Women Site, - Hardness of Heart

The hard heart is that which contains a mixture of harshness and
toughness; a heart that is void of submission and the sense of turning
to Allah The Exalted in repentance at all times. This is the severest
punishment ever. This is why the disbelievers are punished with having
a hard and harsh heart.
Maalik ibn Deenaar, May Allah Have mercy upon him, said in this
regard, "Allah The Almighty Punishes the wrongdoers in their hearts
and bodies as well. They are punished with a hard and miserable life
and laziness and indolence in carrying out acts of worship.
However, there is no punishment that is severer than having a hard
heart." ]Hilyat Al-Awliyaa'[
Furthermore, Imaam Al-Mar'ashi, May Allah Have mercy upon him,
stressed the same meaning saying, "No one was afflicted by a severer
calamity than having a hard heart." ]Hilyat Al-Awliyaa'[
Dear readers, let us ponder over what Allah The Exalted Says )which
means(:}Then your hearts became hardened after that, being like stones
or even harder. For indeed, there are stones from which rivers burst
forth, and there are some of them that split open and water comes out,
and there are some of them that fall down for fear of Allah. And Allah
Is not unaware of what you do.{]Quran 2:74[
This verse refers to the story of the children of Israel and the
miracle of reviving the murdered man and to all the examples, warnings
and adversities that had befallen the Children of Israel. Those Divine
Miracles would cause huge mountains to shake and solid rocks to
dissolve! Actually, it was worthier of their hearts to be softened by
such amazing miracles, yet they did not. Allah The Exalted Clarified
that their hearts had become more of rocks and even worse in hardness
due to the fact that they rejected Imaan after knowing and
understanding the requirements of attaining Imaan and its conditions.
Hence, these hearts were like rocks and even worse in hardness.
Indeed, rocks are a good example that people use to indicate hardness.
Yet, Allah The Exalted Excluded some rocks from that absolute
hardness, but Did not Exclude the hearts of the children of Israel.
Allah The Exalted Says )what means(:}For indeed, there are stones from
which rivers burst forth, and there are some of them that split open
and water comes out, and there are some of them that fall down for
fear of Allah.{]Quran 2:74[
Let us reflect on this description of the one who has a hard heart.
Allah The Exalted Says )what means(:}… and his sin has encompassed
him…{]Quran 2:81[
This means that his sins and wrongdoings have encompassed him totally
from all sides until he was surrounded with his own sins and
wrongdoings from all directions. These sins and wrongdoings worked as
a separator that detached him from all that is around him. Undeniably,
this is clearly evident when a sinner does not repent of his sin, he
is tempted to commit it more and more. This incites him to preoccupy
himself exclusively and be wholly taken up with committing such sins
and even graver sins and wrongdoings.
Hence, sins subdue and overwhelm such a person totally and take hold
of his heart entirely. Accordingly, he becomes inherently inclined to
committing sins, liking and loving them, believing that this is the
ultimate and optimal way to relish happiness and pleasure, disliking
all who would come on his way in attaining that fake happiness and
joy, and disbelieving anyone who would advise him to avoid such sins.
Allah The Exalted Says )what means(:}Then the end of those who did
evil was the worst ]consequence[ because they denied the Signs of
Allah and used to ridicule them.{]Quran 30:10[
Regrettably, this man's sins become like a thick tent that screen
everything around him. He no longer senses or thinks of the fact that
Allah The Exalted Sees him all the time. He loses sight of the
enduring pleasures in Paradise, the promised and anticipated
punishment in Hellfire, the evil schemes of the devil that are all set
to mislead Mankind, and the pity of the kind angels. Such a sinner
fails to notice all these facts while being wholly lost in his sins
and wrongdoings. The Prophet, sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam, said:"When
an adulterer commits illegal sexual intercourse, then he is not a
believer at the time he is doing it, and when a drinker of an
alcoholic liquor drinks it, he is not a believer at the time of
drinking it, and when a thief steals, he is not a believer at the time
of stealing, and when a robber robs, and the people look at him, he is
not a believer at the time of doing robbery."]Al-Bukhari[

