Dought & clear, - (Women Who are Forbidden for Marriage) - He wanted to help a woman become Muslim, then they committed zina and she got pregnant, then she insisted on leaving him, and cut off ties with him.

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I would like to ask you a question which is killing myself - I tried to help a women for reverting Islam though before she didnt had any religion and she agreed to marry with me but in the meantime we had sex without marriage and aftersometime she broke with me and Allah swt knows why she did that.
After that I repented a lot..May Allah forgive my sins and I tried to pray istekhara and during this period she gave the news that she is pregnant... which I told her that this is the sign for our marriage but she didnt believe it. Instead of that she got upset and angry as she became pregnant. Later she told me that she will abort the baby and we didnt marry.
Now its been 6 months she is carrying the baby and wants to deliever the child and In this meantime I have send several times of marriage proposal but she didnt accept. I want my child back as well as her but she is not agreeing.
What shall I do to get my child back and and I know even we marry now the child will be illlegitmate. There fore I would like to know what shall I do as I wana take the responsibility of the child and her and if its legal to do so... will i lose the child? If child born does he will have my name and am i legal to take care?
Kindly reply my answer at the earliest.
Praise be to Allah.
We believe that everyone who reads this question must learn from it and convey that lesson to people, so that they may protect themselves and their societies from such errors, and understand how doing things the wrong way must inevitably lead to wrong outcomes, even if the aim was noble. The aim is not sufficient to make actions right; rather the action must also be free of any element of evil or corruption, as Ibn al-Jawzi (may Allah have mercy on him) said: We seek refuge with Allah from starting any action without basin it on knowledge and reason.
Talbees Iblees, p. 277
Similarly, we read what is mentioned in the question with a great deal of sorrow. How the nafs (self) that is inclined towards evil could take advantage of a girl who is interested in Islam, seeking guidance and to learn about the Qur’an, and make her fall into the pit of desire and forbidden pleasure, so that her search for guidance turned into an occasion for resentment, anger and aversion, and showed her the darkness of sin instead of the light of guidance. No light will be left in the heart of the sinner; rather he will be stuck in the mire of his sin, and what has tainted his heart of evil can hardly be washed away except after sincere repentance, a great deal of praying for forgiveness, and turning to Allah, may He be exalted, with humility and humbling oneself before Him, in the hope that He may pardon and forgive, and help him to come back to obedience to his Lord, so that he may move beyond this dark stage in which the sin began by forming a relationship with a non-mahram woman and ended with zina.
See also fatwa no. 11195
Now that you have knocked at the door of repentance and have turned to Allah, may He be exalted, you must understand some shar‘i rulings which are very important in your case; we will list them for you below:
Firstly:
It is not permissible for a Muslim to marry a woman of any other religion apart from the people of the Book, namely Jews and Christians and those whom the scholars included under the same heading. As for a woman who does not follow any religion at all, not even in name only or on official papers, it is not permissible to marry her. Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And do not marry Al-Mushrikat (idolatresses, etc.) till they believe (worship Allah Alone). And indeed a slave woman who believes is better than a (free) Mushrikah (idolatress, etc.), even though she pleases you”
[al-Baqarah 2:221].
No exception is mentioned except in the case of the people of the Book, because of the general meanings of the word mushrikaat (fem. pl. of the word mushrik, meaning one who associate others with Allah).
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
With regard to all disbelievers apart from the people of the Book, such as those who worship whatever they see fit of idols, rocks, trees and animals, there is no difference of scholarly opinion that it is haraam to marry their women or eat meat slaughtered by them.
End quote fromal-Mughni, 7/131
This has been discussed previously in fatwa no. 2851
Secondly:
Attributing the child who is born as a result of zina (with a woman who is not married) to the zaani is also a problematic matter. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “If (the child) is from a free woman with whom he cohabited, he is not to be attributed (to the zaani) and cannot inherit from him.” Narrated by Abu Dawood inas-Sunan, 2265; classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh Abi Dawood.
