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Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}And Allaah has made for you from yourselves mates and has made for you from your mates sons and grandchildren and has provided for you from the good things. Then in falsehood do they believe and in the favor of Allaah they disbelieve? {]Quran 16:72[. Allaah The Exalted also Says )what means(:}He gives to whom He wills female ]children[, and He gives to whom He wills males. Or He makes them ]both[ males and females, and He renders whom He wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent. {]Quran 42: 49-50[.
In addition, the Prophet, sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said:"Marry women who are loving and very prolific, so I will outnumber all other nations through you."]Abu Daawood and An Nasaa'i[
Continuous reproduction is of a great importance in the life of man in order for him to preserve his existence and perform his mission of constructing the earth. Nevertheless, one of the spouses – or both - may suffer infertility which deprives them from having righteous offspring.
Science discovered artificial insemination as a means to treat infertility in the husband or wife and in the case of a delay in pregnancy in a number of cases, including:
- The blockage of the fallopian tubes extended to the two sides of the uterus or the absence thereof.
- The presence of antibodies in the secretions of the cervix and vagina.
- Low sperm count in men.
Forms of Artificial insemination:
There are various forms of artificial insemination. However, they are divided into: permissible according to the restrictions set forth by Islam or impermissible for contradicting the principles of the Islamic Sharee'ah. These forms can be presented as follows:
The Permissible Forms Include:
- Taking the sperm specimen from the husband and injecting it into the uterus of his wife by way of internal fertilization.
- Taking two samples; one from the semen of the husband and the other from the ovum of the wife. They are fertilized externally in a test tube. Then, the embryo is implemented in the uterus of the wife, the owner of the ovum.
Impermissible forms Include:
- Inserting the semen of a certain male, who is known to the doctor but unknown to the married couple, into the uterus of a woman. This is after having taken her consent and the consent of her husband provided that the donor shall not know to whom his semen will be given.
- Collecting the semen of many men and donating them to the sperm bank. Then, it is used to fertilize the woman who requests fertilization.
- External fertilization in a test tube between the sperm of a man and an ovum of a woman who is not his wife and this man and woman are referred to as donors. Then the embryo is implemented in the womb of another married woman who desires to give birth. This applies in cases of barren wives as a result of problems in the ovaries but a healthy uterus as well as in case of barren husbands.
Regulations of Artificial Insemination:
Jurists have set forth a number of regulations that protect the individuals, the family and society, such as:
- Taking extremely intense precautions in assuring that the ovum is not confused with other fertilized ova.
- The husband or someone he trusts shall attend the process of insemination from the point of taking the sperm and the egg until inserting them into the woman's uterus.
- Recording the data of the process in full in order to avoid any circumstances that may lead to intermixing of lineages.
- Affirmation of the professional and ethical integrity of the physicians and medical staff who perform the process of insemination.
The issue, from the very beginning, should be enveloped by faith in fate and divine decree as Allaah The Exalted Says )what means(:}He gives to whom He wills female ]children[, and He gives to whom He wills males. Or He makes them ]both[ males and females, and He renders whom He wills barren. Indeed, He is Knowing and Competent.{]Quran 42: 49-50[.

