When Darwin put forward his theory in the middle of the nineteenth
century, he never mentioned how the origin of life, in other words the
first living cell, came to be. Scientists looking for the origin of
life at the beginning of the twentieth century began to realise that
thetheory was invalid. The complex and perfect structure in life
prepared the ground for many researchers to perceive the truthof
creation. Mathematical calculations and scientific experiment and
observation demonstrated that life could notbe the "product of
chance," as the theory of evolution claimed.
With the collapse of the claim that coincidence was responsible and
the realisation that life was "planned," some scientists began to look
for the origin of life in outer space. The best-known of the
scientists who made such claims were Fred Hoyle and Chandra
Wickramasinghe. These two cobbled together a scenario in which they
proposed that there was a force which "seeded" life in space.
According to the scenario, these seeds were carried through the
emptiness of space by gas or dust clouds, or else by an asteroid, and
eventually reached the Earth, and life thus started here.
Nobel Prize-winner Francis Crick, co-discoverer with James Watson of
the double helix structure of DNA, is one of those who has sought the
origin of lifein outer space. Crick came to realise that it is quite
unreasonable to expect life to have started by chance, but he has
claimed instead that life on Earth was started by intelligent
"extraterrestrial" powers.
As we have seen, the idea that life came from outer space has
influenced prominent scientists. The matter is now even discussed in
writings and debates on the origin of life. Theidea of looking for the
origin of life in outer space can be considered from two basic
perspectives.
Scientific inconsistency.
It is not possible for meteors to carry a living organism to Earth
because of the intense heat generated when they enter the atmosphere
and the violence of impact when they land. Above: Alarge meteor crater
in Arizona. Even if we accept there are livingthings in outer space,
it is still impossible to account for their origins in any other way
than through creation.The key to evaluating the "life began in outer
space" thesis lies in studying the meteorites that reached the Earth
and the cloudsof gas and dust existing in space. No evidence has yet
been found to support the claim that celestial bodies contained
non-earthly creatures that eventually seeded life on Earth. No
research that has been carried out so far has revealed any of the
complex macromolecules that appear in life forms.
Furthermore, the substances contained in meteorites do not possess a
certain kind of asymmetry found in the macromolecules that constitute
life. For instance, amino acids, which make up proteins, which are
themselves the basic building blocks of life, should theoretically
occur as both left- and right-handed forms ("optical isomers") in
roughly equal numbers. However, only left-handed amino acids are found
in proteins, whereas this asymmetric distribution does not occur among
the small organic molecules (the carbon-based molecules found in
living things) discovered in meteorites.The latter exist in both left-
and right-handed forms.1
That is by no means the end of the obstacles to the thesis that bodies
and substances in outer space gave rise to life on Earth. Those who
maintain such an idea need to be able to explain why such a process is
not happening now, because the Earth is still being bombarded
bymeteorites. However, study of these meteorites has not revealed any
"seeding" to confirm the thesis in any way.
Another question confronting the defenders of the thesis is this: Even
if it is accepted that life was formed by a consciousness in outer
space, and that it somehow reached Earth, how did the millions of
species on Earth come about? That is a huge dilemma for those who
suggest that life began in space.
Alongside all of these obstacles, no trace has been found in the
universe of a civilisation or life form that could have started life
on Earth. No astronomical observations, which have picked up enormous
speed in the last 30 years, have given any indication of the presence
of such a civilisation.
"GENERAL ARTICLES"
- Tamil -- Urdu -- Kannada -- Telugu --*-
Share
"BISMILLA HIRRAHMAAN NIRRAHEEM"
WELCOME! - AS'SALAMU ALAIKUM!!
******** *****
*****
[All] praise is [due] to Allah, Lord of the worlds; -
Guide us to the straight path
*- -*
* * In this Blog; More Than Ten Thousand(10,000) {Masha Allah} - Most Usefull Articles!, In Various Topics!! :- Read And All Articles & Get Benifite!
