Fathwa - In divorce, it is the husband's word that counts

Question
salam wallikum ..a divorce saman a person from court came but i was
not at home stating that your husband has sent it, but when i spoke to
my husband he said that he did not sent it and he dose not want to
divorce me, he said it could be his family, but after that I did not
hear from him now he is saying that his affair withbhabhi should
agreed by me or he will marry someone else...i dont want divorce nor
can i adjust this relation ship what shouls i do.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His Slave and Messenger.
Sharee'ah )Islamic law( has made divorce in the husband's hand and
thus he is the one who has theright to divorce his wife. If he denies
divorce and there is no proof that he has actually divorced her,then
the husband's word is taken into account. It isnarrated in the
Masaa'il of ImaamAhmad ibn Hanbalfrom his sonSaalih: "I asked him
)ImaamAhmad( about a woman who claimed thather husband divorced her,
but she does not have evidence while her husband denies it. He said,
"The husband's word must be taken …" ]End quote[
We do not understand what you mean by your saying: "I did not hear
from him", if you mean that he has absented himself from you, then we
say it is not permissible for the husband to be away fromhis wife for
more than sixmonths except with her permission. For more benefit,
please refer to Fatwa 84073.
On the other hand, you did not explain to us the reality of his
relationship with the wife of his brother. If it is a prohibited
relationship, then it is incumbent upon you to rebuke him for that and
it is not permissible to keep silentand accept that he commits that
great sin. If he insists on that, then it is more appropriate for you
to ask for divorce even in return for a compensation. There is no good
for you to remain in marriage with a man who has a sinful relationship
with the wife of his brother.
However, if what is meant is that he respects and reveres her for she
isthe wife of his brother without doing with her anything of what
Allaah The Almighty has prohibited or what may lead to that, then
there isnothing wrong with that and you should not rebuke him for
that.
Allaah Knows best.

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age of clean atomic power, a series ofcatastrophic but entirely
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in the world.
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during shutdown went too far. So, too, in Japan, it was not the
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PHOTO CAPTION
The No.3 nuclear reactor of the Fukushima Daiichi nuclear plant isseen
burning after a blast following an earthquake and tsunami in this
handout satellite image taken March 14, 2011.
Source: Guardian.co.uk

A Daa'iyah, Except in One's Own Family - II

Dear caregivers andDaa'iyahs)callers to Islam( – male and female,
Your role is no less important than that of the other.
Together you bring up your child with a good upbringing -- you and not
anyone else.
First: The role of the father when he is aDaa'iyah:
Dear father, your role is extremely important. You are thehead of the
house; and if your participation is missing, the house will collapse.
A house without a father is like a ship without a leader or a captain.
Dear father, I know well that you do not have enough time to even read
my words. But I beg your pardon: the time that you spend at home is
quite important, otherwise, you would be shockedby a smoking, stealing
or lying child. Here are some practical means to help you play your
role:
1- Daily session with your family:
Fix, say, half an hour everyday to sit with your family members, and
it is better if this is scheduledin the morning, in order to give an
opportunity to all the members of the family to gather together.
Dear caregiver, make this session a daily routine for the entire
family. This session should consist of the following:
-Reciting a short portion of the Noble Quran )five minutes(;
-Read a noble PropheticHadeeth)narration( )five minutes(;
-Introducing to your children a good moral, such as altruism, and it
is better if it is related to the subject of the Quranic Verse and the
PropheticHadeeth)ten minutes(;
-Reciting a short song )Nasheed(: )ten minutes(.
-Having breakfast with your family.
2- The weekly session with your family:
This session is similar to the dailyone, except that it is for two hours.
I suggest that it should entail thefollowing items:
- Recite aRubu')one-eighth a uz( of the Noble Quran withTajweed;
- A portion of IslamicFiqh)Islamicjurisprudence(;
- A section of the Prophetic Seerah )biography(;
- Study the best Names of Allaah;
All this should be done in a style simplified for children.
- To hold a competition of one question in which the children compete
to answer throughout the week;
- To have some dessert during the session;
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, how many sessions do you hold outside the
house in the way of Allaah The Almighty? So, why do you not indulge in
this familial session, for it is the real sustenance of the house?
3- Buy aMus-haf)copy of the Quran( for your son and aHijaabfor your daughter.
4- Do not forget to get your young child to accompany you whenever you
go to perform prayer in theMasjid.
5- Follow up your children in school, and meet their friends; and, at
least once every two weeks, pay a visit to the school inorder to be
briefed on the affairs of your child.
6- Establish an intimate friendship between you and your child, so
that he takes refuge with you if he faces any worrisome matter,
especially during adolescence.
Second: The role of the mother when she is aDaa'iyah:
Dear mother, you are the nurturing ground of such leaders and
conquerors as Muhammad Al-Faatih and Salaah Ad-Deen )Saladin(.
Your role is too important to be neglected. If the father is absent,
you spend all the day with your children. You are more capable
ofkeeping a closer watch on them. You must have a set of practical
means to help you extend your call to your children at home:
1-The sound of the Noble Quran should never stop in your house.
2-Beware of the TV for it corrupts your children. However, there is no
impediment in watching various Islamic satellitechannels like Al-Majd,
Iqra', Al-Fajr, and so on with your children.
3-It is important to engage inDa'wah, provided that it is not atthe
expense of your home and children. In other words, you should not
neglect any of your husband's rights, nor neglect looking after your
child.
4-It is your duty to prepare your children for the daily and weekly
sessions. You have to encourage and prompt them to be interactive in
it.
5-Teach your young daughter to be modest from her early childhood,
through short stories and beautifulNasheeds.
6-Follow up the children in memorizing the Quran, as you spend more
time with them when they study; do that interactively with all your
strength to make your children memorize the Quran.
7-Your small bookcase in the house motivates your children to read:
fill it with useful books and audio/video cassettes.
Dear caregivers andDaa'iyahs,
You know best the different waysofDa'wah, and you are resourceful
aboutDa'wah-relatedideas, programs and methods; sodo not withhold this
source of benefit from your children.

