Dought & clear - What is the ruling on offering the regular Sunnah prayer that is usually offered after theobligatory prayer, before the obligatory prayer?

Is it permissible for someone to pray the 2 unit of sunnah of esha
salaah beforehand of the obligatory prayer ? If someone prayed it
without knowledge about the ruling, what is the stand ?
Praise be to Allah.
The regular Sunnah prayers are of two types:
1.The Sunnah prayers that are offered before the obligatory prayer.
They are: two rak'ahs before Fajr and four rak'ahs with two tasleems
(i.e., offered two by two) before Zuhr.
The time for this type of Sunnah prayer begins when the time for that
prayer begins, and lasts until one begins to offer the obligatory
prayer.
2.The Sunnah prayers that are offered after the obligatory prayer.
They are: two rak'ahs after Maghrib, two rak'ahs after 'Isha' and two
rak'ahs after Zuhr.
The time for this type of Sunnah prayer begins when the obligatory
prayer is over and lasts until the end of the time for that prayer.
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: With regard toevery
Sunnah prayer that is offered before the obligatory prayer, itstime
lasts from the beginning of the time for that prayer until the start
of the obligatory prayer. With regard to every Sunnah prayer that is
offered after the obligatory prayer, its time lasts from when that
prayer is finished until the end of that time.
End quote fromal-Mughni, 1/436
It says inal-Mawsoo'ah al-Fiqhiyyah(25/281-282): The regular Sunnah
prayers are connected to the obligatory prayers; someof them are
offered before the obligatory prayer, such as the Sunnah prayer of
Fajr and the Sunnah prayer that comes before Zuhr. And some of them
are offered after the obligatory prayer, such as the Sunnah prayer
that comes after Zuhr, the Sunnah prayers of Maghrib and 'Isha', Witr,
and qiyaam in Ramadan (i.e., Taraweeh).
With regard to whateverof these Sunnah prayers come before the
obligatory prayer, the time for them begins when the time for the
obligatory prayer begins, and ends when the iqaamah for the obligatory
prayer is given, if that iqaamah is given in a group or congregation
(jamaa'ah), because once the iqaamah is given for prayer, there isno
prayer except the prescribed obligatory prayer. But if an individual
is going to offer the prayer on his own, the time for the Sunnah
prayer lasts untilhe begins the obligatoryprayer.
With regard to the Sunnah prayers that come after the obligatory
prayer, such as the Sunnah prayer that comes after Zuhr and the Sunnah
prayers of Maghrib and 'Isha', the time for each of them begins when
the obligatory prayer has been completed and lasts until the time of
theobligatory prayer ends and the time for the nextprayer begins.
End quote.
Based on the above, if a person offers the Sunnah prayer that should
be offered after 'Isha' before he prays 'Isha', it is as if he has
performed that Sunnah before its time. Hence it will not be counted as
a regular sunnah prayer; rather it is a naafil prayer between the
adhaan and iqaamah, for which one earns the reward of a naafil prayer,
not a regular Sunnah prayer.
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:It is mustahabb to pray
two rak'ahs or more before 'Isha', because of the hadeeth of
'Abdullahibn Maghfal, according to which the Prophet (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Between each two calls (the adhaan
and iqaamah) there should be a prayer, between each two calls there
should be a prayer, between each two calls there should be a prayer" –
and the third time he said, "for whoever wishes." Narrated by
al-Bukhaari and Muslim. What is meant by the two calls is the adhaan
and iqaamah, according to scholarly consensus.
End quote fromal-Majmoo', 3/504
For more information please see the answer toquestion no. 128164
With regard to the one who used to do that andwas unaware of the
ruling as mentioned above, then we hope that Allah, by His bounty and
grace, will grant him the reward of one who offered the regular Sunnah
prayer, because he was unaware of the ruling on that matter.
And Allah knows best.

Dought & clear - Can the husband’s cheating be justified by blaming his wife for refusing intimacy with him?

