Story, - Who does he like?

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There was this boy named Jordan who came to my school to shadow in fifth grade. Right away I liked him and hoped he came to my school. He did.
Jordan was a bit childlike but I liked him for that. He was witty and funny with a big mouth.
Once in sixth grade (my school is tiny, 300 kids) when I was at science, Morrison asked my brother (at least this is what he told me),
“Who does Katherine like?” My brother, (god why didn’t you just shut up) began ticking down the list of all the boys until he got to Jordan. Morrison immediately said,
“Aha! Katherine likes Jordan!” When I got back from science, my friend Nick (whom I told about my other crush) asked me if I liked Jordan. I mumbled some cuss words and said,
“Kinda.” And that was that. Jordan heard everything, and he knew I liked him. It was a bit hard to talk to him after that, but I managed.
As we got to seventh grade, a new girl named Melody came to my school. She was on the pretty side and blond. Now, I’ve been trying to get over Jordan, but that doesn’t seem to be happening. Also, my BFF has a crush on him. Only four people (including my brother…long story) knows I like him. So Melody asked Jordan out, and I was glad to hear that he said no.
Jordan is…unpredictable. He has a very big mouth and he talks a lot (most of the stuff he says is bs) and it is impossible to tell who he likes. None of the “secret signs” applies to him. He’s on a totally different scale, needing a totally different guide to read.
But now I’m worried…he’s cute, yes, and he has a lot of admirers. Who does he like?

PUBLISHER Najimudeen M

Story, - I'm Just a Dreamer

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I didn’t believe it. People said I was too young. They said our age was too far apart. I never knew…
I met my crush for the first time when he came over to my house. He was 16, I was 10 (DONT mention age here). He was the sweetest guy I’d ever met. He was everything: funny, witty, smart, playful. Everyday, I’d sit and imagine what it would be like to spend one whole day with him. Together. Alone.
Years passed, I turned 12, he turned 18. The last time he came over we had a little conversation. He kept on asking me about school dances and that I should sneak out to go to one. He said that maybe he’d go with a friend of his, a Persian girl with a heavy accent.
I was such a dreamer. I kept a journal of the boys I liked, mostly filled with pages of him. The time at his house he showed me his art. The card he made for Mission Art Walk Day. I even saved a picture of him on my computer (well…two). I convinced myself that he liked me. I guess I was wrong.
One day, I came home from basketball practice. It was dark, and so hard to see without my glasses. I had a habit of looking at his house, which was on my block, at the attic window, to see if it was on. I saw the front door was opened, and he and another girl with her hair pulled back into a ponytail. He was laughing, probably at something she said, and I was staring, my heart breaking. It wasn’t his fault, he didn’t know I was there. Yet. Time slowed, as it seemed, and he looked up. Shock, confusion, and something else flashed across his face, and then I was gone, away down the block in my dad’s car. The end of that moment.
He’s off to college now, and I’ll hardly get to see him. He’ll never like me, but somewhere inside me, something keeps hoping he will. I just keep on dreaming.

PUBLISHER Najimudeen M

Fathwa, - The husband's financial responsibilities after divorce

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Question:
My wife and I are coming to the logical end of our marriage. The only thing that keeps us together is the two children. My Question is what are my financial commitments to her after the divorce. She says they continue until she weds again. Is this the case? She wants the kids, and I cannot separate them from their mother. I will live nearby. Please advise me. As it is, I have a backlog of debt to her, where she forewent nafaqah, and I must repay it. Do I owe anything on top of this?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,
One of the rights of the wife on the husband is her financial support, which includes food, clothing, shelter, etc..
Allah Most High says:
�Let the man of means spend according to his means, and the man whose resources are restricted, let him spend according to what Allah has given him� (Surah al-Talaq, V.7),
This financial support (nafaqah) is binding upon the husband throughout the marriage, if the wife gives herself to him or offers to. (al-Mausili, al-Ikhtiyar, 4/229).
If the marriage unfortunately came to an end, then the woman will receive this financial support throughout the waiting period (iddah). Once the post marital waiting period comes to an end, the obligation of Nafaqah no longer remains on the husband.
Allah Most High says:
�Let the woman live (in iddah) in the same style as ye live, according to your means. Annoy them not, so as to restrict them. And if they carry (life in their wombs), then spend on them until they deliver their burden� (Surah al-Talaq, V. 6).
It should be remembered that the wife will be entitled to this financial support (during the waiting period) regardless of whether the divorce was revocable or irrevocable. (Radd al-Muhtar, 3/609).
As far as the Nafaqah for the previous years is concerned, the Fuqaha mention that if a period passed, in where the husband failed to provide financial support for his wife, the amount he should have paid does not remain a debt he owes to her.
However, there are two exceptions for this:
1) If both spouses agreed that it will be paid later
2) The Judge (qadhi) ordered that it should be paid later
Imam al-Haskafi (Allah have mercy on him) states in his Durr al-Mukhtar:
�Financial support (nafaqah) will not become a debt except with judgment (qadha) or by agreement (radha)� (See: Radd al-Muhtar, 3/594).
Therefore, if you did not make an arrangement with your wife of paying the Nafaqah later, it will not be binding on you to pay her for the previous years. However, if you do, out of your own will, you will be rewarded.
And Allah knows best

PUBLISHER Najimudeen M