Women Site, - The Nearest Way to a Man’s Heart

Women are fed up with talk about the husband's rights and would
probably cry, "Are there no rights for the wives? Why do you always
talk about the rights of the husband? Where are the rights of the
wife?" In light of the noble verse )what means(:}The believing men and
believing women are allies of one another{]Quran 9:71[, allow me, dear
sisters, to advise you.
I hope that women will not consider my words as a speech about the
husband's rights. Rather, they should consider it as advice from a
Muslim brother to his sister. A brother who knows that his married
sister frequently hears about the rights of her husband, her
negligence and her duties, and who knows that she has great rights
over her husband which, if she does not take in this worldly life,
will take in the Hereafter where she will be in dire need of them. He
also knows that she is helpless, targeted and oppressed and that she
suffers from the enemies' evil schemes to destroy her and from her
husband who does not understand anything about marriage except his
rights and her duties, or he does not want to understand anything
other than this own side. This husband does not see her favor, let
alone her rights. The wife might feel great love for her husband and
be strongly attached to him, yet he divorces her while he knows how
she feels. She might absolutely hate him and tell him that but he
forces her to stay with him while he knows how she feels. The wife
might be satisfied with what little the husband might give, but he
does not give her anything at all. There are many kinds of husbands
who cause men to praise Allaah The Almighty day and night that they
were not the wives of any of them. May Allaah help such wives and
render them patient, for their patience cannot be achieved except by
the Help of Allaah.
Our talk here is about a very specific point that has a great effect
on the continuation of the marriage relationship as well as the family
and the success of the wife. We shall talk about the case when the
wife wants her husband, or at least is satisfied with him in times of
agreement. Otherwise, for every session there is a different
discussion.
At the outset, we say that when the woman accepted the man who
proposed to her to be her husband, she did not want him to be a
temporary husband. She was not ready to lose him for any reason. She
did not want to live with him only to test his endurance and patience,
and then surprise him with something that he may or may not be able to
endure. She did not want to compete with him in achieving dignity and
proving who is the most honorable. She did not want him to fulfill her
dreams as conveyed by the corrupters on earth who call him a
"playboy." She did not want to imprison him as they describe marriage
to be a "golden cage." She did not want the honeymoon to last for only
one month and then suffer from bitterness after the honeymoon as the
enemies claim. She did not want, by any means, anything that could
lead them to separate. Rather, when she accepted him, she wanted him
to preserve her as much as he can, and she was absolutely ready to
preserve him as much as she can, regardless of what he does, except
what cannot be endured, and she will be rewarded by Allaah The
Almighty. Doing this is equal to all the acts of worship that men have
been favored with, like pilgrimage,Jihaad, congregational prayer,
attending funerals and so on.
On the basis of this will and approach, we talk to our married sister
out of our sympathy with her if she is divorced and out of happiness
for her if she returns to her husband. Sisters, let us come to a word
that is equitable between us. As for those whose will was not like
what we mentioned above when she accepted marriage, our speech is not
directed to her, and}For each ]religious following[ is a direction
toward which it faces.{]Quran 2:148[.
As for the wife whose will is to preserve her husband and her home as
much as she can, let her listen, obey and then enjoy the glad tidings
of the worldly life and the Hereafter through listening to what the
most knowledgeable and kindest man, the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, who knew best her interest, said. A man does not want his wife
to be his friend and partner as the corrupters propagate. Rather, he
wants her to be an obedient wife. The most successful woman to win the
man's heart and to live a long life with him is not the most beautiful
one, as the non-married, lustful and inexperienced people think. She
is not the richest one as the poor and greedy people think. Rather,
she is the one who knows that wives with their husbands are exactly
like the boon companions of the king. If the husband is not a king or
like a king in his home and with his wife, what do you want him to be?
Do you want him to be a servant, brother or a partner as they claim?
If he is not a king or like a king in his home and with his wife,
should he seek to be so with his bosses or friends? If the wife is not
like the boon companion of the king with her husband, what should she
be? Should she be with him like the queen, giving him from herself
great things or should she be like the boon companion of the king with
her sisters and friends?
The husband is the most entitled to her giving, the most beneficial to
her, the closest one to her and the most entitled to have what he
wants from her if she knows. Hence, the Prophet,sallallaahu 'alayhi wa
sallam, said:"If I were to order someone to prostrate to another, I
would order the wife to prostrate to her husband for his great right
over her."The wife gives her husband her self, body and honor, with
satisfaction and pleasure, and does not give any of these to anyone
else. Therefore, how could she consider what is far less than this to
be so much for him? Many beautiful wives lost their homes and
husbands, while they love each other because they failed to be like
the king's boon companions, and did not make them feel so in a nice
and obvious way without any indication of boredom.
On the other hand, many young women who were not so beautiful or who
were even quite unattractive managed to implant in her husband's heart
their love until they became their dearest beloved, and their husbands
could not dispense with them. This is what some people call "the
beauty of the spirit" and the details of this are very long; however,
the general and main idea lies in the aforementioned description:
"boon companions of the king." This is most needed when there are
signs of disagreement between the spouses. Hence, the clever and
truthful wife should avoid arousing her husband's anger and
disagreeing with him. She should know that many men become angry and
appeased, and that her husband is not that smart, wise, forbearing
man; thus, she should calmly win him over, regardless of what she
gives, and she will be greatly rewarded, Allaah willing. Then, she
would make him feel ashamed of himself as Asmaa' bint Khaarijah, may
Allaah have mercy upon her, said to her daughter,"Be a maid to him
]meaning, her husband[ and, he will be a slave to you."She should not
disturb him with her frequent mistakes because he is more important to
her than anything that they disagree about, and disagreement plants
hatred in the hearts.
By the permission of Allaah The Almighty, this is the nearest way to
the heart of a man, not his stomach as they claim. However, women are
overcome by their natures except those whom Allaah grants His Mercy.
We supplicate Allaah to guide our sisters to preserve their husbands
and homes, and grant them a good intention behind this, so that their
actions would raise their degrees in Paradise. I hope that those who
are bored with their husbands and about talking about their rights and
the wives' duties are not annoyed. Our purpose is to preserve the
homes and families, and to lead them to the land of safety. Let the
wives take the initiative, and they will reap the fruit in the worldly
life and the Hereafter, Allaah willing.

