Story, - trust ur true love

I am a normal guy, with big dreams within my eyes. Waiting for Mrs.
Perfect to come one day and come with me forever. I had lots of
friends both girls and boys, they all use to pamper me cuz i use to
spoke soft and love and help all.
EMBARRASED--
One day around 11 OCLOCK in the MORNING i was talking to one of my
friends in my college. As usual we were talking about random things
and exchanging notes for homework when he suddenly show me someone in
other class. I was confused as a girl name chanchal of my class is
watching us both , that is the first time i see angel.
My friend then start to tease me with her name.. ,
And one fine day , I finally talk to her about her nail polish..as I
love to watch her new nail polishes daily and use to tease her…
One day when , I was teasing her , she said " tu he kar diyo na gift
muje nail polish" ., really I don't know that time what happened to
me..
That is first time when my heart beat for her..
Days are passing and passing , I love to watch her hairs..i use to
tease her .. I use to disturb her..
I don't know what is happening to me.. but really m just getting dumb
in love.. just felling boozy in her liking…
I don't know what is attracting me toward her.. I really try to stop myself..
But don't know how I cant do that..
FINALLY BEAUTIFUL DAY COME---
Finally luckily our college plan for a visit to my town.. and finally
the day come when I get the no. of the girl… whom I start liking in a
silent
Manner…
Now the days and months are passing , I start knowing the fairy.. I
use to ask question about herself.. just to know her deeply..
FIRST SHOCK –
Fairy said me " M commited"… oops my heart just stop…dark is appearing
in front of my eye.. tough time but I just regain myself in front of
her..
TOUGH NIGHT—
That night I was just sleepless.. watching the sky at night, that day
I just stay alone, I don't wish to talk to anyone..
Finally at 12 o'clock am getting sleepy..that time there is a tear in
my eyes, I really don't know "why why why"..
COMPLICATED SUITATION—
My Brain answer me to forgot her and ask me to stop this love ..
My heart is not following the orders of my brain…
Finally war time end—
Ques – Do I really love her?
Heart says-"YES"
BRAIN – "ITS JUST ATTRACTION"
HEART-"TEAR IN EYE IS NOT ATTRACTION"
Again Heart won once again..
Question is do I forgot my pari.(FAIRY) , JUST because she loves
anyone else..then I just hold myself hard , and decide to won the
heart of PARI..
I always believe true love always won, so I start thinking that now
"PARI IS MINE"
SPREADING LOVE IN AIR—
Now I start loving her, caring for her…I use to talk to her, I love to
tease her..
I use to book seat for her, very next to me..i daily come to college
with only a single hope that I sit with PARI..i start doing stupid
things, just to gain the attention of PARI. I am just not caring that
people call me stupid.. I am just in love with pari..
My Birthday—25 sept
When u wish me it was my best wish I ever had received from anyone..
The moment when Pari put cake in my mouth with her hands.. my love
increase upto many folds…
Pari's BIRTHDAY---2nd nov
It is the best day of my life, I waited a lot for that day..i use to
write PARI long sweet messages for her birthday.. as she is so special
to me..
I always give PARI compliments about her looks, as she is the most
beautiful Girl I have ever seen.
PARI makes my heart to develop poems.. everytime I see my PARI I start
falling in love with her again and again..
Really I just cant believe myself, what is happening to me. I start
praying to god that make me exactly like my PARI. People use to call
me flirt and full of attitude and ego person.
PARI comes to life , don't know what happen , I just changed, I use to
talk sweetly to all. I start helping all. Finally one day my friend
told me " U R CHANGED BROTHER, U R REALLY GROWN UP NOW".
I Start praying TO GOD, finally I realize I really learn to bend. I am
just start loving myself, My PARI makes me a good human being.
Now the PARI has become important part of my life.. All my close ones
Saying me " YOU ARE IN LOVE ." I learn to smile and I start loving
myself. We have hade a group of 5 people, we start roaming, me and
PARI are one of member of group. I love PARI's company.
