Story, - Never love someone too much

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Hii, i'm 21 years old boy, studying pharmacy from a university. it all started when i joined university for studying pharmacy. I was selected from the waiting list, so my admission was 2 weeks after classes started. Our batch was the 1st batch of this university seeking pharmacy. I was happy that i will be a pharmacist one day. First day, when i entered the class, i was familiar with only two students, one is a boy & onether one is girl, rest are new. I seated on a seat and was checking every one. I saw a gud looking girl, stared at her for few seconds. I'm addicted to facebook, so search her name n luckily found her profilen send her frnd request, she accepted, soon we started to talk via phone n also become familiar with everyone in the class, we become good friends and used to share everythings with each other. This went for 2 months i started to like her but dint tell her, then 1 month vacation started. After vacation, she said she like a boy n that boy also likes her n they started relationship which is still going on. I dint felt anything bad. Just i stoped talking with her.
Now the main story started, there is another girl in our class, she is childish, cute n sweet in nature, we used to come to the university in the same bus but never talk with her actually, but i dont know when i started to feel for her. I used to stare at her everyday and she also never talked with me in person, i got to know the she had a boyfriend who cheated her, then again have a boyfriend. I was sad knowing this, then days goes on like this. I wanted to talk to her but had no courage how to start. Finally 1 day, i asked for her phone number, she gave me without asking anything as we are classmates, then i started sending jokes and all that, she also replied me with same, few days goes same way. One day i decided to really talk with her, so we talked soon she became very free with me and started to share everything with me. I was very happy with this talking with her everyday, suddenly 1 day her bf broke up with her n she was very sad n decided that she will never hav bf anymore. Few day went this way. She also said she still likes his 1st bf, they talk sometime. I thought may be i have no chance to b her love. 1 day, i shared my feeling for her to her n hearing this she become shocked n said to be her friend nothing more as she dont want anyone anymore, i tried to make her realize how i feel for her but she never understood that. N kept on saying to be her friend only other wise she will not talk, i agreed to her. Few days later, again told her that i love her but she said no, i tried many times bt she kept on saying no bt i kept my hope alive believing that 1 day she will love me. Somtime we had urguments on this bt soon everything used to become ok n we used to talk like nothing happened. My love for her was growing day by day but she never understood that. I also hurted her many times but not intentionallyn for that i said soory to her from my heart many times. I cant do anything other than hoping. Still, everything is ok, we were talking everyday. Sometime, we used to have urguments n dint used to talk for 2-3 days again she used to start talking. She also hurted me many times but i never let her know. One day, i was in angry mood, n talk angrily with her, and we stoped talking n i decided not to talk to her again but again talked with me n said to be my friend only. I aid ok n dint tried to talk to her much, now from few days, we dont talk.. But i still love her n will love her always. May be she is not the right girl for me. I just want her to be happy always no matter with whom. I'm still waiting for her. everything started in 2011. She never said that she wont talk to me. I know if i talk again, she will talk but i dont want to, when i talk i get hurted. Tommorrow, i'm going to see her in class after few day, i wont look at her. I know she will look at me without my notice. She always do like this. I dont know what will happen next. Just hoping for the best.
Guys plz comment n share your views. It may be little long. Bt hope u will like it.
Thanks for reading my story.

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Sex in Islam, - Is Viagra Halal or Haram?

