Fathwa, - His wife's bleeding resumed after he had intercourse with her

Question
Assalamu Alaikkum, My wife had bleeding)its like menustration( very
earlier than )14 days( her period time and after two days its stopped
and she did bath same day evening we had intercourse night but
unfortunately bleeding started next day now we are worrying is it sin
we did sex with out waiting more days ? if its sin what is the
compensation for this in islam.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
Since you had sexual intercourse with your wife after the bleeding had
totally stopped, and after she had performed Ghusl, then you are both
not sinful even if she had bleeding again because when you had
intercourse with her she was pure, and you both were not obligated to
wait for more days. Rather, whenever a woman sees purity and performs
Ghusl, it becomes permissible for her husband to have intercourse with
her.
Besides, this bleeding that your wife saw is ruled to be menstruation
if it is within the time-period that can be considered as
menstruation, like if 13 days or more have expired between seeing it
and the interruption of bleeding prior to it, then it would be
considered as a second menstruation. But if less than 13 days have
expired between this bleeding and the interruption of the bleeding
before it, then if this bleeding is added to the previous bleeding
along with the period of purity between them and their totality do not
exceed 15 days, then it is also menstruation, otherwise, it is
bleeding outside the monthly period.Allaah Knows best.

Fathwa, - Wife is sinful for using contraceptives without husband's permission

Question
if the woman using birth control without husband permitting, one year
age she used plaster on her arm to, when I see it she lied and say is
just head pain, then after had argument with her she stopped using
that method and was sorry then since last year to date I was trying to
have baby and last week told me she is used pregnant pills I was very
upset for lie after lie, could you tell me how big is sins for using
pills not once twice and lying to me and what should she do for doing
thing against your husband
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
Muhammadis His slave and Messenger.
Having children is the right of both husband and wife, and it is not
permissible for one of them to prevent the other from this right
without his/her permission as we clarified in Fatwa 87376.
Therefore, if your wife had used contraceptive pills without your
permission then she has made a mistake, and if she did so while
knowing its ruling, then she is sinful. Moreover, lying to her husband
in order to prevent him from his right is another sin. So, she must
repent to Allaah and seek the pardon of her husband.For more benefit
about the conditions of sincere repentance, she must obey her husband
and not take these pills without his permission.
Allaah Knows best.

Seeking Forgiveness: Tradition of the Prophets and the Righteous

The Prophets, may Allaah exalt their mention, and the virtuous and
righteous people were the quickest of all to comply with the call of
Allaah The Almighty.
Our father Aadam )Adam( and our mother Hawwaa' )Eve(, may Allaah exalt
their mention:
They responded to the call of Allaah The Almighty immediately after
they disobeyed Him when Shaytaan )Satan( caused them to slip and drove
them to commit a sin. They hastened to show remorse and to repent.
Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}They said, "Our Lord, we have
wronged ourselves, and if You do not forgive us and have mercy upon
us, we will surely be among the losers.{]Quran 7:23[
Nooh )Noah(:
When hefelt sympathy for his disbelieving son, he said )what
means(:}…"My Lord, indeed my son is of my family; and indeed, Your
promise is true; and You Are the most just of judges!{]Quran 11:45[
Then Allaah The Almighty Said to him )what means(:}…"O Nooh, indeed he
is not of your family; indeed, he is ]one whose[ work was other than
righteous, so ask Me not for that about which you have no knowledge.
Indeed, I advise you, lest you be among the ignorant.{]Quran 11:46[
Then, Noohasked for the forgiveness of Allaah The Almighty, repenting
of what he said. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}… "My Lord, I
seek refuge in You from asking that of which I have no knowledge. And
unless You forgive me and have mercy upon me, I will be among the
losers.{]Quran 11:47[
Besides, after Allaah The Exalted had punished the disbelieving people
of Noohwith drowning and saved the believing people with Noohhe
said)which means(:}My Lord, forgive me and my parents and whoever
enters my house a believer and the believing men and believing women.
And do not increase the wrongdoers except in destruction.{]Quran
71:28[
Ibraaheem )Abraham(:
Ibraaheemwho was the intimate friend of Allaah The Exalted, said in
the verse )which means(:}And who I aspire that He will forgive me my
sin on the Day of Recompense.{]Quran 26:82[
Moosa )Moses(:
Moosasays in the verse )which means(:}He said, "My Lord, indeed I have
wronged myself, so forgive me," and He forgave him. Indeed, He is the
Forgiving, the Merciful.{]Quran 28:16[ Healso says )what
means(:}]Moosa[ said, "My Lord, forgive me and my brother and admit us
into Your mercy, for You are the Most Merciful of the merciful.{]Quran
7:151[
Muhammad:
The Companions of the Prophetnarrated that the Prophetused to seek the
forgiveness of Allaah The Almighty at least one hundred times in each
gathering, saying:"O Lord, forgive my sins and grant me )accept my(
repentance; for You are the Accepting of repentance, the Merciful."In
another version:"… You are the Forgiving, the Merciful."]Abu Daawood[
The Prophetsaid:"By Allaah! I ask for forgiveness from Allaah The
Exalted and turn to Him in repentance more than seventy times a
day."]Al-Bukhaari[
Furthermore, Allaah The Almighty urges the Prophetto seek His
forgiveness. He, the Exalted, Says )what means(:}… ask forgiveness for
your sin and for the believing men and believing women…{]Quran 47:19[
Yoonus )Jonah(:
Prophet Yoonuscalled out in the darkness of the whale's belly )what
means(:}There is no deity except You; exalted are You. Indeed, I have
been of the wrongdoers.{]Quran 21:87[
Daawood )David(:
Daawoodsupplicated Allaah The Exalted as Allaah The Exalted Says )what
means(:}And Daawood became certain that We had tried him, and he asked
forgiveness of his Lord and fell down bowing ]in prostration[ and
turned in repentance ]to Allaah[.{]Quran 38: 24[
Abu Bakr:
Abu Bakrthe best of this nation after the Prophetasked the Prophet"O
Messenger of Allaah, teach me an invocation with which I may invoke
Allaah in my prayers." The Prophetsaid:"Say, 'Allaahumma inni thalamtu
nafsi thulman katheeran wa la yaghfir ath-thunoob illa ant; ighfir li
maghfiratan min 'indik wa irhamni, innaka anta Al-Ghafoor Ar-Raheem )O
Allaah, I have wronged my soul very much and none forgives the sins
but You; so please bestow Your forgiveness and mercy upon me. No
doubt, You are the Oft-Forgiving, the Most Merciful(.'"]Al-Bukhaari[
'Umar:
'Umarsaid to the Prophet"O Messenger of Allaah, ask forgiveness for me."
There are numerous righteous and devout people other than these, who
used to seek the forgiveness of Allaah The Almighty frequently;
repentance was their banner, their request for forgiveness was their
slogan, and they repeatedly turned to Allaah The Almighty.