We have previously discussed this issue in more detail in fatwa no. 33591and 175523.
Thirdly:
With regard to m of the child, there is nothing wrong with you spending on the child who was born as a result of zina if you want to do so, provided that this is done from a distance, by sending the money through a bank account for example, without being in contact with that woman or meeting her, so that the sin will not be repeated and so that the Shaytaan will not cause temptation between you.
Fourthly:
It is not permissible for you to carry on trying to convince her to marry. She has been put off and has been faced with distress because of that sin. Similarly, it is not permissible to use the fact that you prayed istikhaarah and that she became pregnant as proof that this marriage is something good. We think that this is a kind of getting carried away in temptation and is an attempt to confuse that woman. The marriage that is prescribed by Allah, may He be exalted, and is liked by Him is not something for which pregnancy that results from haraam actions can be interpreted as a sign in its favour; rather it begins with obedience to Allah, may He be glorified, and adherence to His laws and commands.
Our advice to you is to stop attempting to convince her; rather you must stop trying to communicate with her in any way, because there is no way that you can marry her if it becomes clear that she is neither a Jew nor a Christian. Even if it becomes clear that she is a follower of one of these two religions, there is no way that you can marry her because she has refused and is convinced that marriage would fail after it has been spoiled by zina.
We ask Allah to forgive us and you, and to grant us all well being.
And Allah knows best.

For children, - Friendship for Allah's Sake: How To Be a Friend for the Sake of Allah (SWT)

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"Ah! Woe to me! Would that I had never taken such-and-such as a friend!" Noble Qur'an (25:28)
The one who is always there to console you when you want to talk about a problem, the one who sticks by you through thick and thin, the one whom you can count on to be there for you - this is the person who leaves no doubts in your mind that he or she is your "best friend". You like each other's company and love to spend time together. If something important happens in your life, they're the first to know. You trust them and depend upon them in times of need. They may be a classmate, a colleague, a neighbor, a sister, a mother; or even your spouse! It could be anyone who fits this description.
But are they really your "true" friend? How can you find out? Ask yourself: are they taking you towards the most certain and perpetual success and benefit: that of the Hereafter, or are they going to be the cause of regret for you on the Day of Judgment? See for yourself. Here is a checklist.
When in each other's company, you both:
1.Comfortably backbite and make fun of people. Pass comments about others.
2.Laugh at others together, be it a passerby or someone you are discussing.
3.Call each other demeaning names in fun. Laugh at each other's cruel jokes about someone else.
4.Start a conversation with "Hi instead of Salaam" and plunge into an exchange of the latest gossip.
5.Hardly ever mention or discuss Allah (SWT), Noble Qur'an, Ahlul Baytor Hadith in the time spent together.
6.Feel hesitant to discuss religion, unless it is a criticism of any aspect of Islam.
7.Confirm each other's doubts about the Hereafter.
8.Get involved in activities that delay/do away with salaah (Islamic Prayer), the major obligation from Allah (SWT). Have never prayed any salaah together.
9.Support each other in fulfilling every desire - a dress that caught your fancy, or the in-fashion shoes, even if they are not needed. End up spending money on things you don't need.
10.Discuss unimportant things and events in meticulous detail, such as a film, the latest clothes you got tailored, or a wedding party you attended.
11.Never point out each other's faults politely; if one does, the other quickly changes the subject or gets defensive.
Besides the above points, you both are fully aware of each other's family's and in-laws' faults and short-comings. When one of you feels guilty about having committed a sin, the other quickly offers reassurance that "It's no big deal, everyone does it", and comes up with convincing excuses for the other not to feel guilty about it. When one of you starts doing something that is impermissible in Islam, the other offers support and help; for example, when one starts to backbite, the other becomes attentive and listens closely. When one discovers a shortcoming of the other, they leave no chance to make fun of it.