* Visit :-
"INDIA "- Time in New Delhi -
*- WHAT ISLAM SAYS -*
-
Islam is a religion of Mercy, Peace and Blessing. Its teachings emphasize kind hear tedness, help, sympathy, forgiveness, sacrifice, love and care.Qur’an, the Shari’ah and the life of our beloved Prophet (SAW) mirrors this attribute, and it should be reflected in the conduct of a Momin.Islam appreciates those who are kind to their fellow being,and dislikes them who are hard hearted, curt, and hypocrite.Recall that historical moment, when Prophet (SAW) entered Makkah as a conqueror. There was before him a multitude of surrendered enemies, former oppressors and persecutors, who had evicted the Muslims from their homes, deprived them of their belongings, humiliated and intimidated Prophet (SAW) hatched schemes for his murder and tortured and killed his companions. But Prophet (SAW) displayed his usual magnanimity, generosity, and kind heartedness by forgiving all of them and declaring general amnesty...Subhanallah. May Allah help us tailor our life according to the teachings of Islam. (Aameen)./-
''HASBUNALLAHU WA NI'MAL WAKEEL''
-
''Allah is Sufficient for us'' + '' All praise is due to Allah. May peace and blessings beupon the Messenger, his household and companions '' (Aameen) | | |
| | |
|
Share
Follow Me | |
**
Share
-
-*- *: ::->
*
Monday, June 24, 2013
COULD LIFE HAVE COMEFROM OUTER SPACE?
DEATH IS NOT EXTINCTION
Death is also one of the issues about which people have
misconceptions. Someone who dies is regarded as simply perishing.
Because they have inadequate information regarding the hereafter, the
eternal life, paradise and hell, people commonly either never believe
in resurrection after death or harbour vague convictions about it.
Consequently, the majority surmise they lose someone for ever when he
or she dies. This is surely a completely bigoted stance. By the time
one is born (once he is brought into the realm of existence by God),
one'seternal life has begun. Like all other moments composing one's
lifetime, death is merely a single moment that one experiences, but,
in reality, that person is still alive. All moments before and after
death and everything pertaining to one's life are preserved without
changing. For instance, after the death of someone people mournand
say, "It is unfortunate that he died; he was so young." However, all
the details of one's life, memories of childhood, birth and family
still exist. They do not fade or become extinct. All experiences are
preserved. Asa requisite of the test in this world, these memories are
simply wiped from one's memory; however, this, is by no means, the
equivalent of their not existing.
In the sight of God, the birth, lifeand death of a man take place and
finish simultaneously. The same reasoning applies to all human beings.
All human beingsare coming into existence and dying right at this
moment. All are being resurrected and being sent to paradise or hell.
Thus, noone dies and nobody is reduced to insignificance; all
individuals are alive for all eternity. Within eternity, man spends
only a portion of his time in the world, and during this period where
he is doomed to go—either paradise or hell— is known. Just at this
moment, some of the people currently living in this world are in
paradise while others are in hell. This fact is stressed in the
Qur'an; in many verses relating to paradise and hell, the life in the
hereafter is referred to in the simple presentor past tense, which
draws one's attention to the fact that all these incidents are taking
place at a single moment:
Truly, the Companions of the Garden that Day have joy in all that they
do; they and their associates are in shady groves, reclining on
Thrones (of dignity).(Surah Ya sin: 55-56)
And those who feared their Lordwere led to the Garden in crowds: until
behold, they arrived there; its gates were opened; and its keepers
said: "Peace be upon you! You have led good lives! Enter Paradise and
dwell in it forever." They said: "Praise be to God, Who has truly
fulfilled His Promise to us, and has given us this land as a heritage:
We can dwell in the Garden as we will: how excellenta reward for the
righteous!" Andyou see the angels surrounding the Divine Throne on all
sides, glorifying their Lord with praise. They are judged with
fairness and all say: "Praise be to God, the Lord of the Worlds!"
