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HIS POSITION IN THE SILSILA:Hadrat Sayyiduna Imam Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu is the Sixth Imam and Shaykh of the Silsila Aaliyah Qadiriyah Barakatiyah Ridawiyyah Nooriyah. Much has been said in his praise by many great scholars.
BIRTH:He was born on a Monday, the 7th of Rabi ul Awwal in either 80 or 83 Hijri in Madinah Munawwarah.[Masaalik as-Saalikeen, Vol.1, Page 217]
HIS NAME:His name was Jaafar bin Muhammad, and he was also known as Abu Abdullah and Abu Ismaeel. His titles were Saadiq, Faadil and Taahir.
HIS MOTHER:His mother’s name was Umm-e-Fardah who was the daughter of Hadrat Qasim Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu, the grandson of Hadrat Abu Bakr Siddique Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu and Hadrat Qasim’s Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu mother, A’asma Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu is the daughter of Hadrat Abdur Rahmaan, the son of Hadrat Abu Bakr Siddique Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu.
HIS FEATURES:He was very handsome and had a radiant appearance. He had the perfect height, and was tan in complexion. He encompassed the exemplary qualities his forefathers. Haafiz Abu Nuaim Isfahani narrates in Khalifatul Abraar on the authority of Umar bin Midqaam, “When I used to look at Hadrat Imam Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu then I used to immediately feel that he was from amongst the descendants of the Prophets”
EXCELLENCE:He was without doubt the true successor to the Muslim empire and one of the greatest Imams of his era. Imam Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu was a great Aabid and Sufi. Many secrets of Tasawwuf were explained by him. It is in Tabqaatul Abraar, that he received the authority of Hadith from his blessed father, from Imam Zuhri and Naaf'i and ibn Munkadir etc. and Sufyaan Sawri, Ibn Ainiyyah, Shu’ba, Yahya Al Qataan, Imam Maalik and his son Imam Moosa Kaazim (ridwaanullahi ta aala alaihim ajmaeen) attained this authority of Hadith from him. Allama Ibn Hajar Makki Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu writes in Sawaa’iq Muhariqa . “The exalted Imams such as Yahya Bin Saeed, Ibn Jareeh, Imam Maalik ibn Anas, Imam Sufyaan Sawri, Sufyan bin Ainiyyah, Imam Abu Hanifa and Abu Ayoob Sajistani (ridwaanullahi ta aala alaihim ajmaeen) took Hadith from him.”[Masaalik as-Saalikeen]
HIS CHARACTER:He was a very exalted and pious personality. His inner and outer appearance exuded brightness and radiance. He addressed the poor and the downtrodden with great love. Once he called all his servants and said, “Let us give our hands in the hands of one another and promise that whichever one of us first receives salvation on the day of Qiyaamah, he will intercede for the rest of us.” On hearing this, they said, “O Ibn Rasool SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam! For what reason do you need our intercession, when your beloved forefather Rasoolullah SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam will intercede for the entire creation?” He then said, “I am ashamed to take my deeds and stand before my forefather, the Holy Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam.”
