Story - Second time around...

wanted to share with you guys my story, about me rose and my fiance cj....
accidentally meet him (cj)on a online chat room, since then we dated
on and off.. for 6 years. (yeah six years)..
so since then i got bored with him (cj) on our 2nd anniversary and
when onseeing someone new, infact that the was the time that he
cheated on me too.. (both of us cheated).
so me and him decided to end our relationship for 3 years, after that
i was hopelessly seeing someone who could care more for me.. but i was
wrong. i meet another guy he was working on abar as a bartender (ian
who is separated with 1 kid). then just in a snap of a finger we
clicked (became lovers in no time). it was on and off relationship too
but it was the worst relationship i'd been with. he was a abusive guy
emotionally,physically and mentally :( .
he was high on drugs, flirting with some woman and even not respecting
my mother which in fact two of us living with my mom and niece.
i thought to myself that there's no perfect in relationship...since i
was in my relationship my ex ( cj who is my fiance now) we been
hanging out alot...
he was my shoulder to cry on every time my bf was on his high of his
time.. i was crying, then i found out that he was having affair with
his co-worker. on a bar.
that pisses me off. even his own family knows about it but they don't care.
so since then i was thinking what to do withmy life, it was Christmas
2012 i seek god's help i even do some novena forme to enlightened my
feelings. after i finish my novena after that night, i dreamed..., i
was dreaming that my bf was truly having an affair with his co-worker.
i guess god did give me signs.
i ended my relationship with him (ian). even it hurts me alot i need
to stopped knowing that it will be good for me.
i seek help of my ex (cj), knowing that he will help me cope my broken
heart.. we decided to be together again.
so since then it's 4 months now.. oh wait... its been 3 years and 7
months now.. if its estimate our relationship:)
i am more bless to meet him again, knowing that god really gave me a
reason to meet someone new and have my lesson. and now im back to my
first love (cj).
i'd learn my lesson alot, itshould be equal to both of you to love one
another. and more of it don't cheat be faithful to one another.. cause
god really saw whats on your heart. im thankful that i found my center
on this life.. which is balance with my heart and mind..
now we were planning our wedding next year. and hopefully it will be a
dream wedding for two of us, cause we promise to our self that god
will be center in our relationship.
hopefully this story i share with u will bring u rainbow after the rain :)

Story - Unless

I am not a good and good-looking boy, From when I can understand the
world I can feel that I never be loved by other , I am a physically
handicapped that's why from the very young age I am ignore by other.
But I enjoy my life every place I love to make smileto other's face
it's my hobby .
So about love : now I am 25years old .my first love is high school she
is very cute as like a toy, I alwayssee her from a corner of class,
other always ignoreme that's why I was always unhappy but when I saw
her I get a area to smile :) , I see her upto 3years after that I feel
that I have to say herthat I love her but I was afraid also about that
if she reject me that's why Iwas take a step to make her friend and I
make herfriend very close friend , slowly slowly I try to know her
care her but still afraid to say that I love her .after a year I make
my self to say her :). I never date a girl that's why I search in net
how to take dress for a date , base on a blog writer I take some dress
and go to her in a park .
I was very uncomfortableI had a cycle by which I went that park she
also came and we together set on a branch , I gave her a flower and
said my feelings...
But may be I forgot that I am a handicap she reply me that "I know you
love me but don't mind like others I have also a dream that my life
partner should be a goodand good-looking and I don't want a handicap
person as my life partner" and she left me and left the park , I don't
said her anything even not a sound . after that she loved a boy who is
the best boy in our school . slowly slowly I cut from her and back to
my old life and give mind to the study .
After 2years.
The high school is over I still wait for her and still see her but
never go to in front of her . I take my life about computer engineer
when I left my hometown I meat to her Isaid " if you ever feel about
me something please call me I will wait for you" after that I left my
hometown.
after a year my friend callme and said me that he get married with a
rich and good man , I just smile and get to my life where I have no
one to share my feelings . Some time I got that much alone that I
sleep and askmy self why I am like that?. When every body of myhostel
went out with there I stay in hostel or go out with no one , after a
while it become a habit that I say alone in everywhere. I accept it
that no one never love me that's why I get back to study with full
force, I got degree get a good job but still alone.
Like this I played my life . but my life is change in 2012 June , In
2012 June Iget a call from a girl Name Anan she said me that she know
me we become friends a good friends and in really I washappy most that
someone come in my life my big smile come back I was very happy .
After one month she said me that she love me I was just like blast but
I don't accept because I had a doubt that no one love me than why she
love me? , I investigate about her somewhat than I get that she is my
best friend's ex girlfriend thenI directly say this meter toher and my
best friend they both reply that he has no objection and she said me
all truth , after that I accept her and I become happy that I get her
:).
But that is not end after amonth again a call came in my no I received
in other side was Anan and my best friend she said " Sorry yer I
played with you because he left me that's why I choose you to play
this game , and according to my plan he jealous and for that he again
come to me , please don't get angry and Sorry" I don't say anything
and just switch off the mobile and change the no and never go to them
.
Now I get news that they live happily and they loveeach other .
If love is not on conditionthen why this happen ? whenever my birthday
come I have no one to with me is midnight and say I am here for you .
I know I have nothing to love but I have a heart who can love most .
and please handicap person also have a heart they can also love , if
you give a smile they feel happy , so please be with them :),
Thank you :) Be happy and Be good :)