(Surat az-Zumar: 73-75)
And the sinful saw the fire and realised they are going to fall into
it and find no way of escaping from it. (Surat al-Kahf: 53)
In human life, another important mystery prevails. While mourning for
someone who has died, people do not consider that they, themselves,
have also died and even been resurrected. The birth and deathof a
person occur simultaneously. Even trivial details about all people's
lives, deaths, resurrections and eternal lives are retained in the
sight of God. In other words, everything is taking place right at this
moment. Death and resurrection are truly not incidents occurring at
distinct times.
People are born in timelessness. Likewise, they die in timelessness,
they are resurrected in timelessness and, as a matter of fact, just at
this moment, they are alive. By the moment God creates man, he becomes
an eternal being. To put it another way, he starts his endless life,
becoming alive for all eternity. Meanwhile, he also witnesses his own
death as a single square. Just as he sees himself alive all through
his life, he witnesses his death, but only on one occasion.
An example will further clarify this subject. In the Qur'an, God
informs us that sleep is also created as a form of death. Thus,every
night one witnesses his death when he goes to sleep and witnesses his
resurrection when he wakes up in the morning. This fact is manifested
in the following verse:
God takes back people's selves when their death arrives and those who
have not yet died, while they are asleep. He keeps hold of those whose
death has been decreed and sends the others back for a specified
term.There are certainly Signs in that for people who reflect. (Surat
az-Zumar: 42)
Hence, man unceasingly witnesses his death and resurrection all
through his life. Similarly, he will also see his realdeath.
Consequently, his birth, death and resurrection as well as his eternal
abode are all known and man is forever alive in the sight of God. All
these incidents have taken place and finished in the sight of God.
Thatis why, death, in the sense that it is commonly understood, is not
a termination or extinction.
Considering these facts, mourning for someone who diesand feeling
sorry for his death sound simply irrational. A young man, a child or a
healthy person who dies does not, after all, perish; each exists in
his best state. In the sight of God, each isalive. This is a clear
indication of God's greatness, which is also stated in the Qur'an:
God, there is no deity except Him, the Living, the Self-Sustaining. He
is not subjectto drowsiness or sleep. Everything in the heavens and
the earth belongs to Him. Who can intercede with Him except by His
permission? He knows what is before them and what isbehind them but
they cannot grasp any of His knowledge savewhat He wills. His
Footstool encompasses the heavens and the earth and their preservation
does not tire Him. He is the Most High, the Magnificent. (Surat
al-Baqarah: 255)
--
- - - - - - - - -
- - ▓███▓ TRANSLATOR 1:->
http://translate.google.com.my/m?sl=auto&tl=en&hl=en ▓███▓ - -
- TRANSLATOR 2 -
http://andrew-lviv.net/en/services/translator/?url=site.ua/ -
- - - -Tamil Translator
[http://translate.google.com.my/m?sl=auto&tl=ta&hl=en ] -
''''''''''"''"' '''''''''''''''''''' ''''''''''"''"' +
'''''''''''''''''''' ''''''''''"''"' '''''''''''''''''''' -
misconceptions. Someone who dies is regarded as simply perishing.
Because they have inadequate information regarding the hereafter, the
eternal life, paradise and hell, people commonly either never believe
in resurrection after death or harbour vague convictions about it.
Consequently, the majority surmise they lose someone for ever when he
or she dies. This is surely a completely bigoted stance. By the time
one is born (once he is brought into the realm of existence by God),
one'seternal life has begun. Like all other moments composing one's
lifetime, death is merely a single moment that one experiences, but,
in reality, that person is still alive. All moments before and after
death and everything pertaining to one's life are preserved without
changing. For instance, after the death of someone people mournand
say, "It is unfortunate that he died; he was so young." However, all
the details of one's life, memories of childhood, birth and family
still exist. They do not fade or become extinct. All experiences are
preserved. Asa requisite of the test in this world, these memories are
simply wiped from one's memory; however, this, is by no means, the
equivalent of their not existing.
In the sight of God, the birth, lifeand death of a man take place and
finish simultaneously. The same reasoning applies to all human beings.