SPECIAL GIFTS SELECTIONS FOR PARI---
I Remember how everytime I just force PARI to accept my Gifts.
I am writing this with a big smile on my face as I remember how I
always lie to PARI .
First gift to PARI " a beautiful top , selected by PARI herself, with
combination of a sweet bag and nail polish".
Finally my heart beat goes up.. ohhh ITS PARI CALL ON MY CELL.
I pick her call PARI with its beautiful voice said " THANKS FOR GIFT,
I LOVE THEM ALL", BUT WHY U LIE TO ME , I WAS EXPECTING ON TOP.
Then I start speaking like Twety and goes onnnnnnn.. finally PARI said
" ACHA BABA THIK HAI, TERE SE KAUN JEETE". I just take a deep breath
and hang up call..
I start love shoping for PARI… I want EVERYTHING FOR PARI…
I want PARI should wear my gifted top on her birthday, butttt another
Question idea comes in my mind that "I will gift PARI some more
ATTIRES" So that she can select any dress like a princess..
So that day I again spent full day for shopping for PARI . Then
finally I choose Two Tops and and GUCCI watch .
Next day when I meet her in my class, I have a blush on my face when I
see her. Every day I use to carry " CHIPS, JUICES , CHOCOLATES" for my
PARI. And I always carry cold drink for me, just because I know PARI
stops me . Don't drink this na.. " its not gud for u na, tu aisa kar
muje de de ye, and juice pi le". I really love when she care even a
little bit for me.
During our break I give the gifts to PARI. First she refuse , she said
u already gifted me na.. then with a little bit fake anger , I said
"NAHI LENE TO , JUST THROW THEM ." With a cute smile she look at me,
and just said " ACHA LE RAHI HOON NA, AB GUSSA KYU HO RAHA HAI"
Time is just passing , daily my Love, MY dedication, my Trust on PARI
Keeps on increasing. Now I have just assumed that " PARI IS MINE, EVEN
SHE DID NOT SAID ME ANYTHING YET NOW.
BIRTHDAY PARTY OF PARI—31 OCT WEDNESDAY
I remember date is 30th October, when PARI and our group friends
decide that, lets party for PARI's birthday on 31th OCT , instead of
2nd NOV . As on 2nd November , there is fast of PARI, 2nd NOV IS
Observed as "KARVA CHOTH" IN YEAR 2012.
I move back to home to pick my CAR, for PARI'S birthday party. I just
want everything perfect that day, I start planning in my mind, how to
make her day special.
The time was around 7 o clock , when I call PARI and ask her about the
plan. I was planning for visit to Kasauli , it's a beautiful hill
station.
But PARI said " KAHI AUR JYEGE NA".
I said " MADAM , I AM YOUR DRIVER TOMMOROW , I WILL TAKE U , WHEREEVER
U ORDERS ME"
PARI said " SHUT UP NA"
And she continue said " ACHA KAL KIS KIS KO INVITE KARU"
I answer her " TOMMOROW IS YOUR DAY BABY, THERE IS NO LIMIT WORD FOR U
PRINCESS, U MAY INVITE ANYONE" there is no BAR on u.
Finally I get up early in morning , and get ready . And I move toward
my college . we decide to meet at 11 o clock. So I reach there at 10.
45 am. I love to wait for PARI.
Waiting and WAITING….
OHHHH YESSS, Finally I saw PARI coming at 11.15 am. Then we all enjoy
the day a lot. We go to museum, I am just searching for chance , when
me and PARI are alone. We have group of 5 friends.
That day PARI is just looking like breathtaking . I compliment her
that u r looking soooo beautiful , words are not enough to express ur
beauty.
Finally I decide now to give PARI birthday gift again . I have brought
a beautiful bracelet and lot of chocolates for her. When Pari open the
Bracelet, all said " hey , its beautiful ." . then pari ties bracelet
, I click her beautiful pictures.
