Knowledge and wisdom -provisions of the caller

From the greatest favors of Allaah and bounties upon a slave is to
facilitate means and reasonsby which he becomes one who carries out
the mission of the religion and to be among those who strive and
sacrifice all that isprecious to them, to establish the laws of Allaah
on earth and inorder for the Word of Allaah to be supreme and
uppermost and the word of the disbelievers the lower most. This high
rank and honorable one is the most dignified rank and the highest
levels. It is the rank of messengers and their way, may Allaah their
mention. This same task is to be shouldered by the scholars, who
inherited this fromthe Prophets and Messengers.
Calling people to Allaah is an obligation upon all Muslim at different
levels but it differs according to the level of knowledge, wisdom,
way, rank, profession and time. This obligation is evident from many
verses that are clear in the Quran,like the Saying of Allaah (which
means): "Let there arise out of you a group of people inviting toall
that is good, meaning Islam, enjoining virtue (meaning
Islamicmonotheism) and forbidding all evil (Polytheism and
disbelief)." [Quran 3:104].
And also like the Saying of Allaah (which means): " Say, meaning O!
Mohammad, this is my way, I invite on to Allaah with sure knowledge, I
and whosoever and I follow me and glorify, and exalted is Allaah"
[Quran 12:108].
And the Saying of Allaah (which means): "Invite to the way of your
Lord with wisdom and fair preaching and argue with them in a way that
is better" [Quran 16:125].
In order for the one who is propagating Islam to achieve positive
results in his mission, he should fulfil the following two matters:
1) Propagating based on sure knowledge: Allaah Says (what means):
"Say, this is my way , I invite on to Allaah with sure knowledge, me
and whosoever follows me and exalted is Allaah and I am not one of the
polytheist" [Quran 12:108]. It is necessary for all those who desire
to call to Allaah to have sure knowledge regarding the matter and
issue of propagation and inviting to Allaah. Some people indulge
themselves in the field of propagation without possessing any
knowledge.
Some scholars said that sure knowledge is divided into three parts:
a) Knowing what one is inviting to
b) Knowing the situation of the one invited.
c) Knowing how to invite
First: Knowing what one is inviting to; the propagator must know the
Islamic ruling on the issue he is calling to, because he might call to
something thinking that it is an obligation while it is not, and thus
obligates people with something that Allaah did not oblige them with.
Or he might warn against something thinking that it is prohibited
while it is not, and so on. Therefore, knowing what one is calling the
people to is a vital issue.
Second: Knowing the situation of the invited: the evidence for the
importance of this issue is the narration of Mu'aath when the Prophet
sent him to Yemen, he said to him: "You are approaching a group form
the people of the book , so let the first thing you call them to be
the testimony that none is worthy of beiong worshipped but Allaah".
Notice that he informed him about the situationof those whom he will
be calling, so Mu'aath, may Allaah be pleqased with him, would be
prepared and be acquainted withtheir situation and how he should
approach them. It is a mistake that a person invites or calls another
person not knowinghis situation, his arguments, the kind of falsehood
he is on or what he believes in, because he (i.e. the one being
called) might present an argument which the Muslim propagator does not
havean answer to, which results in the retreat of the truth.
Third: Knowing how to invite: This refers to the methods of
propagation, as Allaah did not leave the matter up to us, but he
guided us to the ideal way. The Prophet also guided us how to
priorities things which leads us to the second issue.
2) Adopting a wise method of calling people: One of the Names of
Allaah is Al-Hakeem, which implies wisdom, and it is mentioned many
times in the Quran in connection to knowledge. Allaah knows all
matters and decrees everything according to His knowledge, based on
what is best for the given situation and what will yield the greatest
benefit to His slaves. He is the Most Wise and Most Knowledgeable in
His words, actions, sayings and rulings.
A wise person is he who places the correct matter in the most suitable
place or situation, as defeined by Imaam Ibn Al-Qayyim . This can be
attributed, in its perfect form, only to Allaah, asHe is the only One
who is All-Knowledgeable of everything and the Most Wise in His
decrees and rulings.
One of the things that reflect the wisdom of the caller to Islam is
his basing his call on knowledge, because wisdom is derived from
knowledge, as Allaah says (what means): "Invite to the way of your
Lord with wisdom…" [Quran 16:125]. What is the understanding and the
proper definition of wisdom.
Selecting the correct method along with the appropriate words is
another matter that reflects wisdom in the caller. He should address
people in a comprehensible manner, to facilitate understanding on the
part of those called.
For example, one should not talk to people about the virtue of
optionally fasting three days every month while they do not observe
the fast during the month of Ramadhaan, and so on.
Thus, a propagator of Islam should be mindful of these matters when
calling people to the pathof Allaah, lest he drives them away due to a
shortage in any of them.

