Praised Manners - Ruling on disputes and the virtue of reconciling between two disputing parties.

In our class we have twoclassmates who were not speaking to one
another during Ramadaan, and they have been like that for a long time.
My relationship with them isnot strong, but I want to reconcile
between them so that I may attain the reward of reconciling between
people, and I want a letter that I can write to them, but I am afraid
of dealing with them face to face. I hopethat my letter will earn your
attention.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
What you are keen to dois one of the noblest of attitudes.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"So fear Allaah and adjust all matters of difference among you, and
obey Allaah and His Messenger (Muhammad),if you are believers"
[al-Anfaal 8:1]
"There is no good in most of their secret talks save (in) him who
ordersSadaqah (charity in Allaah's Cause), or Ma'roof (Islamic
Monotheism and all the good and righteous deeds which Allaah has
ordained), or conciliation between mankind; and he who does this,
seeking the good Pleasure of Allaah, We shall give him a great reward"
[al-Nisa' 4:114]
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told us that
reconciling between people is better than observing voluntary fasts,
offering voluntary prayers and giving voluntary charity.
It was narrated that Abu'l-Darda' (may Allaah be pleased with him)
said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: "Shall I not tell you something that is better than the
status of (voluntary) fasting, prayer and charity?" They said: "Yes."
He said: "Reconciling in a case of discord, for the evil of discord is
the shaver." Al-Tirmidhi said: It was narrated that the Prophet (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "It is the shaver, and I do
not say that it shaves hair, but that it shaves (i.e., destroys)
religious commitment."
Narrated by Abu Dawood, 4273; al-Tirmidhi, 2433. classedas hasan by
al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Tirmidhi.
Islam has permitted telling lies in order to achieve this great
purpose. So it is permissible for you to tell each party that the
other has said good things about them and praised them so as to
encourage reconciliation. This does not come under the heading of lies
that are haraam.
It was narrated from Umm Kalthoom bint 'Uqbah ibn Abi Mu'eet that she
heard the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) say: "He is not a liar who seeks to reconcile between people and
says good things." Narrated by al-Bukhaari,2490
Secondly:
For Muslims to forsake one another is a haraam action. You can remind
both parties of the texts which indicate that. These include the
following:
From the Holy Qur'aan:
(a) The verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And obey Allaah and HisMessenger, and do not dispute (with one
another) lest you lose courage and your strength departs, and
bepatient. Surely, Allaah is with those who are As‑Saabiroon (the
patient)"
[al-Anfaal 8:46]
(b) The verse in which Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope of Allaah (i.e. this
Qur'aan), and be not divided among yourselves, and remember Allaah's
Favour on you, for you were enemies one to another but He joined your
hearts together, so that, by His Grace, you became brethren (in
Islamic Faith), and you were on the brink of a pit of Fire, and He
saved you from it. Thus Allaah makes His Ayaat (proofs, evidences,
verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.,) clear toyou, that you may
be guided"
[Aal 'Imraan 3:103]
From the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him):
(a) It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with
him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: "Do not hate one another, do not envy one another, do not
turnaway from one another. Be, O slaves of Allaah, brothers. It is not
permissible for a Muslim to forsake his brother for more than three
days."
(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6065; Muslim, 2559.
(b) It was narrated thatAbu Ayyoob al-Ansaari (may Allaah be
pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be
upon him) said: "It is notpermissible for a Muslim to forsake his
brother for more than three days, each of them turning away when
theymeet. The better of themis the one who gives the greeting of
salaam first."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari,2757; Muslim, 2560.
(c) It was narrated thatAbu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with
him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: "The gates of Paradise are opened on Monday and Thursday, and
everyone who does not associate anything with Allaah is forgiven,
except a man who has had an argument with his brother. It is said:
'Wait for these two until they reconcile, wait for these two until
they reconcile, wait for these two until they reconcile." Narrated by
Muslim, 2565.
Al-Nawawi said: "Wait for these two" means wait until they have
reconciled and love has been restored between them.
(d) It was narrated from Abu Kharaash al-Sulami that he heard the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say:
"Whoever forsakes his brother for a year, it is as if he has shed his
blood." Narrated by Abu Dawood, 4915. Classed assaheeh by al-Albaani
in Saheeh al-Targheeb, 2762.
These texts indicate that it is forbidden for a Muslim to forsake his
brother by not greeting him with salaam and by turning away from him
for more than three days, so long as that forsaking is not for a
shar'i reason and is not being done in order to achieve some purpose,
in which case it is permissible to forsake him for more than three
days.
See also question no. 21878
You have to remind these two disputing parties of these verses and
ahaadeeth. Try to reconcile their points of view, and encourage them
to forget their differences. You could address each of them directly,
or you could write these texts on a piece of paper and give it to them
to read.
We ask Allaah to help you to do that which is good.
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Praised Manners - Worshipping Allaah when young, and do thedevils try to gain power over a person who worships Allaah a lot?.

