Avoiding sarcasm

A sarcastic attitude is quite widespread among that segment of
people who live their lives far from the Qur'an. Among ignorant
people, some may ridicule others' shortcomings, mistakes, physical
abnormalities, clothing, lack of material possessions,
carelessness, behaviour, the way they talk, and in short, almost
everything about them. To make fun of someone, they use certain
words and gestures or mimic certain facial expressions. For the
person making fun, it is not important that he may hurt the other
person's feelings, make them sad, annoyed, upset or anxious. The
important thing is to feed their own pride and to humiliate the
object of their ridicule.
In the Qur'an, Allah definitely forbids people ridiculing others:
You who believe! People should not ridicule others who may be better
than themselves; nor should any women ridicule other women who may
be better than themselves. And do not find fault with one another
or insult each other with derogatory nicknames. How evil it is to
have a name for evil conduct after coming to faith! Those people who
do not turn from it are wrongdoers. (Surat al-Hujurat: 11)
In another verse, our Lord warns, "Woe to every faultfinding
backbiter" (Surat al-Humaza: 1) and warns people who behave in this
ugly way; who do not live according to the teachings of the Qur'an
and who do not think about the account they will render in the
afterlife.
No form of ridicule is allowed among believers. Believers know that
it is our Lord Who has given to everyone their wealth, beauty,
intelligence, talents and other qualities. They take delight in the
fine qualities they see in others and, because they seek Allah's
approval and not to satisfy their own egos, they have none of the
arrogance and jealousy that characterise ignorant society. For this
reason believers are always tolerant, positive and modest towards
one another.
At the same time believers realise that the defects they see in one
another are tests from Allah. For this reason they don't call
attention to these defects, but compensate for them by acting
positively. They carefully avoid the slightest action, facial
expression or word that would suggest ridicule.

Not forgetting one's own conduct when warning others

An intelligent and experienced person well acquainted with the
Qur'an can detect the minor faults and weaknesses in the faith of
people and advise them.
This is a praiseworthy quality, yet that does not mean he himself is
free of mistakes. On contrary, he must strive to avoid committing
the same errors; otherwise, he may earn Allah's disapproval rather
than reward for his advice.
It is unlikely that someone able to recognize a fault in others
will fail to recognize it in his own soul. Undoubtedly, he is also
aware of his own wrongdoings and sins.
For instance, it would be hypocritical for a liar to call people to
truth and sincerity, or for someone who does not pray to call others
to regular prayer. An advisor who fears Allah would surely be the
first one to avoid committing sins.
In the Qur'an Allah reveals this fact as:
Do you order people to devoutness and forget yourselves, when you
recite the Book? Will you not use your intellect? (Surat al-Baqara;
44)
The conclusion to the verse above, "Will you not use your
intellect?" makes it clear that people should practice what they
preach.
Deviant attitudes such as the desire to control others, have one's
word respected or be influential underlie hypocritical behavior
that lies outside Qur'anic morality.
When someone counsels and advises only to attain status, respect and
esteem, the manipulation of faith- related issues for personal
benefit will only lead to great disappointment in the Hereafter.
When a believer sees another committing an error that he himself is
guilty of, he can let him know that he too is trying to correct that
same mistake. Then the two can encourage one another toward
improvement and by doing so, earn the pleasure of Allah.

Not losing hope for Allah's mercy

In many verses of the Qur'an, Allah mentions that Muslims—even
those with the most fear of Allah—– may make mistakes. In one verse,
Allah reveals;
Say [from Me]: 'My servants, you who have transgressed against
yourselves, do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Truly Allah
forgives all wrong actions. He is the Ever-Forgiving, the Most
Merciful.' " (Surat az-Zumar; 53)
It surely brings relief to their hearts, for a believer who errs
could feel great regret, sorrow and guilt.
Allah has made the scope for error so wide in human beings that He
has promised to forgive a person's errors without exception, if
that person is sorry and repents of what he has done.
But despite of the many consolations in the Qur'an that refresh the
spirit and give hope, many human beings do not admit that they make
mistakes. In spite of the glad tidings announced in the Qur'an,
after making a mistake they become wrapped in despair and become
anxious and downhearted.
An individual who refuses to acknowledge errors he has committed
out of pride and arrogance is greatly saddened by what he has done.
He has trouble accepting that he is a creature prone to making
mistakes and faulty decisions, and whose actions and words may be
wrong.
He does not consider that perfection and freedom from error belong
only to Allah. He wants to be perfect himself. But he cannot, and
the fact that some of his attitudes are wrong (despite his desire
that they not be), draws him into despair.
A believer experiences deep peace by accepting his imperfections and
helplessness in relation to Allah and never claims to be free from
error.
It should be remembered that the tendency to err and sin—even
though one may be a firm believer —makes him more aware of Allah's
perfection. One can conceive of perfection only when he had
experienced imperfection.
Consciousness of his own failures and weaknesses lets him better
appreciate the absolute perfection of Allah.

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