Daughters in Islam -I

Allaah Almighty says (what means): "To Allaah belongs the dominion of
the heavens and the earth; He creates what Hewills. He gives to whom
He wills female [children], and He gives to whom He wills males. Or He
makes them [both] males and females, and He renders whom He wills
barren. Indeed, He isKnowing and Competent." [Quran 49:50] Allaah is
the One, based on His ultimate wisdom, who grants whomever He wills
sons and daughters; He grants sons only to whomever He wills, and
grants daughters only to whomever He wills, and if He so wills, He
makes whomever He wills infertile.
We notice in the above verse that the mention ofdaughters preceded
that of sons, and the scholars commented on this saying: "This is to
heartendaughters and encourage kindness towards them, because many
fathers feel burdened by receiving a daughter. The common practice of
the people during the pre-Islamic era was to hate receivingdaughters,
to the extent that they would bury them alive; therefore, it isas if
Allaah is saying to people: `This inferior child in your estimation
takes precedence in My scale.' He also mentions daughters first to
indicate their weakness, and that they are therefore more deserving of
care and attention."
Such honouring of daughters is the complete opposite of how people
were accustomed to dealing with females in the pre-Islamic era, when
they would degrade women and consider them a part of their wealth, and
if news of a baby girl would come to any of them, it would be as if he
was hit by a thunderstorm; Allaah says(what means): which means: "And
when one ofthem is informed of [the birth of] a female, his face
becomes dark, and he suppresses grief. He hides himself from the
people because of the ill of which he has been informed. Should he
keep it in humiliation or bury it in the ground? Unquestionably, evil
is what they decide." [Quran 58:59]
It is said that some enemies of Qays ibn 'Aasim At-Tameemi, who was a
pre-Islamic Arab, attacked his premises and captured his daughter.
Later, one of these enemies married her. After some time, the clan of
Qays and that of his enemies reconciled, so they gave this daughter of
his the freedom to go back to her father or remain withher husband,
and she preferred to stay with her husband. At that point, Qays took a
pledgeupon himself to bury alive any new daughter that he would
receive, and the Arabs imitated him after that. It was, therefore,
this man who introduced this evil practice, and thus he will shoulder
his own sin as well as the sin of all thosewho did it thereafter.
One of the companions who had killed his daughter in the era that
preceded Islam narrated his story: "We would worship idols in the
pre-Islamic era and kill our daughters. I had a daughter, who, when
shewas old enough to comprehend and talk, would rejoice whenever she
saw me and would immediately respond. One day, I called her and told
her to follow me, so she did, until we reacheda well that belonged to
my tribe. I then took her by her hand and threw her in the well, and
the last thing I heard her cry was: 'O father! O father!'"
(Ad-Daarimi)
During the era that preceded Islam, there were two methods that people
used to kill their daughters:
· At the time of the delivery of the child, a man would order his wife
to give birth next to a hole dug in the ground;if the newborn was a
male, she would return home with him, otherwise, she would throw her
into the pit and bury her alive, or:
· When the daughter reached six years of age, the man would tell his
wife to adorn and perfume her, then he would take her to a well in the
desert and tell her to look down into the well; when she would do
this, he would push her into it from behind.
There were some men among these people whowould forbid such acts, such
as Sa'sa'ah ibn Naajiyah At-Tameemi, who would go to those attempting
to kill their daughter offering moneyto ransom their lives.
There are people nowadays who share these same pre-Islamic beliefs; if
they are granted only girls, which is of course something decreed only
by Allaah, they become angry, discontent and grieved.
With the advent of Islam, the darkness of that era vanished and Allaah
enjoined kindness, love and compassion towards girls. Taking good care
ofgirls was encouraged, as was giving them special attention in the
process of their upbringing. In fact, Islam has designateda special
reward for raising them that is not granted for raising sons. Anas
reported that theProphet said: "He who raises two daughters until
their puberty will bewith me in Paradise like this" , and he
symbolized the proximity by showingtwo of his fingers with a slight
gap between them." (Muslim)
`Aa'ishah related: "A woman by the name of Jameelah came to me with
her two daughters. She asked me for charity but found nothing with me
except a date, which Igave her. She divided it between her two
daughters and ate nothing herself; then, shegot up and left. After
this,the Messenger of Allaah came, so I narrated this story to him; he
said: "He who is involved (in the responsibility) of (nurturing)
daughters and is generous to them, will have them as a fortification
for himself against the Hellfire." (Al-Bukhaari & Muslim) In another
narration of this incident, `Aa'ishah related: "A poor woman came to
me with her two daughters. I gave her three dates; she gave each of
them a date and was about to eat the third one when one of her
daughters asked her for it, so she divided it between her two
daughters and ate nothing herself, and I liked what she did. After
this, the Messenger of Allaah came, so I told him what she did, and he
said: 'Allaah obligated Paradise for her due to this date, and (also)
freedher from Hell.'" (Muslim)
Pay close attention to wording of the followingnarration: the Prophet
said: "He who is tested by(the guardianship) of daughters…." Why did
he use the word: "…tested…" ? He said it because raising them is a
responsibility and a test from Allaah to see how His slave would act:
Will he be kind to them? Will he raise them correctly?