Justification is the Excuse of the Weak

Who among us does not make mistakes? Who among us can dare claim that
he is infallible? Every human is expected to make mistakes, and this
is not in itself a defect, for the Prophetsaid:"All the sons of Aadam
constantly commit sins, but the best of those who constantly commit
sins are those who are constantly repentant."]Ibn Maajah[ The real
defect lies in insisting on making the mistake and adhering to
falsehood. The mistake becomes even graver when its doer endeavors to
justify it in order to make himself and those around him believe that
he did not make a mistake at all.
The Definition of Justification
Justification, in the false sense, is the process of fabricating
excuses for one's behavior, thoughts or views, in order to replace the
real motives and reasons. It is the process of concealing the reality
and truth with a justification that one would accept and approve of,
without any reaction or feeling any guilt.
The Evil End of Justification
Justification is an incurable disease that leads to a tragic end,
which results in bitter consequences for the doer, as his continuous
justification distracts him from correcting himself and reflecting on
his defects. Accordingly, he always thinks that he is doing well. If a
slave of Allaah The Almighty reaches this state, it becomes difficult
to reform him and he loses his self-harmony because he is living in a
state of internal psychological warfare in which he is both the
executioner and the victim. The one who suffers from this disease is a
curse on himself and others, as he is extreme in enmity and frequently
argues with others. At this point, he is the most detested of
creatures in the sight of Allaah The Almighty. In this respect the
Prophetsaid:"The most hated person in the sight of Allaah is the
extremely quarrelsome person."]Al-Bukhaari[
The Quran Vilifies such People
Such people have existed throughout history. The Quran relates to us
the stories of some of them; for instance, Allaah The Almighty Says
)what means(;}And among them is he who says: "Permit me ]to remain at
home[ and do not put me to Fitnah." Unquestionably, into Fitnah they
have fallen. And indeed, Hell will encompass the disbelievers.{]Quran
9:49[ Commenting on this verse, Al-Qurtubisaid,
Muhammad ibn Is'haaqsaid: "The Messenger of Allaahsaid to Al-Jadd ibn
Qays, when he wanted to set out for the Battle of Tabook:"O Jadd,
would you like to fight the yellow people ]the Romans[, so that you
could take female captives and servants from them?" Al-Jadd replied,
"My people know that I am besotted by women, and I fear that if I see
the women of the yellow people, I would fall into Fitnah. So, do not
put me in Fitnah but permit me to remain behind, and I will support
you with my money."Thereupon, the Messenger of Allaah turned away from
him, and said:"I permit you."Just look at this man, who, when knowing
the hardship of traveling to Tabook and the difficulty of confronting
and fighting the Romans, wanted to justify his situation and protect
himself! He therefore invented a fabricated excuse which was his
infatuation by women and his fear that he may be tempted upon seeing
them and would then be forced to leave the Muslim army because he
would not have the self-restraint to keep himself from them.
Shaykh-ul-Islam Ahmad ibn Taymiyyahcommented on this incident, saying,
"Since enjoining good, forbidding evil, and Jihaad are some of the
tests and trials that subject a person to Fitnah, some people began
justifying their abandonment of these obligations by seeking safety
from Fitnah. Allaah The Almighty Says )what means( with regard to the
hypocrites:}And among them is he who says: "Permit me ]to remain at
home[ and do not put me to Fitnah." Unquestionably, into Fitnah they
have fallen. And indeed, Hell will encompass the disbelievers.{]Quran
9:49["
Similarly, another group of people justified their abandonment of
Jihaad by saying that they could not set out for Jihaad in the heat.
Therefore, Allaah The Almighty Says about them )what means(:}And
]they[ said: "Do not go forth in the heat." Say: "The fire of Hell is
more intensive in heat" - if they would but understand.{]Quran 9:81[
Sayyid Qutbsaid in this regard, "It is therefore either fighting in
the cause of Allaah in the heat for a limited period, or being cast
into Hell for a duration that no one knows the length of but Allaah."
Does a Believer Justify Himself?
In the previous examples there were some cases which might not be