About a 'friendship' that has most of the above characteristics, Allah (SWT) says in the Noble Quran:
"Friends on that day will be foes to one and another - except the Righteous Ones." Noble Qur'an (43:67)
All such "friends" will, on the Day of Judgment, become each other's enemies, each lamenting and blaming the other before Allah (SWT), for having supported and encouraged them towards the ultimate and eternal destruction. Allah (SWT) makes an exception to this situation in the Qur'anic verse above: "except those who are al-muttaqeen: the righteous ones". So who are these 'righteous ones', who will be happily together in the Hereafter just as they were together in the world? How can you tell whether your friend is really and truly your sincere "friend"? Here is another checklist of characteristics that depict a friendship that will lead to success in the Hereafter.
When together, you both:
1.Remind each other of Allah (SWT) when you set eyes on each other.
2.Leave each other's company with a higher level of imaan [faith in Allah (SWT)].
3.Inevitably start the conversation with the Islamic greeting 'As-Salaamu Alaykum', and receive the masnoon reply for it.
4.Do the masnoon mu'aanaqah (hug) and musafahah (handshake) on a regular basis.
5.Almost always mention Allah (SWT), Noble Qur'an, Ahlul Bayt or Hadith in some context or the other, in your conversations.
6.Strengthen each other's belief on the Hereafter. Give each other more duaa's (well wishes) than material gifts.
7.Always end up exchanging useful and mature ideas and thoughts. Love each other above and beyond worldly benefits.
8.Attend religious study-circles/ halaqah's together. Have prayed salaah together many times.
9.Have watched each other cry, out of fear of Allah (SWT) or out of regret for committing a transgression.
10.Listen attentively if the other is saying something that pleases Allah (SWT).
11.Politely point out and reform each other's mistakes or bad habits in the best way possible.
12.Return an Amanah (item placed in other's trust/safekeeping) belonging to the other in its original state.
13.Smile together, but with decent, non-malicious humor. Enquire regularly about the health of the other's family.
14.Become uninterested and change the subject if the other starts to say something that is impermissible.
15.Always discourage the other if they plan to do something wrong.
16.Always encourage the other if they intend to do a good deed that they're hesitant to do.
17.Consult each other in important matters. Give each other advice seriously and sincerely.
18.Never waste each other's time in useless activities. Never invite the other to a place or gathering of sin.
19.Have full trust that they will never reveal secrets or personal problems to others, nor will they gossip about you behind your back.
20.Address each other in a respectful and loving manner. Forgive each other's faults and shortcomings, and hide them from others.
Those whose friendships possess most of the above characteristics are among the fortunate people who can experience a glimpse of the assembly of Paradise in the life of this world itself, where they have such sincere and true friends - friends who love them for the sake of Allah (SWT). It is they who shall be saved from all kinds of discomfort and pain on the Day of Judgment when their Lord will provide them with a special place, as per His promise.

General Articles, - Allah (God) breathed his spirit into man

After trying to resolve the issue of how red is perceived inside the
brain, how the sound of pleasant music is interpreted differently
from chewing a steak and why even the most detailed MRI provides no
evidence regarding the interpretation mechanism involved, Jeffrey
M. Schwartz, a neuroscientist and research professor of psychiatry
at the UCLA School of Medicine, goes on to ask the following
important question:
...why would studying brain mechanisms, even down to the molecular
level, ever provide an answer to those questions?
The answer is this: Because the answer to the interpreting
mechanism is not in the brain at all. It is impossible to come by
the answers to questions regarding this mechanism by studying human
cells, examining neurons or performing research at the molecular
level. That is because what causes a person to perceive the outside
world is not inside the human body. It is something outside the
brain, neurons, cells or electric signals. It is the soul bestowed
on us by Almighty Allah.
