Fathwa, - Giving a worldly exampleabout Allaah is not Kufr

Question
Asalam-o-Alaikum: I am facing severe anxiety anddepression these days.
My problem is that during regular religious discussion with my wife I
was telling her that a lot of people say that non-muslims in western
countries can become much better muslim then us only if they recite
Kalma. I was telling her that one should not say itbecause they don't
accept core Islamic concept i.e. "There is no god but Allah, and
Muhammad is the messenger of Allah." During discussion I gave her
following example: "Lets suppose there is one father and son. The son
refuses to acknowledge his father i.e. he is saying: you are not my
father and I don't believe in it that you are my father but I will be
good to you – but you are not my father." Then Isaid: "now will the
fathercare about his son's rest of acts when he is openlydenying that
he is his father". No I am worried that I have done Kufr by giving an
example of human being while discussing mater of Allah.I did not
intend to compare Allah to His creation. But as soon as I finished
talking I becomeworried that I have done Kufr and because of that my
marriage is now also void. Can you please guide me? I have already
repent so many times. If I indeed have done Kufr then what is ruling
regarding it and marrying again. Kashif
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His Slave and Messenger.
Examples are given to bring the meaning closer to people's minds. They
do not necessarily indicate similarity in all aspects. If someone
gives an example from the real life of the creatures to bring a matter
related to the Creator closer to minds, then this does not mean that
it indicates drawing a similarity between the Creator and the
creatures. The Quran includes some such examples:
Ibn Abi ShaybahreportedthatMujaahidsaid regarding the saying of Allaah
The Almighty )which means(: }Allaah presents an example: a slave ]who
is[ owned andunable to do a thing and he to whom We have provided from
Us good provision, so he spends from it secretly and publicly. Can
they be equal? Praise to Allaah! But most of them do not know. And
Allaah presents an example of two men, one of them dumb and unable to
do athing, while he is a burden to his guardian. Wherever he directs
him, he brings no good. Is he equal to one who commands justice, while
he is on a straight path?{ ]Quran 16: 75-76[, "All this is an example
given of the idol and the True God."
Qataadahalso said regarding the saying of Allaah The Almighty )which
means(: "One of them dumb", "It means the idol." As for the saying of
Allaah The Almighty )which means(: "Is he equal to one who commands
justice", he said: "It means Allaah." ]'Abdur-Razzaaq[
Thus, the matter is not problematic at all. Hence, you are still
Muslim and your wife is still in marriage with you. Do not worry and
forget about those evil thoughts, and think about what can be
beneficial for you in yourreligion and worldly life.
Allaah Knows best./- - - - Tuesday, June 18, 2013
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Fathwa, - Explanation of swearing by other than Allaah in some Ahaadeeth

Question
assalamu alaykum.dear sheikh,may Allah reward you.what is the correct
explanation of the hadithin which the prophet said ) by his father he
would be succesful if he were truthful( transmitedby muslim.it was
also recorded in musnad vol.5page 225 that the prophet said)i swear by
my life commanding good and forbiding evil is better than keeping
silent(.while it is haram to swear with any being except Allah
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that
MuhammadisHis slave and Messenger.
It is confirmed in the authentic Sunnah that it is forbidden to swear
by other than Allaah. As regards what you mentioned, it is to be
interpreted in a correct way which is in conformity with the
aforementioned.
In regard to the first Hadeeth,Ibn Hajarsaid in his interpretation of
SaheehAl-Bukhaari: "If one asks how to reconcile between this and the
prohibition of swearing by other than Allaah, then the answer isthat
this was before being prohibited or that it is a word that one utters
out of habit while not intending to swear, like what the Arabs used to
say 'Aqra Halqa )may you be wounded and your head shorn( and thelike,
or that there is an omission of the phrase "the Lord of"; it is as if
one says 'By the Lord of his father…', and it was also said that this
is a specific case and needs evidence.…..However, thestrongest answers
are the first two."
As regards the other Ahaadeeth where the expression 'by my life' is
mentioned, then Mulla'Ali Al-Qaarisaid in Mirqaat Al-Mafaateeh: "If
one asked: 'how would I swear by other than the Name of Allaah and His
Attributes', we would say:'This does not mean to swear, but this is
something which he )the Prophet( uttered according to their )the
Arabs'( habit."
Similarily,Shaykh 'Abdul-Muhsin Al-'Abbaadsaid inhis interpretation of
SunanAbu Daawood: "'By my life' is not swearing; rather, it is an
expression to emphasize one's statement; so one utters it to emphasize
his statement, similar to his saying: 'no doubt' or 'verily' and other
expressions by which onestresses a statement, and it is not swearing
at all. Itis mentioned in the Hadeeth of the Prophetand the statements
of the Companionsand itwas also mentioned in the statements of the
Taabi'is after them.
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Fathwa, - He lost hope in finding a good wife