All human beingsare coming into existence and dying right at this
moment. All are being resurrected and being sent to paradise or hell.
Thus, noone dies and nobody is reduced to insignificance; all
individuals are alive for all eternity. Within eternity, man spends
only a portion of his time in the world, and during this period where
he is doomed to go—either paradise or hell— is known. Just at this
moment, some of the people currently living in this world are in
paradise while others are in hell. This fact is stressed in the
Qur'an; in many verses relating to paradise and hell, the life in the
hereafter is referred to in the simple presentor past tense, which
draws one's attention to the fact that all these incidents are taking
place at a single moment:
Truly, the Companions of the Garden that Day have joy in all that they
do; they and their associates are in shady groves, reclining on
Thrones (of dignity).(Surah Ya sin: 55-56)
And those who feared their Lordwere led to the Garden in crowds: until
behold, they arrived there; its gates were opened; and its keepers
said: "Peace be upon you! You have led good lives! Enter Paradise and
dwell in it forever." They said: "Praise be to God, Who has truly
fulfilled His Promise to us, and has given us this land as a heritage:
We can dwell in the Garden as we will: how excellenta reward for the
righteous!" Andyou see the angels surrounding the Divine Throne on all
sides, glorifying their Lord with praise. They are judged with
fairness and all say: "Praise be to God, the Lord of the Worlds!"
(Surat az-Zumar: 73-75)
And the sinful saw the fire and realised they are going to fall into
it and find no way of escaping from it. (Surat al-Kahf: 53)
In human life, another important mystery prevails. While mourning for
someone who has died, people do not consider that they, themselves,
have also died and even been resurrected. The birth and deathof a
person occur simultaneously. Even trivial details about all people's
lives, deaths, resurrections and eternal lives are retained in the
sight of God. In other words, everything is taking place right at this
moment. Death and resurrection are truly not incidents occurring at
distinct times.
People are born in timelessness. Likewise, they die in timelessness,
they are resurrected in timelessness and, as a matter of fact, just at
this moment, they are alive. By the moment God creates man, he becomes
an eternal being. To put it another way, he starts his endless life,
becoming alive for all eternity. Meanwhile, he also witnesses his own
death as a single square. Just as he sees himself alive all through
his life, he witnesses his death, but only on one occasion.
An example will further clarify this subject. In the Qur'an, God
informs us that sleep is also created as a form of death. Thus,every
night one witnesses his death when he goes to sleep and witnesses his
resurrection when he wakes up in the morning. This fact is manifested
in the following verse:
God takes back people's selves when their death arrives and those who
have not yet died, while they are asleep. He keeps hold of those whose
death has been decreed and sends the others back for a specified
term.There are certainly Signs in that for people who reflect. (Surat
az-Zumar: 42)
Hence, man unceasingly witnesses his death and resurrection all
through his life. Similarly, he will also see his realdeath.
Consequently, his birth, death and resurrection as well as his eternal
abode are all known and man is forever alive in the sight of God. All
these incidents have taken place and finished in the sight of God.
Thatis why, death, in the sense that it is commonly understood, is not
a termination or extinction.