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The Shaikh said, "Using a drug that helps sexual intrecourse is permitted and there is no legal Islamic prohibition provided it does not contain ingredients that may harm health, or any intoxicating substances." (quoted from Okaz newspaper).
Note: If you're a man who uses nitrate drugs, like nitroglycerine, (drugs commonly used for the treatment of chest pains) never take Viagra with any nitrate medicine, as your blood pressure could suddenly drop to an unsafe or life threatening level. Viagra must never be used by men taking nitrates of any kind, any time.
( Zawaj.com is not recommending or endorsing this drug, we are simply reporting on the issue of whether or not it is halal).
A biography of Shaikh bin Baz:
HIS NAME:Abdul Azeez Ibn Abdullaah Ibn Abdur-Rahmaan Ibn Muhammad Ibn Abdullaah Aal Baaz.
HIS BIRTH:He was born in the year 1330AH in the city of Riyaadh, Saudi Arabia. He had normal sight at the beginning of his studies and was then afflicted with an illness in 1346AH which impaired his eyesight. He later became blind in 1350H when he was only 20 years old.
SEEKING KNOWLEDGE:He started upon the path of knowledge at a young age and memorised the Qur'aan before puberty. The Shaykh excelled in his knowledge of the various branches of the Sharee'ah and the Arabic language and was then appointed as a Judge. This however did not stop him from seeking knowledge until the time of his death. The various offices he had held never stopped him from teaching and engaging in research.
HIS TEACHERS:
1.Shaykh Muhammad ibn Abdul-Lateef ibn Abdur-Rahmaan ibn Hasan ibn Ash-Shaykh Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhaab (rahimahumullaah).
2.Shaykh Sa'd Ibn Hamad ibn Ateeq (the Cheif Judge of Riyaadh).
3.Hamad Ibn Faaris (Vice Chancellor of the Treasury at Riyaadh).
4.Shaykh Saalih ibn Abdul-Azeez ibn Abdur-Rahmaan ibn Hasan ibn Muhammad ibn Abdul-Wahhaab (The Chief Judge of Riyaadh).
5.Shaykh Sa'd Waqqaas al-Bukhaaree, One of the scholars of Makkah from whom Shaykh Ibn Baaz learnt the science of tajweed.
6.Shaykh Muhammed ibn Ibraaheem ibn Abdul-Lateef Aalush-Shaykh. The Former Mufti of Saudi Arabia and the Ummah. Shaykh Ibn Baaz attended and adhered to his study circles for approximately 10 years. Shaykh Ibn Baaz learnt all the branches of the sharee'ah from him from 1347H to 1357 whereupon his teacher then nominated him for a post in the judiciary.
HIS VARIOUS POSTS AND POSITIONS:
1.Judge in Al-Kharaj district for a lengthy time, spanning approximately 14 years from 1357H till 1371H.
2.Teaching post in Riyaadh at al-Mahad al-Ilmee in 1372H then at the college of Sharee'ah from its inception in 1373H. He taught the sciences of fiqh, tawheed and fiqh. This continued for 9 years till 1390H.
3.He was appointed as Vice-Chancellor of the Islamic University Of Madeenah in the year 1381H and he remained in this post until 1390H.
4.He then became the Chancellor of the University of Madeenah in 1390H upon the death of the then Chancellor Shaykh Muhammad Ibn Ibraaheem Aalush-Shaykh. He remained Chancellor until 1395H.
5.In 1413H, he was appointed the official Muftee (expounder of Islamic law and fatwa) and was appointed to the presidency of the Commitee of Senior Scholars and the presidency of the Administration for Scientific Research and Legal Rulings.
6.He continued to hold other posts until his death.
HIS INFLUENCE AND STUDENTS:
The Shaykh has influenced and affected many people and in many different ways. The Shaykh produced many other scholars from his great knowledge. Amogst them, Shaykh Muhammad Saaleh ibn Al-Uthaymeen, Shaykh Saaleh Ibn Fawzaan al-Fawzaan, Shaykh Rabee ibn Haadee, Shaykh Muhammad ibn Haadee al-Madkhalee, Shaykh Abdus-Salaam ibn Burjiss and many hundreds of others.... he died in Taa'if 1420 A.H.
May Allaah have mercy upon him.

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Sex in Islam, - Islamic Ruling on Sex Change

