For children, - Right Speech: Key to happiness and success

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There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'a speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.' Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.
A women and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, 'Hi, Emily! Remember me? We were friends in the secondary school.' On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, 'Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.' She answered, 'You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you.'
A little girl asked her father, 'How did the human race appear?' The father answered, 'Allah (SWT) made Adam and Eve and they had children and so was all mankind made.' Two days later the girl asked her mother the same question. The mother answered, 'Many years ago there were monkeys from which the human race evolved.' The confused girl returned to her father and said, 'Daddy how is it possible that you told me the human race was created by Allah (SWT), and mother said they developed from monkeys?' The father answered, 'Well, dear, it is very simple. I told you about my side of the family and your mother told you about hers.'
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.




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The Qur'an sets out the basis of love

The Qur'an refers to love that stems from faith and has a profound
impact on the soul. It takes hard work to possess that love. The
concept of love in the Qur'an encapsulates the concepts of
self-sacrifice, patience, generosity, care and protection. Our Lord
reveals in the Qur'an that responding to evil and evil words in the
finest possible manner and treating people well represents the
basis of love.
If you ask people across the world, the majority will probably say
they "know all about love and loving" and that they "love a great
many people." But the fact is that only very, very few people know
love and how to love. What people imagine to be "love" is actually
a feeling rather more like infatuation. The passage of time makes
it quite clear that this feeling is not love at all. True love is
an emotion based on the love and approval of Allah, that never
diminishes no matter how much time goes by, that can withstand time,
difficulties, flaws and errors and that is always growing.
Responding to Evil in the Finest Way Is Proof of Love
In the Qur'an, Allah commands people to respond to evil with good:
"A good action and a bad action are not the same. Repel the bad
with something better and, if there is enmity between you and
someone else, he will be like a bosom friend." (Surat al-Fussilat,
34)
Allah has promised believers an auspicious outcome when they
respond to evil with good. He notes that even if there is a state of
enmity between them and the other person, a warm friendship can
still emerge. This is also a requirement of believers' conception of
love and compassion. When they see that the other party is behaving
badly and in a manner displeasing to Allah, they first think that
this behavior is a danger to that person in terms of the hereafter
and approach that person with tolerance and modesty, avoiding pride
and arrogance, and adopt a humble way of speaking. They never
adopt the logic of "The person in error or who does wrong must be
the first to apologize" or "To hell with them," an attitude common
among people who do not live by Qur'anic moral values. They know that
Allah will approve of the behavior of whoever behaves well, and
that to respond to evil with good is the behavior most compatible
with the moral values of the Qur'an. For that reason, they regard
humility as gaining them something rather than a source of loss.
Believers may encounter all kinds of people during their lives. But
they never alter their moral conception on the basis of other
people's behavior. Other people may speak mocking or ugly words,
become angry or behave badly. But the believer never changes his
good manners, modesty, compassionate affection and loving behavior.
He never replies to bad words with bad words of his own. He never
responds to mockery or anger with mockery or anger of his own. He
always responds to offensive behavior with a tolerance, compassion
and love that serves to embarrass the other party and make them
want to behave better. He is always calm and moderate in the face of
anger.
Of course, this behavior on the part of a believer has an entirely
rational dimension; it never puts him in a position whereby he can
come to harm. He never allows himself or other believers to come to
any harm or to suffer any wrong. But with his good behavior he also
preaches the moral virtues commanded by the faith. And by adopting
the moral values beloved of Allah, he tries to attract the other
party toward religious moral values.
However, we must also not forget that someone else behaving badly is
no excuse for exhibiting poor moral values oneself. Everyone is
individually and ultimately responsible to Allah for his actions.
Being able to respond to bad behavior with affection, compassion,
moral virtue and love is, according to the Qur'an, a sign of
superior morality because this proper attitude on the part of the
believer shows the power and intensity of his devotion to Allah.
That person is patient solely because that value will be pleasing
to Allah. Allah reveals that He will twice reward this superior
patience people exhibit regarding living by the moral values of the
Qur'an:
"They will be given their reward twice over because they have been
steadfast and because they ward off the bad with the good and give
from what we have provided for them." (Surat al-Qasas, 54)
Treating People Well Is Proof of Love
"We did not create the heavens and earth and everything between
them, except with truth. The Hour is certainly coming, so turn away
graciously." (Surat al-Hijr, 85)
Allah commands believers to behave well and treat others with love.