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Dought & clear, - Some of the signs of puberty appeared in her daughters at the age of six; what should she do?

I have been blessed with 2 healthy daughters. When my older daughter
was 5 she started getting hair under her arm by the age she was 6 they
were full pubic hair and by the age she was 7 she began getting breast
buds, she is now 8. My younger daughter had vaginal hair from age 3
now she is 6 also has hair under arms. My question is does this mean
that my children have reached puberty and now will be judged for their
actions. They are still very small and dont understand understand
anything. this has me very upset.
Praise be to Allah.
Puberty is recognised by signs that have been defined by the scholars,
one of which is the growth of hair in certain places on the body.
The hair which signals puberty is the pubic hair that grows around the
penis in males and the vulva in females. With regard to armpit hair,
the beard and moustache, the growth of any of these does not signal
puberty. Moreover, it is not just any hair growing in the pubic region
that signals puberty; rather what counts in this case is that the hair
should be coarse and need to be shaved with a razor and the like. In
the case of fine hair that does not need to be shaved, this does not
signal puberty.
Please see the answers to questions no. 138738, 192334and 175405for
more details on this matter.
If any of the signs of puberty have appeared in your daughters, as
mentioned above, then this means that whoever has these signs appear
in her body has reached the age of accountability and responsibility.
There is no negative impact for you or your daughters, in sha Allah;
rather this is something that Allah has decreed for them, and we have
to cope with it by adhering to the limits set by Allah, not
transgressing them, and by respecting them. What you have to do is
raise your daughters in that manner, and pay attention to them, advise
them, teach them and ask Allah to protect them from error and not to
burden them with more than they can bear. You will be rewarded for all
of that, in sha Allah.
However it is very possible that there is some kind of imbalance in
their hormones or glands that has led to this, because the appearance
of these signs at an early age gives rise to concern. Hence we advise
you to take your daughters to a specialist doctor, because perhaps
they need medical attention.
May Allah help you and protect your daughters, and cause them to grow
up well and strong, and may He help you to give them a good Islamic
upbringing.
And Allah knows best.