Women site, - Obeying the Husband is the Key to Paradise

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The IslamicSharee'ahstresses that the wife is under the obligation of obeying her husband. This remains unless he commands her to disobey Allaah The Exalted. She is required to obey him and exert her utmost effort to fulfill his needs in a way that makes him satisfied and thankful. This is supported by theHadeethwhere the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“If the woman performs the five daily prayers, fasts the month of Ramadan, maintains her chastity and obeys her husband, she will enter the Paradise of her Lord.”Likewise, Allaah The Exalted Says )what means(:}But if they obey you ]once more[, seek no means against them.{]Quran 4:34[ Moreover, the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“Were I to order anyone to prostrate himself before anyone else, I would have ordered the woman to prostrate herself before her husband.”
Obedience is the first right that Islam acknowledges for the husband over his wife. She is required to obey him in everything unless he commands her to do an act of disobedience. The Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“No creature should be obeyed when it comes to disobeying the Creator.”
Consequently, she is required to obey him when he commands, fulfill his request when he orders, abstain when he forbids and respond when he advises. If he commands her not to allow a certain person, whether he is a relative or not, aMahramor non-Mahram, to enter his home when he is absent, she is required to obey him. The Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:“Indeed, you have a right over your wives, and your wives have a right over you. As for the right that you have over them, it is to disallow anyone whom you dislike to enter your houses.”
Obeying the Husband is Equal to Jihaad
There are manySharee'ahtexts indicating the greatness of the husband's right over his wife. In aHadeethon the authority of Ibn ‘Abbaas, may Allaah be pleased with him, it was mentioned that a woman came to the Prophet,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and said, “O Messenger of Allaah, I am a delegate ]from a group of[ women and there are none of them, whether she knows or does not know that I would come to you, except she would want me to come to you. Allaah The Almighty is the Lord of both men and women and their God, and you are the Messenger of Allaah, for both men and women. Allaah has prescribed Jihaad for men only; if they are victorious, their reward is great, and if they die as martyrs, they are alive with their Lord, receiving sustenance. ]For women[, which act of obedience is equal in reward to this?”The Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, replied:“Obeying their husbands and )being aware of and( fulfilling their rights; and few of you do that.”]At-Tabaraani and ‘Abdul-Raaziq[ Here, the Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, equated the reward of makingJihaadto that of the wife obeying her husband.
Obedient Wives
The wife who knows her religious duties towards her husband is fully aware of the importance of obeying her husband. Mrs. Maha Jaabir says, “In order to provide the family with an atmosphere of security, protection, stability and affection, the wife is required to obey her husband in everything that is useful and beneficial. This would help to create sound humans who would go through life far removed from disturbances or imbalances. In return, Islam gave the woman her full right and made it obligatory on the husband to honor his wife, safeguard her rights and provide an honorable life for her in order to be obedient and loving."
Mrs. Muna Al-Mu’aththin says,
If it is obligatory on the wife to obey her husband, this is only because he bears the responsibility and she is subordinate to him. He is a caretaker of his home and responsible for those who are under his charge. Moreover, he is supposed to be more insightful and more open-minded, and to know things that the wife does not know because of his wide circle of acquaintances and his wide experience that enables him to see what his wife does not. The wise wife is the one who obeys her husband, fulfills his commands and responds to his opinions and advice willingly and sincerely. If she finds something wrong in him, from her point of view, she exchanges views with him and guides him to his mistake with leniency, kindness and conviction. Calmness and soft words work like magic.
The disease of conceit and arrogance may cripple a woman's heart. In this respect, Mrs. ‘Abeer Murshid says, "If such a disease reaches the heart of the woman, it would be a great disaster. The marital relationship would be threatened with the most dangerous type of disputes and quarrels. The man is in charge of the family by virtue of the role that Allaah The Almighty has granted him. If the wife tries to change the Creation of Allaah and His norms, this would afflict her with the most harmful consequences.”
Describing the way that she treats her husband, Mrs. Leena Al-Ghadhbaan says,
If my husband calls me to obey Allaah The Exalted and the Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, I respond to his call without annoyance because this is the way to salvation and forgiveness. If he asks me to wear decent clothes and adhere toHijaab, I obey his command because this is the way to attain success and the satisfaction of Allaah The Almighty. I do not care about the customs of the community as Allaah The Exalted Says )what means(:}And if you obey most of those upon the earth, they will mislead you from the Way of Allaah.{]Quran 6:116[ If he asks me to be moderate regarding home expenses, I respond with my heart and with love and faithfulness. These are the foundations of marital life that Allaah The Exalted Has established on affection and mercy. I know that when my husband gets angry at anything I might have done after advising and directing me, this may entails the Anger of Allaah The Exalted.
Mrs. Khadeejah Hijaazi says,
One may find obedience a heavy burden; however, the wife is rewarded according to the extent of her readiness to be obedient and her sincerity in fulfilling the obligations of such obedience. The Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, praised women and clarified that the services they perform and the sacrifices they make in terms of their emotions and energies can be made by no one else. They were created to perform a sublime and important duty, and in return Allaah The Exalted Has prepared a great reward for them. This reward would not be completed except with the wife’s obedience to her husband, satisfying him and avoiding what he dislikes.
Mrs. Hanaa‘ As-Saalih says, “The man is in charge of the family. He takes care of it and observes the morals of its members and its affairs. Hence, all the members of the family are required to obey him. He is charged with the burdens of the family and working to provide for it and fulfill its needs. In this way, the family is organized on the basis that there is a caretaker and a commander, on one hand, and subjects who listen and obey on the other.”
Limits of Obedience
However, the obedience that is obligatory on the wife to her husband is not blind obedience or obedience without restrictions, conditions or limits. Rather, it is the obedience of the righteous wife to the righteous and pious husband whose personality she trusts and believes in his sincerity and righteousness. Obedience that is based on consultation and mutual understanding promotes the entity of the family and its conditions and reinforces its foundations and strength.
The spouses are advised to consult each other with regard to all family affairs. Indeed, there is no consultant better than a faithful and truthful wife. She supports her husband, guides him with her emotions, protects him with her instinct and provides him with her opinion. The Messenger of Allaah,sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, would consult his wives and follow their opinion in important matters. He consulted his wife, Umm Salamah, may Allaah be pleased with her, in a most critical situation. Her consultation and wise opinion were important in putting an end to that crisis and returning matters to normality.
Finally, we find that Islam has organized the rights of spouses in such a way that if each of them perfectly fulfills the other's rights, he, as well as those around him, will live in a state of happiness. However, if one of them misuses this right, the marital life will fail as it is a partnership between the spouses. Islam acknowledges the rights of the wife over her husband just as it acknowledges the husband’s rights over his wife. Additionally, it has clarified the duties of each. If both of them follow the instructions and each of them knows his Islamic rights and duties, the family will live happily and will be encompassed by tranquility and the mercy of Allaah The Almighty.