Question
Salamu alaykum. I am 22 years now and I was brought up in the West. I
have needed a wife for 10 years now as there is so much fitnah in the
Western societies. I hate the process of finding a wife because I
never findanyone suitable or if I getin touch with someone suitable
)not directly obviously(, the process takes so long time and they say
that they are notready or similar things soI have to drop it. I feel
the pain in my whole body and especially in myheart every single day
because I do not have a wife. I am financially able, I have a degree
andafter taking my degree I moved to the Islamic world for studying
Islam. But I am not able to focusor do anything rightly because my
body and soul deeply hurts me and I suffer from depression because I
am not married. I have tried through websites and through people I
know, and my parents cannot really help me either. Theonly problem is
the pain Ifeel, I do not know if I amable to live much longer.
Sometimes I feel like I will just fall apart or evendie very soon
because I am not married and cannot handle it anymore. Now I am
thinking that I should maybe just wait for Jannah because there I can
have a wife without going through all the suffering of finding a wife.
Should I just forget about finding a wife in this dunyah and just
waitfor my wife in Jannah? This will be extremely painful for me until
I die, but I feel this maybe is the only option. Please advice me.
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad,
is His Slave and Messenger.
Allaah The Almighty has prescribed and encouraged marriage, and spoken
of its high status. So did the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allaah.
Allaah The Almighty says )what means(: }And marry the unmarried among
you and the righteous among your male slaves and female slaves. If
they should be poor, Allaah will enrich them from His bounty, and
Allaah is All-Encompassing and Knowing.{ ]Quran 24:32[
Also,Anasnarrated that the Messenger of Allaah, said: "And I marry
women. Whoever overlooks my Sunnah does not belong to me."
]Al-Bukhaari and Muslim[
Scholars have pointed out the benefits of marriage. Az-Zaad )a book of
the Hanbali School of jurisprudence( reads: "Marriage is more
preferable than voluntary acts of worshipif one is under the pressure
of sexual desire."Al Buhootiexpained this statement in his Ar-Rawdh
Al-Murbi' saying: "For it contains many benefits such as guarding
chastity of man and woman, getting progeny and increasing the Ummah
)Muslim nation(." ]End quote[
Marriage is one of the means that help reforming one's religion,
getting rewards and entering Paradise.Abu Hurayrahnarrated that the
Messenger of Allaah, said: "When a man dies, all his deeds come to an
end except for three – an ongoing charity, beneficial knowledge or a
righteous son who will pray for him." ]Muslim[
Moreover, marriage may be compulsory for one who fears committing Zina
)adultery or fornication(. In any case, a Muslim should not neglect it
while he is financially and physically able. Accordingly, you should
know that you arenot required to - not to mention you are not
obligated to - give up looking for a wife in this worldly life and to
wait for a wife in Paradise.
We have previously pointed out the ways to find a good wife, kindly
refer to Fataawa 85573, 85082and 193859. We advise you not to
despairof getting what you seek,but we warn against going extreme
regardingthe characteristic of the wife you seek for, lest you will
waste your lifetime in vain.
Finally, we advise you to seek the help of Allaah, and do not feel
helpless. Rather, search for the means that can help youraim, like
having righteous friends who can help you regarding the matters of
religion and worldly life; especially, it seems that you need much
psychological support and you need those who can stand beside you so
that you may achieve your aims.

