Dought & clear, - (Women Who are Forbidden for Marriage) - He was breastfed by the wife of his paternal uncle; are the daughters of his paternal uncle from his other wifeforbidden to him for marriage?.

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I have a paternal uncle who is married to two wives, one of whom breastfed me. Is it possible for me to marry the daughters of the other wife?.
Praise be to Allaah.
If you were breastfed five times in the first two years of life by your uncle’s wife, then she is your mother through breastfeeding and your uncle is your father, and all his sons and daughters from this wife and from all his wives are brothers and sisters to you.
Based on that, the daughters you asked about, if they are your uncle’s daughters, are mahrams to you; if they were from another husband, someone other than your uncle, then there is nothing wrong with you marrying one of them.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: If a woman breastfeeds a child five times within the first two years, or more than five times, the infant becomes a son to her and her husband, who is the “owner of the milk”, and all the children of the woman from the husband who is “the owner of the milk” or another husband become brothers and sisters of the infant, and the children of the husband who is the “owner of the milk”, from the wife who breastfeeds and other wives, become brothers and sisters of the infant who is nursed. End quote fromMajmoo’ Fataawa Ibn Baaz(22/274).
He was also asked (may Allaah have mercy on him): I was breastfed by a woman, then her husband took another wife and that wife had children; are they brothers to me?
He replied: If you were breastfed five or more times and the milk was attributed to the husband because it resulted from a pregnancy that occurred due to him, then they are your brothers through your father and your mother through breastfeeding. As for the children from his second wife, they are brothers to you through your father through breastfeeding. End quote fromFataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz(22/305).
And Allaah knows best.

Dought & clear, - (Women Who are Forbidden for Marriage) - He wanted to help a woman become Muslim, then they committed zina and she got pregnant, then she insisted on leaving him, and cut off ties with him.