Ramadan Articles - The Devils are Shackled, Ramadan is Here - III

As for whispers inRamadan, scholars said that there are different
kinds of whispers, some of which are pathologicalwhispers
)compulsive(, whispers of the inner self, and devilish whispers.
Pathological whispersare compulsive obsessions that a person cannot
ward off completely, until he/she receivesthe due treatment.
Whispers of the inner selfare inner obsessive thoughts.
Shaykhul-IslamIbn Taymiyyah, may Allaah gave mercy on him, said,"Souls
also whisper to man, inciting him to commit sins."Allaah The Exalted
Says:}And We have already created man and know what his soul whispers
tohim, and We are closer tohim than ]his[ jugular vein.{]Quran 50:16[
Devilish whispers are from the devil, whether the devil is inside or
outside the person's body. This issue is a subject of confusion for
some people. How can the devils whisper to man during the month
ofRamadan, while they areshackled?
The answer to this question is thatchaining the devils does not
prevent them from whispering to humankind. The shackleddevils can
still whisper to people. Shaykh Abu Al-Hasan Al-Qaabisiwas asked about
the meaning of the words of the Prophet,, when hesaid:"The devils are
chained up in Ramadan."He replied,"The devils may still whisper to
people even if they are shackled."
Shaykhul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyahsaid,"If the shackled devils can still
harm people while being chained up, no doubt they can whisper to them.
If the shackled devils can harm people, they can, definitely, whisper
to them."
As for the convulsions that some may experience due to being possessed
by theJinn, there are two ways in whichJinnoverpower or defeat a human
being: it may beout of strength orout of weakness.
1- TheJinn, possessing a human beingoverpowers or defeats a human
beingby tempting him to commit sins, abstain from doing righteous
deeds, renouncing self-reproach, and yielding to his quick-temper. In
this case, theJinnis more powerful than the possessed person and
becomes abletooverpower and defeathim.
However, theJinnmay get help from some of the devils among theJinn,
outside of the possessed human's body. TheJinnthat is possessing the
human becomes more powerful due to this help and becomes able
tooverpower and defeatthe possessed human being. In fact, in both
cases theJinnoverpowers and defeatsthe human being out ofstrength.
2- WhenRuqyah)healing with the help of reciting the Noble
Quran(,Thikr)remembrance of Allaah The Almighty(, supplications, or
the like are recited over the possessed person, this confines
theJinninside the possessed body. It weakens and undermines theJinn's
power and control over the body. Consequently, theJinnis overpowered
and defeated and the possessed person goes intoconvulsions as a
consequence of overpowering and defeating theJinn; as thelatter is
possessing the human's body entirely. It is worth mentioning thatthe
possessed persongoes intoconvulsions because of overpowering and
defeating theJinnthat is possessing his body. The possessed person is
not overpowered or defeated by theJinn.
Therefore, the convulsions, which some people may experience during
the month ofRamadandue to overpowering and defeating theJinnthat is
possessing their bodies isout of weakness on the part of theJinn. This
does not contradict the shackling of the devils and
rebelliousJinnduring the month ofRamadan; since the possessed
persongoes intoconvulsions because of overpowering and defeating
theJinnthat is possessing his body. The possessed person is not
overpowered or defeated by theJinn– Allaah knows best.
Another point that should be mentioned in this regard is thatshackling
the devils does not prevent them from harming people. Shaykhul-Islam
Ibn Taymiyyahsaid,"In the month of Ramadan, the devil's power wanes
due to being chained up.Therefore, the devils become unable to incite
people and harm them inthe month of Ramadan asthey do in other times.
However, they are shackled and not dead orkilled. The Prophetstated
that the devils are shackled, yet they can still harm people."
Sometimes the shackled devils' harm may be too much to be endured by
some people due to the extreme weakness of their faith. In this case,
the shackled devils will be able to overpower and defeat them – Allaah
knows best.
However, fasting weakens the effects of the devil'swhispers on a
person. Accordingly, the devil becomesunable to incite people and harm
them, especially inRamadan, the way it can at others times. Therefore,
a fasting person should make full use of the weakness of the devils
during fasting. He should also take advantage of his strength, energy,
and therevival of faith, which he experiences in order to conquer the
devil, warding off its perils, overcoming ]spiritual[ diseases and
wiping away other psychologicaland marital problems incurred by the
devil's evil plots and power.
People should be encouraged and motivated to recite the Noble Quran
more frequently in the month ofRamadan. For instance, people could
organize competitions among individuals, families and neighbourhoods
for the recitation of the Noble Quran observing the rules
ofTajweed)science of reciting the Quran( or memorizing the first or
the second chapter of theQuran. Benefactors and charitable people
could sponsor such competitions in order to offer valuable prizes for
the winners on the night or the day of'Eed. Perhaps this would help
putting an end to the state of apathy and laziness that many Muslims
experience after two or three days of the beginning ofRamadan.

