Dought & clear - How can I call someone who wants to become Christian?

I have a friend whose father is Muslim and her mother is Christian,
and her father is separated from her mother. The daughter wants to
follow the Christian religion; how can I make her come back to Islam?
Praise be to Allah.
Perhaps one of the most difficult questions asked by many of those who
send questions to our website is that which is mentioned here, "How
can I make my friend come back to Islam?" That is because people's
hearts are in the hands of the Most Merciful, andno one holds the keys
to people's hearts except Him, may He be glorified and exalted.
Because weare keen to save all people from the doom of apostasy from
Islam, we feel sorry for the questioner and we hopethat Allah will
help her and enable her to speak the words of truth and sincerity that
will be a means of her friend becoming steadfast in Islam. We say to
her that no matter what words we write, whatever advice we give, even
if we were to do everything that is possible, the most successful way
to help her friend to become steadfast is being completely sincere in
advising her, being compassionate towards her and showing her love,
friendship and sincere words that will move her and revive in her
heart the faith that is diminishing. She should also pray sincerely
for her, asking Allah to save her from that. That can only be achieved
with a sincere heart and warm feelingstowards her. That is the only
thing that will makeher stop and think and look at her situation
andthe real reasons that are encouraging her to apostatise and become
Christian. If you do that, we do not doubt that she will decide to
remain in Islam and saveherself from great danger.
Throughout all that, you should be keen to discuss things with her and
make her ask questions about the reality of what she is going to do
and what it is that she is missing in Islam and has found in
Christianity?!
We think that you should focus on two important basic matters:
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The great importance of Tawheed or affirming the Oneness of Allah.
Thisis the foundation of the religion of Islam and the basis of the
messages of all of the Prophets. This is the message that Allah
commanded His Prophet to address to the People of the Book:
"This is what We recite to you (O Muhammad SAW) of the Verses and the
Wise Reminder (i.e. the Qur'an).
Verily, the likeness of 'Eesa (Jesus) before Allahis the likeness of
Adam. He created him from dust, then (He) said to him: 'Be!' - and he
was.
(This is) the truth from your Lord, so be not of those who doubt.
Then whoever disputes with you concerning him ['Eesa (Jesus)] after
(all this) knowledge that has come to you, [i.e. 'Eesa (Jesus)] being
a slave of Allah, and having no share in Divinity) say: (O Muhammad
SAW): 'Come,let us call our sons and your sons, our women and your
women, ourselves and yourselves- then we pray and invoke (sincerely)
the Curse of Allah upon those who lie.
Verily! This is the true narrative [about the story of 'Eesa (Jesus)],
and, Laa ilaaha ill-Allah (none has the right to beworshipped but
Allah, the One and the Only True God, Who has neither a wife nor a
son). And indeed, Allah isthe All-Mighty, the All-Wise.
And if they turn away (and do not accept thesetrue proofs and
evidences), then surely, Allah is All-Aware of those who do mischief.
Say (O Muhammad SAW): 'O people of the Scripture (Jews and
Christians): Come to a word that is just between us and you, that we
worship none but Allah (Alone), and that we associate no partners with
Him, and that none of us shall take others as lords besides Allah.'
Then, if they turn away, say: 'Bear witness that we are Muslims.'
O people of the Scripture(Jews and Christians)! Why do you dispute
about Ibraheem (Abraham), while the Tawraat (Torah) and the Injeel
(Gospel) were not revealed till after him? Have you then no sense?
Verily, you are those who have disputed about that of which you have
knowledge. Why do you then dispute concerning that of which you have
no knowledge? It is Allah Who knows, and you know not.
Ibraheem (Abraham) was neither a Jew nor a Christian, but he was a
true Muslim Haneefa (Islamic Monotheism - to worship none but Allah
Alone) and he was not ofAl-Mushrikoon.
Verily, among mankind who have the best claim to Ibraheem (Abraham)
are those who followed him, and this Prophet (Muhammad SAW) and those
who have believed(Muslims). And Allah is the Wali (Protector and
Helper) of the believers.
A party of the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) wish to
lead you astray. But they shallnot lead astray anyone except
themselves, and they perceive not.
O people of the Scripture! (Jews and Christians): Why do you
disbelieve in the Ayaat of Allah, [the Verses about Prophet Muhammad
SAW presentin the Tawraat (Torah) and the Injeel (Gospel)] while you
(yourselves) bear witness (to their truth).
O people of the Scripture(Jews and Christians): Why do you mix truth
with falsehood and conceal the truth while you know?"
[Aal 'Imraan 3:58-71].
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Belief in all the Messengers of Allah, loving them and acknowledging
their status. If she were to ponder this matter, she would find that
Islam is the only religion that believes in all of the Messengers and
Prophets and acknowledges them as they should be acknowledged. It was
the final message that confirmed the Books and Messengers that came
before it and completed their laws and their message. When the people
are called on the Day of Resurrection, for those who believed in the
Prophets to enter Paradise, the Muslims will be the first to enter. As
for those followers of other religions, they disbelieved in Muhammad
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) completely, asdid those who
believed in Moosa (Moses) and did not believe in 'Eesa (Jesus). At
that time they will be in grave danger before Allah, may He be
glorified and exalted. Allah says (interpretationof the meaning):
"The Messenger (Muhammad SAW) believes in what has been sent down to
him from his Lord, and (so do) the believers. Each one believes in
Allah, His Angels, His Books, and His Messengers. They say,'We make no
distinction between one another of His Messengers' - and they say, 'We
hear, and we obey. (We seek) YourForgiveness, our Lord, and to You is
the return (of all)'"
[al-Baqarah 2:285].
Al-Bukhaari (3442) and Muslim (2365) narrated that Abu Hurayrah said:
The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
said: "I am the closest of the people to 'Eesa ibn Maryam, in this
world and in the Hereafter. TheProphets are brothers; their mothers
are different but their religion is one"
We checked everything that we have published previously on our site
about calling non-Muslims and helping Muslims to remain steadfast in
Islam, and we found a good number of fatwas and questions that you can
learn from and makeuse of in your efforts to call your friend. They
also include a number ofimportant references concerning this matter.
These answers appear under the following numbers:
219, 2690, 10469, 12615, 12628, 12637, 14418, 154022, 182059, 182799
Take from the above whatever is appropriate to your friend's
situation, and strive to accompany that with sincere du'aa'
(supplication) for her in her absence; ask Allah, may He be glorified
and exalted, to guide her to the straight path, for du'aa' is the
weapon, but not everyone is aware of its importance.
And Allah knows best.

