A Daa'iyah, Except in One's Own Family - II

Dear caregivers andDaa'iyahs)callers to Islam( – male and female,
Your role is no less important than that of the other.
Together you bring up your child with a good upbringing -- you and not
anyone else.
First: The role of the father when he is aDaa'iyah:
Dear father, your role is extremely important. You are thehead of the
house; and if your participation is missing, the house will collapse.
A house without a father is like a ship without a leader or a captain.
Dear father, I know well that you do not have enough time to even read
my words. But I beg your pardon: the time that you spend at home is
quite important, otherwise, you would be shockedby a smoking, stealing
or lying child. Here are some practical means to help you play your
role:
1- Daily session with your family:
Fix, say, half an hour everyday to sit with your family members, and
it is better if this is scheduledin the morning, in order to give an
opportunity to all the members of the family to gather together.
Dear caregiver, make this session a daily routine for the entire
family. This session should consist of the following:
-Reciting a short portion of the Noble Quran )five minutes(;
-Read a noble PropheticHadeeth)narration( )five minutes(;
-Introducing to your children a good moral, such as altruism, and it
is better if it is related to the subject of the Quranic Verse and the
PropheticHadeeth)ten minutes(;
-Reciting a short song )Nasheed(: )ten minutes(.
-Having breakfast with your family.
2- The weekly session with your family:
This session is similar to the dailyone, except that it is for two hours.
I suggest that it should entail thefollowing items:
- Recite aRubu')one-eighth a uz( of the Noble Quran withTajweed;
- A portion of IslamicFiqh)Islamicjurisprudence(;
- A section of the Prophetic Seerah )biography(;
- Study the best Names of Allaah;
All this should be done in a style simplified for children.
- To hold a competition of one question in which the children compete
to answer throughout the week;
- To have some dessert during the session;
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, how many sessions do you hold outside the
house in the way of Allaah The Almighty? So, why do you not indulge in
this familial session, for it is the real sustenance of the house?
3- Buy aMus-haf)copy of the Quran( for your son and aHijaabfor your daughter.
4- Do not forget to get your young child to accompany you whenever you
go to perform prayer in theMasjid.
5- Follow up your children in school, and meet their friends; and, at
least once every two weeks, pay a visit to the school inorder to be
briefed on the affairs of your child.
6- Establish an intimate friendship between you and your child, so
that he takes refuge with you if he faces any worrisome matter,
especially during adolescence.
Second: The role of the mother when she is aDaa'iyah:
Dear mother, you are the nurturing ground of such leaders and
conquerors as Muhammad Al-Faatih and Salaah Ad-Deen )Saladin(.
Your role is too important to be neglected. If the father is absent,
you spend all the day with your children. You are more capable
ofkeeping a closer watch on them. You must have a set of practical
means to help you extend your call to your children at home:
1-The sound of the Noble Quran should never stop in your house.
2-Beware of the TV for it corrupts your children. However, there is no
impediment in watching various Islamic satellitechannels like Al-Majd,
Iqra', Al-Fajr, and so on with your children.
3-It is important to engage inDa'wah, provided that it is not atthe
expense of your home and children. In other words, you should not
neglect any of your husband's rights, nor neglect looking after your
child.
4-It is your duty to prepare your children for the daily and weekly
sessions. You have to encourage and prompt them to be interactive in
it.
5-Teach your young daughter to be modest from her early childhood,
through short stories and beautifulNasheeds.
6-Follow up the children in memorizing the Quran, as you spend more
time with them when they study; do that interactively with all your
strength to make your children memorize the Quran.
7-Your small bookcase in the house motivates your children to read:
fill it with useful books and audio/video cassettes.
Dear caregivers andDaa'iyahs,
You know best the different waysofDa'wah, and you are resourceful
aboutDa'wah-relatedideas, programs and methods; sodo not withhold this
source of benefit from your children.