Once Hadrat Dawood Taa’ee Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu came to Hadrat Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu and said, “Beloved descendant of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam please give some advice, as my heart has become dark.” Hadrat Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said, “O Abu Sulaiman! You are great Zaahid of your era. What need do you have for my advice?” Hadrat Dawood Taa’ee Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said, “O descendant of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam, You have been blessed with excellence amongst people and to advise everyone is compulsory upon you.” He then said, “O Abu Sulaiman! I fear that on the day of Qiyaamah, my forefather Muhammadur Rasoolullah SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam will hold me by my collar and ask, ‘Why were you slow in fulfilling your right to submission?’ What will I say then? Thus, this deed (of advice) does not depend on ones stature or family lineage, but it deals with good deeds which are done in the Court of Allah.” Hadrat Dawood Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu heard this and began to weep. He then said, “O Allah! When such a great personality, who is the descendant of a Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam, and whose reality is filled with light and wisdom, and whose great grandmother is Bibi Faatima, is so afraid of his future and condition, then what right does Dawood Taa’ee have do be proud of his deeds?”[Masaalik as-Saalikeen]
HIS IBAADAT:He was well known for his ibaadat, and his striving in the Court of Allah. Hadrat Imam Malik Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu says, “I spent a very long time serving him, and I always found him in one of three Ibaadats. Either he was in namaaz, or engrossed in recitation of the Quran, or he would be fasting.” He never narrated any Hadith Shareef without wudhu.[Tazkirat al-Awliyah]
HIS DUA:He was without doubt a faithful servant of Allah, and he always attained everything that he asked for from the Court of Allah. Abul Qasim Tabri narrates from Wahab, that he heard Laith bin Sa’ad Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu saying, “I was on my way to Hajj by foot in 113 Hijri and I reached Makkah Muazammah. I reached Jabl Abu Qais close to the time of Asr Salaah. There, I saw a pious man sitting (in seclusion), making dua. He was saying ‘Ya Rabbi Ya Rabbi’ so many times, that breathing became difficult. Then in the same way, he said ‘Ya Hayy Ya Hayy’ then ‘Ya Rab’bahu Ya Rab’bahu, then in the same say, he said ‘Ya Allah Ya Allah’ in one breath continuously. He then said ‘Ya Rahmaanu Ya Rahmaanu, Ya Raheemu Ya Raheemu’ and then he went on to say ‘Ya Arhamar Raahimeen’. He then said, “O Allah I desire to eat grapes. Please bless me with some, and my clothes have become old and tattered Please give me new ones.”
Hadrat Laith says, “By Allah, he was still competing his dua, when I saw a basket of grapes kept before him, whereas it was not event the grape season and I did not see an grapes near him before his dua. I also saw that there were two pieces of cloth kept near the grapes. I have never seen such beautiful material before. He then sat down to eat the grapes. I went up to him and said, Huzoor! May I also have a part in this?, and he asked how this was so, so I said, I was saying Aameen as you made the dua. He said, ‘Well then, step forward and join me.’ I also began to partake in the grapes. They were so tasty, that never have I eaten such delicious grapes. I ate until I was satisfied, but the basket still remained as it was before, full of grapes. He then offered on piece of cloth to me, and I said that I had no need for it, so he tied one around his waist, and he draped the other over his shoulder. He then descended from the mountain and I followed him. As he drew close to Saffa and Marwa, a beggar called out to him and said, ‘O Descendant of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam! Give these clothes to me and Allah will dress you in the clothes of Jannat.” He immediately gave the two pieces of cloth to the beggar. (On seeing this), I enquired about the identity of this pious man from the beggar, who informed me that he was Hadrat Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu. I then looked for him so that I may listen to some words of wisdom from him and attain his blessings, but he had disappeared from my sight.”[Tazkirat al-Awliyah, Page 12]
Once, some people saw that Hadrat Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu was wearing a very expensive robe. One of them walked up to him and said, “Huzoor! It is not good for the Ahle Bait to wear such expensive clothing.” He caught hold of the man’s hand and thrust it into his sleeves. The man was amazed when he found that a Hadrat was wearing clothes make from sacks under his robe. Hadrat Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu then said, “The one inside is for my Creator and the one on top is for the creation.”