This is a solid moral conception stemming from fear of Allah and
devotion to the Qur'an. The believer never, therefore, makes the
slightest concession on those values throughout his life, and treats
others well and lovingly within the framework of earning Allah's
approval.
Whether the other person is rich or poor, old or young, man or
woman make no difference in terms of a believer's moral values. The
believer never considers such characteristics, since he expects no
worldly gain or benefit in return for his behavior. Indeed, Allah
has specified the measure involved here:
"Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him. Be good to
your parents and relatives and to orphans and the very poor, and to
neighbors who are related to you and neighbors who are not related
to you, and to companions and travelers and your slaves. Allah does
not love anyone vain or boastful." (Surat an-Nisa', 36)
The believer exhibits the same behavior commanded by Allah to
everyone. However, this is not a conception of good that approves of
other people's false ideas nor turns a blind eye to wrongful
behavior. The believer never makes any concessions from the path
shown by Allah on matters concerning the truth. If the other party
behaves badly, he tries to make this clear through his own
compassion and love, and thus to set out the proper way of behaving.
Seeing the Other Party's Point of View Is an Important Sign of Love
There are generally two sides to every story in the great majority
of events that people who live far removed from religious moral
values encounter in their daily lives. It is almost impossible for
one person to be completely in the right and the other completely
in the wrong. Right may sometimes be divided 80% to 20%, and at
other times 50% to 50%. People generally look at matters in which
they are involved from their own perspective, and to the extent
permitted by that perspective. Therefore, one person will regard
himself as being completely in the right, while the other person
regards himself in exactly the same way. One of the two expects the
other party to apologize and see the error of his ways, while the
other person expects exactly the same thing from him.
This approach, which is widespread in societies that do not live by
religious moral values, leads to permanent unease and coolness
between people in the event of the slightest misunderstanding or
disagreement. The difference between them and believers comes out
under such conditions. One important characteristic of the believer
is that he knows love and how to love. Being a believer means
possessing superior moral values when it comes to friendship,
loyalty, affection and compassion, forgiveness, tolerance and
winning people's hearts. The believer is highly altruistic in his
love. He never prefers his own desires over the person he loves. He
never abandons the person he loves for the sake of his own ease and
comfort. He will never try to blame the person he loves in order to
exculpate himself. On the contrary, he will still assume the blame
even if the person he loves is completely in the wrong. He will
assume the responsibility for all error and flaws and deficiencies,
and will never allow a shred of blame to be attached to the person
he loves. And his sole aim in all of this is to earn Allah's
approval because the believer's love is based solely on love of
Allah. His loyalty stems from his loyalty to Allah. And that is the
sole source of his devotion to the person he loves.
Love Is an Important Sign of a Believer
Almost everyone will come across loveless and ruthless people in
their lives. These people are unaffected by almost everything that
goes on or is said around them and use a harsh form of language.
There is no doubt that it is none other than satan who leads these
people to lovelessness and ruthlessness. Satan does not want people
to have good conscience or to be rational, submissive, grateful,
tolerant, pleased with Allah's creation, full of love and showing
moral virtue to those around them. Yet Almighty Allah has created
human nature to make things easy and put others at their ease, so
people will sacrifice themselves if necessary, do this without
letting the other party know, to adapt to all legitimate things and
to be full of love. Believers, who use this attribute created by
Allah very well, calm down the environment they find themselves in
and always have a positive impact. This harmonious, calming,
positive, warm and relaxing character that believers exhibit to
those around them out of their love of Allah is an excellent sign of
a believer. Allah reveals in the Qur'an how He has created the
blessing of love for believers:
" As for those who believe and do right actions, the All-Merciful
will bestow His love on them." (Surah Maryam, 96)
The true source of the love for other people that believers feel in
their hearts is their love of Allah. Knowing that Allah created the
joy they feel in their hearts and that Allah is manifested in all
things is the true source of profound human love.
In true love, one can always express these emotions to the people
one loves with breathtaking and effective words one has never used
before. Each one is different to all those that have gone before
because one experiences that joy in the most vibrant form and at
every moment in one's heart.