Iam young and like woshipping Allah After 12 in the midnite especially
when fasting but some ppl told me that when sombody prays alot or
worships Alllah alot then the jinn nd the shaitan tries to stop him is
this true? another question is that when young ppl worship Allah in
the youth it is like gold for them i would be very happy if u can tell
me more about it .
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We are very happy to learn of this good example of Muslim youth.
Whilst other youngsters think only of play and entertainment, and
spending their time in things that are of no benefit, along comes
thisgood example of Muslim youth who loves to worship Allaah, seek
knowledge, call others to Allaah and strive to learn the Qur'aan and
Sunnah. We congratulate you and pray that Allaah will make you
steadfast in adhering to His religion and will protect you and make
you a joy to your parents.
You should note that when the Shaytaan sees a person turning towards
his Lord, he tries to stop him. The Shaytaan has sworn to undertake
this evil mission, but Allaah tells us that he has no power over His
sincere slaves.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"[Iblees (Satan)] said: 'O my Lord! Because You misled me, I shall
indeed adorn the path of error for them (mankind) on the earth, and I
shall mislead them all.
40. 'Except Your chosen, (guided) slaves among them.'
41. (Allaah) said: 'This is the Way which will lead straight to Me.'
42. 'Certainly, you shall have no authority over My slaves, except
those who follow you of the Ghaawoon (Mushrikoon and those who go
astray, criminals, polytheists, and evildoers)'"
[al-Hijr 15:39-42]
It should be noted that the Shaytaan can do no more than call people
to misguidance and make it look attractive to them. He has no power
over them to force them to do what he wants. So blame is attached only
tothose who respond to him.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And Shaytaan (Satan) will say when the matterhas been decided:
'Verily, Allaah promised you a promise of truth. And I too promised
you, but I betrayed you. I hadno authority over you except that I
called you, and you responded to me. So blame me not, but blame
yourselves. I cannot help you, nor canyou help me. I deny yourformer
act in associatingme (Satan) as a partner with Allaah (by obeying me
in the life of the world). Verily, there is a painful torment for the
Zaalimoon (polytheists and wrongdoers)'"
[Ibraaheem 14:22]
Worshipping and obeying Allaah impedes the tricks and whispers of the
Shaytaan, and remembrance of Allaah (dhikr) is a strong fortress by
means of which Allaah protects the one who remembersHim from the plots
and wiles of the Shaytaan.
It was narrated from Anas ibn Maalik that the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "When aman leaves his house and
says, 'Bismillaah, tawakkaltu 'ala Allaah wa laa hawla wa laa quwwata
illa Billaah (In the name of Allaah, I put my trust in Allaah, and
there is no power and not strength except withAllaah), it is said:
'You have been guided, takencare of and protected,' and the devils
turn awayfrom him. And another devil says to him: 'What you can do
with a man who has been guided, taken care of and protected?'"
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3423; Abu Dawood, 5095; classed as saheeh by
al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
The Shaytaan has no power over a heart that knows Allaah, or over
physical faculties that have submitted to Allaahby doing acts of
worshipand obedience and by avoiding sin. The light ofobedience burns
the devils as the shooting stars burn their brethren.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Worship and obedience illuminate the heart and make it strong and
steadfast, until it becomes like a clear mirror, shining with light.
When the Shaytaan draws close, heis struck by its light like those who
try to eavesdrop (in the heavens) are struck by the shooting stars,
and the Shaytaan flees from this heart with more terror than a wolf
fleeing from a lion. End quote.
Al-Jawaab al-Kaafi, p. 64
Secondly:
Worshipping Allaah in one's youth is a sign thata person is good. The
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) spoke of the great
virtue of a young man who grows up worshipping and obeying Allaah, and
said that he will be shaded by Allaah on the Day of Resurrection, the
Day when the sun will be directly over the heads of the people.
It was narrated from AbuHurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that
the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "There
are seven whom Allaah will shade with His shade on the Day when there
will be no shade but His…" among whom he mentioned, "a young man who
grew up worshipping Allaah." Narrated by al-Bukhaari,1423; Muslim,
1031.
Whoever keeps his physical faculties away from sin when he is young,
Allaah will protect him when he gets older. The Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) saidto Ibn 'Abbaas when he was a
young boy: "Be mindful of Allaah and He will take care of you."
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 2516; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
Ibn Rajab al-Hanbali (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Whoever is mindful of Allaah when he is young and strong, Allaah will
take care of him when he is old and has become weak, and will bless
him with good hearing, eyesight, strength and reasoning. One of the
scholars who lived beyond the age of one hundred years and enjoyed
good strength and reasoning, jumped up in a lively manner one day and
was asked about that. He said: "I kept these physical faculties from
sin when Iwas young and Allaah has preserved them for me now that I am
old." The opposite also applies; one of the salaf saw an old man
beggingfrom people and said: "This is a weak man whoignored Allaah
when he was young, so Allaah is ignoring him now he has grown old."
End quote.
Jaami' al-'Uloom wa'l-Hukam, 1/186
So seek the help of Allaah in obeying Him and ask Him for more of His
bounty, and do not let anyone discourage you from following this path.
Beware of the devils among mankind and the jinn. We ask Allaah to help
you to remember Him and give thanks to Him and worship Him properly.
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Praised Manners - Will a woman be rewarded for her work in the home even if she does not intend to seek reward?.