The nature of this responsibility was furtherclarified in other
narrations, such as: "If he patiently feeds them and endows them with
clothing …" (Ibn Maajah).,and: "…Provides for them and marries them
off…" (At-Tabaraani)., and: "…Properly raises them and fears Allaah in
the manner in which he deals with them." (At-Tirmithi)
This is what is required when dealing with daughters: kindness, which
results in Paradise,as the Prophet said: "Whoever Allaah has given two
daughters andis kind towards them, will have them as a reason for him
to be admitted into Paradise ." And: "Whoever Allaah hasgiven three
daughters and he perseveres through raising them, will have them as a
shieldfor him from the Hellfire on the Day of Resurrection."
A daughter is a great bounty and an honour granted by Allaah,
ImaamAl-Hasan said: "Girls are a source of reward and sons are a
blessing; rewards are in one's favour (on the Day of Judgement)
whereas onewill be held accountable for blessings."
Thus, it is incorrect to believe that one has been humiliated by being
granted a girl; rather it is an honour, a bounty and a gate towards
Paradise . Daughters are a greate responsibility to rear, and entail
greater expenditure, and this is why the reward for raising them
correctly is greater than that for a son.
Once, one of the leaders of the believers was receiving people when a
small daughter of his entered the room, so he kissed her; a Bedouin
was also in attendance and saw this, so he mentioned daughters in a
very evil manner. A wise man who was also present witnessed all of
this and therefore said: "O leader of the believers! Do not listen
tohim. I swear by Allaah, that it is they (i.e., girls) who stay up to
care for the sick in the family, who show mercy towards the elders,
and who stand next to men during hardships."
A man was granted a baby girl, so he became angry and isolated himself
from his wife for a long time, and after few months, he overheard his
wife reciting the verse (which means): "…But perhaps you hate a thing
and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for
you…" [Quran 2:216]
How many girls have been far more merciful and beneficial to their
parents than their brothers? How many times has a son been a source of
grief for his parents, to the point that they wished he was never
born?
Why do we raise this topic now? It is due to the vicious attacks on
theMuslims under the pretext of defending 'women's rights' which isin
reality an evil attempt to play on the emotions of women so that they
will become rebellious towards their fathers andhusbands, and to
encourage them to leave their homes and demand their 'freedom'. This
is a gate towards evil and immorality which gradually attracts
womenand then traps them in prohibitions. One cause of girls falling
into this is people neglecting their daughters and undermining their
rights,which makes them easily fall into the traps of the hypocritical
writers and columnists, male and female, who wish to see corruption
prevail.
It is enough of an honourfor girls that the Prophetsmay Allaah exalt
their mention, had daughters and that most of the children of our
beloved Prophet were daughters, namely: Zaynab, Ruqayyah, Umm Kalthoom
and Faatimah

Daughters in Islam -II

The fruit of raising daughters righteously is reward in this life
before reward in the Hereafter; this is proved by the fact that Allaah
rewarded the righteous man who raised his two daughters virtuously,
the result being Him facilitating themarriage of one of them to the
honourable Prophet Moosaa .
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam would express his love for
his daughters by, for example, making statements like "(My daughter)
Faatimah is a part of me, so whoever angers her angers me."
(Al-Bukhaari & Muslim)
' Aa'ishah recounted that Faatimah once came walking in a manner
identical to that of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam; When
she arrived, he stood up and exclaimed: "Welcome, my daughter!"
Then,he seated her to his side and whispered into her ear, and what he
had said caused her to cry; then, he then whispered to her again, and
she laughed. ' Aa'ishah later asked her: "What made you weep and then
laugh?" She replied: "I will never expose a secret that the Prophet
entrusted me with." After the death of the Prophet 'Aa'ishah asked
herthe same questions again, so she answered: "First, he informed me
that his death was near, so I cried. After that, he told me that I
will be theleader of the ladies of Paradise , so I laughed."
(Al-Bukhaari &Muslim)
'Aa'ishah said: "I have not seen anyone closer in physical appearance
and character to the Prophet thanhis daughter Faatimah … Whenever she
would enter into his presence, he would stand up and seat her in his
place, and whenever he would enter into her presence, she would stand
up, kiss him, and seat him in her place."