Then we all have party at pizza hut. We enjoyed a lot. But her
Boyfriend is calling her , I just hate when my PARI talk to him..
Then after a good day we all get back to home.
2nd NOVEMBER , KARVA CHOTH AND PARI'S BIRTHDAY—
Today is FAST of PARI. It is very difficult FAST, as whole day ,
person don't have to drink water and not to eat food.
Then I also decide that , I will also keep this fast for pari. Thing
is I cant eat without her.
To make her day special, I just order a " Big teddy of 5 feet long ,
3 story cake , chocolates and red roses for her, that I plan to
deliver at her PG at 12 o clock. I was very happy since morning, as I
was waiting to see the reaction of PARI . I want to make her feel that
, she is so much special for me. And I mean this too, I love her soooo
muchhh.
Its evening time now when PARI is at her friend's house, I call her to
know the address of her living place, I try 2-3 times but she did not
pick the call. I call her friend , who lives at same place with PARI.
I was already angry with PARI, for some reason. And her friend add "
fuel to fire". She said " don't be mad , don't send anything to PARI."
SHE said " YAHA PROBLEM HO JATI YAAR".
I was already angry from PARI, I DID NOT CALL OR TEXT HER ANYMORE THAT DAY.
My mood is totally spoiled as my gift is wasted, which I choose for
PARI with my heart.
What big thing I wished that u cant fulfill , I said to GOD.
I was in deep sadness… today is my fast too, I was crying that time ,
then I just stop myself and I start thinking about PARI.
Then what comes in my mind---
I still remember the day when I saw her first time , even I don't know
PARI'S name that time. But I don't know what magic she spells , MY
heart just sing a song for her that time, this thing I even never tell
to PARI, today I disclose it.
Her first look made me too think about her, I never accept this to
anyone , I always say I never crush on anyone. And this is correct
too, but don't know what the magic has PARI, I had a crush on her at
first sight. I may say " IT'S LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT".
When I saw her first time my heart says---
aankhon mein hai nasha,zulphon mein hai ghata
pehle hamne ada yeh haseen,dekhi na thi kahin
dekhi jo yeh PARI ,masti dil mein bhari
hai yeh jadogari,ya nahi
hoo, natu janu kya hain naam na janu main pata
par itna hai maine jana,jise dekhle ek nazar bhar ke usko karde vo deewana
use jitna dekhon utna sochon,kya use main keh doon
pretty woman dekho dekho na pretty woman ,pretty woman
tum bhi kaho naa pretty woman.
I was smiling thinking about her, suddenly I come out of thoughts, a
tear roll down my eyes , at it was around 8 o clock, I was waiting for
moon , so that I can open my fast. But I know that PARI even don't
remember , that someone has kept fast for her. She was busy with her
friends and with her bf.
I was felling alone that time, moon is visible now , and I open my
fast. At 9.30 pm I got text from pari " KHANA KHA LIYA".
I don't know what happen to me, I just forgot all my anger with her
single text. And start smiling , I love her a lot.
8 november college time-
Pari is going back her home today. I was worried about her I try my
best that she must take some chips juices for the way. But she did not
agreed that time.
She move back around 2 o clock for her home, which is around 5-6 hour away.
I was guilty that time that why I was not with PARI , how she manage
to carry all packed bags, I feel its my duty to help her.
Me and PARI chat together whole day during journey. And I give her my
never ending instructions that time..
13 nov is DIWALI, PARI returned to college on 14th nov.
My SISTER'S WEDDING ON 18 NOV-
ITS long time Passed, I did not see PARI'S face, so on 16th nov, I
specially decide to go to college , leaving all marriage works. Just
to see my PARI. She has brought special sweet of her town that day.
I just spent 20 min with her , and I move back toward my home.
THAT DAY I TEASE HER A LOT " I SAID. KOI TO ROK LO"
AND I SAID " 70 KM TRAVEL KAR KE AYA 70 MIN BHI SPEND NI KAR SAKA"..