Reveals Allah in one verse:
… then [He] formed him and breathed His Spirit into him and gave you
hearing, sight and hearts. What little thanks you show! (Surat
as-Sajda, 9)
People who fail to understand that it is the soul that perceives,
and that it is independent of matter, are making a very important
mistake: They face the possibility that the images they see exist
on a screen in their brains. Yet when we consider that there is a
screen in our brains on which the outside world exists, we also have
no choice but to admit the existence of a little man watching that
screen. And there must be another little man watching the screen in
the brain of the first, and so on. But there is no screen and no
other little man watching the events on it in the brain. The human
brain is pitch black and silent. There is nothing there but neurons
made up of proteins and electric signals moving very swiftly back
and forth. It is impossible for those electric signals to see a
flower, smell it, touch it, delight in it, see a ship sailing in the
distance or enjoy the taste of a strawberry--all in a piece of flesh.
It is impossible for them to experience a prolonged period of
enjoyment of an orchestral symphony. It is obviously not electrical
signals that produce such a lively, bustling, brightly colored,
vivid, three- dimensional and perfectly sharp world. And there is
also no doubt that it is not electric signals that cause one to
rejoice or grieve, to feel excitement or concern, to remember and
feel happy, or to miss someone and satisfy that longing. Even if the
world's most renowned professors were to work together, as Jeffrey
M. Schwartz says, they still would not find this perception
mechanism anywhere in the brain.
The self-conscious entity that says "I see" the images and "I hear"
the sounds in the brain is the soul given to man by Allah. This is
the reality that the materialist mindset is most unwilling of all
to see revealed. The soul sees without the need for eyes, touches
without the need for hands, hears without the need for ears, smells
without the need for a nose and tastes without the need for a
mouth. The soul is the only answer to the question of "who does the
perceiving?" which scientists have been trying to resolve for
years. Allah constantly shows images to the human soul and, day and
night, whether in this world or in dreams, creates a whole world
for them. Everything in that world has a perfect and flawless
appearance. So much so that it is very difficult for us to realize
that the sharp image and sensation of depth in front of us consists
merely of an illusion and has no connection with the real outside
world. This is the flawless, matchless, glorious work of our
Almighty Lord, Who has the power to create infinite worlds in an
area just a few centimeters in size whenever He chooses.
He is Allah – the Creator, the Maker, the Giver of Form. To Him
belong the Most Beautiful Names. Everything in the heavens and Earth
glorifies Him. He is the Almighty, the All-Wise. (Surat al-Hashr,
24)
A flawless image forms in our brains because Allah so wills. There
are smells there because He so wills and we listen to and enjoy
immaculate music because He so wishes. We also feel and recognize
things by touching them because Allah so wills. The food we eat has
flavor because that is what Allah wills. A whole world emerges in
the human mind from nothing at Allah's command. Our Lord creates a
world from nothing in a person's mind that belongs to that person
alone, that only he can see and recognize. This world is not the
outside world. It is impossible to have direct contact with the
world outside. It is impossible, unless Allah so wills, for anyone
to have direct experience of a world created for someone else. One
can only live in and watch a world created for oneself alone by
Allah. It is impossible to step outside it. In another verse, Allah
reveals:
They will ask you about the Spirit. Say: "The Spirit is one of the
commands of my Lord. You have only been given a little knowledge."
(Surat al-Isra', 85)
i Jeffrey M. Schwartz, Sharon Begley, The Mind and The Brain:
Neuroplasticity and the Power of Mental Force , Regan Books, 2003, p.
27

General Articles, - Communism's indispensable instinct: Terror

Anarchy and terror are an essential means employed by Marxism and
communism. The founders of communism, Karl Marx and Friedrich
Engels, personally espoused violence and terror. Under Vladimir
Lenin, who put Marx's theory into practice, terror became an
inseparable part of the communist ideology. These words of Lenin's
make this perfectly clear:
We cannot reject terror, as it is the one form of military action
which may be perfectly suitable or even essential at a definite
juncture in battle. (V. I., Lenin: "Where to Begin", Collected Works
, Vol. 5, Moscow, 1961, p. 19)
... WHEN PEOPLE CHARGE US WITH HARSHNESS we wonder how they can
forget the rudiments of Marxism. ("Speech to the All-Russia
Extraordinary Commission Staff," Collected Works , Vol. 28, pp.
