Dought & clear - Can Allaah be described as forgetting? .

Can Allaah be described as forgetting?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Forgetting can mean two things:
1 – Overlooking something that is known, as in the verses
(interpretation of the meaning):
"Punish us not if we forget or fall into error"
[al-Baqarah 2:286]
"And indeed We made a covenant with Adam before, but he forgot, and We
found on his part no firm will power"
[Ta-Ha 20:115]
- according to one of thetwo scholarly opinions.
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "I
am only human, I forget as you forget, so if I forget then remind me."
And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Whoever
sleeps and misses a prayer or forgets it, let him pray it when he
remembers it."
This kind of forgetfulness cannot be attributed to Allaah, on the
basis of two kinds of evidence, textual and rational.
The textual evidence is the verse in which He says of Moosa
(interpretation of the meaning):
"[Moosa (Moses)] said: 'The knowledge thereof is with my Lord, in a
Record. My Lord neither errs nor He forgets'"
[Ta-Ha 20:52]
The rational evidence is the fact that forgetting is a fault or
shortcoming,and Allaah is far above having any shortcomings. He is
described as perfect, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):
"and for Allaah is the highest description. And He is the All-Mighty,
the All-Wise"
[al-Nahl 16:60]
Based on this it is not permissible to describe Allaah as forgetting
in this sense, under any circumstances.
The second meaning of forgetting is deliberatelyand knowingly
neglecting something, asin the verses (interpretation of the meaning):
"So, when they forgot (the warning) with which they had been reminded,
We opened for them the gates of every (pleasant) thing"
[al-An'am 6:44]
"And indeed We made a covenant with Adam before, but he forgot, and We
found on his part no firm will power"
[Ta-Ha 20:115]
- this is according to the other scholarly opinion concerning the
meaningof this verse.
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said
concerning the categories of those who own horses:
"… and a man who keeps them [horses] for earning his living so as not
to ask of others, but he does not forget Allaah's rights (i.e., zakaah
on the wealth heearns through using them in trading etc) and does not
overburden them"
This kind of "forgetting" is ascribed to Allaah as He says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"Then taste you (the torment of the Fire) because of your forgetting
the Meeting of this Day of yours. Surely, We too will forget you"
[al-Sajdah 32:14]
And Allaah says concerning the hypocrites:
"They have forgotten Allaah, so He has forgotten them. Verily, the
hypocrites are the Faasiqoon (rebellious, disobedient to Allaah)"
[al-Tawbah 9:67]
And in Saheeh Muslim, inKitaab al-Zuhd wa'l-Raqaa'iq it is narrated
that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: They said: "O
Messenger of Allaah, will we see ourLord on the Day of Resurrection?"
… and in this hadeeth its says: "Allaah will meet His [disbelieving]
slave and will say: 'Did you think that you would meet Me?' He will
say, 'No.' He will say: 'I will forget youas you forgot Me.'"
Allaah's leaving or forgetting something is one of His actions that
happen by His will and in accordance with His wisdom. Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"and left them in darkness. (So) they couldnot see"
[al-Baqarah 2:17]
"We shall leave them to surge like waves on one another"
[al-Kahf 18:99]
"And indeed We have left thereof an evident Ayah (a lesson and a
warning and a sign)"
[al-'Ankaboot 29:35]
There are many well-known texts which confirm that Allaah leaves or
forsakes thingsand also confirm His other actions that have to do with
His will. This is indicative of the perfection of His power and might,
and the way in which He does these actions is not like the way in
which His creation does things, even though they share the same basic
meaning,as is well known among Ahl al-Sunnah.
Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen 1/172-174

Dought & clear - How can we understand the divine descent during the night in different countries?.