A man once lost his purse which contained one thousand dinaars. Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu was walking close to him, so he held the hand of the Imam and accused him of stealing his money. Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu asked how much he had in his money bag, and the man said that he had one thousand dinaars. Hadrat took him home and gave him one thousand dinaars from his wealth. The next day, the man found his money bag, and came rushing to Hadrat Imam Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu to return the money he had taken from him. Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said, “We do not take back what we have already given.” The man then asked some people who this person was, and he was told that it was Hadrat Imam Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu. When he heard this, he became very sad and regretted his behavior.[Tazkirat al-Awliyah]
DEBATE WITH AN ATHEIST:Hadrat Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu spent a lot of his time spreading the word of Allah and His Rasool SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam. He always spoke against those who did not believe in Allah. An atheist from Egypt came to Hadrat Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu whilst he was in Makkah. Hadrat Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu asked his name and he said that his name was Abdul Malik and he was also known as Abdullah. On hearing this Hadrat said, “Malik, whose servant you are, is he from the Kingdom of the Skies or the Kingdom of the earth, the Lord that is the Lord of your son, is he the Lord of the skies or the Lord of the Earths?” The atheist could not answer this question. Hadrat then said, “Did you ever journey under the earth? Do you know what is beyond it?” He replied in the negative and said, “I think there is nothing beyond it.” Hadrat then said to him, “Thinking is not sufficient! However, have you ever flown into the skies and journeyed beyond the skies?” Again he replied in the negative. Hadrat said, “Did you ever travel the entire East and West and did you realise anything about the future from this?” Again he answered in the negative. Hadrat said, “I am amazed, that you are not aware of the earth and what is beneath it, and the sky and what is beyond it, and in this state of ignorance, you still have the arrogance to reject the existence of Allah. O Ignorant man! There is no argument for one who is naive about that which is a reality. The sun, the moon, the night and day, are all in a specific pattern. Verily they are within some divine control. If they were free, then they would move as they willed and would sometimes go to an appointed spot and not return. Why is it that the night does not take the place of day and the day does not take the place of night? Do you not ponder upon the reality of the skies and the earth? Why does the sky not come to the earth and why is it that the earth is not flattened by the sky? There is definitely ONE, who has all this in His Divine Control. It is He (Allah) who is All Powerful. It is He, who is our and their Lord.” When the atheist heard this, he immediately accepted Islam and had faith in the existence of Allah.
HADRAT BAYAZEED BUSTAAMI:Hadrat Ba Yazeed Bustaami Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu used to distribute water in the Darbaar of Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu. Hadrat placed his saintly sight on Hadrat Bayazeed Bustaami Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu once, and he became one of the greatest mystics of his time. He then served in the Court of Hadrat Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu and became one of the greatest Awliyah.
IMAM-E-AZAM ABU HANIFA:Hadrat Imam Azam Abu Hanifa Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu attained great blessings from Hadrat Imam Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu. It is narrated that once he asked Imam Abu Hanifa Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu concerning who is an intelligent person. Hadrat Imam Abu Hanifa Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said, “He who can differentiate between good and evil is an intelligent man.” Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said, “Even animals have the ability to differentiate. It can differentiate between those who love them, beat them or instill fear in them?” Imam Abu Hanifa Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu then said, “O Hadrat! Would you please explain who is truly intelligent?” Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said, “An intelligent person, is one who can differentiate between two good things and two evils, so that he may choose the better of two good things and that he may be able to repel the worse of two evils.”
SHAYKH-E-TARIQAT:He was the mureed and Khalifa of Hadrat Sayyiduna Imam Baaqir Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu and attained great blessings from his beloved father.
BOOKS AND TREATIES:Hadrat has also written books on numerous topics, as mentioned by scholars like Imam Kamaaludeen etc.
KARAAMATS:Hadrat Imam Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu is an example for Muslims in every way. His greatest Karaamat was his firmness on the Shariat. His every step was in accordance with the Sunnat of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam. A few of his Karaamats are being quoted below.