If a husband cheats on his wife, can he blame his wife for his sin or
be partially blamed? Not to say that they did not have intercourse for
months or so, but refrained from sexual intimacy for a much shorter
time (such as a week or more weeks, past the time the menstrual time
has ended and intimacy is possible but has not occurred for whatever
reason). Can he justify his actions by saying that she will get the
sin because he did not fulfill his desires? Can at any point the wife
be blamed, if it is a long period of time since sexual intimacy?
Praise be to Allah.
One of the worst things that the one who has been disobedient towards
Allah can do is trying to justify his sin by referring to something
that is worse than it and trying to justify his transgression of the
sacred limits by making up excuses when he knows that the truth of the
matter is that he was overcome bydesires, by his nafs (self) that
prompts him to do evil, lust that he could not control and a conscious
decision to commit this action.
And he does this at the time when what the onewho has committed an
action that is contrary toIslam should do is hastento admit his
shortcomings and ask Allah for forgiveness. Allah, may He be glorified
and exalted, loves for His slave who has slipped up and falleninto the
mire of immoralactions to hasten to regret it and turn to his Lord,
may He be glorified, and admit what he has done, then ask Allah, may
He be glorified and exalted, to forgive him, help to do righteous
deeds and protect him from evil deeds. Allah, may He be glorified and
exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And turn in repentance and in obedience with true Faith (Islamic
Monotheism) to your Lord and submit to Him, (in Islam), before the
torment comes upon you, then you will not behelped"
[az-Zumar 39:54]
"And those who, when they have committed Fahishah (illegal sexual
intercourse etc.) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allah and
ask forgiveness for their sins; - and none can forgive sins but Allah
- And do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know"
[Aal 'Imraan 3:135].
We may ponder the story of our father Adam (peace be upon him) and how
he hastened to admit his sin and take responsibility for what he had
done and for his shortcomings. Allah, mayHe be exalted, says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"They said: "Our Lord! We have wronged ourselves. If You forgive us
not, and bestow not upon us Your Mercy, we shall certainly be of the
losers"
[al-A 'raaf 7:23].
So Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, rewarded him by accepting
his repentance and forgiving him, by His grace. Allah, may He be
glorified, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Then Adam received from his Lord Words . And his Lord pardoned him
(accepted his repentance). Verily, He isthe One Who forgives (accepts
repentance), the Most Merciful"
[al-Baqarah 2:37].
This is a good example for all of us; we should remember the grace
andkindness of Allah, and we should put our trust in Him acknowledging
our sins and our wrongdoing towards ourselves, and we should hasten to
repent as Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation
of the meaning):
"If they (hypocrites), when they had been unjust to themselves, had
come to you (Muhammad SAW) and begged Allahs Forgiveness, and the
Messenger had begged forgiveness for them: indeed, they would
havefound Allah All-Forgiving(One Who accepts repentance), Most
Merciful"
[an-Nisa' 4:64].
As for the accursed Iblees, he persisted in hisdisobedience and did
not admit his shortcomings; rather he tried to pin the blame onothers
and he argued about his reasons for going against the command of
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, as Allah tells us
(interpretation of the meaning):
"(Allah) said: 'What prevented you (O Iblees) that you did not
prostrate, when I commanded you?' Ibleessaid: 'I am better than him
(Adam), You created me from fire, and him You created from clay.'
(Allah) said: '(O Iblees) get down from this (Paradise), it is not for
you to be arrogant here.Get out, for you are of those humiliated and
disgraced.'"
[al-A'raaf 7:12-13].
On the other hand:
It is not permissible for the wife to try to justify her disobedience
by forsaking her husband's bed with made-up excuses. Marital
intimacyis a confirmed right and there is a stern warning against
wives who fall short in that regard. The Prophet (blessings and peace
of Allah be upon him) said: "If a man calls his wife to his bed and
she does not come to him, and he goes to sleep angry with her,
theangels will curse her until morning."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3237) and Muslim (1436).
This is a stern warning to every wife who refuses to share her
husband's bed for any reason other than a legitimate shar'i excuse
such as menses, nifaas (postpartum bleeding) or sickness. If she
refusesfor several weeks, then the sin is greater and more abhorrent,
and sheis required to repent and seek forgiveness, and also ask her
husband to forgive her, so as to turn over a new leaf and to create a
calm and happy family atmosphere in the home, filled with
tranquillity, respect and fulfilment of rights and duties.
And Allah knows best.