17th nov , my sister's LADIES SANGEET. It's a big party , being PARI
is most important member for me, I ask all things about food
decoration from PARI.
ON 17TH AND 18TH NOVEMBER, me and PARI chat a lot.
Finally I ask PARI…
" DO U EVER LOVE ME"
WAITING FOR HER, HEART BEAT IS DAMPING….
SHE REMAINS QUITE….
FINALLY SHE BROKE SILENCE
" ANSWER IS " YES" ."…..
I WAS ON 9TH CLOUD THAT TIME.
PARI STARTS LOVING ME, SHE WAS IN A FORCED RELATION OF COMMITMENT, SHE
WANTS TO END..
I ASK HER TO MEET, SHE SAID " YES , LETS MEET 22 NOV.
I meet her, I open car's door for her.
PARI is looking too hot and beautiful.
That time she did not accepted , but I read her heart , she starts
loving me a little.
We go to movie, we are in love now, I hold her hand. And request never
told me too leave this..
Her bf calling us, he comes to know about us.. he spoiled our mood…
I gives her time to choose between me and him…
We both enjoyed a lot , we make promises to each other that we are together.
She has a long fight with his bf.. PARI ensure me that she never leaves me..
She is angel for me.. she choose me, she choose his love…
I was very happy that time ..
I said to pari—
I ALWAYS TRUST U..
I ALWAYS LOVE U IN SAME WAY AS I DO…
I NEVER LET U FACE DOWN, BECAUSE OF ME..
I JUST HOLD U, FORM REST OF MY LIFE…

Fathwa, - Can I have my sister-in-law nurse my son without my husband's consent

Question:
My question is regarding whether I can have my sister-in-law nurse my
15 month old son so that he would become her and her daughter's
mahram. The complication is that my husband finds this idea really
strange and for no valid reason is saying no but I have a very good
reason for wanting to do this. Once he is older, I want to be able to
easily let him visit my brother's house and not have them worry about
him not being their mahram. We go there a lot because our kids play
and I don't like to be in the un-Islamic environment of my in-laws
house. I don't want to have my son go to my husband's family's house
too much because they listen to music, have mixed gatherings and watch
movies all day. So I would really appreciate it if you would let me
know whether I can still go ahead and have my sister in law nurse my
son without my husbands consent.
Answer:
It is the principle of Shariah that the mother of a child is morally
responsible to breastfeed her child, as Allah Most High says:
"The mothers shall breastfeed their offspring for two whole
years."(Surah al-Baqarah, 233)
As such, it is the moral responsibility of the mother (in normal
cases) to breastfeed her child and not have it suckled by another
woman.
However, if there is a genuine reason for her not doing so, then she
can get her child suckled by another woman. Allah Most High says:
"If you decide on a foster-mother for your offspring, there is no
blame on you, provided you pay (the mother) what you offered, on
equitable terms."(Surah al-Baqarah, 233)
In the above verse, Allah Most High addressed both the parents using
the Arabic term of addressing a group (aradtum), thus deciding on
getting the child suckled by another woman will be the domain of both
the mother and father. It will be something that is jointly agreed
upon and not based solely on the decision of one parent.
However, if the mother is not able to breastfeed her child, then the
husband cannot force her in doing so.
Imam al-Mawsili (Allah have mercy on him) states:
"It is not necessary upon the mother to breastfeed her child…unless
she becomes appointed for it, such as when the husband cannot find
anyone else or the child refuses to take the milk of another woman. In
such a case, it will become binding on her, in order to save the child
from perishing. (In the situation where the mother refuses to
breastfeed), the husband will be responsible for hiring a wet nurse
for the child, for the responsibility of paying for the wet-nurse lies
on the husband and the responsibility of breastfeeding on the wife. It
will not be permissible for the husband to hire his own wife (m: the
child's mother) to breastfeed the child, for breastfeeding is
originally her responsibility, due to the statement of Allah Most High
"The mothers shall breastfeed their offspring for two whole years".