Allah has created human beings with "souls," in contrast to all
other living things. Therefore, and again in contrast to all other
living things, the effect that the riches in one's soul will have
on another person will also be different. The love that everyone
experiences is directly proportional to the beauty in one's soul.
The more traits deserving of love and respect one has, the more
people will love and respect them. In the same way, the more
sensitive one is to the traits deserving of love and respect in other
people, the more one will see such beauties in others and love and
respect them in proportion.
Mr. Adnan Oktar Speaks of the Love Described in the Qur'an:
The Qur'an describes the foundation of love. It does not tell us
simply to love. Love requires patience, for instance, loyalty,
generosity, care, protectiveness and consideration, doesn't it? An
egotistical, selfish person cannot know love. An egotistical,
selfish person inevitably loses love. People who are not forgiving
lose love. In other words, love does not form spontaneously. It
calls for work and care. You have to protect love in the same way
you tend a flower. Love does not just appear spontaneously. One does
not love a person's eyes and eyebrows; they can grow old or become
diseased. Wealth can also disappear, but faith and virtue, the moral
values stemming from faith, are permanent and have a profound
effect on the soul. That is why we love other people. One cannot just
love a person made of flesh and bone because lift the skin up by
just a millimeter and flesh is bright red, and all you have is
blood and fat and nothing else.

There Is No Such Thing as the “FirstSelf-reproducing Molecule That Gave Rise to Life”

The scenario regarding life that Darwinists have been rehearsing
ever since Darwin's time begins with a mythical "first cell" that
supposedly came into being spontaneously. This mythical first cell;
Was described in Darwin's day as "a small balloon filled with
water," because under the primitive conditions of the time, nobody
even knew what the cell really looked like.
It was irrationally suggested that this alleged first cell came
into being spontaneously in water.
It was claimed that all the varieties of life developed from this
first cell that came into being by chance.
Enormous scientific progress was subsequently made in the 20th
Century and the structure of the cell was fully revealed. It was
realized that;
A single cell has a more complex structure than the city of New York.
That it was impossible for even a single protein inside the cell,
let alone a cell itself, to come about spontaneously.
The idea that the cell came into being in muddy water is therefore
scientifically illogical and impossible.
These facts caused a terrible panic among Darwinists. The fact that
the theory of evolution had collapsed RIGHT AT THE BEGINNING OF LIFE
totally demoralized them. They wanted to conceal this fact. They
set about using the press and universities. "We can probably
manufacture protein in laboratories and are conducting
experiments," they said. "There are hypotheses that life began from
a single cell," they said. "We will prove our claims eventually,"
they said. But nothing changed over the next 150 years and no
evolutionary claim was ever proved. On the contrary, every new
scientific advance has proven that no protein can ever come into
being by chance.
Why Do Evolutionists in Turkey Still Espouse Claims That Darwinists
Elsewhere Have Abandoned?
Stunned by a succession of scientific defeats, Darwinists recently,
under the leadership of Richard Dawkins, began speaking of a
supposed "self-reproducing molecule." But even this did not rescue
the position, and even Dawkins had to publicly admit the illogical
nature of the claim, and thus that such a creation could only be
brought into being by a sublime intelligence.
Yes despite all these facts and scientific advances, evolutionists in
Turkey insist on repeating the idea. They reiterate such illogical
and unscientific ideas as, "We cannot speak of an advanced life
form, but we speak of an organization progressing toward life,"
"...the first self-replicating molecule created life," or "....life
emerging from inanimate matter is the result of the laws of nature,
and there is nothing to discuss about it." The reason for this is
that these people are unable to divorce themselves from the old,
fraudulent evolutionist conception of science.
There Is No Such Thing as a First Self-reproducing Molecule
Since Darwinists are unable to account for how a protein might have
formed spontaneously, they claim that the beginning of life was "a
first molecule capable of self-reproducing." First of all, there is
no such thing as a "self- reproducing molecule." If this molecule
was a protein, the smallest units inside the living cell, then it
must be borne in mind that proteins themselves have no "self-
reproductive" property. In order for a protein to be able to
self-replicate, IT NEEDS
Other proteins
DNA
Ribosomes
Endoplasmic reticulum
Cytoplasm
Energy manufacturing mitochondria
And the cell membrane.