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Question:Dear scholars, As-Salaam `Alaykum. My purpose of writing to you is to seek clarification pertaining to the Islamic point of view with regards to the sex change operation for male transsexuals (not hermaphrodites). These group of people have complete male physical attributes but feel completely female inside. In short, a female trapped in a male's body. In Islam, is sex change allowed for this group of people? If it is allowed, I would appreciate very much if you could provide relevant excerpts from the Qur'an or Hadith. Jazakum Allah khayran.
Answer:
Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Dear sister in Islam, we would like to thank you for showing keenness on learning the teachings of Islam, and we appreciate the great confidence you have in us. We hope our efforts meet your expectations, yet we apologize for the late reply.
Allah has created both sexes: males and females, and they are both highly respected in Islam, the religion that strictly abolishes gender discrimination. In Islam, man and woman are equals in the sight of Allah. Therefore, there is no justifiable reason for what called sex change operations.
With regard to your question, Sheikh Muhammad Iqbal Nadvi, Imam of Calgary Mosque, Canada, and Former Professor at King Saud Univ., Saudi Arabia, answers:
Let me first establish some related fundamentals, so it will be easy to understand the Islamic ruling regarding to above-mentioned situation.1. Two Genders
Almighty Allah created humans in two genders, male and female. This is has been stated in many verses:
"O mankind! Be careful of your duty to your Lord Who created you from a single soul and from it created its mate and from them twain hath spread abroad a multitude of men and women."(An-Nisaa':1)
"O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female."(Al-Hujurat: 13)
"And that He createth the two spouses, the male and the female."(An-Najm: 45)
Also refer to Surat Al-Layl: 3, and Ash-Shura: 49. Allah the Almighty also says in Surat Al `Imran, verse 36, that"the male is not as the female."
And in Surat Al-Layl He says:"Lo! your effort is dispersed (toward diverse ends)."
2. Fitra
Allah, the Almighty, also said that He created every human being withFitra(nature) that suits him or her. Since Fitra is an inbuilt system designed to suit every creation, the Fitra of a male is different from the Fitra of a female.
3. Changing the Creation
Allah, Exalted be He, also made it clear to us that when the Shaitan (Satan) challenged to deviate humans he said he would cause them to change the creation of Allah, the Almighty. Allah says: "And surely I will command them and they will change Allah's creation." (An-Nisa': 119)
4. Hermaphrodites Are An Exeption
Every rule has an exception, so the hermaphrodite gender is an exception, and as it indicates, it is not a standard, but only a sign of Allah's Power of creation, for a wisdom He knows better.
5. Imitating the Opposite Gender is Haram
The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, has invoked the curse of Allah, the Almighty, upon"a male who imitates a female or vice versa."This Hadith is about the matters of dress and fashion, but it also explains the importance of gender in Islam. So, if an imitation in outward appearance is counted as a sin, then by Qiyas (analogy), a total change in gender will be even more sinful act.
6. Do Not Covet or Envy
Allah, Glorified be He, says:"And covet not the thing in which Allah hath made some of you excel others. Unto men a fortune from that which they have earned, and unto women a fortune from that which they have earned. (Envy not one another) but ask Allah of His bounty. Lo! Allah is ever Knower of all things."(An-Nisa': 32)
This means that Allah, the Almighty, created each of us in one gender, in one shape, while he or she likes another gender, but as a Muslim and believer he or she has to accept the destiny of Allah.
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In the light of the above-mentioned basic facts, I would conclude by saying that it is not allowed in Islam to change the gender, and doing so will be changing of Allah's creation.
The only exception to this ruling is related to a person who has both genders potential in body, so a medical treatment can be sought to unify one gender. In this case it will be a correction, and not a change in the creation of Allah, the Almighty. This issue has been previously discussed by our earlier Fuqahaa' (jurists) and the same ruling has been given.
In shedding more light on the prohibition of sex change (save the medical necessities mentioned above), Sheikh M. S. Al-Munajjid, a prominent Saudi Islamic lecturer and author states:
"It is not permissible for a person to have gender operation; from male to female or vice versa. Every Muslim has to be content with what Allah has decreed for him/her, for He has placed him in a suitable position. He/she does not know what is good for him/her; (being a male) perhaps if he was created female, that would not be good for him, or (being a female) if she was created male, that would be bad for her. By the same token, there are some people for whom nothing but poverty is good, and if Allah made such a person rich it would be harmful for him; and there are others for whom nothing but richness is appropriate, and if they became poor that would be harmful to them.
Some women wished they had been created men so they could fight in the way of Allah. This was just wishful thinking, but Allah revealed the prohibition of that wishful thinking in the ayah (Qur'anic verse):
"And wish not for the things in which Allah has made some of you to excel others. For men there is reward for what they have earned, (and likewise) for women there is reward for what they have earned."(An-Nisa':32)
If mere wishful thinking is forbidden, then how about taking action upon such thinking? If a Muslim is forbidden to change the creation of Allah in minor cases, so how about changing sex altogether?
Sheikh `Abd Al-Karim Al-Khudayr states:Changing one's sex is a kind of tampering with the creation of Allah and following the way of the Shaitan (Satan) who vowed that he would misguide the sons of Adam in this way and in others, as clarified in the verse:"And surely I will command them and they will change Allah's creation."(An-Nisa': 119) We pray to Allah to keep us safe and sound." Do keep in touch. If you have any other question, don't hesitate to write to us.

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