Thus, when the mother refuses to breastfeed, we would consider that to
be due to a genuine reason (udhr) but when she is prepared to
breastfeed the child on hire, we found out that she is in reality
capable of breastfeeding her child, thus it will become binding on
her. Therefore, it will not be permissible for her to take money on
something that is binding (wajib) on her."(al-Ikhtiyar li Ta'lil
al-Mukhtar, 3/230-231)
Another great Hanafi jurist (faqih), Imam al-Haskafi (Allah have mercy
on him) states:
"It is not permissible for the father (m: of the child) to force his
free (i.e. not a slave) wife to breastfeed the child, even before the
two years have elapsed, for the right of upbringing the child is of
the mother."(See: Radd al-Muhtar ala al-Durr al-Mukhtar, 3/211-212)
In view of the above, it becomes evident that although primarily the
responsibility of breastfeeding the child is of the mother, but if she
is incapable due to some reason, she may hire someone else to
breastfeed the child.
With regards to your situation, you intend to have your child
breastfed by your sister in-law for (I presume) a short period of time
or just as a one off thing, so that the rules of fosterage (radha'ah)
are established.
In such a case, although I could not find a explicit text in the books
of Fiqh, it seems that you should do this with the consent of your
husband, as Allah Most High addressed both the parents in the verse
quoted above that if you decide on a foster-mother for your offspring,
there is no blame on you.
Moreover, Allah Most High says in the same verse quoted earlier:
"No mother shall be treated unfairly on account of her child. Nor
father on account of his child."(al-Baqarah, v. 233)
The meaning of this verse is that none of the respective parents
should be harmed with regards to the breastfeeding of the child. The
verse is specific to certain aspects but in a general manner applies
to all aspects relating to harming any of the parents with regards to
the breastfeeding of the child.
You should also remember that, when the rules of fosterage (radha'ah)
are established, then along with the rules of Hijab being lifted, your
son will not be able to marry your brother's daughter in the future.
Thus, you need to be very careful in taking this step, for it can
prove to be difficult in the future.
Moreover, scholars mention that even in the case where one has a
foster relationship, if there is a fear on Fitna, it will be necessary
to observe Hijab, and remaining in privacy (khalwa) will not be
permissible.
In conclusion, both you and your husband must sit and decide on this.
Weigh the pros and cons in getting you son breastfed by your brother's
wife, and then decide. It will be something that is jointly agreed
upon by both of you.
And Allah knows best.

Fathwa, - Is my non-Muslim father mahram for me?

Question:
My father is not Muslim, my parents got separated and then my mother
became Muslim. Since then they didn't have contact, may I consider him
my mahram? May I take off the hijab in front of him and kiss him?
Answer:
You may consider your non-Muslim father as your Mahram, thus uncover
(parts of the body that can be exposed in front Mahrams) in front of
him.
Imam al-Kasani (Allah have mercy on him) states:
�A Mahram is one with whom marriage is permanently unlawful� whether
this Mahram is a free person or a slave, for slavery is not contrary
to close relationship (mahramiyya), and whether he is a Muslim, a
non-Muslim or an atheist (mushrik), for a non-Muslim Mahram normally
safeguards her, except that he is a fire worshipper, for he considers
marriage with her to be permissible.� (Bada�i al-Sana�i, 2/124)
However, if there is a fear of temptation (fitna) on either side or
you fear that by kissing him, he will have evil thoughts and desires,
you must avoid uncovering in front of him and kissing him. The jurists
(fuqaha) have stated that, covering becomes necessary even in front of
Mahrams if there is a fear of Fitna or desire.
Today we live in a time where sexual impropriety is becoming common in
non-Muslims, thus one must be careful. If your non-Muslim father is
old or you feel that he will have no evil thoughts, then it would be
permitted to remove your Hijab in front of him and kiss him.
And Allah knows best

Fathwa, - Is it permissible to show hair to, not just any suitor, but your future spouse?