Anger management skills and techniques in Islam: Anger (Ghadab) and Islam

Do you find it hard to forgive someone who has done you wrong? Do you
often find yourself inheated arguments with the people with whom you
are closest? Have youever been so angry that you could not remember
what you said or did? Have you ever gotten so angry that you resorted
to physical violence, hitting people or breaking things?
If you answered 'yes' to any of these questions, you might have an
anger problem. These are just a few of the symptoms of anger
addiction. This article offers the anger management skills and
techniques according to Islamic teachings.
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when
it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems
- problems at work, in your personal relationships and in the overall
quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you are at
the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Anger is complex, bodily and emotional response. Even before you begin
to shout, hit or scream, yourbody functions changes drastically. Your
brain goes into crisis mode andreleases powerful chemicals, telling
your body to prepare for attack. Your blood pressure skyrockets,
yourheart rate rapidly increases and all of the blood is directed
toward unnecessary bodily processes. Your vision sharpens and your
body literally prepares for battle.
This natural process enables human beings to be both courageous and
outrageous. Our physical response to anger equipsus to survive
dangerous circumstances. Our brainsand bodies mobilize quickly to
respond to attacks by wild animals and rescuing others fromdanger. But
the same effective response that allows human beings to escape a
grizzly bear attack also drives us to hurt other people and destroy
relationship. In addition to destroying relationships, constant anger
can lead to serious health problems like persistent headaches, high
blood pressure, heart disease and strokes. Anger, quite literally, can
kill you.
Some people keep their anger buried deep inside. It's not good to hide
your anger, so you should find a way to let itout without hurting
yourself or others. As a matter of fact, the real problem is not anger
itself; the real problem is the mismanagement of anger. Mismanaged
anger and rage is the major cause of conflict in our personal as well
as professional relationships. Because, never getting angry is
impossible. Instead, remember that how you act when you are angry can
make the situation better or worse. Don't let anger be the boss of
you.Take charge of it! Stop anger before it destroys your life and the
lives of those around you. Effective anger management skills and
techniques benefit your health and your relationships.
Please note: Don't make decisions when you're angry and don't make
promises when you're happy.

Why do we listen to Quran Lectures, even we can't remember everything?

A Masjid (Mosque) goer wrote a letter to the editor of a newspaper and
complained that it made no sense to go to Masjid (Mosque). "I've gone
for 30 years now," he wrote, "and in that time I have heard something
like 3,000 Lectures. But for the life of me, I can't remember asingle
one of them. So, I think I'm wasting my time and the Imams are wasting
theirs by giving Lectures at all."
This started a real controversy in the"Letters to the Editor" column,
much to the delight of the editor. It went on for weeks until someone
wrote this clincher.
"I've been married for 30 years now. In that time my wife has cooked
some32,000 meals. But for the life of me, I cannot recall the entire
menu for a single one of those meals. But I do know this:They all
nourished me and gave me the strengthI needed to do my work. If my
wife had not given me these meals, I would be physically dead today.
Likewise, if I had not gone to Masjid (Mosque) for nourishment, I
would be spiritually dead today!"
When you are DOWN to nothing.... Allah (SWT)is UP to something! Faith
sees the invisible, believes the incredible and receives the
impossible! Thank Allah (SWT) for our physical AND our spiritual
nourishment!