Allaah Knows best.

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The significance of obedience to parents

Islam builds a family in which prevails mutual respect and care.
Parents and children in Islam are bound together by mutual obligations
and reciprocal arrangements. Allaah Says )what means(:"…No mother
should be harmed through her child, and no father through his
child…"]Quran 2: 233[
The Quran has made it compulsory for the child to treat his parents
with all goodness and mercy.
Every Muslim must show goodness and mercy to his parents throughout
their lives. There is only one exception to this, and that is, if the
parents ask their children to associate anything with Allaah and to
commit sins, then the children must not obey their parents. In all
cases, the children must show love and gratitude to their parents.
They must always speak to them gently and respectfully. They must try
their best to make them happy, provided they do not disobey Allaah in
the process.
Allaah says )what means(:"But if they )both( strive with you to make
you join in worship with me others of which you have no knowledge,
then obey them not; but behave with them in the world kindly…"]Quran
31:15[
Being patient and tolerant with parents:
The children must take great care not to react to what their parents
have to say. If they say or do anything which is not liked or approved
of by the children, then they must show patience and tolerance instead
of giving vent to their anger. The children must scrupulously try to
refrain from disobeying their parents since the Prophetregarded this
as one of the grave sins.
Supplicating for them:
Far from showing signs of displeasure, the children must pray for them
saying, as Allaah teaches us in the verse )which means(:"…My Lord and
Sustainer! Be kind and have mercy on them as they cherished,nurtured
and sustained me in childhood."]Quran 17: 24[
We must continue praying for them even after they die. Such prayer
will be regarded as a continuous charity asthe Prophet, sallallaahu
alayhi wa salllam, told us.
The greater right of the mother:
The children must be kinder and more gratefulto their mothers since
they took greater pains in their upbringing. That is why the
Prophetemphasized that it is the mother who has the first claim on the
child's care and attention.
Once a companionasked the Prophetas to whom he should showmore
kindness. The Prophetreplied:"Your mother."Heasked who comes next and
the Prophetagain replied:"Your mother."Heasked the Prophetyet again
who comes next. The Prophetreplied:"Your mother."When the
companionasked for the fourth time, only then did the
Prophetreply:"Your father."
Recognizing their great status:
The Muslim should recognize the status of the parent and know his
duties towards them. Thestatus of parents in Islam is a status which
mankind had not known before. Allaah Has placed the respect for the
parents just one step below the belief in Allaahand true worship of
Him.
Allaah says )what means(:"And your Lord has decreed that you not
worship except Him, and to parents, good treatment. Whether one or
both of them reach old age ]while[ with you, say not to them ]so much
as[, "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble
word."]Quran 17: 23[
The Prophetplaced kindness and respect towards parents just after the
prayer offered on time as the prayer is the foundation of Islam.
'Abdullaah Ibn Mas'oodsaid: "I asked the Prophetwhich deed is most
liked by Allaah? Hesaid: 'Prayer offered on time.'I asked him: 'Then
what? Hesaid: 'Kindnessand respect towards parents.'…"]Al-Bukhaari and
Muslim[
Knowing the duties towards them:
It is also the duty of the child to provide for his parents, if he is
able to do so. The Quran sums upthe whole matter in a master concept
called Ihsaan, which denotes what is right, good and beautiful )i.e.
showing tothem kindness, compassion, gratitude, reverence and respect,
praying for them and supporting them financially if they are in need.(
Concluding, we mention a verse that shows the significance of
obedienceand gratitude due to parents: Allaah says )what means(:"And
We have enjoined upon man ]care[ for his parents. His mother carried
him, ]increasing her[ in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in
two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the ]final[
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