Dought & clear - What is the ruling on offering the regular Sunnah prayer that is usually offered after theobligatory prayer, before the obligatory prayer?

Is it permissible for someone to pray the 2 unit of sunnah of esha
salaah beforehand of the obligatory prayer ? If someone prayed it
without knowledge about the ruling, what is the stand ?
Praise be to Allah.
The regular Sunnah prayers are of two types:
1.The Sunnah prayers that are offered before the obligatory prayer.
They are: two rak'ahs before Fajr and four rak'ahs with two tasleems
(i.e., offered two by two) before Zuhr.
The time for this type of Sunnah prayer begins when the time for that
prayer begins, and lasts until one begins to offer the obligatory
prayer.
2.The Sunnah prayers that are offered after the obligatory prayer.
They are: two rak'ahs after Maghrib, two rak'ahs after 'Isha' and two
rak'ahs after Zuhr.
The time for this type of Sunnah prayer begins when the obligatory
prayer is over and lasts until the end of the time for that prayer.
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: With regard toevery
Sunnah prayer that is offered before the obligatory prayer, itstime
lasts from the beginning of the time for that prayer until the start
of the obligatory prayer. With regard to every Sunnah prayer that is
offered after the obligatory prayer, its time lasts from when that
prayer is finished until the end of that time.
End quote fromal-Mughni, 1/436
It says inal-Mawsoo'ah al-Fiqhiyyah(25/281-282): The regular Sunnah
prayers are connected to the obligatory prayers; someof them are
offered before the obligatory prayer, such as the Sunnah prayer of
Fajr and the Sunnah prayer that comes before Zuhr. And some of them
are offered after the obligatory prayer, such as the Sunnah prayer
that comes after Zuhr, the Sunnah prayers of Maghrib and 'Isha', Witr,
and qiyaam in Ramadan (i.e., Taraweeh).
With regard to whateverof these Sunnah prayers come before the
obligatory prayer, the time for them begins when the time for the
obligatory prayer begins, and ends when the iqaamah for the obligatory
prayer is given, if that iqaamah is given in a group or congregation
(jamaa'ah), because once the iqaamah is given for prayer, there isno
prayer except the prescribed obligatory prayer. But if an individual
is going to offer the prayer on his own, the time for the Sunnah
prayer lasts untilhe begins the obligatoryprayer.
With regard to the Sunnah prayers that come after the obligatory
prayer, such as the Sunnah prayer that comes after Zuhr and the Sunnah
prayers of Maghrib and 'Isha', the time for each of them begins when
the obligatory prayer has been completed and lasts until the time of
theobligatory prayer ends and the time for the nextprayer begins.
End quote.
Based on the above, if a person offers the Sunnah prayer that should
be offered after 'Isha' before he prays 'Isha', it is as if he has
performed that Sunnah before its time. Hence it will not be counted as
a regular sunnah prayer; rather it is a naafil prayer between the
adhaan and iqaamah, for which one earns the reward of a naafil prayer,
not a regular Sunnah prayer.
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:It is mustahabb to pray
two rak'ahs or more before 'Isha', because of the hadeeth of
'Abdullahibn Maghfal, according to which the Prophet (blessings and
peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Between each two calls (the adhaan
and iqaamah) there should be a prayer, between each two calls there
should be a prayer, between each two calls there should be a prayer" –
and the third time he said, "for whoever wishes." Narrated by
al-Bukhaari and Muslim. What is meant by the two calls is the adhaan
and iqaamah, according to scholarly consensus.
End quote fromal-Majmoo', 3/504
For more information please see the answer toquestion no. 128164
With regard to the one who used to do that andwas unaware of the
ruling as mentioned above, then we hope that Allah, by His bounty and
grace, will grant him the reward of one who offered the regular Sunnah
prayer, because he was unaware of the ruling on that matter.
And Allah knows best.