Considering these facts, mourning for someone who diesand feeling
sorry for his death sound simply irrational. A young man, a child or a
healthy person who dies does not, after all, perish; each exists in
his best state. In the sight of God, each isalive. This is a clear
indication of God's greatness, which is also stated in the Qur'an:
God, there is no deity except Him, the Living, the Self-Sustaining. He
is not subjectto drowsiness or sleep. Everything in the heavens and
the earth belongs to Him. Who can intercede with Him except by His
permission? He knows what is before them and what isbehind them but
they cannot grasp any of His knowledge savewhat He wills. His
Footstool encompasses the heavens and the earth and their preservation
does not tire Him. He is the Most High, the Magnificent. (Surat
al-Baqarah: 255)
--
- - - - - - - - -
- - ▓███▓ TRANSLATOR 1:->
http://translate.google.com.my/m?sl=auto&tl=en&hl=en ▓███▓ - -
- TRANSLATOR 2 -
http://andrew-lviv.net/en/services/translator/?url=site.ua/ -
- - - -Tamil Translator
[http://translate.google.com.my/m?sl=auto&tl=ta&hl=en ] -
''''''''''"''"' '''''''''''''''''''' ''''''''''"''"' +
'''''''''''''''''''' ''''''''''"''"' '''''''''''''''''''' -
Fathwa, - A Wife's Right to HousingSeparate From Her In-Laws and Others
Question:
I would like to know what the husband's obligations are towards his
wife regarding providing shelter for her. The husband makes his wife
live with his family (in-laws) and makes her share the household
facilities with other members of the family (kitchen, bathroom), and
this is causing a lot of problems for the wife and she does not have
her privacy either. The husband is capable of providing separate
residence and facilitiesbut does not, and the wife is having a
difficult time? Please could you explain according the Hanafi School
how to deal with this problem? I have been told that theHanafi
scholars have dealt with such things and a woman is entitled to a
separate residence where none of in-law live? Is this true?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,
The Shariah has given certain rights to the husband, just as it has
give rights to the wife. Many times, failure to give the spouses their
rights results in conflict and eventually breakdown of Marriage.
These rights, at times, may not go down to wellwith certain people and
cultures. However, it is necessary for us to educate those Muslims who
have been affected by cultural customs and traditions, and inform them
of the injunctions of Shariah.
The benefit of learning and educating the masses about the rules and
injunctions of Shariah with regards to social affairs is that each
party will appreciate what the other has to offer. Subsequently, this
will lead to respect, love and harmony.
For example, it is not necessary upon the wife to cook for or serve
her parents in-law. Now, many people believe thatit is the duty of the
wife to look after not only thehousehold affairs but all the family
members including the nephew, niece, etc... If she is negligent in any
way, then she is rebuked.
However, if the in-laws did not regard this as an incumbent duty of
the wife, and she on her own accord took care of the household work,
then this work will surelybe appreciated. She will also in turn do her
best to give something back in return for this appreciation.
Therefore, it is our duty that we teach the massesand inform them of
the injunctions of Shariah with regards to social affairs. This may be
a Jihad, and one will no doubt face much opposition from culturally
oriented individuals, but the rewards by Allah will be immense Insha
Allah.
Question: The Wife's Right to an Independent 'Shariah House'
Coming to your question,In the Hanafi school, the wife has a right to
live (and demand to live) separately. It is the duty and
responsibility of the husband to provide her with shelter (suknah).
This shelter must, if she demands so, be free from the interference of
any of the husband's family. The responsibilityof the husband will be
fulfilled if the wife is provided with a separatearea within the
house, and where she is able to keep her belongings andwhere none of
the husband's family members are able to enter.
Imam al-Haskafi states inDurr al-Mukhtar:
"It is necessary for the husband to provide the wife with a shelter
(home) that is free from his and her family members…. taking into
consideration both their economic standings. A separate quarter within
the house that has a lock, separate bathroom and kitchen will be
[minimally] sufficient."
The great Imam Ibn Abidin (Allah have mercy on him) comments on this by saying:
"The reason behind al-Haskafi's statement "Free from his family
members" is that at timesit may be harmful for herto share the house
with other people, as her belongings may not be safe. Also, she will
not able to enjoy her husband's company in the presence of other
people".
Regarding al-Haskafi's statement "Separate bathroom and kitchen", this
may defer from one family to another. Poor people who normally share
these things with other families may find itdifficult to provide a
house with a separate bathroom and cooking area. Therefore, for themit
will be sufficient to provide a separate quarter that has a lock"
(Radd al-Muhtar 3/559-600).
Imam al-Kasani states in his Bada'i al-Sana'i:
"It is necessary to provide the wife with shelter as Allah Most High
Says: "Let the women live in the same stile as you live, according to
your means. And annoy them not, so as to restrict them" (al-Talaq, 6).
So what about the other family members?