169-170)
In communist thinking, war never ends. And war never ends in
dialectic thinking. There is constant conflict. There is a constant
struggle between opposites and blood will continue to flow until
the dictatorship of the proletariat. There is no bloodless world in
communist thinking. There must be blood and terror and anarchy.
Communism rejects a peaceful world. (From Mr. Adnan Oktar's
interview on July 22, 2011)
Oceans of blood have been shed because of communist ideology in
Russia, China, Korea, Burma and Cuba; millions of people have lost
their lives and as many again were injured.
In the 20th century alone, 120 million men, women, old people,
children and babies lost their lives because of this cold, harsh,
strict and savage ideology known as "communism." And that is just
the official figure. The true number of those who died because of
communist oppression is very much higher.
Those who survived lived in a constant state of fear because
communist ideology regarded terror as an indispensable weapon and
obliged its followers to resort to terror. For example, this is how
Lenin taught his communist comrades to perpetrate acts of terror
against the troops and police officials of the state:
They must arm themselves as best they can (rifles, revolvers,
bombs, knives, knuckle- dusters, sticks, rags soaked in kerosene for
starting fires, ropes or rope ladders, shovels for building
barricades, pyroxylin cartridges, barbed wire, nails, etc., etc.).
…
Even without arms, the groups can play a most important part: 1) by
leading the mass; 2) by attacking, whenever a favourable opportunity
presents itself, policemen . . . and seizing their arms; 3) by
rescuing the arrested or injured, when there are only few police
about; 4) by getting on to the roofs or upper storeys of houses,
etc., and showering stones or pouring boiling water on the troops,
etc. …
… To launch attacks under favourable circumstances is not only every
revolutionary's right, but his plain duty. The killing of spies,
policemen, gendarmes, the blowing up of police stations, the
liberation of prisoners, the seizure of government funds for the
needs of the uprising. . . every detachment of the revolutionary
army must be ready to start such operations at a moment's notice.
(Lenin, Collected Works , Progress Publishers, 1972, Moscow, Vol. 9,
pp. 420-424)
The propagandists must supply each group with brief and simple
recipes for making bombs… Squads must at once begin military
training by launching operations immediately, at once. Some may at
once undertake to kill a spy or blow up a police station, others to
raid a bank to confiscate funds for the insurrection… (Lenin,
Collected Works , Progress Publishers, 1972, Moscow, Vol. 9, p.
346)
When Lenin spoke at a workers' meeting he described how
indispensable terror was for them in these exceptionally blunt
terms:
We can't expect to get anywhere unless we resort to terrorism:
speculators must be shot on the spot. ("Meeting of the Presidium of
the Petrograd Soviet With Delegates From the Food Supply
Organisations," Collected Works , Vol. 26, p. 501)
These lines were handwritten by Lenin himself:
… we are not at all opposed to political killing … Only in direct,
immediate connection with the mass movement can and must individual
terrorist acts be of value. (Lenin, Collected Works , Progress
Publishers, 1976, Moscow, Vol. 35, pp. 237-239)
As we have seen, communism commands death and destruction, the
infliction of fear, panic, alarm and terror, and the killing of a
country's military, police and innocent people without batting an
eyelid.
Under this system, human emotions such as sympathy, pity and
conscience are totally eliminated. In the same way that a wild
animal may have to engage in a fight to the death with members of
its own species in order to obtain food and shelter, so human
beings are expected to behave in the same "animal" way. That is
because communism is based on Darwinism, which teaches the lie that
human beings are supposedly a kind of animal, and that if animals
have to fight to survive, then human beings must behave in the same
way.