A Daa'iyah, Except in One's Own Family - I

This is how he is and it is clear to everyone.
From the rise of dawn to the fall of night, theDaa'iyah)caller to
Islam( is out of his home, ardently fervent for his religion. He is
eager to do anything to serve the religion of Allaah The Almighty. He
wishes he could change the world. This is his main concern.
That is also the main concern of ourDaa'iyahsister: she is as active
as a bee, moving from one lesson to another, from one circleof
teaching Quran to a gathering ofThikr)remembrance(. She always does
what is good.
But let us raise the following question to you, bothDaa'iyahbrother and sister:
What is the share of your childrenin thisDa'wah)call( to Allaah?
Dear caregiver,
It is true that you spend your time, effort and money in the cause of
Allaah The Almighty, andin the way ofDa'wahto Allaah The Almighty, but
where is the share of your child from that vocation? Dear caregiver,
this factis painful. We see the children of those who abide by Islamic
teachings-- Daa'iyahsand scholars )save those upon whom Allaah The
Almighty has mercy( -- smoking, cursing, abusing, insulting, and
uttering obscene words. They neither pray nor memorize the Quran, nor
even attend gatherings of religious knowledge.
How disastrous it is to see children of theDaa'iyahs, the best of
people, in such a state. It is an amazing contradiction between what
we call for and how we and our children live. This contradiction
deprives us of credibility, displeases Allaah The Almighty, and
contradicts our method which we call others to abide by, that is:"Each
of you is a guardian and responsible for those under his care."
}And warn]O Muhammad[ your closest kindred{]Quran 26:214[ is a clear
method for the leader of the Messengers,.
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, your ideal, the leader ofDaa'iyahs,
Prophet Muhammad,, startedhis call first with his closest kin, in
response to the command of Allaah The Almighty )that means(:}And warn,
]O Muhammad[, your closest kindred.{]Quran 26:214[ One's relative is
the one dearest to us, then, how do we withhold religious advice from
our dearest ones, especially such advice that is the best gift for
every dear one?
Observing the right of kinship and family relations requires
theDaa'iyahto play a great role within his family, kindred and
children. If he indulges in calling them and neglects guiding them,let
him then reconsider whether he is true to his love for them, and be
cautious of incurring the wrath of Allaah The Almighty Who Says in His
Book )what means(:}O you who have believed, protect yourselves and
your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which
are ]appointed[ angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allaah
in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.{]Quran 66:6[
DearDaa'iyah, your role with your family and children is obligatory on
you, but do not care too much about the outcome, for it is your duty
only to warn, lest you would be raisedas being negligent on the Day of
Judgment.
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, put the following verse before you in
which Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}And warn, ]O Muhammad[,
your closest kindred{]Quran 26:214[ To obey the command in this verse,
the Prophet,, suffered a great deal, and was driven out of Makkah, the
dearest of homelands to him.
It is narrated that when the following was revealed:}And warn, ]O
Muhammad[, your closest kindred{]Quran 26:214[ the Messenger of
Allaah,, went out, ascended Mount Safa, and shouted:"O Sabaahah! )be
onyour guard("The people said,"Who is that?"Then they gathered around
him, whereupon he said:"Do you see ifI inform you that cavalrymen are
coming up the side of this mountain, will you believe me?"They
said,"We have never known you to be a liar."Then he said:"I am for you
a warner in the face of severe punishment."On that Abu Lahab said,"May
you be ruined! It is only for this that you have gathered us?"On that
AllaahThe Almighty Revealed )what means(:}May the hands of Abu Lahab
be ruined and ruined is he.{]Quran 111:1[
Nooh )Noah(was aDaa'iyahat home
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, the story of Noohshows clearly how he was
ardently fervent for his son.
Even at the last moment, and after he realized that he would be among
the ruined, Noohtried his best and spared no effort in attempting to
advise and guide him.
Reflect, dear caregiver, on the Quranic Verse )in which Allaah The
Almighty Says what means(:}And it sailed with them through waves like
mountains, and Noah called to his son who was apart ]from them[, "O my
son, come aboard with us and be not with the disbelievers."{]Quran
11:42[
Dear caregiver, guidance is a lifeboat, so, do not ride it alone, but
take care to save your child just as Noohcared to save his son.
How do you engage in guiding allthe people and yet fail to care about
guiding the closest one to you -- your child who is a part of you and
you are part of him? Howdo you regard your child taking refuge with
evil companions, thinking that salvation and prosperity are with them?
Why do you not do like Nooh:}]But[he said, "I will take refuge on a
mountain to protect me from the water." ]Noah[ said, "There is no
protector today from the decree of Allaah, except for whom He gives
mercy." And the waves came between them, and he was among the
drowned.{]Quran 11:43[
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, you have to shoulder your responsibility
towards your child before he goes astray in the oceans of
darkness:}And it was said, "O earth, swallow your water, and O sky,
withhold ]your rain[." And the water subsided, and the matter was
accomplished, and the ship came to rest on the ]mountain of[ Joodiyy.
And it was said, "Away with the wrongdoing people."{]Quran 11:44[
Dear caregiver, you are the disciple of Muhammad,and the grandson of Nooh.
Now, dear caregiver, let us do ourbest to rear our children the way we
should, sparing no time or effort in this respect.

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