Ramadan Articles - The Devils are Shackled, Ramadan is Here - II

Based on theinterpretations of our righteous predecessors and the
opinions of theknowledgeablescholars on the meaning of shackling, we
deduce thefollowing:
First:The meaning of shackling may beinterpreted according to its
apparent or intended meaning. It could mean that all the devils
arechained up or it could mean that only the most rebellious and evil
ones are shackled. Moreover, it may also mean that Satan ]Iblees[ and
his descendants are chained up duringRamadanor it could mean that the
disbelievers among theJinnare the ones who are chained. All these
opinions were mentioned by the scholars.
Whatsupports this interpretation is that the nature of the devils is
different from that of humankind. It was mentioned in
authenticHadeeths that the devil does not approach the one who recites
theverseofAl-Kursibeforesleeping until he wakes up. How is the devil
prevented from approaching this sleeping person?
Add to that, reciting theBasmalah)sayingBismillaah( serves as a shield
against theJinn. How is this possible?
The devils are influenced by theRuqyah)healing with the recitation of
theQuran( of a confident person more than that ofa less confident
person; how does this happen?
Glory be to Allaah The Exalted who perfectly created this world and
wisely and skilfully manages It.
Second:Shackling may indicate the inability of the devils to tempt and
incite people through narrowing the channels of blood, in which the
devils circulate due to fasting, asthe devil flows through the son of
Adam just as blood flows through him. While fasting, the veins in the
body become narrow due to hunger and thirst,which causes the
passageways of the devil in the human body to become narrower.
Therefore, by fasting, thewhispers of the devil are held back and the
strength of our desires and anger is controlled. The devils become
unable to incite fasting people as they do with non-fasting ones.
Thus, they are restrained from tempting people who carry out acts of
worship,good deeds, and various actsthat bring one closer to Allaah
The Almighty.
This meaning ]that shackling indicates the inability of the devils to
incite people while fasting inRamadan[ is backed by the following:
·The devil is far from a fasting person and unable to control him
during the month ofRamadanor at any other time. However, the devil's
inability to incite fasting people is far greater inRamadan, depending
upon the person'scompliance withthe conditions and etiquette of
fasting.Shaykhul-Islam Ibn Taymiyyahsaid, "Whoever observes the due
conditions and etiquette of fasting and perfects his fasting, he will
be able to ward off the devils completely in away that one whose
fasting isdeficientcannot."
A fasting person devotes his days to carrying out acts of worship
inRamadan, which wards off the devil. Indeed, fasting is ashield,
unlike other acts of worship that have limited times during which
thelurkingdevil waits for the worshipper to finish his worship act in
order to incite him. In fact, fastingis a shield against the devil
during the month ofRamadanor any other month of the year.
A fasting person refrains from satisfying his lustful and sinful
cravings of theflesh with which the devil controls him, harming or
inciting him to commit what is forbidden. If a person shields himself
against his enemy, the devil, he will be able to weaken and vanquish
him. This is not exclusive to the month ofRamadan.
Besides, fasting is an act of worship that involves endurance,
will-power, and determination. If one attains an elevated spiritual
rankand sharpens his faith and determination, he can overpower the
devil andfrustratehis evil plots and whispers. Indeed, the devil is
weak. This is not exclusively for fastinginRamadan– and Allaah knows
best.
For some people, it may be acurious paradoxthatpeople continue to
commit sins inRamadan, during which it is said the devils are chained
up. There may be others who experience the whispers of the devil, and
still others maygo into convulsions due to being possessed byJinn.
The paradox that some people continue to commit sins inRamadandoes not
contradict the shackling of the devils. Dissolute evildoers among
theJinnand humans, who are not chained, may incite people to commit
sins. Moreover, it could be dueto people's base desires, their souls
that incline to evil, or the fact that they are used to committing
sins.
Imaam Al-Qurtubisaid,"The fact that all thedevils are shackled does
not necessarily mean thatno man would commit sins or evil acts. People
sin due to other factors, aside from the devils, such as souls that
are persistent enjoiners of evil, bad habits and the devilish people
)devils of humankind(."
Shaykh 'Abdullaah ibn Jibreensaid,
"Many people who are accustomed to sin may keep doing what they are
habitually used to doing even during the month of Ramadan. Although
the devils are chained up, still, old habits die hard. Therefore, we
may witness many sins committed in Ramadan such as drinking alcohol,
adultery, listening to songs and so on. The urges for such evil
practices are bad habits, whims, souls inclined to evil, devils among
humankind, base desires,temptations, the spread of lewd pictures and
movies, and the like. It is not surprising to witness these sins
during the month of Ramadan, even though the devils are shackled."