A Daa'iyah, Except in One's Own Family - I

This is how he is and it is clear to everyone.
From the rise of dawn to the fall of night, theDaa'iyah)caller to
Islam( is out of his home, ardently fervent for his religion. He is
eager to do anything to serve the religion of Allaah The Almighty. He
wishes he could change the world. This is his main concern.
That is also the main concern of ourDaa'iyahsister: she is as active
as a bee, moving from one lesson to another, from one circleof
teaching Quran to a gathering ofThikr)remembrance(. She always does
what is good.
But let us raise the following question to you, bothDaa'iyahbrother and sister:
What is the share of your childrenin thisDa'wah)call( to Allaah?
Dear caregiver,
It is true that you spend your time, effort and money in the cause of
Allaah The Almighty, andin the way ofDa'wahto Allaah The Almighty, but
where is the share of your child from that vocation? Dear caregiver,
this factis painful. We see the children of those who abide by Islamic
teachings-- Daa'iyahsand scholars )save those upon whom Allaah The
Almighty has mercy( -- smoking, cursing, abusing, insulting, and
uttering obscene words. They neither pray nor memorize the Quran, nor
even attend gatherings of religious knowledge.
How disastrous it is to see children of theDaa'iyahs, the best of
people, in such a state. It is an amazing contradiction between what
we call for and how we and our children live. This contradiction
deprives us of credibility, displeases Allaah The Almighty, and
contradicts our method which we call others to abide by, that is:"Each
of you is a guardian and responsible for those under his care."
}And warn]O Muhammad[ your closest kindred{]Quran 26:214[ is a clear
method for the leader of the Messengers,.
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, your ideal, the leader ofDaa'iyahs,
Prophet Muhammad,, startedhis call first with his closest kin, in
response to the command of Allaah The Almighty )that means(:}And warn,
]O Muhammad[, your closest kindred.{]Quran 26:214[ One's relative is
the one dearest to us, then, how do we withhold religious advice from
our dearest ones, especially such advice that is the best gift for
every dear one?
Observing the right of kinship and family relations requires
theDaa'iyahto play a great role within his family, kindred and
children. If he indulges in calling them and neglects guiding them,let
him then reconsider whether he is true to his love for them, and be
cautious of incurring the wrath of Allaah The Almighty Who Says in His
Book )what means(:}O you who have believed, protect yourselves and
your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which
are ]appointed[ angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allaah
in what He commands them but do what they are commanded.{]Quran 66:6[
DearDaa'iyah, your role with your family and children is obligatory on
you, but do not care too much about the outcome, for it is your duty
only to warn, lest you would be raisedas being negligent on the Day of
Judgment.
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, put the following verse before you in
which Allaah The Almighty Says )what means(:}And warn, ]O Muhammad[,
your closest kindred{]Quran 26:214[ To obey the command in this verse,
the Prophet,, suffered a great deal, and was driven out of Makkah, the
dearest of homelands to him.
It is narrated that when the following was revealed:}And warn, ]O
Muhammad[, your closest kindred{]Quran 26:214[ the Messenger of
Allaah,, went out, ascended Mount Safa, and shouted:"O Sabaahah! )be
onyour guard("The people said,"Who is that?"Then they gathered around
him, whereupon he said:"Do you see ifI inform you that cavalrymen are
coming up the side of this mountain, will you believe me?"They
said,"We have never known you to be a liar."Then he said:"I am for you
a warner in the face of severe punishment."On that Abu Lahab said,"May
you be ruined! It is only for this that you have gathered us?"On that
AllaahThe Almighty Revealed )what means(:}May the hands of Abu Lahab
be ruined and ruined is he.{]Quran 111:1[
Nooh )Noah(was aDaa'iyahat home
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, the story of Noohshows clearly how he was
ardently fervent for his son.
Even at the last moment, and after he realized that he would be among
the ruined, Noohtried his best and spared no effort in attempting to
advise and guide him.
Reflect, dear caregiver, on the Quranic Verse )in which Allaah The
Almighty Says what means(:}And it sailed with them through waves like
mountains, and Noah called to his son who was apart ]from them[, "O my
son, come aboard with us and be not with the disbelievers."{]Quran
11:42[
Dear caregiver, guidance is a lifeboat, so, do not ride it alone, but
take care to save your child just as Noohcared to save his son.
How do you engage in guiding allthe people and yet fail to care about
guiding the closest one to you -- your child who is a part of you and
you are part of him? Howdo you regard your child taking refuge with
evil companions, thinking that salvation and prosperity are with them?
Why do you not do like Nooh:}]But[he said, "I will take refuge on a
mountain to protect me from the water." ]Noah[ said, "There is no
protector today from the decree of Allaah, except for whom He gives
mercy." And the waves came between them, and he was among the
drowned.{]Quran 11:43[
Dear caregiver andDaa'iyah, you have to shoulder your responsibility
towards your child before he goes astray in the oceans of
darkness:}And it was said, "O earth, swallow your water, and O sky,
withhold ]your rain[." And the water subsided, and the matter was
accomplished, and the ship came to rest on the ]mountain of[ Joodiyy.
And it was said, "Away with the wrongdoing people."{]Quran 11:44[
Dear caregiver, you are the disciple of Muhammad,and the grandson of Nooh.
Now, dear caregiver, let us do ourbest to rear our children the way we
should, sparing no time or effort in this respect.