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I would like to ask you a question which is killing myself - I tried to help a women for reverting Islam though before she didnt had any religion and she agreed to marry with me but in the meantime we had sex without marriage and aftersometime she broke with me and Allah swt knows why she did that.
After that I repented a lot..May Allah forgive my sins and I tried to pray istekhara and during this period she gave the news that she is pregnant... which I told her that this is the sign for our marriage but she didnt believe it. Instead of that she got upset and angry as she became pregnant. Later she told me that she will abort the baby and we didnt marry.
Now its been 6 months she is carrying the baby and wants to deliever the child and In this meantime I have send several times of marriage proposal but she didnt accept. I want my child back as well as her but she is not agreeing.
What shall I do to get my child back and and I know even we marry now the child will be illlegitmate. There fore I would like to know what shall I do as I wana take the responsibility of the child and her and if its legal to do so... will i lose the child? If child born does he will have my name and am i legal to take care?
Kindly reply my answer at the earliest.
Praise be to Allah.
We believe that everyone who reads this question must learn from it and convey that lesson to people, so that they may protect themselves and their societies from such errors, and understand how doing things the wrong way must inevitably lead to wrong outcomes, even if the aim was noble. The aim is not sufficient to make actions right; rather the action must also be free of any element of evil or corruption, as Ibn al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: We seek refuge with Allah from starting any action without basin it on knowledge and reason.
Talbees Iblees, p. 277
Similarly, we read what is mentioned in the question with a great deal of sorrow. How the nafs (self) that is inclined towards evil could take advantage of a girl who is interested in Islam, seeking guidance and to learn about the Qur’an, and make her fall into the pit of desire and forbidden pleasure, so that her search for guidance turned into an occasion for resentment, anger and aversion, and showed her the darkness of sin instead of the light of guidance. No light will be left in the heart of the sinner; rather he will be stuck in the mire of his sin, and what has tainted his heart of evil can hardly be washed away except after sincere repentance, a great deal of praying for forgiveness, and turning to Allah, may He be exalted, with humility and humbling oneself before Him, in the hope that He may pardon and forgive, and help him to come back to obedience to his Lord, so that he may move beyond this dark stage in which the sin began by forming a relationship with a non-mahram woman and ended with zina.
See also fatwa no. 11195
Now that you have knocked at the door of repentance and have turned to Allah, may He be exalted, you must understand some shar‘i rulings which are very important in your case; we will list them for you below:
Firstly:
It is not permissible for a Muslim to marry a woman of any other religion apart from the people of the Book, namely Jews and Christians and those whom the scholars included under the same heading. As for a woman who does not follow any religion at all, not even in name only or on official papers, it is not permissible to marry her. Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress, etc.), even though she pleases you”
[al-Baqarah 2:221].
No exception is mentioned except in the case of the people of the Book, because of the general meanings of the word mushrikaat (fem. pl. of the word mushrik, meaning one who associate others with Allah).
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
With regard to all disbelievers apart from the people of the Book, such as those who worship whatever they see fit of idols, rocks, trees and animals, there is no difference of scholarly opinion that it is haraam to marry their women or eat meat slaughtered by them.
End quote fromal-Mughni, 7/131
This has been discussed previously in fatwa no. 2851
Secondly:
Attributing the child who is born as a result of zina (with a woman who is not married) to the zaani is also a problematic matter. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “If (the child) is from a free woman with whom he cohabited, he is not to be attributed (to the zaani) and cannot inherit from him.” Narrated by Abu Dawood inas-Sunan, 2265; classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh Abi Dawood.
We have previously discussed this issue in more detail in fatwa no. 33591and 175523.
Thirdly:
With regard to m of the child, there is nothing wrong with you spending on the child who was born as a result of zina if you want to do so, provided that this is done from a distance, by sending the money through a bank account for example, without being in contact with that woman or meeting her, so that the sin will not be repeated and so that the Shaytaan will not cause temptation between you.
Fourthly:
It is not permissible for you to carry on trying to convince her to marry. She has been put off and has been faced with distress because of that sin. Similarly, it is not permissible to use the fact that you prayed istikhaarah and that she became pregnant as proof that this marriage is something good. We think that this is a kind of getting carried away in temptation and is an attempt to confuse that woman. The marriage that is prescribed by Allah, may He be exalted, and is liked by Him is not something for which pregnancy that results from haraam actions can be interpreted as a sign in its favour; rather it begins with obedience to Allah, may He be glorified, and adherence to His laws and commands.
Our advice to you is to stop attempting to convince her; rather you must stop trying to communicate with her in any way, because there is no way that you can marry her if it becomes clear that she is neither a Jew nor a Christian. Even if it becomes clear that she is a follower of one of these two religions, there is no way that you can marry her because she has refused and is convinced that marriage would fail after it has been spoiled by zina.
We ask Allah to forgive us and you, and to grant us all well being.
And Allah knows best.

For children, - Friendship for Allah's Sake: How To Be a Friend for the Sake of Allah (SWT)