Dought & clear - Can the husband’s cheating be justified by blaming his wife for refusing intimacy with him?

If a husband cheats on his wife, can he blame his wife for his sin or
be partially blamed? Not to say that they did not have intercourse for
months or so, but refrained from sexual intimacy for a much shorter
time (such as a week or more weeks, past the time the menstrual time
has ended and intimacy is possible but has not occurred for whatever
reason). Can he justify his actions by saying that she will get the
sin because he did not fulfill his desires? Can at any point the wife
be blamed, if it is a long period of time since sexual intimacy?
Praise be to Allah.
One of the worst things that the one who has been disobedient towards
Allah can do is trying to justify his sin by referring to something
that is worse than it and trying to justify his transgression of the
sacred limits by making up excuses when he knows that the truth of the
matter is that he was overcome bydesires, by his nafs (self) that
prompts him to do evil, lust that he could not control and a conscious
decision to commit this action.
And he does this at the time when what the onewho has committed an
action that is contrary toIslam should do is hastento admit his
shortcomings and ask Allah for forgiveness. Allah, may He be glorified
and exalted, loves for His slave who has slipped up and falleninto the
mire of immoralactions to hasten to regret it and turn to his Lord,
may He be glorified, and admit what he has done, then ask Allah, may
He be glorified and exalted, to forgive him, help to do righteous
deeds and protect him from evil deeds. Allah, may He be glorified and
exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And turn in repentance and in obedience with true Faith (Islamic
Monotheism) to your Lord and submit to Him, (in Islam), before the
torment comes upon you, then you will not behelped"
[az-Zumar 39:54]
"And those who, when they have committed Fahishah (illegal sexual
intercourse etc.) or wronged themselves with evil, remember Allah and
ask forgiveness for their sins; - and none can forgive sins but Allah
- And do not persist in what (wrong) they have done, while they know"
[Aal 'Imraan 3:135].
We may ponder the story of our father Adam (peace be upon him) and how
he hastened to admit his sin and take responsibility for what he had
done and for his shortcomings. Allah, mayHe be exalted, says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"They said: "Our Lord! We have wronged ourselves. If You forgive us
not, and bestow not upon us Your Mercy, we shall certainly be of the
losers"
[al-A 'raaf 7:23].
So Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, rewarded him by accepting
his repentance and forgiving him, by His grace. Allah, may He be
glorified, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Then Adam received from his Lord Words . And his Lord pardoned him
(accepted his repentance). Verily, He isthe One Who forgives (accepts
repentance), the Most Merciful"
[al-Baqarah 2:37].
This is a good example for all of us; we should remember the grace
andkindness of Allah, and we should put our trust in Him acknowledging
our sins and our wrongdoing towards ourselves, and we should hasten to
repent as Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says (interpretation
of the meaning):
"If they (hypocrites), when they had been unjust to themselves, had
come to you (Muhammad SAW) and begged Allahs Forgiveness, and the
Messenger had begged forgiveness for them: indeed, they would
havefound Allah All-Forgiving(One Who accepts repentance), Most
Merciful"
[an-Nisa' 4:64].
As for the accursed Iblees, he persisted in hisdisobedience and did
not admit his shortcomings; rather he tried to pin the blame onothers
and he argued about his reasons for going against the command of
Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, as Allah tells us
(interpretation of the meaning):
"(Allah) said: 'What prevented you (O Iblees) that you did not
prostrate, when I commanded you?' Ibleessaid: 'I am better than him
(Adam), You created me from fire, and him You created from clay.'
(Allah) said: '(O Iblees) get down from this (Paradise), it is not for
you to be arrogant here.Get out, for you are of those humiliated and
disgraced.'"
[al-A'raaf 7:12-13].
On the other hand:
It is not permissible for the wife to try to justify her disobedience
by forsaking her husband's bed with made-up excuses. Marital
intimacyis a confirmed right and there is a stern warning against
wives who fall short in that regard. The Prophet (blessings and peace
of Allah be upon him) said: "If a man calls his wife to his bed and
she does not come to him, and he goes to sleep angry with her,
theangels will curse her until morning."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (3237) and Muslim (1436).
This is a stern warning to every wife who refuses to share her
husband's bed for any reason other than a legitimate shar'i excuse
such as menses, nifaas (postpartum bleeding) or sickness. If she
refusesfor several weeks, then the sin is greater and more abhorrent,
and sheis required to repent and seek forgiveness, and also ask her
husband to forgive her, so as to turn over a new leaf and to create a
calm and happy family atmosphere in the home, filled with
tranquillity, respect and fulfilment of rights and duties.
And Allah knows best.