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Dought - clear - What are the questions that a person will be asked on the Day of Resurrection? .

Could u please tell us relating the 'Day of judgement' it's
tortures,the questions that wud be asked.
Praise be to Allaah.
It is proven in the Qur'aan and Sunnah thatwhen a person dies, he will
be called to account for every major and minor action he did in this
world, whether it was good or bad. He willbe rewarded for his good
deeds and punished for his bad deeds. The first stage of that
reckoning is in the grave. In the grave the first thing a person will
be asked will be: Who was your Lord? What is your religion? Who is
this man who was sent amongst you? – as was narrated in the hadeeth of
al-Baraa' ibn 'Aazib )may Allaah be pleased with him(, which was
narrated by Abu Dawoodin his Sunan )4753( and classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood, 2979.
Then on the Day of Resurrection he will be brought to account for
every major and minor action, even though he has already been brought
to account for that in the grave. The first thing for which he will be
brought to account for then will be his prayer.
It was narrated from AbuHurayrah that the Prophet )peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him( said: "The first thing among their deeds for
which the people will be brought to account on the Day of Resurrection
will be prayer. Our Lord will say to His angels, although He knows
best, 'Look at My slave's prayer, is it complete or lacking?' If it is
complete, it will be recorded as complete, but if it is lacking, He
willsay, 'Look and see whether my slave did any voluntary )naafil(
prayers.' If he had done voluntary prayers, He will say, 'Complete the
obligatory prayers of My slave from his voluntary prayers.' Then the
rest ofhis deeds will be examined in a similar manner."
)Narrated by Abu Dawood, 864; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Saheeh Abi Dawood, 770(.
On the Day of Resurrection, people willbe asked about other matters,
including the following:
It was narrated from Ibn Mas'ood )may Allaah be pleased with him( that
the Prophet )peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him( said: "The
sonof Adam will not be dismissed from before his Lord on the Day of
Resurrection until he hasbeen questioned about five things: his life
and how he spent it, his youth and how he used it, his wealth and how
he earned it and how hedisposed of it, and how he acted upon what he
acquired of knowledge."
)Narrated by al-Tirmidhi,2422; classed as hasan byal-Albaani in Saheeh
al-Tirmidhi, 1969(
And the nations will be asked on the Day of Resurrection:
"What answer gave you to the Messengers?"
]al-Qasas 28:65 – interpretation of the meaning[
These are some of the things about which people will be asked on the
Day of Resurrection. So the wise person who is keen to save himself
should prepare answers to these questions. We ask Allaah to guide us
to the straight path.
And Allaah knows best.