It is narrated in the hadeeth that "Allaah descends every night to the
lowest heaven during the last third of the night..." When does the last
third of the night begin, and when does it end? And how does Allaah
descend in different countries?.
Praise be to Allaah.
There are mutawaatir ahaadeeth from the Messenger of Allaah (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) which prove that Allaah descends. The
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "Our Lord
descends to the lowest heaven every night when the last third of the
night remains, and He says, 'Who will call upon Me, that I may answer
him? Who will ask of Me, that Imay give him? Who will ask Me for
forgiveness, that I may forgive him?'"
Ahl al-Sunnah wa'l-Jamaa'ah are unanimously agreed that Allaah
descends in amanner that befits Him, and that He is not like His
creation at all in any of His attributes, as He says (interpretation
of the meaning):
"Say (O Muhammad): He is Allaah, (the) One.
Allaah-us-Samad [Allaah -- the Self-Sufficient Master, Whom all
creatures need, (He neither eats nor drinks)].
He begets not, nor was He begotten.
And there is none co-equal or comparable unto Him"
[al-Ikhlaas 112:1-4]
"There is nothing like Him, and He is the All-Hearer, the All-Seer"
[al-Shoora 42:11]
According to Ahl al-Sunnah wa'l-Jamaa'ah, we must accept the verses
and ahaadeeth that speak of the attributes of Allaah as they are,
without distorting them, denyingany of His attributes, trying to
imagine how they are or trying to liken Him to any of His creation; at
the same time we must believe in them and believe that what is said in
these texts is true, without likening Allaah to His creation or
discussing the nature of His attributes. Rather their view concerning
His attributes is like their view concerning His essence: Ahl
al-Sunnah wa'l-Jamaa'ah affirm theEssence of Allaah without discussing
how it is, or likening Him to any of His creation, and thus we must
also affirm His attributes without discussing how they are,or likening
these attributes to the attributes of any of His creation. The descent
of Allaah happens in every country in a manner thatbefits Allaah,
because the descent of Allaah cannot be likened to the descent of any
of His creation. He is described as descending in the last part of the
night in all parts of the world in a manner that befits His Majesty,
may He be exalted. No one can know how He descends just as no one can
know how His Essence is, except Him.
"There is nothing like Him, and He is the All-Hearer, the All-Seer"
[al-Shoora 42:11 - interpretation of the meaning]
"So put not forward similitudes for Allaah (as there is nothing
similar to Him, nor He resemblesanything). Truly, Allaah knows and you
know not"
[al-Nahl 16:74 - interpretation of the meaning]
The first and last third ofthe night differ according to the season.
If the night is nine hourslong then the time of descent begins at the
onset of the seventh hour, until dawn comes. If the night is twelve
hours long then the last third begins at the beginning of the ninth
hour until dawn comes, and so on, depending onhow long or short the
night is in each place. And Allaah is the Source of strength.
Majmoo' Fataawa wa Maqaalaat Mutanawwi'ah by Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn
'Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him), vol. 4, p. 420

Muslim Marriage Stories: Carry me in your ArmsImportance of Marriage in Islam

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand
and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate
quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to say it. But I had tolet her know what I
was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topiccalmly. She didn't
seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I
avoidedher question. This made her angry. She shouted atme, "you are
not a man!"
That night, we didn't talkto each other. She was weeping. I knew she
wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could
hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I hadlost my heart to a lovely
girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated
that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car.
Sheglanced at it and then tore it to pieces. The woman who had spent
ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for
her wasted time, resources and energy butI could not take back what I
had said, for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected
to see. To me, her cry was actually a kind of release.The idea of
divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemedto be firmer and
clearer now.
The next day, I came backhome very late and found her writing
something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to
sleep and fell fast asleep because I was tired after an eventful day
with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I
just didn'tcare so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want
anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She
requested that in that one month, we both struggle to live as normal a
life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son hadhis exams in a
month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken
marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to
recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.
She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out
of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going
crazy.
Just to make our last daystogether bearable I accepted her odd
request. I told Dew aboutmy wife's divorce conditions. She laughed
loudly and thought it wasabsurd. No matter what tricks she has, she
has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had
any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed.
So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.
Our sonclapped behind us, daddyis holding mummy in his arms. His words
brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then
to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed
her eyesand said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I
nodded, feelingsomewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She
went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my
chest... I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. Irealized that I
hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. Irealized she
was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair
was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I
wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when Ilifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy
returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to
me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy
was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to
carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made
me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few
dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my
dresseshave grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so
thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly
it hit me;she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at
the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing
his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his
life. My wife gestured to our son to come close and hugged him
tightly. Iturned my face away because I was afraid I might change my
mind atthis last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the
bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded
my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just
like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held
her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school.
I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked
intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without
locking the door.I was afraid any delay would make me change my
mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened thedoor and I said to her,
Sorry, Dew, I do not wantthe divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished, then touchedmy forehead. Do you have a
fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I
won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I
didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each
other any more. Now I realized that since I carried her into my home
on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until one of us departs
this world.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then
slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove
away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers
for my wife. The sales girl asked me what to write on the card. I
smiled and wrote: I will carry you out every morning until we are old.
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a
relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank
balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for
happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be
your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other
thatbuild a relationship.

Muslim Marriage Stories: Importance of Marriage in IslamSecrets of Happy Married Couples

A man and his fiance were married. It was a large celebration. All of
their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to
partakeof the festivities and celebrations. A wonderfultime was had by
all.
The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was
very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love
they had for each other was true.
A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal:"I
read in a magazine, a while ago, about how wecan strengthen our
marriage." She offered.
"Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit
annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix
them togetherand make our lives happier together."
The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the
house and thought of thethings that annoyed them about the other. They
thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down
what they came up with.
The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would
go over their lists.
"I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many
items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading
the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were
starting to appear in her husbands eyes.
"What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep
reading your list."
The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her
husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands
over top of it.
"Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both
of ourlists." She said happily.
Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think
that you are perfectthe way that you are. I don't want you to change
anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn'twant to
try and change anything about you."
The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth ofhis love for her and
his acceptance of her, turnedher head and wept.
IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed
and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.
We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise.
Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or
annoying things when we can look around us, and see the wondrous
things before us?
I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST when we see and praise the good and try
our best to forego themistakes of our spouse. Nobody's perfect but we
can find perfection in them to change the way we see them. It is
necessary to understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each
other....THAT BRIGHTENS THE RELATIONSHIP.