Women site, - He used to keep himself busy serving his family - I

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Some wives complain, in their messages, that their husbands do not bother to do any chores related to the family, whether inside or outside the house, even if it is a routine or simple matter, and this, of course, makes them feel sad, hurt and frustrated.
Dear Muslim husband and wife,
To help with the housework is one of the emotional requirements of the wife. It creates a feeling of peace and happiness within the house. This help includes, for instance, cooking meals, washing dishes, washing and ironing clothes, cleaning the house and taking care of the children.
In the beginning of the marriage, the husband automatically co-operates with his wife in the housework; a help which she welcomes.
But with the passage of time, and with the husband’s increasing engagement in his work outside the house, neither the husband nor the wife regard it as an important emotional requirement, and at that point, the countdown of the time bomb starts.
When the children come, the needs automatically increase: there is a need to increase the income and to bear more household responsibilities.
While the mother focuses on the needs of the infant, the father’s natural reaction to help takes the form of providing more money, which makes him mainly concerned with his work: he searches for overtime at work in the hope of increasing his salary.
Here, many disputes take place between the spouses, especially when the wife is a working woman, and is exposed to the same pressure that the husband is exposed to.
This can be avoided if both spouses tackle the issue with love and intelligence. Failing this, the reserves of the bank of love will suffer.
Most husbands do not help with the housework, whether or not their wives work. The working wives return home exhausted and unable to do the housework in the best manner, which means that a lot of work in the house remains undone.
Such women hardly rest, even on holidays: they spend all their time taking care of their children, cleaning the house and doing the laundry. They then need help with the housework, which forces them to resort to external help from maids, in order to be able to cover that emotional need. Running the household and fulfilling the husband’s demands contribute in increasing her share in his bank of love; and vice versa, i.e. helping the wife contribute in increasing his share in her bank of love.
Shared responsibilities
Both the man and woman have a role to play and responsibility to bear in the house. Good companionship between them requires that they should co-operate in these responsibilities. Among the most important responsibilities due upon the woman is to dispose of the household affairs, and nurture the children.
These responsibilities, though borne by the woman for the most part, should be shared between the spouses according to the principle of co-operation.
The emotional needs of both the woman and the man
Confidence and care are among the emotional needs of both the man and woman.
When the wife has confidence in her husband’s capability, he becomes more eager to care for and serve her. Similarly, when the husband cares for his wife, she becomes more confident of him and of his capabilities.
The joy of sharing
Successful spouses are those who share in doing many simple things, like planning for the future, arranging the library, cooking a quick meal, making arrangements for something related to the children, and other such simple tasks which contribute to the kind treatment and affection between them. Thus, each of the spouses feels happy and contented on seeing his/her partner beside him, sharing his/her joy and grief, and not leaving him/her. A successful life is based on the principle of give and take, love and reassurance that there is someone who supports the person and will always be by his side no matter what happens.
Emotional contentment
The family’s beauty is reflected in the co-operation between the spouses in carrying the burdens of life. At times, the husband sacrifices and serves his wife, and the wife does the same at other times and serves her husband.
Service is not the exclusive characteristic of one of the spouses without the other: both spouses are partners in it. The best way to treat a woman is if her husband sympathizes with her regarding the housework, and assists her in this regard. If a woman, who is a housewife devotes her effort and energy to the service of her husband and children, and, at the same time, receives neither encouragement nor appreciation, she will fall a victim to frustration and intense emotional deprivation. This is why the Messenger of Allah, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, took this into consideration. He never obligated his wives with the burden of his service. He used to serve himself, and hasten to help his wives, to the extent that he would put his leg forward for one of them to mount a camel.
A man’s awareness of this fact, good treatment and service of their wives has an impressive effect on their spiritual tranquility and emotional stability. This causes the woman to receive her husband in a state of utmost happiness and contentment, no matter how destitute and poor they might be.

