Story, - Right love at the wrong time

this is the first time which i encountered this forbidden love.
i am 20 years old, studying caregiver and had a kid! we're living with
my partner's parents. i came from a broken family. i thought that i
was madly inlove with my partner but i realized one day that im not
when i fall inlove with his bestfriend. i dont know what happen to me
that time but i was attracted to this guy. that time, we were on beach
with our friends, but then this guy who is "right love" talks to me..
we had a conversation that time, and i enjoyed talking with him. when
the day passed by, i found myself thinking of him a lot! im always
sending him quotes which talk about love. and then one day, i was very
surprised when he sent me text. it is a song line from a song
"ipagpatawad mo".. i dont know what i must felt that time but i knew
that he made me so happy..very happy!!
one night, we were on the street having "inuman".. it was very late
that night amd i wanted to go home. he offered himself to walk for me
for home. i felt very happy but there's a part of me thinking of that
there's no hope between us,, and then one day i find out that he is
also inlove with me even im already committed with his BESTFRIEND.
there's no nights that i dont cry, its hard for me to hide this
feeling,, i love him so much,,and he loves me too..
any one could help me about this issue?
cant hold it anymore...
:( i really love this guy very much and i know that he loves me too
even we're complicated..

Fathwa, - Mistake in Answer on Abortion?

Question:
I was directed by a link to an answer on your website entitled
''Abortion of babies with genetic diseases'' and discovered a mistake
in the medical part of the reply. I am concerned that many people will
read this and come to some mistaken conclusions about breastfeeding.
The sentence in question is:
Answer:
Walaikum assalam wa rahmatullah,
Jazak Allah khayr for your comments. There is no medical mistake in the answer.
The answer refers to the permissibility of abortion in [the generally
very rare] case when
�the milk of the pregnant mother ceases and the father of the child is
not in a position financially to hire a wet-nurse, and there is fear
of the child perishing, then they (fuqaha) have stated that it will be
permitted to abort the pregnancy, provided the period of 120 days have
not elapsed...�
The child in question is not the one the mother is pregnant with, but
a previous baby. The permissibility of abortion has various
conditions:
a) the previous child is dependent on the mother�s milk;
b) the father cannot hire a wet nurse nor provide alternative
nutrition that the child will consume; and
c) there is thus fear that this previous child may perish if the
mother�s current pregnancy continues;
d) this is before 120 days. [After this, it depends on many circumstances.]
As for when alternative nutrition (even other than breast milk) is
available and affordable, then abortion would be haram.
Wassalam,
Faraz Rabbani

Fathwa, - Women: Cutting and Dyeing Hair

Question:
Can a woman cut her hair if her husband wants her to? Would it be a
sin on the husband as well as on the wife? I was told that a woman
should not cut her hair even with her husband's permission. But aren't
we supposed to please our husbands? Whether a woman wears hijab or
not, can she also dye her hair with her husband's permission?
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful & Compassionate
From a previous question answered by Faraz Rabbani:
'According to leading Hanafi scholars of Syria, including Shaykh Adib
Kallas, there is no harm in a woman cutting her hair, as long as:
a) it remains feminine (and thus does not resemble men);
b) it is not cut with the express intent of imitating non-Muslim fashions; and
c) it is not cut excessively.
The texts in the Hanafi school indicating impermissibility of women
cutting their hair are understood, by these scholars, to be
conditioned by the above considerations.
In the Shafii school, it is permitted to even cut the hair very short
if the husband prefers it that way.'
Wassalam,
SunniPath Fiqh Team

Fathwa, - Women and Hair Removal

Question:
Is it permissible for women to remove facial hair, and hair from the
arms and legs? I am in the beauty business and I do waxing for my
clients. Please tell me if it is permissible in Islam.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, Most Merciful & Compassionate
From a previous question answered by Shaykh Abdurrahman ibn Yusuf:
Taking the hadith and the various statements of the Hanafi jurists
into consideration the following could be concluded:
1. It would be permitted for a woman to remove a beard or a moustache
that appears on her face. Even though it is facial hair, but since it
is to stop women from resembling men, it is permitted. This is the
opinion of the majority of scholars, in fact they have said it is
recommended, not just permitted. The same will be to bleach this hair
instead.
2. If the eyebrows are linked in between, it would be permissible to
remove the excess hair from in between to separate them [i.e. the hair
above the nose]. The reason for this is that linked eyebrows are
looked upon as a defect, hence it would be permissible to remove it.
3. A 'few' stray hairs around the eyebrows would be permissible to
remove by clipping them off, if it looks defective, or for married
women creates abhorrence in their husband. This does not mean it is
permitted to remove a whole line or two of fine hair from around the
eyebrows [as is the case nowadays].
4. Dense bushy eyebrows may be trimmed down to a more normal size.
However, one must exercise great caution in this regard, since one
does not want it to fall under the warning of the hadith. If one is
not sure how to determine the normal size they should not act on the
benefit of the doubt, but rather follow the more cautionary approach
and trim less. What so called 'regular' [especially non-Muslim] people
consider nowadays as the norm i.e. eyebrows that are shaped in
particular unnatural or reduced to thin lines can not be considered as
acceptable in Islamic law due to the severity of the hadith.
5. Great caution has to be exercised in this regard, since the hadith
is very strict and there are some Hanafi scholars who have taken more
strict position. For instance, Mullah Ali al-Qari (Allah be pleased
with him) comments [relating from Imam Nawawi] that plucking of the
facial hair is haram (unlawful) for a woman with the exception of
moustache or beard hairs (Mirqat al-Mafatih 8:218). The concessions
mentioned above are for the removal of a defective appearance and not
for purely beautification purpose, hence, caution in this matters is
the way.