If a woman works in her house without intendingto seek reward for her
work with Allaah, will she be rewarded for her work or not?.
Praise be to Allaah.
A woman's work in the home is important work in which she helps to
spread love and mercy inher home, and she plays a major role in
raising her children and helps her husband in his work,da'wah and
pursuit of knowledge.
In this regard, this work is like all other kinds of work: a woman
will not be rewarded for it unless her intention in doing it is
sincerely for the sake of Allaah alone.
There follow some texts which support this view,as well as some of the
comments of the scholars.
1 – al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) included in Kitaab
al-Eemaan (the Book of Faith) a chapter in whichhe listed shar'i
duties, which included seeking reward for doing them.
Al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
"Chapter: what was narrated about actions being but by intentions, and
every person will have but that which he intended. This includes
faith, wudoo', prayer, zakaah, Hajj, fasting and other rulings. Allaah
says(interpretation of the meaning): "Each one does according to
Shakilatihi (i.e. his way or his religion or his intentions)"
[al-Isra' 17:84]. A man may seek the reward of charity forhis spending
on his family. And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: "But jihad and good intentions."
Saheeh al-Bukhaari (1/29), Kitaab al-Eemaan.
Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The words "Chapter: what has been narrated…" mean: a chapter which
explains what has been narrated as evidence that shar'i actions are
judged according to intention.
Fath al-Baari (1/135, 136)
2 – It was narrated that Abu Mas'ood al-Badri (may Allaah be pleased
with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: "If a Muslim spends on his family, seeking reward for that
with Allaah, thenit will an act of charity on his part." Narrated
byal-Bukhaari (55), Muslim (1002).
Spending on his wife and children is a man's shar'i duty, but he will
not be rewarded for it unless he seeks reward thereby.
Al-Qurtubi said:
The apparent meaning isthat the reward for spending on them can only
be attained by intending to draw closerto Allaah, whether it is
obligatory or permissible, and this implies that whoever does not
intend to draw closer to Allaah will not be rewarded, but he has
discharged his duty in the case of obligatory spending.
Fath al-Baari (1/136)
Ibn Hajar said:
It may be understood from this that the reward cannot be attained by
doing the deed unless it is also accompanied by the intention.
Al-Tabari said: spending on one's family is obligatory, and he will be
rewarded for what he gives according to hisintention. There is no
contradiction between its being obligatory and its being called
charity, rather it is better than voluntary charity.
Fath al-Baari (9/498)
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Seeking reward thereby means seeking the Countenance of Allaah
thereby. That does not include whatever he spends absent-mindedly
(i.e., heedless of the intention and without intending to seek reward
thereby). Rather this refers to the one who seeks reward. The way to
seek reward is to spend it with the intention of fulfilling theduty of
spending and kind treatment that has been enjoined upon him.
Sharh Muslim (7/88, 89).
3 – It was narrated from Sa'd ibn Abi Waqqaas (may Allaah be pleased
with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) said: "You will never spend anything, seeking thereby the
Countenance of Allaah, but you will be rewarded for it, even what you
put in your wife's mouth." Narrated by al-Bukhaari (56) and Muslim
(1628).
Ibn al-Haaj al-Maaliki (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
He should not neglect to give his wife a morsel or two, because the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "even a
morsel that he puts in his wife's mouth." He will earn reward even
though there is some pleasure for him in putting a morsel in his
wife's mouth, but he should seek reward in allof that, i.e., in
bringing the food and in giving it to her.
Al-Madkhal (1/224).
Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
You will never spend anything, seeking thereby the reward of Allaah,
but you will be rewarded for it. The attainment of reward is dependent
upon that, i.e., on seeking the Countenance of Allaah. This is what
matters.
Fath al-Baari (5/367).
Conclusion:
A woman will be rewarded for her work in the house if she seeks reward
with Allaah for that, and is sincere in her intention.
And Allaah knows best.

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Punishment of a Liar

Narrated Anas: There was a Christian who embraced Islam and read
Surat-al-Baqara and Al-Imran, and he used to write (the revelations)
for the Prophet. Later on he returned to Christianity again and he
used to say: "Muhammad knows nothing but what I have written for him."
Then Allah caused him to die, and the people buried him, but in the
morning they saw that the earth had thrown his body out. They said,
"This is the act of Muhammad and his companions. They dug the grave of
our companion and tookhis body out of it because he had run away from
them." They again dug the grave deeply for him, but in the morning
they again saw that the earth had thrown his body out. They said,
"This is an act of Muhammad and his companions. They dug the grave of
our companion and threw his body outside it, for he had run away from
them." They dug the grave for him as deep as they could, but in the
morning they again saw that the earth had thrown his body out. So they
believed that what had befallen him was not done by human beings and
had to leave him thrown (on the ground).
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