If the husband desired her to live with his other wife or his family
members, such as: his mum, sister, daughter from another wife or
relatives, and she refused, then it will incumbent upon him to provide
her with a separate living quarter. The reason for this is thatshe may
be harmed in co-sharing, and her refusal is a sign of harm. Also, the
spouses need tofulfill their mutual sexualneeds whenever the need
arises, which may be difficult with others around.
If the husband provided her with a separate quarter in a large home,
which has a separate lock, then she will not have right to demand fora
total separate house" (Kasani, Bada'i al-Sana'i, Vol.4, P.23).
In Conclusion
In conclusion, it is the responsibility of the husband to provide the
wife with shelter. If she demands it to be separate from the husbands
family, then the husband will be obliged to provide a living quarter
which is free from the interference of others and that it has a
separatelock. As far as the bathroom and cooking area is concerned,
this should also be separate if they are not from a poor family
background (as Ibn Abidin mentions in length in his super commentary),
or else the responsibility will be discharged by providing the above.
And Allah knows best
I would like to know what the husband's obligations are towards his
wife regarding providing shelter for her. The husband makes his wife
live with his family (in-laws) and makes her share the household
facilities with other members of the family (kitchen, bathroom), and
this is causing a lot of problems for the wife and she does not have
her privacy either. The husband is capable of providing separate
residence and facilitiesbut does not, and the wife is having a
difficult time? Please could you explain according the Hanafi School
how to deal with this problem? I have been told that theHanafi
scholars have dealt with such things and a woman is entitled to a
separate residence where none of in-law live? Is this true?
Answer:
In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most Merciful,
The Shariah has given certain rights to the husband, just as it has
give rights to the wife. Many times, failure to give the spouses their
rights results in conflict and eventually breakdown of Marriage.
These rights, at times, may not go down to wellwith certain people and
cultures. However, it is necessary for us to educate those Muslims who
have been affected by cultural customs and traditions, and inform them
of the injunctions of Shariah.
The benefit of learning and educating the masses about the rules and
injunctions of Shariah with regards to social affairs is that each
party will appreciate what the other has to offer. Subsequently, this
will lead to respect, love and harmony.
For example, it is not necessary upon the wife to cook for or serve
her parents in-law. Now, many people believe thatit is the duty of the
wife to look after not only thehousehold affairs but all the family
members including the nephew, niece, etc... If she is negligent in any
way, then she is rebuked.
However, if the in-laws did not regard this as an incumbent duty of
the wife, and she on her own accord took care of the household work,
then this work will surelybe appreciated. She will also in turn do her
best to give something back in return for this appreciation.
Therefore, it is our duty that we teach the massesand inform them of
the injunctions of Shariah with regards to social affairs. This may be
a Jihad, and one will no doubt face much opposition from culturally
oriented individuals, but the rewards by Allah will be immense Insha
Allah.
Question: The Wife's Right to an Independent 'Shariah House'
Coming to your question,In the Hanafi school, the wife has a right to
live (and demand to live) separately. It is the duty and
responsibility of the husband to provide her with shelter (suknah).
This shelter must, if she demands so, be free from the interference of
any of the husband's family. The responsibilityof the husband will be
fulfilled if the wife is provided with a separatearea within the
house, and where she is able to keep her belongings andwhere none of
the husband's family members are able to enter.
Imam al-Haskafi states inDurr al-Mukhtar:
"It is necessary for the husband to provide the wife with a shelter
(home) that is free from his and her family members…. taking into
consideration both their economic standings. A separate quarter within
the house that has a lock, separate bathroom and kitchen will be
[minimally] sufficient."
The great Imam Ibn Abidin (Allah have mercy on him) comments on this by saying:
"The reason behind al-Haskafi's statement "Free from his family
members" is that at timesit may be harmful for herto share the house
with other people, as her belongings may not be safe. Also, she will
not able to enjoy her husband's company in the presence of other
people".