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Dought & clear, - Is it possible to see Allaah in this world?.

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I have read that no man has seen Allah (S) in this life, not even the prophet (SM) in his mira'j. The book has been written by Sk. Abu Ameenah Bilaal Philips. Now, I have heard from one scholar from my country that Imam Malik saw Allah (S) hundred times in his dream. Is that possible?
May Allah (S) reward you.
Praise be to Allaah.
Seeing Allaah in reality (as opposed to in a dream) is not possible in this life, although no doubt it will happen after death. This is not because seeing Him is impossible in itself, but because Allaah has willed that it should not happen. This is for many reasons, some of which have been found by the scholars, and others which remain known only to Allaah. Among the reasons which we do understand is human weakness, which is apparent from the story of Moosa (upon whom be peace), which we will quote shortly. Another reason is that seeing Allaah is a great blessing and joy, indeed it is the greatest blessing, so it is withheld for the place of ultimate blessing and joy, namely Paradise. Another reason is that this world is a mixture of good believers and kuffaar, so this blessing is deferred until it will be given exclusively to the believers in Paradise. Withholding this blessing until the Hereafter also provides a strong motive to do good in this world, so that one may see Allaah and feel secure and content in nearness to Him in the Hereafter.
Evidence that it is not possible to see Allaah in this world
Allaah says, in the story of Moosa (peace be upon him) (interpretation of the meaning):“And when Moosa came at the time and place appointed by Us, and his Lord spoke to him, he said, ‘O my Lord! Show me (Yourself), that
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):“No vision can grasp Him, but His Grasp is over all vision. He is the Most Subtle and Courteous, Well-Acquainted with all things.” [al-An’aam 6:103].The commentator
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):“It is not given to any human being that Allaah should speak to him unless (it be) by inspiration, or from behind a veil, or (that) He sends a Messenger to reveal
Abu Hurayrah said: “Some people said, ‘O Messenger of Allaah, will we see our Lord on the Day of Resurrection?’ He said, ‘Do you have any doubt about seeing the sun on a cloudless day?’ They said, ‘No, O Messenger of Allaah.’ He
Abu Dharr said: “I asked the Messenger of Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), ‘Have you seen your Lord?’ He said, ‘(There is) light, how could I see Him?’” This light, which prevented him from seeing Him, is a veil of
Further clear evidence comes in the hadeeth which warns against the Dajjaal (antichrist): “Written between his eyes is (the word) kaafir, which will be read by everyone who hates his works, or every believer will read it. Know that
So any claim that anyone but the Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) can see Allaah in reality is impossible, according to the consensus of the scholars. However, there is some disagreement among the scholars as to whether or not the Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw Allaah on the night of the Mi’raaj. The correct view is that he did not see Him physically, with his own two eyes, because when he was asked about this, he said, “(There is) light, how could I see Him?” According to another report, he said, “I saw light.” The Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not see Him, but he saw His veil of light.
The question of whether Allaah may be seen in a dream does not contradict the fact that Allaah cannot be seen in reality in this world, because all the texts quoted above speak about physical vision when one is awake, not the “vision” of the heart when one is asleep. Proof that the latter kind of vision is possible is to be seen in the hadeeth about the dispute of the “chiefs on high” (the angels). Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said, “The Messenger of Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, ‘My Lord came to me tonight in the most beautiful form.’ I think he said, ‘in a dream. He said, “O Muhammad, do you know what the chiefs on high disputed about?” I said, “No.” He put His hand between my shoulder-blades and I could feel its coolness on my chest (or just beneath my throat), then I knew everything that is in the heavens and on earth. He said, “O Muhammad, do you know what the chiefs on high disputed about?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “About expiation, and expiation is staying in the mosque after prayers, walking to join congregational prayers, and doing wudoo’ properly in adverse conditions. Whoever does that will live a good life and die a good death, and will be as sinless as the day his mother bore him.” He said, “O Muhammad, when you pray, sayAllaahumma innee as’aluka fa’l al-khayraat wa tark al-munkaraat wa hubb al-masaakeen, wa idha aradta bi ‘ibaadika fitnatan fa’qbudni ilayka ghayra maftoon(O Allaah, I ask you to make me do good deeds and avoid evil deeds, and to make me love the poor and wretched. If You want to test Your slaves, then take me unto You without subjecting me to the trial). One’s status in Paradise may be raised by spreading the greeting of salaam, feeding others, and praying at night when people are sleeping.”’”(Reported by Imaam Ahmad, 16026; and by al-Tirmidhi, 3159, who said it is a saheeh hasan hadeeth).