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It is narrated on the authority of As-Siddeeqah )‘Aa’ishah(, daughter of As-Siddeeq )Abu Bakr(, may Allah be pleased with them, the wife of the best of creation, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, that she said, describing his conduct in his house, “He used to keep himself busy serving his family.” ]Al-Bukhaari[ “He, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, used to sew his garments, stitch his sandals, and do all things that men do in their homes.” ]Al-Albaani: Saheeh[
It is narrated on the authority of Al-Aswad, may Allah have mercy upon him, that he said: I asked ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, about what the Messenger of Allah, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, used to do at home, thereupon she said, “He used to keep himself busy serving his family, and once the prayer was due, he would come out for the prayer.” ]Al-Bukhaari[
It is narrated on the authority of ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, that she was asked about what the Messenger of Allah, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, used to do at home, thereupon she said, “He was a human being like other human beings. he used to take out lice from his garment, milk his sheep and serve himself.” ]Al-Albaani: Saheeh[
The Hadeeth )narration( indicates, if not exhorts men to serve their families. The noblest of creation used to sew his garment and stitch his sandals! So, why do you, my brother, not follow his example, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, and join your wife in the service of the house, like washing the dishes and other chores, even if not on a regular basis? Whilst doing so, you should remember the statement of ‘Aa’ishah, may Allah be pleased with her, “The Prophet, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, used to keep himself busy serving his family.” That, to be sure, has the most impressive effect in increasing the ties of affection and mercy between the spouses.
Although he was the Prophet of Allah, sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam, and the head of the Muslim state, he found the time to serve his household. What a great tutor he is!
If you are not doing so already, dear brother, I invite you to start sharing household duties with your wife, and please her, even with a little work in the house. Although she may not let you do so, she will surely appreciate your endeavor and this will increase her respect for you. Rather, she would hasten to do the work instead of you but with great happiness, and the feeling that all her tiredness is gone, after she learns that you appreciate her service in the house. With mere appreciation )of her service( and a little work, your happiness at home will become enduring and your leadership will be secure.
The husband’s role
The husband should co-operate with his wife at home through:
1- Personally helping his wife in the responsibilities of the house.
He should contribute towards the household chores with his wife as much as lies within his capacity. The Messenger of Allah, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, used to keep himself busy serving his family, and so did the Companions, may Allah be pleased with them. Since the Messenger of Allah, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, practiced this, then, it becomes incumbent upon any other husband to act in accordance with his Sunnah )tradition(, sallAllahu ‘alayhi wa sallam.
2- Reducing his demands and not blaming the wife for deficiency.
It is not considered good treatment if the husband makes too many demands on his wife in serving him and his household, neither should he take her to task harshly in case she falls short.
3- Determining the household responsibilities:
Have you told your husband that his helping you with the housework makes you love him more? Help with the housework can become a means to fulfill other emotional needs which the other party needs to be reminded of.
Before housework turns into a cause of dispute between the spouses, we suggest imposing the policy of shared agreement, and sitting together to solve the basic problems. What is required now is:
1- A quiet night and psychological readiness
2- Paper and a pen
3- Smiles and patience
In this atmosphere, each of the spouses should determine the tasks to be done by him/her. The housework may be divided into:
1- Tasks you like to do and do not need any help to do them.
2- Tasks you are satisfied with but need the help of the other party
3- Tasks you regard as the responsibility of the other party alone
4- Tasks of the other party in which you are willing to help.
Then, each party is required to show his/her agreement or disagreement on those items. In this way, the responsibilities are determined, and each party is held responsible for the tasks he/she has agreed to do.
In this way, both spouses can care for the feelings of each other, and bring happiness to one another. When a married couple holds a discussion, they should observe the following tips:
1- To be nice and pleasant during the discussion
2- To be calm, first of all, and stay away from belligerent behavior
3- A dead end does not mean that the discussion is over, but that it should be postponed to avoid a clash
4- To make sure to put yourself in the place of the other party.
You may also make a special list for the children of the chores they can do, so that they would learn how to bear their share of the responsibility for doing the housework.
In conclusion
Try to help your wife in some of the housework in order to make her feel that you care about her, and that you appreciate her efforts. Ask her to rest and not do any housework if she is tired, and do that work yourself instead of her. Of a surety, this increases the affection and mercy between you, keeps the river of love flowing, and raises your share in her bank of love.
Your little bit of work at home is like salt in the food. So, share in the housework even if it is just a little, out of appreciation and acknowledgement of the great service your wife does for you, perchance you would spur her to work willingly and relentlessly, and her body and soul will be at your disposal without complaint.

Dought & clear, - He works as a collector for an electricity company. Is it permissible for him to change the currency before giving the collected money to the company?.

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A collector who is working in an electricity company is asking the following question:
The electricity company that he works for considers US$ 100 equal to SR 400 (for example). So whether the bill payer pays US$ 100 or SR 400, it is equal. Sometimes the price of US$ 100 equals SR 403 or more. Is it permissible for the collector to take the bill value in Dollars then exchange them into Riyals and pays 400 Riyals for every US$ 100 he collected and then takes the difference of price for himself?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Collectors for electricity companies and other representatives are entrusted with whatever money comes to them, and they have no right to dispose of it in any way other than that for which their bosses have given them permission. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Verily, Allaah commands that you should render back the trusts to those, to whom they are due”
[al-Nisa’ 4:58].
What they must do is give the money to the company as they took it from the customers or subscribers. It is not permissible for them to change it from one currency to another. If they do that, then the additional amount belongs to the company, and they have no right to take anything from it.
And Allaah knows best.

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