Regarding al-Haskafi's statement "Separate bathroom and kitchen", this
may defer from one family to another. Poor people who normally share
these things with other families may find itdifficult to provide a
house with a separate bathroom and cooking area. Therefore, for themit
will be sufficient to provide a separate quarter that has a lock"
(Radd al-Muhtar 3/559-600).
Imam al-Kasani states in his Bada'i al-Sana'i:
"It is necessary to provide the wife with shelter as Allah Most High
Says: "Let the women live in the same stile as you live, according to
your means. And annoy them not, so as to restrict them" (al-Talaq, 6).
So what about the other family members?
If the husband desired her to live with his other wife or his family
members, such as: his mum, sister, daughter from another wife or
relatives, and she refused, then it will incumbent upon him to provide
her with a separate living quarter. The reason for this is thatshe may
be harmed in co-sharing, and her refusal is a sign of harm. Also, the
spouses need tofulfill their mutual sexualneeds whenever the need
arises, which may be difficult with others around.
If the husband provided her with a separate quarter in a large home,
which has a separate lock, then she will not have right to demand fora
total separate house" (Kasani, Bada'i al-Sana'i, Vol.4, P.23).
In Conclusion
In conclusion, it is the responsibility of the husband to provide the
wife with shelter. If she demands it to be separate from the husbands
family, then the husband will be obliged to provide a living quarter
which is free from the interference of others and that it has a
separatelock. As far as the bathroom and cooking area is concerned,
this should also be separate if they are not from a poor family
background (as Ibn Abidin mentions in length in his super commentary),
or else the responsibility will be discharged by providing the above.
And Allah knows best
Fathwa, - My husband doesnt understand my feelings regards to living with his family
Question:
I've been married for 11 months now and and me and my husband are
expectingour first child in April. In general I am very happy with my
husband and i love him very much, the only problem is living with his
family. he has loads of brothers and sisters some are married but they
are always around with their children and their husbands there isn't
much privacy. His mum is constantlymoaning about something or the
other and it is really getting me down and I feel like any day now I'm
goingto have a mental breakdown. the problem is my husband knows how i
feel about living with his family, but his refusing to to do anything
about it. I can't take this anymore. please help me with this problem
and what can i do to make my husband see how im feeling. Im notasking
him to disown his family or anything like that just that i need my own
space.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Dear Sister,
I pray this message finds you well. Congratulationson your pregnancy!
A woman has the right toseparate lodging from her in-laws. At the very
least, your husband is obliged to provide you with a separate living
space, bedroom, bath, and kitchen.
Please communicate your concerns to your husband emphasizing:
1. the importance of fulfilling one's responsibilities towards one's spouse
2. the importance of privacy in building a strong and lasting marriage
3. the importance of having your own space (and some peace and quiet)
when the baby arrives
I pray that you can work out a solution that is to the benefit of all involved.
I've been married for 11 months now and and me and my husband are
expectingour first child in April. In general I am very happy with my
husband and i love him very much, the only problem is living with his
family. he has loads of brothers and sisters some are married but they
are always around with their children and their husbands there isn't
much privacy. His mum is constantlymoaning about something or the
other and it is really getting me down and I feel like any day now I'm
goingto have a mental breakdown. the problem is my husband knows how i
feel about living with his family, but his refusing to to do anything
about it. I can't take this anymore. please help me with this problem
and what can i do to make my husband see how im feeling. Im notasking
him to disown his family or anything like that just that i need my own
space.
Answer:
In the Name of Allah, the Gracious, the Merciful.
Dear Sister,
I pray this message finds you well. Congratulationson your pregnancy!
A woman has the right toseparate lodging from her in-laws. At the very
least, your husband is obliged to provide you with a separate living
space, bedroom, bath, and kitchen.
Please communicate your concerns to your husband emphasizing:
1. the importance of fulfilling one's responsibilities towards one's spouse
2. the importance of privacy in building a strong and lasting marriage
3. the importance of having your own space (and some peace and quiet)
when the baby arrives
I pray that you can work out a solution that is to the benefit of all involved.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)