals who are affected by this condition are males, and the rulings concerning males – particularly with regard to interactions with women – also apply to them; so it is haraam for them to mix with women, look at them, imitate them and other rulings governing interactions of men with women.
They may seek treatment for this disease, and there is no sin on them and no shar ‘i blame for having physical features that resemble those of females. But they also have to avoid resembling women in their tone of voice, movements, clothing and so on, because for men to imitate or resemble women is a major sin, as we have explained in fatwa no. 81994
With regard to hijab, he does not have to wear hijab, because he is a man and hijab is only for women, not men. But we should point out an important matter, which is that if he is afraid in a particular situation that he may be a source of temptation for people, then he must avoid that situation. The same applies to anyone who fears that he may be tempted if he mixes with a person who has this condition; he should avoid interacting with him and he should lower his gaze and avoid looking at him, especially if that person is good-looking. In that case he comes under the same ruling as the ruling on “beardless youths,” in whose case there may be the fear of temptation.
And Allah knows best.

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