Dought & clear, - What should she do as she prayed against herself asking that she not be successful and herdu‘aa’ was accompanied by an oath?.

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I am a girl who offers the five prayers regularly and fears Allah, but I fell into the pit of the secret habit. I regret what I have done and I have repented more than once, but of two occasions I swore that if I did it again that my dream of getting good grades in my exams – which is my life’s dream – should not come true. This was so that I would stop what I was doing. But unfortunately I did it again. But now I have repented sincerely and my exams are in a few days’ time, and I am afraid that what I prayed for may come true. I wanted to fast for three days but I did not have the strength to do that because of the exams and psychological pressure. But I have decided to fast after I finish the exams.
My question is: is it possible for what I prayed for to come true?
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
The secret habit is an abhorrent and haraam action on the part of both males and females. We have discussed the ruling on that and how to deal with it in the answers to questions no. 329and 101539.
Secondly:
What you have done of praying against yourself and asking that you not be helped to succeed in obtaining high grades is something that was not appropriate, because it was praying for something bad for oneself. Falling behind in your studies is not a good thing; rather it would lead to serious negative consequences. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade the Muslim to pray against himself. It was narrated that Umm Salamah said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Do not pray against yourselves except for good things, for the angels says ameen to whatever you say.”
Narrated by Muslim, 920
Muslim also narrated (3014) from Jaabir (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, and do not pray against your wealth, lest that coincide with an hour when Allah is asked for something and He responds to you.”
Thirdly:
If a person swears to do an act of disobedience then he does it, what he is required to do is offer expiation for the oath he swore. This expiation is not expiation for the sin he committed; rather it is expiation for the oath that he swore. As for the sin, what he has to do is repent sincerely from it. Part of his repentance is regretting what he did in the past and resolving not to do it again.
See the answer to question no. 103424
Thus, if a person swears against himself with the aim of encouraging himself to do something or preventing himself from doing something, as appears to be the case in your question, then it comes under the ruling on oaths, and if he broke it then he must offer expiation for it.
Shaykh Khaalid al-Mushayqih (may Allah preserve him) was asked:
What is the ruling on one who says, “Insha Allah I should die if I do such and such?” or he said “May such and such befall me if I do this thing?” when he knows that he wants to go back to it and he said that in a moment of anger? Is this regarded as being the same as an oath? May Allah reward you with good.
He replied:
Firstly, it is forbidden for a person to pray against himself…
Secondly, if a person prayed against himself in this manner, intending to encourage himself to do something or prevent himself from doing something, or to confirm something or to say that something was a lie, then the oath was broken, then he must offer expiation for breaking an oath (kafaarat yameen). For example, if he said, “If I do not go, may I fall ill or die,” then he did not go. In that case he has to offer expiation for breaking an oath.
And Allah knows best.

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Dought & clear, - What should she do as she prayed against herself asking that she not be successful and herdu‘aa’ was accompanied by an oath?.

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I am a girl who offers the five prayers regularly and fears Allah, but I fell into the pit of the secret habit. I regret what I have done and I have repented more than once, but of two occasions I swore that if I did it again that my dream of getting good grades in my exams – which is my life’s dream – should not come true. This was so that I would stop what I was doing. But unfortunately I did it again. But now I have repented sincerely and my exams are in a few days’ time, and I am afraid that what I prayed for may come true. I wanted to fast for three days but I did not have the strength to do that because of the exams and psychological pressure. But I have decided to fast after I finish the exams.
My question is: is it possible for what I prayed for to come true?
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
The secret habit is an abhorrent and haraam action on the part of both males and females. We have discussed the ruling on that and how to deal with it in the answers to questions no. 329and 101539.
Secondly:
What you have done of praying against yourself and asking that you not be helped to succeed in obtaining high grades is something that was not appropriate, because it was praying for something bad for oneself. Falling behind in your studies is not a good thing; rather it would lead to serious negative consequences. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade the Muslim to pray against himself. It was narrated that Umm Salamah said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Do not pray against yourselves except for good things, for the angels says ameen to whatever you say.”
Narrated by Muslim, 920
Muslim also narrated (3014) from Jaabir (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Do not pray against yourselves, do not pray against your children, and do not pray against your wealth, lest that coincide with an hour when Allah is asked for something and He responds to you.”
Thirdly:
If a person swears to do an act of disobedience then he does it, what he is required to do is offer expiation for the oath he swore. This expiation is not expiation for the sin he committed; rather it is expiation for the oath that he swore. As for the sin, what he has to do is repent sincerely from it. Part of his repentance is regretting what he did in the past and resolving not to do it again.
See the answer to question no. 103424
Thus, if a person swears against himself with the aim of encouraging himself to do something or preventing himself from doing something, as appears to be the case in your question, then it comes under the ruling on oaths, and if he broke it then he must offer expiation for it.
Shaykh Khaalid al-Mushayqih (may Allah preserve him) was asked:
What is the ruling on one who says, “Insha Allah I should die if I do such and such?” or he said “May such and such befall me if I do this thing?” when he knows that he wants to go back to it and he said that in a moment of anger? Is this regarded as being the same as an oath? May Allah reward you with good.
He replied:
Firstly, it is forbidden for a person to pray against himself…
Secondly, if a person prayed against himself in this manner, intending to encourage himself to do something or prevent himself from doing something, or to confirm something or to say that something was a lie, then the oath was broken, then he must offer expiation for breaking an oath (kafaarat yameen). For example, if he said, “If I do not go, may I fall ill or die,” then he did not go. In that case he has to offer expiation for breaking an oath.
And Allah knows best.