Communism ends when bloodshed ends. Communism persists where
bloodshed persists. The dictatorship of the proletariat is built on
blood. Look, they say as much themselves; "A great red Sun will rise
over the horizon of this sea of blood." What else do they need to
say? Look, "A red Sun will rise over the horizon of this sea of
blood." A communist Sun. He says communism will rise. They say they
will shed oceans of blood, so what more need they say? This is in
their slogans and writings and everywhere. (From Mr. Adnan Oktar's
interview on July 22, 2011)
Indeed, when one looks at communist publications one can see this
maniacal bloodlust very clearly.
The Bolshevik newspaper Krasnaya , one of Lenin's most important
backers, defended the shedding of much blood in Russia in these
terms:
We will turn our hearts into steel, which we will temper in the fire
of suffering and the blood of fighters for freedom. WE WILL MAKE OUR
HEARTS CRUEL, HARD, AND IMMOVABLE, SO THAT NO MERCY WILL ENTER
THEM, AND SO THAT THEY WILL NOT QUIVER AT THE SIGHT OF A SEA OF
ENEMY BLOOD. … Without mercy, without sparing, we will kill our
enemies in scores of hundreds. LET THEM BE THOUSANDS; LET THEM
DROWN THEMSELVES IN THEIR OWN BLOOD. For the blood of Lenin and
Uritsky, Zinovief and Volodarski, let there be floods of the blood
of the bourgeois - more blood, as much as possible. (1 September
1918, Bolshevik Newspaper Krasnaya )
The fact that terror is an indispensable element of communism is
clear, not only in Lenin's works, but in the works of and
statements by just about all communist leaders. For example, Felix
Dzerzhinsky, a communist leader of the time, said this in an
interview:
WE STAND FOR ORGANIZED TERROR - THIS SHOULD BE FRANKLY ADMITTED.
TERROR IS AN ABSOLUTE NECESSITY DURING TIMES OF REVOLUTION. (Felix
Dzerzhinsky, a communist revolutionary of the time, July 14, 1918,
interviewed in Novaia Zhizn )
Leon Trotsky, who was rejected by Leninists for not being
sufficiently cruel and seeking sufficient bloodshed, also
explicitly said there could be no communism without terror:
But the revolution does require of the revolutionary class that it
should attain its end by all methods at its disposal – if necessary,
by an armed rising; if required, by terrorism.
Mao Tse-Tung, the notorious psychopath personally responsible for
the deaths of more than 60 million people, also described how
communism could not be espoused without violence:
A revolution is an insurrection, an act of violence by which one
class overthrows another. (Mao Tse-Tung, Quotations from Chairman
Mao Tse-Tung (aka " The Little Red Book "), Chapter 2: Classes and
Class Struggle)
In Turkey today the PKK, a Marxist, Leninist, Stalinist, communist
organization, also follows this bloodthirsty line. As a result of
Darwinist indoctrination that depicts life as a battleground,
separatist militants are able to slaughter babies, the elderly and
innocent people without the slightest remorse. They martyr our
soldiers and police, and resort to all kinds of terrorist activity.
Since they do not regard themselves and others as entities created
by Allah with souls, intelligence, conscience and understanding,
they do to one another, and other people, what animals do to other
animals. This scourge can only come to an end with the elimination
of Darwinism, the foundation of this savagery.
Wide-ranging, scientific anti-communist and anti-Darwinist
propaganda against this deadly communist and separatist movement
that gathers its supporters by using Marxist-Leninist- communist
propaganda is therefore absolutely essential.
The solution to the PKK is faith and ideas. The PKK wears a face of
faithlessness. There needs to be a counter- force to faithlessness,
and we must oppose faithlessness with faith. What is faith? The
truths of the Qur'an, the facts of the Qur'an, anti-communist,
anti-materialist, anti-Darwinist and anti-Stalinist activity. It is
not silence or offering people a bowl of soup. The fact of religion
must not be ignored. We must accept that we are facing a communist
ideology and communist uprising; ignoring that cannot represent a
rational movement. Turning a blind eye to the facts does not
eradicate those facts. The movement is a communist movement; there
is a Stalinist- communist uprising going on. There needs to be a
scientific, scholarly and rational campaign against it. There is no
other way, no alternative.