IN SHORT,
A FULLY EQUIPPED CELL.
Therefore, the idea of a "self-reproducing molecule" is totally
fraudulent. It is impossible for a molecule not inside a living
cell to be able to take in energy from the outside and use it to
replicate itself . To refer to this as "an organization progressing
toward life" is demagoguery and a deliberate distraction.
"Organization progressing toward life" is a totally illogical term.
The smallest living thing is "a CELL." Only a cell and the
structures inside it can self-reproduce. Only a cell can take in
energy from the outside and use it. Only a cell can maintain its own
existence through its own organelles and the energy it takes in from
the outside.
To put it another way, there can be no supposed stages progressing
from the inanimate toward life . LIFE CAN NEVER COME FROM SOMETHING
INANIMATE. THAT IS ABSOLUTELY IMPOSSIBLE. IT IS SCIENCE THAT SAYS
THIS, PROVEN, CONCLUSIVE, SCIENTIFIC EXPERIMENTS. When Darwinists
say, "....there is scientific evidence that life formed from
inanimate matter," they are not speaking the truth. All research at
the molecular level has proved in the 20th Century that life cannot
come from what is inanimate; and this has been confirmed by
science in the 21st Century. Not even the presence of a protein is
enough for a living thing to form. In order to be able to explain
life, Darwinists have to account for the formation of a SINGLE
CELL. BUT THEY ARE STILL UNABLE TO ACCOUNT FOR HOW A SINGLE PROTEIN
MIGHT HAVE EMERGED SPONTANEOUSLY. A tiny protein inside the cell
totally demolishes Darwinism.

Perfection Is an Outcome Shown by Science and Prevails in All Living Structures

Darwinist claims have always been anything but scientific, and they
have always used mere demagoguery and false evidence to prop their
theories up. They deceive people by employing terminology that has
nothing to do with the subject at hand, simply producing words
without saying anything scientific at all. These are well-known
evolutionist characteristics. But there has recently been another
addition to Darwinists' demagoguery.
Terms such as "perfect, magnificent, flawless," used to emphasize
the superior aspects of the structures in living things, alarm
Darwinists. They respond by saying things like, "These are not
scientific terms, they are personalized terms; there is no such
thing as a perfect cell. What criteria are involved?"
The reason is this: Darwinists are aware that they cannot account in
terms of the theory of evolution for the extraordinary order and
behavior in living things, such as the golden ratio, symmetry,
division of labor or planning. Their latest feeble move, a defense
mechanism, is to attack these terms. In short,Darwinists are in such
a wretched position as to suggest that the use of these terms is
improper.
Why do Darwinists reject the concept of "perfection"?
"Perfection" is a scientific term because living structures exhibit
a perfection that exceeds human abilities and sometimes even human
comprehension. For example, the stages involved in plant
photosynthesis are still not yet fully understood. no machine capable
of making photosynthesis has thus far ever been constructed. We
still do not fully understand how tiny birds weighing just a few
grams can migrate thousands of kilometers, how they navigate, and
where they obtain the strength to do this. The majestic nature of
the order within the bee hive, how the regular hexagons in the
honeycomb came about and the glory of the ventilation system in
termite nests are all absolutely stunning.
In fact, Darwinists know perfectly well that the features in living
things are perfect and that they cannot explain them in terms of
evolution. But they still do all they can to reject the concept of
"perfection." The sole reason for this is that, in their eyes, it is
impossible for there to be perfection in a structure they maintain
came about by chance.
Chance cannot produce perfection. It cannot understand symmetry or
the golden ratio. It cannot give rise to entire systems that engage
in a division of labor at the molecular level, take precautions,
leave no deficiencies and test for, and even correct, errors. All
chance can produce is either nothing, or else deformed, twisted,
irregular, crippled and sickly structures. That is why Darwinists
are so alarmed by the use of words such as "perfect,"
"extraordinary" and "flawless."