stated by those who form the cream of Muslim society. However, reality
proves that even some truthful believers might be afflicted by
justification, as Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}And We have
certainly diversified in this Quran for the people from every ]kind
of[ example; but man has ever been, most of anything, ]prone to[
dispute.{]Quran 18:54[ Some scholars of Tafseer )Quranic exegesis(
commented on this verse by mentioning what was narrated in Saheeh
Muslim, that 'Ali ibn Abi Taalibnarrated that the Messenger of
Allaahcame one night to him and his wife Faatimah and said:"Do you not
observe ]late-night Tahajjud[ prayer?"'Alireplied, "O Messenger of
Allaah, indeed our souls are in the Hands of Allaah and when He wants
to awaken us, He does so." The Messenger of Allaahset off when he said
this to him. He was slapping his hand on his thigh while going while
saying )what means(:}but man has ever been, most of anything, ]prone
to[ dispute{.Ibn 'Aashoorsaid,
What the Prophetmeant here was that it would have been more
appropriate for 'Alito praise Allaah The Almighty and thank the
Messenger of Allaahfor waking him up to pray Tahajjud, be keen on
repeating this act, be pleased with the rebuke of the Prophetand not
counter these words with others in order to justify his sleeping! This
is the cause of the Prophet's astonishment at the words of 'Ali.
Some Causes of Justification
The main obstacle in justification is the absence of frankness with
one's self, as we fail to talk to ourselves about our own reality.
This is because, from a very early age, we were taught to elevate
ourselves to high moral levels and sublime traits that are often
difficult to attain. Therefore, we try to conceal our reality in a
framework of lies about oneself that were set by the methods of our
early upbringing. ]Qiraa'ah fi mushkilaat at-tufoolah[
Justification might also be due to arrogance that has affected the
heart, and this results in making it difficult to apologize or
appearing to be in a state of weakness according to the thoughts of
such an arrogant person. Love and inclination to this worldly life is
another cause of justification, and perhaps this reason specifically
is what leads many people to do what Allaah The Almighty has
prohibited, and people then justify their actions with false excuses.
For instance, the person who consumes Riba )interest(, claims that he
is compelled to do so; however, if one looks at his case, he would not
find him compelled at all. He might not even be in any kind of a need.
There are many similar violations of the Sharee'ah nowadays, and those
who commit such violations try to justify them.
Is There Treatment?
Undoubtedly, truthfulness with one's self is the clear and easy way in
order not to indulge in the confusion that comes about due to
justification. Reckoning one's self for negligence and acknowledging
its mistakes protects it from a foul final stage of life and leads us
to not accumulate our mistakes. In fact, being truthful with one's
self is one of the highest and hardest degrees of truthfulness.
Let us contemplate the story of the great Companion, Ka'b ibn
Maalikwhen Allaah The Almighty saved him by virtue of his
truthfulness. He sat before the Prophetand said, "O Messenger of
Allaah, if I had been in front of anyone other than you of the people
of the worldly life, I would have thought of an excuse to avoid his
dissatisfaction. But by Allaah, I had no excuse." Consequently, Allaah
The Almighty accepted his repentance, excused him and turned to him.
On the other hand, those who lie and invent weak and false excuses,
are exposed by Allaah The Almighty.
One of the most important means of treatment is the reading of the
biographies of the people who fell into this malady. When
justification dominated the Children of Israa'eel, they used trickery
and various methods to violate the ruling of Allaah The Almighty and
caught fish on the Sabbath. Consequently, Allaah The Almighty
transformed them into apes and pigs. Allaah The Almighty Says )what
means(:}And you had already known about those who transgressed among
you concerning the Sabbath, and We said to them: "Be apes,
despised."{]Quran 2:65[ When one contemplates this punishment for the
one who dares to violate the limits that Allaah The Almighty has set,
undoubtedly, he will think many times before doing such an act when
knowing its evil end.
We supplicate to Allaah The Almighty to guide us to the best manners
and to ward off from us the worst of manners, as He is the most
Gracious and Noble.