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For children, - Islam and Generosity (Sakhawat)

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Allah (SWT), the Wise, has said in the Noble Qur'an: "Then as for him who gives away and guards (against evil), and accepts the best, We will facilitate for him the easy end." Suratul Lail (92:5-7)
The Noble Prophet Muhammad (saw)said: "Nothing shall ensure the welfare (and interests) of your religion except generosity and good disposition."
The Noble Prophet Muhammad (saw) said: "The most generous is he who fulfills that which Allah (SWT) has deemed obligatory upon him."
Jabir ibne Abdullah Ansari narrated the Noble Prophet Muhammad (saw) never disappointed anyone who asked for his help.
Whenever the Noble Prophet Muhammad (saw) received anything, he did not sit in peace until it was finished. Umm al-Momineen Umm Salamah, reported that one day the Noble Prophet Muhammad (saw) came home looking disturbed. She asked him what the matter was. The Noble Prophet Muhammad (saw) replied that the seven dinars he had received the day before had remained on the bed until evening and had not been distributed. He did not rest until they were given away.
Hazrat Abu Zar Ghaffarireported that one evening he was walking with the Noble Prophet Muhammad (saw) when he said, "Abu Zar, if the mountain of Uhud were turned into gold for me, I would not like three nights to pass and one dinar still be left with me, excepting what I would leave for paying my debts." He would never rest until all the cash in the house was completely finished.
Imam Ali (as)said: "Overlook and forgive the weakness of generous people, because if they fall down, Allah (SWT) gives his hand in their hands and helps them..."
Imam Ali (as) said: "Generosity is to help a deserving person without his request, and if you help him after his request, then it is either out of self-respect or to avoid rebuke."
Imam Hassan Mujtaba (as) says: The one who does not have wits and intelligence does not have decorum and decency; the one who lacks fortitude does not have generosity and magnanimity; and that one who does not possess shame and modesty does not have religion.
Once a Bedouin asked Imam Hussain (as) what is the best thing to do? Imam Hussain (as) replied, "Belief in God". Bedouin asked again, what is the best means of deliverance from destruction, Imam Hussain (as) said, "Trust in God". Bedouin asked, what man's ornament is, Imam Hussain (as) replied, "knowledge associated with intelligence". Bedouin insisted, if this be not available, what then, Imam Hussain (as) replied, "Wealth accompanied with generosity". What if this be out of reach, Imam Hussain (as) said, "Poverty allied with patience". What if this be not practicable? Imam Hussain (as) smiled and said, let the lightening consume the man to ashes. He then gave whatever money he had with him to fulfill his needs.
Imam Jafar Sadiq (as)related that the Noble Prophet Muhammad (saw) said: "The best men in view of faith is the most openhanded."
Imam Baqir (as)said: "A generous young man who is plunging in sins is favorable, in the sight of Allah (SWT), to a niggardly old man who plunges in worship."
Imam Musa Kadhim (as) said: "Man's dependants are his prisoners. Anyone upon whom Allah (SWT) confers with graces should be generous towards his prisoners. If he does not, he will soon be deprived of these graces."
Imam Hassan Askari (as) says: Generosity has a limit, which when crossed becomes extravagance; caution has a limit, which when crossed becomes cowardice; thriftiness has a limit, which when crossed becomes miserliness; courage has a limit, which when crossed becomes fool-hardiness.
Generosity is one of the ethics of the Prophets, a pillar of faith and a ray of the light of firm faith. The Noble Prophet Muhammad (saw) has said: "The Auliya Allah - Friends of Allah (SWT) are, essentially and inherently, generous." Hence, in order to acquire this attribute, a Mu'min (believer) should endeavour hard to be munificent and generous towards relatives, deserving ones and the like, for the pleasure of Allah (SWT).
It is better that a person's generosity is associated with a thing that is dear to him - eatables, clothes, money etc. - and that no obligation is placed upon the person towards whom generosity has been exhibited; man should only view himself as a trustworthy person, whose responsibility is to pass on Allah's (SWT) things to deserving and needy individuals. As such, he should stay away from frugality and refrain from withholding the Divine trusts; this is because it is not known whether or not they would yield any benefit, if given after his death, and whether or not his inheritors would expend them in a correct and appropriate manner?

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