Some of the scholars have commented that it is possible to see Allaah in a dream.
Imaam al-Daarimi said, in his refutation of Bishr ibn Ghiyaath, “This seeing took place in a dream, and in a dream it is possible to see Allaah in any shape or form.” (p. 166)
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah said, “A believer may see his Lord in a dream, in various forms according to his faith and belief. If his eemaan is correct, he can only see Him in a beautiful form, and if his faith is lacking, this will be reflected in the way he sees Him. Seeing Allaah in a dream is not like seeing Him in reality. It may have different interpretations and meanings referring to something in reality.”(al-Fataawa, 3/390)
He also said, “Whoever sees Allaah in a dream sees Him in a form that corresponds to his own state. If he is righteous, he will see Him in a beautiful form, which is why the Prophet(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) saw him in the most beautiful form.(al-Fataawa, 5/251)
Shaykh ‘Abd al-Azeez ibn Baaz was asked about the ruling concerning one who claims to have seen the Lord of Glory in a dream, and whether it was true, as some claim, that Imaam Ahmad ibn Hanbal had seen the Lord of Glory in his dreams more than one hundred times. The Shaykh answered as follows:
“Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) and others said that it is possible for a man to see his Lord in a dream, but what he sees is not reality, because there is nothing like Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):‘… There is nothing like unto Him, and He is the All-Hearer, the All-Seer.’ [al-Shoora 42:11]. Nothing in His creation is like unto Him. A person may dream that his Lord is speaking to him, and no matter what kind of image he sees, that image is not Allaah, because there is nothing that is like Allaah in any way. Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen (may Allaah have mercy on him) mentioned that dreams differ according to the state of the person who is dreaming. The more righteous and closer to goodness a person is, the more correct his dream will be, but the truth is still something other than what he sees, because the guiding principle is still that there is nothing like unto Allaah.
He may hear a voice and be told such-and-such, or to do such-and-such, without any clear image resembling anything in creation, because there is nothing at all like unto Allaah… Some people may imagine that they have seen their Lord when in fact this is not the case. The Shaytaan may deceive a person and make him imagine that he is their Lord, as it was reported that he made ‘Abd al-Qaadir al-Jeelaani see him on a throne above water, and said, ‘I am your Lord and I freed you from doing any duties (worship, etc.).’ ‘Abd al-Qaadir al-Jeelaani said, ‘Get lost, O enemy of Allaah! You are not my Lord, because the commands of my Lord are not cancelled for anyone,’ or some similar words.
As for whether Imaam Ahmad saw his Lord, I do not know if this is true or not. It is said that he saw his Lord but I do not know if this is true.” And Allaah knows best.

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Dought & clear, - Interruption of Wudhu.

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If during wudhu (ablution), one finds dirt stuck on his fingers, does working on removing the dirt by scrubbing it off disrupt the continuity of the wudhu and require repeating it?
Praise be to Allah
Continuity would not be disrupted by such an action (according to the most viable opinion) even if his body had dried, because he was delayed due to an action required for his purity. The same is true if he were to move from one faucet to another in search of water.
However, if continuity were disrupted due to an action not related to this, like removing impurity from his clothes, eating or drinking and the like, and the limbs became dry, then he needs to repeat the wudhu.
From the book What Should You Do in the Following Situations .. ?
Fatawa ibn Uthaimeen, 4/145-146 (Dar al-Qutni)
And Allah knows best.

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