A MANSION IN JANNAH:Once, a man came to Hadrat Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu before journeying for Hajj. He gave Hadrat 10,000 dirhams, and asked him to purchase a mansion for him before he returned. Instead of purchasing a mansion, Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu distributed the entire 10,000 dirhams in the way of Allah. After the man returned from Hajj, he went to meet Hadrat Imam Jaafar Saadiq Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu. Hadrat Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu told him that he had purchased his mansion and then handed the title deed over to him. The title deed read as follows : “One wall of the house is adjoined to the house of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam, the other wall is adjoined to the house of Hadrat Ali Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu, the third wall is adjoined to the house of Imam Hassan Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu and the fourth wall is adjoined to the house of Imam Hussain Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu.” The man took this title deed, and asked his family members to place it in his grave when he passed away. After his demise, his family members found the title deed on the top of his grave and on the rear of the title deed the following words were written,
“Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu was honest and loyal in what he said.”[Masaalik as-Saalikeen, Vol.1, Page 220]
AMAZING INCIDENT:Once, he was on his way to Hajj, when he stopped to rest under a date tree which was completely dried out. At the time of Chasht, he asked the tree to present him with some dates. Immediately, the tree became green and lush and full of dates. Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu then ate from it. A villager was passing by and saw this. He saw this great karaamat and said that it was magic. Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said,
“This is not magic. Almighty Allah has blessed me with such a quality, that he accepts all my duas. If I make dua, even you can be transformed into a dog.” Hadrat had not yet completed what he was saying, when the villager began to resemble a dog. He quickly repented and asked Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu to forgive him. Hadrat made dua for him, and he was transformed to his normal self.[Masaalik as-Saalikeen, Vol.1, Page 223]
KHALIFA MANSOOR:Khalifa Mansoor once sent one of his ministers to summon Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu to his Court. He informed his servants that when Imam Jaafar arrived, they should wait for him (Mansoor) to remove his crown. The moment he did this, they should martyr Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu. When the minister heard this, he was not pleased and thus tried to explain to Mansoor, how wrong it was to kill a pious person, who is also a Sayyid. The Khalifa did not take heed and had Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu summoned. When Hadrat Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu arrived, the servants waited for their cue, so that they may martyr Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu. Instead, Mansoor woke up from his throne and rushed towards the Imam. He brought him towards his throne and allowed him to sit on it with great respect, whilst he sat on the ground in front of the great Imam. The servants and ministers were surprised to see this sudden change in plan. Mansoor then asked the Imam if he had any requests. Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu said,"In future you should not summon me to your court, as I wish to remain engrossed in Ibaadat."
When he heard these words, his body began to tremble and he allowed the Imam to leave with respect. When the Imam left, the minister asked about the sudden change in plan and Mansoor said, "When Imam Jaafar Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu entered my court, I saw a huge python with him. The python had its one lip over my throne and one under my throne, and it spoke to me and said that if I tried to ever harm the Imam, then he would consume me with my throne, and that is why I behaved in the manner which I did."
HIS CHILDREN:He was blessed with six sons and one daughter. Their names are :
1. Hadrat Ismaeel
2. Hadrat Muhammad
3. Hadrat Ali
4. Hadrat Abdullah
5. Hadrat Ishaaq
6. Hadrat Moosa Kaazim
7. Bibi Umm-e-Fardah (Ridwaanullahi Ta'ala Alaihim Ajma'een)
HIS KHULAFA:If one studies the books of history, then one will learn about his Khulafa, and how exalted each one of them was and how they had attained his blessings. Some of them are:
1. Hadrat Imam Moosa Kaazim Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu
2. Hadrat Imam Azam Abu Hanifa Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu
3. Hadrat Sultaan Bayazeed Bustaami Radi Allahu Ta'ala Anhu
WISAAL:He passed away during the rule of the second Abbasi Khalifa Abu Jaafar Mansoor bin Abul Abbas As Safah on a Friday, the 15th of Rajab or 24 Shawwal 148 Hijri at the age of 68 in Madinatul Munawwarah.[Masaalik as-Saalikeen, Vol.1, Page 217]
MAZAAR SHAREEF:His Mazaar Shareef is in Jannat al-Baqi in Madinatul Munawwarah.

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Religion
Among the many criteria in selecting a life partner, the foremost is religion. Islam has established the importance of choosing a religious wife for it is faith which protects a woman from committing anything that is prohibited. A religious woman always keeps away from whatever enrages Allaah The Almighty or dishonors her husband. On the other hand, a corrupt woman, particularly one who takes extreme pride in her beauty and wealth, does not adhere to the teachings of Islam and is certainly prone to the devil’s insinuations, who may trick her into not adequately safeguarding her chastity or honor. Hence, Islam urges men to prefer the religious woman and be meticulous in their search for her in every Muslim household.
The Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, pointed out the decisive factors on which basis people choose a wife and guided us to what the best is in that regard, when he said:“A woman is married for four things: her wealth, her noble ancestry, her beauty and her religion. So win the religious woman; )otherwise( you will be a loser.”]Al-Bukhaari[ This stresses that if we overlook the religious aspect and pursue only attractiveness, riches or noble lineage, we would lose out, indicating we did not aim high enough.
The Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, even commanded us, saying:“Do not marry women for their good looks, as their beauty might destroy them; and do not marry them for their wealth as their riches might lead them to be overbearing. Marry them for their religion; and a black and unattractive maid who is religious, is better ]than them both[.”]Ibn Maajah[ Islam has not set a criterion that decides a beauty queen, for even all men have not collectively agreed on the beauty of a single woman. It has, however, stated that beauty in a wife is indeed in the eye of her beholder husband. Hence, one must not merely focus on a woman’s looks, affluence or family, at the expense of religion; indeed, as someone once said, beauty with an evil soul is like a lantern on a Magi’s grave.
However, if a pious woman also possesses good looks, wealth or a noble lineage, then that is the most preferable, but even in that, religion must be the decisive factor.
Our righteous predecessors were keen on selecting religious wives, regardless of their looks and social or financial status. The Commander of the Believers, ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab, may Allaah be pleased with him, was once so impressed by the pious daughter of a woman who was a milk vendor, that he recommended his son ‘Aasim, may Allaah be pleased with him, to marry her. According to reliable historians, ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, mentioned that had he wanted to marry someone himself, it would have been her, as Imaam Ibn Al-Jawzi, may Allaah have mercy upon him, narrates:“Ibn Zayd narrated on the authority of the grandfather of Aslam that he said, ‘Once I went with ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, while he was on one of his night walks in Madeenah. He felt tired, so he leaned against a wall and heard a woman telling her daughter to mix the milk with water before selling it. The daughter told her that ‘Umar, the Commander of the believers, forbade that, but the mother insisted, saying that she was in a place where ‘Umar and his deputy could not see her. However, the girl said, ‘]I swear[ by Allaah, I will not obey him publicly and disobey him secretly.’ The Commander of the Believers, meanwhile, was hearing all this; he then looked at me and instructed: ‘O Aslam, mark this door.’’ He continued on in his walk and in the morning, he called me, and said, “O Aslam! Go to the house that you marked and find out who the speakers were and see if there is a man ]in the house[.” I went there and discovered that they were an unmarried girl and her mother, and that they lived together without anyone else. I returned and told ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him. He called his sons and said to them, “Does any of you need a wife? Had your father been capable of getting married, he would have hastened to marry this woman. I wish that one of you would marry her.’ So, ‘Aasim said, “O father! As you know, I have no wife, so ]I believe[ I am more entitled to marry her.” ‘Umar sent someone to propose to the milk seller’s daughter on behalf of his son and the two soon married. The young woman gave birth to a daughter who later married ‘Abdul-‘Azeez ibn Marawaan; and this girl gave birth to the fifth Rightly-Guided Caliph, ‘Umar ibn ‘Abdul-‘Azeez, may Allaah have mercy upon him.”
Hence, the fruit of this noble marriage was the birth of a Caliph, who was unprecedented in his justice and asceticism, and in popularity among his subjects.
As for the particular characteristics of a righteous marriage prospect, the best of mankind, the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said, in a Hadeeth on the authority of Ibn ‘Abbaas, may Allaah be pleased with him:“Would you like me to tell you about the best treasure a man could have? ]She is[ a righteous woman, who pleases him when he looks at her, preserves his honor when he is away from her and acts in accordance with what he asks of her.”In another Hadeeth on the authority of Abu Umaamah, may Allaah be pleased with him, the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“The best that benefits a believer, after ]possessing[ the fear of Allaah The Almighty, is a pious wife who minds what he bids her, pleases him when he looks at her, helps him fulfill his oath and protects her chastity and his property in his absence.”]Ibn Maajah[
Such a righteous, religious woman certainly exists. If the father head of the household is pious himself, his daughters will be chaste and religious, too.
Morals
The second criterion in selecting a wife, which is closely tied to the first, is that she must possess good morals. Indeed, a truly religious woman would have a good character, as her faith would prevent her from evil in speech, whether through hurtful words or gossip, and actions. Having good morals is a basic characteristic when in looking for a wife, as the wise man Luqmaan rightly advised his son:“O son! Seek refuge with Allaah The Almighty from an immoral woman, as she would age you before your time. O son! Ask Allaah The Almighty to protect you from the evil of women and to grant you the best of them. Endeavor to find a righteous woman, so you can be happy for life.”