This is how he cared for his daughters. Zaynab who was another
daughter of the Prophet sent for him due to her child being close to
death, but the Prophet sent the messenger back to her, telling him to
tell her: "Whatever Allaah takes away or gives, belongs to Him, and
everything with Him has a limited fixed term (in this world);and she
should therefore be patient and anticipate Allaah's reward.'' She sent
for him again, pleading with himfor the sake of Allaah to come.
Therefore, the Messenger of Allaah went, accompanied by Sa`d bin
`Ubaadah, Mu`aath bin Jabal, Ubayy bin Ka`b, Zayd bin Thaabit and
others . The child was lifted up to the Messenger of Allaah while
breathing heavily, in the last moments before his death. Upon seeing
this, the eyes of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam streamed
with tears as a result of compassion that Allaah had placed in his
heart. Due to this, Allaah causedthe boy to be cured, as Imaam Ibn
Hajar stated.
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam would carry Umaamah during
prayer whilst standing, and place her on the ground before
prostrating. (Al-Bukhaari)
Once, Faatimah complained to him about suffering due to strenuous
housework, and that it was causing her hands to roughen and develop
marks; he therefore taught her to mention Allaah before going to bed
by uttering 'Subhaan-Allaah' (i.e., glory be to Allaah) and
'Al-Hamdulillaah' (i.e., all praise be to Allaah) thirty-three times
each, and thirty-four times 'Allaahu Akbar' (i.e., Allaah is the
Greatest); he told her that this would be better for her than the
assistance of a servant.
Also, when the family of Abu Jahl requested ' Ali to marry their
daughter, he refused and said: "Never will the daughter of the
messenger of Allaah and the daughter of the enemy of Allaah be under
(the guardianship of) one man. Faatimah is a part of me, and whoever
saddens her has harmedme." He later stood up and explained to the
people that he was not making unlawful what Allaah made lawful, nor
was he forbidding polygamy, but rather, he did what he did due to
Faatimah being the daughter of a messenger,which is a special case,
since no one is permittedto harm the Messenger .
Faatimah was courageous and proud ofIslam. In the incident when her
father was praying in front of the Ka'bah and the disbelievers placed
the guts of a camel on his head whilst he was prostrating and then
laughed and mocked him, it was she who came, by herself, and screamed
at the disbelievers and then removed the guts. (Muslim)
This is how the life of the Prophet was regarding dealing with his
daughters, so let us make it a guideline by which we live.
Some people are truly hardhearted, to the pointthat they do not
express any emotions toward their children. It is a disaster when a
daughteris raised in such an emotional vacuum, because it is easy for
any evil person to then affect her with his deceptive words and entice
her into his trap, and this is how the calamity of fornication occurs.
This iswhy we need to pay close attention to the issue of daughters
and grant them their due consideration, especially when we live in an
era where everything evil is available and within reach.
It is indeed a great responsibility to satiate the emotions of our
daughters with the love they need from the hearts of their merciful
fathers, lest evil men do this instead to achieve their vile
objectives.
We must also give the same level of attention toour sons in this
regard, because the problems wehear regarding our young men are due to
the negligence of their parents. What is our role?It is, as Allaah
says (what means): "O you who have believed! Protect yourselves and
your families from a Fire whose fuel is people and stones, over which
are [appointed] angels, harsh and severe; they do not disobey Allaah
in what He commands them but do what they are commanded." [Quran 66:
6] We must soften their hearts with a warm smile whenever we see them,
and speak to them with merciful words.
If we do not pay attention to this issue, a day will come when our
communities will be just like the immoral and dissolute ones.
A British survey of two thousand fathers found that: "Forty-percent
(40%) of fathers feel lonely and depressed. They miss their sons, but
miss their daughters a lotmore."
Some contemporary hypocrites who write in newspapers and magazines
state that our daughters do not need guardians. They oppose to the Law
of Allaah in general, and specifically the ruling that prohibits
intermixing between men and women; they demand that women leave their
homes and 'prove their ability'. Why do these hypocrites wish to
eradicate our honour? This mandates even morecare and attention
towards our daughters; we must raise them uponobedience to Allaah and
His messenger and upon adherence to the Hijaab; we must not wait till
they reach the age of puberty to instruct them wear it, because it
might then be too late for them to accept it.
Some parents allow their daughters to wear dresses that are
revealingand which leave them naked, or almost naked, and this is a
far cry from correct cultivation. It is not a reflection of love
ormercy to our daughters to allow them to have their own mobile phone,
or to have a satellite receiver in their rooms. Itis not a sign of
love or mercy to allow them to go to places where immorality is
spread, or to parties, or salons where they pluck their eyebrows,
adorn themselves and then go out like that.
We must convince our daughters that these matters are prohibited and
that they must refrain from doing them, but in order to convince them,
they must experience our love and see it in our dealings with them.

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