The truth is clear, even if Darwinists try to hide from it
The fact that Darwinists try to avoid with their policy of silencing
argument is this:
Proteins serve very different functions inside the cell. Every
protein knows where to go and what to do at the moment it comes into
being. One enfolds DNA, another indicates the location of the code
in protein synthesis, one becomes a hormone and permits communication
while another becomes an enzyme and catalyzes reactions. Darwinists
can never succeed in performing one of the jobs of one of the
thousands of proteins inside the cell. FURTHERMORE, THEY CAN NEVER
EXPLAIN HOW A SINGLE PROTEIN MIGHT HAVE FORMED. Such a structure
that so exceeds human abilities is, in a word, perfect.
DNA is a work of art. Some two meters long and divided into 46
chromosomes, it is folded into the cell nucleus a mere one to two
microns in size using the most complex folding technique in the
world. It is enzymes and proteins that do this folding. If
Darwinists claim there is no perfection in this, then they have to
be able to do something similar, or at least make a copy of it.
The chloroplast inside a leaf performs photosynthesis, the mechanism
of which we still do not fully understand, with an amazing
expertise. If Darwinists maintain that this system is not perfect,
they need to be able to make a copy or to be able to do something
similar.
A moon fish living in Antarctica can survive at temperatures as low
as minus 56 degrees and dive down to great depths. Yet it is
unaffected by sudden and intense changes in pressure, because in
contrast to many mammals, its respiratory tract is flat-oval in
shape, rather than round, and is capable of immediately closing
under high pressure. It can also close its lungs instantaneously.
This characteristic is perfection.
A seed can store and never forget all the information for a flower,
a fruit or a tree. If Darwinists claim there is no perfection in
this, then they need to explain how the seed can store all this
information and how it can be preserved for hundreds or even
thousands of years.
A hummingbird's heart beats between 500 and 1,200 times per minute
throughout the day. At night, however, it slows down so much that
its heartbeat literally stops, and the bird seems not to be
breathing at all. These birds expend more energy, for their size,
then a modern passenger jet. If we were to expend an equivalent
amount of energy, our body temperature would rise to 400 degrees and
we would have to consume 45 kilos of sugar every day in order to
meet that energy need. It is wondrous how this tiny animal does
what is impossible for a human being.
Darwinists need to be able to account for a bat's sonar system,
bees' navigational abilities, a bacteria's ability to perform
chemical separation, the way a scorpion can withstand ultraviolet
rays, the way a salamander can renew its own organs and all the
countless characteristics in living things, in terms of evolution.
But since they cannot do that, living things possess superior
structures to human beings and these are all amazing properties.
And these show us "perfection, glory and flawlessness."
A Response to Darwinists Who Refuse to Admit the Secret of the
Creation of Life on Earth:
Why do some life forms have a sonar system, and others not?
This is the kind of question that Darwinists, who are unwilling to
admit the secret of the creation of life on Earth, frequently resort
to.
The answer is this: The dolphin that possesses sonar is superior, in
this respect, to human beings. Or a salamander that renews its
organs is superior to humans in this regard.
In the same way there are perfections in the human body, some
structures superior to those of humans have been created in other
life forms. But Allah is the Creator of all different properties. If
Allah wished, he could create them all in one single living thing.
And that is indeed how the creation in paradise will be. People
will possess all kinds of attributes, superiority, flawlessness and
immortality in paradise. It is sufficient to know of the dolphin's
sonar to appreciate the sublimity of Allah. It is sufficient to know
that the salamander renews its own organs to appreciate that Allah
is mighty enough to do this. The absence of these properties in
humans is because they are tested in this world.
People will be tested with deficiencies and will thus desire
paradise, or flawlessness, to put it another way. To fail to see the
purpose here and say, "There are flaws in this world, nothing is
flawless," means to fail to appreciate the reason for the creation of
man. The greatest proof we are given about Allah's creative artistry
is the perfection we see just about everywhere in the universe. We
can see from this evidence that our Almighty Creator is powerful
enough to do all things, that He will create the entity He wishes
with the superior qualities He wishes, and that he will create all
these and more in paradise.
Perfections are a great blessing for us. Perfections are facts
shown us by science. Perfections only disturb Darwinists because
every perfection undermines the theory of evolution. Every new
marvel that emerges as science advances will continue to undermine
the theory of evolution, and Darwinists will continue to be troubled
by these perfections. What we of course wish, is for them, too, to
delight in these perfections and properly and sincerely appreciate
our Almighty Lord, the Creator of all things.