Question:
I have heard from my Hanafi teachers that it is impermissible for a
woman to show her hair to a suitor, that those who say it is
permissible are using a very weak opinion. My husband, however, says
that the mashaikh only say this to the 'aam people who may misuse the
ruling (to see the hair of every girl that they are not even serious
about). His family is mashaAllah very pious, and his brother is
becoming a mufti under the tutelage of Mufti Taqi Uthmani. His brother
actually told my cousin that it would be permissible to request to see
a girl's hair. Also, another one of my husband's brothers saw the hair
of his future wife beforehand (when he was reasonably convinced he
would be marrying her), and my husband's sister showed her hair (only
once) to her future husband (though normally she is in niqab). (Note:
they did not do these things with any one else they were considering;
only the people they *actually* eventually married). I am very
confused. Do people like our respected Mufti Taqi Uthmani allow for
this? Perhaps Mufti Muhammad ibn Adam or someone else familiar with
him could reply?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,
Looking at someone one intends to marry is not merely something that
is permissible, rather it has been encouraged by the Messenger of
Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace).
Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him) narrates: I was in
the company of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him
peace) when a man came and informed him that he had contracted to
marry a woman of the Ansar. The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him &
give him peace) said to him: �Did you cast a glance at her? He said:
No. He said: �Go and look at her, for there is something in the eyes
of the Ansar�. (Sahih Muslim, no. 1423)
Sayyiduna Mughira ibn Shu�bah (Allah be pleased with him) narrates
that he proposed to a woman for marriage. The Messenger of Allah
(Allah bless him & give him peace) said to him: �Look at her, for it
may produce love between you.� (Sunan Tirmidhi, no. 1087, Musnad
Ahmad, Sunan Nasa�i & Sunan Ibn Majah)
Sayyiduna Jabir (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: �When one
of you proposes to a woman for marriage, then if he is able to look at
what will induce him to marry her, he should do so.� (Sunan Abu Dawud
and Musnad Ahmad)
The great Hadith and Shafi�i Fiqh scholar, Imam al-Nawawi (Allah have
mercy on him) states:
��In the Hadith (of Abu Hurayra mentioned first) there is
recommendation of looking at the face of the woman one is intending to
marry. This is the opinion of our (Shafi�i) School, the School of
Malik, Abu Hanifa, all the scholars of Kufa, Ahmad and the majority of
the Ulama. Qadhi (Iyadh) has narrated from a group (of scholars) that
it is disliked but that is incorrect and contrary to the clear text of
this Hadith, and contrary to the consensus (ijma�) of the Ummah�Then,
it is permitted for him to look at her palms and face only, for they
are not considered to be part of the nakedness (awra), and also
because by looking at the face, one is able to determine her beauty or
otherwise and by looking at her hands one is able to determine the
chubbiness of the body or otherwise. This is the opinion of our School
and the view of most others.� (al-Minhaj Sharh Sahih Muslim, p. 1068)
Mulla Ali al-Qari, the great Muhaddith and Hanafi Imam, states in his
renowned Mirqat al-Mafatih, quoting from Allama Teebi that the meaning
of the Messenger of Allah�s (Allah bless him & give him peace)
statement �if he is able to look at what will induce him to marry her,
he should do so� (in the Hadith of Jabir recorded by Imam Abu Dawud,
quoted earlier) is either wealth, status, beauty and religion (deen).�
(Mirqat al-Mafatih, 6/198)
Thus the above explanation by Mulla Ali al-Qari quite clearly refutes
the interpretation some people make with regards to the Hadith of
Jabir, in that one may look at whatever may induce one into marrying.
If such general permission is given, people will demand to see all
sorts of body parts.
Thus, the above is quite clear in determining that, it is only
permitted for one to see the hands and face of the woman one is
intending to marry. This permission is also subject to certain
conditions.