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"Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken such-and-such as a friend!" Noble Qur'an (25:28)
The one who is always there to console you when you want to talk about a problem, the one who sticks by you through thick and thin, the one whom you can count on to be there for you - this is the person who leaves no doubts in your mind that he or she is your "best friend". You like each other's company and love to spend time together. If something important happens in your life, they're the first to know. You trust them and depend upon them in times of need. They may be a classmate, a colleague, a neighbor, a sister, a mother; or even your spouse! It could be anyone who fits this description.
But are they really your "true" friend? How can you find out? Ask yourself: are they taking you towards the most certain and perpetual success and benefit: that of the Hereafter, or are they going to be the cause of regret for you on the Day of Judgment? See for yourself. Here is a checklist.
When in each other's company, you both:
1.Comfortably backbite and make fun of people. Pass comments about others.
2.Laugh at others together, be it a passerby or someone you are discussing.
3.Call each other demeaning names in fun. Laugh at each other's cruel jokes about someone else.
4.Start a conversation with "Hi instead of Salaam" and plunge into an exchange of the latest gossip.
5.Hardly ever mention or discuss Allah (SWT), Noble Qur'an, Ahlul Baytor Hadith in the time spent together.
6.Feel hesitant to discuss religion, unless it is a criticism of any aspect of Islam.
7.Confirm each other's doubts about the Hereafter.
8.Get involved in activities that delay/do away with salaah (Islamic Prayer), the major obligation from Allah (SWT). Have never prayed any salaah together.
9.Support each other in fulfilling every desire - a dress that caught your fancy, or the in-fashion shoes, even if they are not needed. End up spending money on things you don't need.
10.Discuss unimportant things and events in meticulous detail, such as a film, the latest clothes you got tailored, or a wedding party you attended.
11.Never point out each other's faults politely; if one does, the other quickly changes the subject or gets defensive.
Besides the above points, you both are fully aware of each other's family's and in-laws' faults and short-comings. When one of you feels guilty about having committed a sin, the other quickly offers reassurance that "It's no big deal, everyone does it", and comes up with convincing excuses for the other not to feel guilty about it. When one of you starts doing something that is impermissible in Islam, the other offers support and help; for example, when one starts to backbite, the other becomes attentive and listens closely. When one discovers a shortcoming of the other, they leave no chance to make fun of it.
About a 'friendship' that has most of the above characteristics, Allah (SWT) says in the Noble Quran:
"Friends on that day will be foes to one and another - except the Righteous Ones." Noble Qur'an (43:67)
All such "friends" will, on the Day of Judgment, become each other's enemies, each lamenting and blaming the other before Allah (SWT), for having supported and encouraged them towards the ultimate and eternal destruction. Allah (SWT) makes an exception to this situation in the Qur'anic verse above: "except those who are al-muttaqeen: the righteous ones". So who are these 'righteous ones', who will be happily together in the Hereafter just as they were together in the world? How can you tell whether your friend is really and truly your sincere "friend"? Here is another checklist of characteristics that depict a friendship that will lead to success in the Hereafter.
When together, you both:
1.Remind each other of Allah (SWT) when you set eyes on each other.
2.Leave each other's company with a higher level of imaan [faith in Allah (SWT)].
3.Inevitably start the conversation with the Islamic greeting 'As-Salaamu Alaykum', and receive the masnoon reply for it.
4.Do the masnoon mu'aanaqah (hug) and musafahah (handshake) on a regular basis.
5.Almost always mention Allah (SWT), Noble Qur'an, Ahlul Bayt or Hadith in some context or the other, in your conversations.
6.Strengthen each other's belief on the Hereafter. Give each other more duaa's (well wishes) than material gifts.
7.Always end up exchanging useful and mature ideas and thoughts. Love each other above and beyond worldly benefits.
8.Attend religious study-circles/ halaqah's together. Have prayed salaah together many times.
9.Have watched each other cry, out of fear of Allah (SWT) or out of regret for committing a transgression.
10.Listen attentively if the other is saying something that pleases Allah (SWT).
11.Politely point out and reform each other's mistakes or bad habits in the best way possible.
12.Return an Amanah (item placed in other's trust/safekeeping) belonging to the other in its original state.
13.Smile together, but with decent, non-malicious humor. Enquire regularly about the health of the other's family.
14.Become uninterested and change the subject if the other starts to say something that is impermissible.
15.Always discourage the other if they plan to do something wrong.
16.Always encourage the other if they intend to do a good deed that they're hesitant to do.
17.Consult each other in important matters. Give each other advice seriously and sincerely.
18.Never waste each other's time in useless activities. Never invite the other to a place or gathering of sin.
19.Have full trust that they will never reveal secrets or personal problems to others, nor will they gossip about you behind your back.
20.Address each other in a respectful and loving manner. Forgive each other's faults and shortcomings, and hide them from others.
Those whose friendships possess most of the above characteristics are among the fortunate people who can experience a glimpse of the assembly of Paradise in the life of this world itself, where they have such sincere and true friends - friends who love them for the sake of Allah (SWT). It is they who shall be saved from all kinds of discomfort and pain on the Day of Judgment when their Lord will provide them with a special place, as per His promise.