Virginity
While not a requirement per se, Islam urges a Muslim to marry a virgin only because men naturally prefer a woman who has never been with anyone else before. Knowing their nature, the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, asked Jaabir ibn ‘Abdullaah, may Allaah be pleased with him, after his marriage to a non-virgin woman:“Why did you not marry a virgin who would play with you and you would play with her?”Jaabir, may Allaah be pleased with him, told the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, that it was only because his father had died and left his young sisters in his care, and that an older, mature woman would be more capable of taking care of the house. There is no doubt that a bride who is a virgin devotes all her love to the one man who chose her from among countless women; and indeed, the first love is true love. Also, since a virgin does not have experience with men, she will devote all her affection to the only man who married her.
Fertility
Once again, as a matter of a better )and not only( choice, Islam urges the Muslim to marry fertile women, who are free from any disease that prevents pregnancy, as may be determined by pre-marital checkups and through consultation with specialist doctors. Further, if a potential bride’s mother, relatives and married sisters have children, then, it is most likely that she is genetically predisposed to bearing offspring, as well.
The Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, forbade Muslims from celibacy and ordered them to look for fertile women as spouses, saying:“Marry affectionate and fertile women, as I will be proud of your great number, among the Prophets on the Day of Judgment.”]Abu Daawood and An-Nasaa’i[ In another instance, a man came to the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, seeking his advice on whether he should marry a woman who is beautiful but infertile. The Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“No.”Then, he came to ask the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, a second time, and he forbade him again. After he came a third time, he,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said,“Marry the affectionate and fertile women as I shall outnumber people by you )on the Day of Judgment(.”]Abu Daawood and An-Nasaa’i[
Closeness in culture and age
Homogeneity in marriage, according to Islamic jurisprudence, is in choosing a wife that is close to the man in age, culture and family background. This is because due to similar standards, the harmony of marital life may be maintained in a like-minded couple.
However, scholars have different opinions in this regard; some of them say that this is necessary, basing their stance on some Hadeeth of the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, such as the one where he said:“Choose for your semen )i.e., children(; marry suitable people ]to each other[ and get married to suitable partners.”]Ibn Maajah[
However, some scholars disagree, saying this cannot stand as proof, as all Muslims are competent for each other. There are Hadeeths that support this opinion, such as the one narrated by Al-Bukhaari, may Allaah have mercy upon him, in which Sahl, may Allaah be pleased with him, relates that the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallamasked them about a man that passed by them. The people said:“He is worthy of being accepted when he proposes for marriage, of his intercession being given consideration and being listened to when he speaks.” After that, one of the poor Muslims passed by them and the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, asked them about him, whereupon they remarked: “He is not worthy of being accepted when he proposes or intercedes, or of being listened to when he speaks.” The Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, then stated:“The latter is better than many men like the former”, apparently on the basis of his religion and morals.

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Ibn Mas‘ood, may Allaah be pleased with him, said,“The most insightful of people were three persons: the companion of Yoosuf )Joseph(, may Allaah exalt his mention, when he said to his wife:}Make his residence comfortable.{]Quran 12:21[;the wife of Moosa )Moses(, may Allaah exalt his mention, when she said:}O my father, hire him.{]Quran 28:26[;and Abu Bakr, may Allaah be pleased with him, when he assigned ‘Umar, may Allaah be pleased with him, as his successor.”
What made Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, move from Egypt to Madyan in the south of Palestine to marry the daughter of the righteous man and to look after his sheep for ten years?
Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, lived in Egypt, and one day while he was walking down a street, he saw two men fighting each other -- one of them was from his own people, namely the Children of Israel; and the other belonged to the family of Pharaoh. The Egyptian man wanted to force the Israeli man to do some work for him. As the latter sought help from Moosa, he )Moosa(, may Allaah exalt his mention, pushed the Egyptian man who died on the spot. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}And he entered the city at a time of inattention by its people and found therein two men fighting: one from his faction and one from among his enemy. And the one from his faction called for help to him against the one from his enemy, so Moosa )Moses( struck him and ]unintentionally[ killed him. ]Moses[ said, “This is from the work of Satan. Indeed, he is a manifest, misleading enemy.”{]Quran 28:15[
On the following day, the Israeli man quarreled with another man and sought help from Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, once again, who said to him,“Indeed, you are a persistent deviator.”Therefore, the man from Bani Israa'eel feared him and disclosed the secret by saying,“Do you intend to kill me as you killed a man yesterday?”Thus, Pharaoh and his soldiers knew that it was Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, who had killed the Egyptian man. However, a man came from the farthest end of the city and warned Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, who left Egypt immediately and invoked forgiveness from Allaah The Almighty, saying,}“My Lord, indeed I have wronged myself, so forgive me,” and He forgave him. Indeed, He is The Forgiving, The Merciful.{]Quran 28:16[
Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, left Egypt and moved from one place to another until he arrived at Madyan in the south of Palestine. He sat next to a well and saw something that did not appeal to him. While the shepherds were busy watering their cattle from the well, two women stood nearby and were prevented from approaching the well with their sheep, since they were too shy to join the throng of men. Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, was impressed by the scene, for he thought that the two women should have been allowed to water their sheep first, given access and helped by the men.
Hence, he went over to the spot and asked them what the matter was, and they told him that they could not water their sheep until the men had finished watering their cattle first. They said their father was so old that he could not water the sheep himself. With the chivalry that is expected on the part of righteous men, Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, stepped forward and joined the crowd of shepherds to water the women’s sheep for them. Then he moved to seek shelter under a shady tree and privately addressed his Lord,}“My Lord, indeed I am, for whatever good You would send down to me, in need.”{]Quran 28:24[
The two young women returned to their father, who was amazed at their speedy return, since they used to stay for a long time to water their sheep. When he asked them how they had come back so quickly, they told him the story of the strong man who had watered the sheep for them and did them that favor without knowing who they were or charging them a wage for his service; doing so out of chivalry and graciousness.
The father asked one of his daughters to summon that man. Hence, one of them went to him, walking shyly, to convey to him the invitation of her father,}Indeed, my father invites you that he may reward you for having watered for us.{]Quran 28:25[Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, accepted the invitation and when he reached the old man and narrated his story to him, the old man reassured him by saying,}Fear not. You have escaped from the wrongdoing people.{]Quran 28:25[
At which time, one of the two young women, driven by her good insight and sound disposition, proposed to her father something that was useful for them and for Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, by saying,}O my father, hire him. Indeed, the best one you can hire is the strong and the trustworthy.{]Quran 28:26[She and her sister had to do a tiresome job grazing the sheep, and they sought concealment by avoiding strange men in pastures and over the well, for women who have chaste souls are not pleased with gathering with men. Also, Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, was powerful and honest enough to be qualified to undertake the task. The young woman offered her point of view with full clarity, fearing nothing, for she was innocent in the spirit and delicate in her senses.
The old man was convinced of the reasons that his daughter provided regarding the suitability of Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, to work for them and to become related to the man through marriage, so he said to him,}“Indeed, I wish to wed you one of these, my two daughters, on ]the condition[ that you serve me for eight years; but if you complete ten, it will be ]as a favor[ from you. And I do not wish to put you in difficulty. You will find me, if Allaah wills, from among the righteous.” Moosa ]Moses[ said, “That is ]established[ between me and you. Whichever of the two terms I complete, there is no injustice to me, and Allaah, over what we say, is witness.”{]Quran 28:27-28[
When Moosa, may Allaah exalt his mention, fulfilled the term by having worked ten years for his father-in-law, he wanted to leave to Egypt, and the old man agreed to that and wished him the best. Hence, he left with his wife and took with him the sheep that the old man gave him, and walked from Madyan to Egypt.
Thus, Moosa’s wife, may Allaah be pleased with her, was a good example of a believer who was insightful and bashful and a role model in choosing an honest and chaste husband.

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