Imam al-Haskafi (Allah have mercy on him) states:
�It is recommended ��to look at the woman before marriage.�
Allama Ibn Abidin (Allah have mercy on him) explains the above by stating:
�Meaning, even if there is desire (shahwa) but this is when one
genuinely believes it is possible to get married to her.� (Radd
al-Muhtar, 3/8, Kitab al-Nikah)
Imam al-Haskafi (Allah have mercy on him) states in another place:
�If one fears desire (shahwa) or has a doubt (m: in attaining desire),
then one will be prevented from looking at the face of a non-Mahram
woman. Thus, the permissibility of looking is restricted to not having
desire otherwise it will be unlawful (haram). This ruling was in their
times, in our times however, one will be prevented from looking at a
young woman (m: regardless of whether one fears desire or otherwise).
The exception for looking and not touching is when there is a need,
such as for the judge, witness in the court�and for the one who
intends to marry, even with desire but only if one�s intention is to
implement the Sunnah (m: and fulfil one�s objective of marriage) not
to fulfil one�s desires (m: by looking without really wanting to
marry).�
Allama Ibn Abidin, the commentator of al-Haskafi�s Durr al-Mukhtar,
mentions the following points in his commentary of the above text:
1) There is nothing wrong in looking at someone one is intending to
marry even with desire (shahwa) due to the Hadith of Mughira ibn
Shu�ba (Allah be pleased with him) where the Messenger of Allah (Allah
bless him & give him peace) said: �Look at her, for it may produce
love between you� and because the aim is to fulfil the Sunnah of
marriage and not desire.
2) It is not permitted to touch the face and hands of the woman even
when one does not fear desire, for there is no real need for that.
3) The need is only in looking at the woman once, thus more than once
would not be allowed, for cases of need are restricted to the actual
need. (m: However, if one was uncertain and undecided by looking at
her once due to some reason, such as not looking at her properly, etc,
then one may look again. This, however, should not be merely having
another go at the whip; rather one should genuinely think that
marriage is highly likely)
4) Permissibility of looking is only to the hands and face
5) If it is not possible to look at the woman or one wants
descriptions of parts of the body that are other than the hands and
the face, then one may send a female relative (such as a mother or
sister) to look at her and then describe her to him.
6) A woman may also look at the man whom she intends to marry even if
there is a fear of desire, rather this is more important. The reason
being is that the husband will be able to divorce her whenever he
wants if he dislikes her, but the wife cannot do that. Thus, it is
very important that she looks and is content with him. (See: Radd
al-Muhtar ala al-Durr al-Mukhtar, �Bab al-Mass wa�l Nadhar fi Kitab
al-Hadhr wa�l Ibaha, 6/370)
Thus, to sum up, it is not only permitted but recommended to look at
someone one is intending to marry. This, however, is only when one is
seriously contemplating marriage with her, and that marriage is
possible and likely. This permission is even in the case where one
(the man or the woman) fears desire (shahwa), if the right intention
is there. Merely fulfilling the desire to look will be unlawful.
It will not be permitted for the man and woman to remain alone in
seclusion (khalwa), for there is no need for that. Being alone with a
non-Mahram is unlawful (haram) or at the least prohibitively disliked
(makruh tahriman) and must be avoided.
Sayyiduna Abd Allah ibn Abbas (Allah be pleased with him) narrates
that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
�A man must not remain alone in the company of a woman, and a woman
must not travel except that her Mahram is accompanying her.� (Sahih
al-Bukhari, no. 2488)
If one decides to marry someone, it is for the man permitted to look
at the woman�s face and hands only. This is the opinion of the
majority of the scholars (jumhur), including the Hanafis, as mentioned
earlier. Some individual scholars (such as Imam al-Awza�i, Ibn Hazam
and Dawud Zahiri) did permit looking at other than the hands and face
but this is not the mainstream opinion.
As far as the opinion of Mufti Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) is
concerned, I have not heard anything directly from him, but it is
clearly mentioned in his Dars Tirmidhi (3/351) that one is only
permitted to look at the hands and face.
And Allah knows best