Dought - clear - The fate of kuffaar who did not hear the message of Islam.

Someone has asked me this question )she is about to
become a muslimah(. Her statement: 'A lot of others will never meet a
Muslim in person. Will they be held responsible for their ignorance?
What exactly does this mean: "After the revelation of the Quran who
ever receives this message & does not abide by it is a non-believer"?
i. Who is considered to have received the message?
ii. Isn't it possible for people to have not received the message even
though the Quran is in existence?'
Praise be to Allaah.
It is part of the justice of Allaah that He does not punish any people
until He has first sent a warning to them and unless there is evidence
against them. Allaah does not treat anybody unfairly. Allaah says
)interpretation of the meaning(: "… And We never punish until We have
sent a Messenger )to give warning(." ]al-Israa' 17:15[.
In his tafseer )commentary( on this aayah, Ibn Katheer )may Allaah
have mercy on him( said: "These words, '…And We never punish until We
have sent a Messenger )to give warning(' tell us of the justice of
Allaah, may He be exalted, and that He does not punish anyone until
after He has established evidence against him by sending aMessenger to
him. This islike the aayat )interpretation of the meaning(: '… Every
time a group is cast therein ]into Hell[, its keeper will ask, "Did no
warner come to you?" They will say, "Yes indeed; a warner did come to
us, but we belied him and said: 'Allaah never sent down anything )of
revelation(, you are only in great error.'"' ]al-Mulk67:8[ and: 'And
those who disbelieved will be driven to Hell in groups, till, when
they reach it, the gates thereof will be opened )suddenly like a
prison at the arrival of its prisoners(. And its keepers will say,
"Did not the Messengers come to you from yourselves, - reciting to you
the Verses of your Lord, and warning you of the Meeting of this Day of
yours?" They will say: "Yes, but the Word of torment has been
justified against the disbelievers!"' ]al-Zumar 39:71[…"
A person who has never heard of Islam or the Prophet SAWS )peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him(, and who has never heard the message
in its correct and true form, will not be punished by Allaah if he
dies in a state of kufr )disbelief(. If it were asked what his fate
will be, the answer will be that Allaah will test him on the Day of
Resurrection: if he obeys, he will enter Paradise and if he disobeys
he will enter Hell. The evidence )daleel( for this is the hadeeth of
al-Aswad ibn Saree', who reported that the Prophet of Allaah SAWS
)peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him( said: "There are four )who
will protest( to Allaah on the Day of Resurrection: the deaf man who
never heard anything, the insane man, the very old man, and the man
who died during the fatrah )the interval between the time of 'Eesaa
)Jesus, upon whom be peace( and the time of Muhammad SAWS )peaceand
blessings of Allaah be upon him((. The deaf man will say, 'O Lord,
Islam came but I never heard anything.' The insane man will say, 'O
Lord, Islam came but the children ran after me and threw stones at
me.'The very old man will say, 'O Lord, Islam came but I did not
understand anything.' The man who died during the fatrah will say, 'O
Lord, no Messenger from You came to me.' He will accept their promises
of obedience, then word will be sent to them to enter the Fire. By the
One in Whose hand is the soul of Muhammad, if they enter it, it will
be cool and safe for them."
According to another report, he said: "Whoever enters it, it will be
cool and safe for him, and whoever does not enter it will be dragged
to it." )The hadeeth was reported by Imaam Ahmad and Ibn Hibbaan, and
deemed saheeh by al-Albaani, Saheeh al-Jaami', 881(.
Everyone who hears the message of Islam in a sound and correct form
)and rejects it(, will have evidence aginst him. Whoever dies without
having heard the message, or having heard it in a distorted form, then
his case is in the hands of Allaah. Allaah knows best about His
creation, and He will never treat anyone unfairly. And Allaah is
All-Seer of His slaves.