Anger management skills and techniques in Islam: Anger (Ghadab) and Islam

Do you find it hard to forgive someone who has done you wrong? Do you
often find yourself inheated arguments with the people with whom you
are closest? Have youever been so angry that you could not remember
what you said or did? Have you ever gotten so angry that you resorted
to physical violence, hitting people or breaking things?
If you answered 'yes' to any of these questions, you might have an
anger problem. These are just a few of the symptoms of anger
addiction. This article offers the anger management skills and
techniques according to Islamic teachings.
Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when
it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems
- problems at work, in your personal relationships and in the overall
quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you are at
the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.
Anger is complex, bodily and emotional response. Even before you begin
to shout, hit or scream, yourbody functions changes drastically. Your
brain goes into crisis mode andreleases powerful chemicals, telling
your body to prepare for attack. Your blood pressure skyrockets,
yourheart rate rapidly increases and all of the blood is directed
toward unnecessary bodily processes. Your vision sharpens and your
body literally prepares for battle.
This natural process enables human beings to be both courageous and
outrageous. Our physical response to anger equipsus to survive
dangerous circumstances. Our brainsand bodies mobilize quickly to
respond to attacks by wild animals and rescuing others fromdanger. But
the same effective response that allows human beings to escape a
grizzly bear attack also drives us to hurt other people and destroy
relationship. In addition to destroying relationships, constant anger
can lead to serious health problems like persistent headaches, high
blood pressure, heart disease and strokes. Anger, quite literally, can
kill you.
Some people keep their anger buried deep inside. It's not good to hide
your anger, so you should find a way to let itout without hurting
yourself or others. As a matter of fact, the real problem is not anger
itself; the real problem is the mismanagement of anger. Mismanaged
anger and rage is the major cause of conflict in our personal as well
as professional relationships. Because, never getting angry is
impossible. Instead, remember that how you act when you are angry can
make the situation better or worse. Don't let anger be the boss of
you.Take charge of it! Stop anger before it destroys your life and the
lives of those around you. Effective anger management skills and
techniques benefit your health and your relationships.
Please note: Don't make decisions when you're angry and don't make
promises when you're happy.