The rights of the husbandupon the wife

The rights of the husband upon his wife are greater than the rights of the wife upon her husband for the simple reason that Allaah, the Almighty, stated in the Glorious Quran what means: “…And due to the wives issimilar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and authority]. AndAllaah is Exalted in Might and Wise." [Quran 2: 228] Man is the caretaker of his wife and household. He is responsible for all her affairs. He is responsible for training, directionand discipline if needed. Allaah Almighty Says what means: “Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allaah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth…” [Quran 4:34] It is an essential right of man over his wife to be obeyed so long as his commands do not conflict or contradict the commands of Allaah, the Almighty, Allaah’s Messenger and the general teachings and codes of ethics of Islam. Allaah Almighty Says in the same verse mentioned above (what means): "...But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allaah is ever Exalted and Grand.." [Quran 4:34] A Muslim wife must protect her husband’s secrets, privacies, honor and dignity. She also must protect his wealth, children, finance, belongings and other aspects of his household, as much as possible. Allaah Almighty Says in the same verse (what means): "...So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allaah would have them guard..." [Quran4:34] Allaah's Messenger said: "The wife is the guardian over the house of her husband and his children." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim] And, “If I were to command a single person to bow in prostration to another person, I could have commanded a womanto bow down (in obedience and respect, not in worship) to her husband.” [Abu Daawood] Allaah’s Messenger also said: “If a husband calls his wife to his bed, but the latter refused to fulfill the call (for any reason other than a lawful one), which drives the man to become upset with his wife, then angels will curse such a wife until she gets up in the morning.” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim] He furthermore, said: "Their (husbands') rights over you (wives) is that you do not allow anyone whom they dislike onto your bedding and you do not allow anyone whom they dislike into your house." [At-Tirmithi] The wife must not leave the house except with her husband's permission and approval. She must also lower her gaze, keep her voice low, keep her hands from reaching out to anything evil and keep her tongue from any lewd or foul speech. She also must not harm his parents or near relatives. This is because Allaah Almighty has said (what means): "And abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as [was] the display of the former times of ignorance...." [Quran 33:33] Allaah Almighty also has said (what means): "...Do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet, but speak with appropriate speech." [Quran 33:32] In another verse, Allaah Sayas (what means): "And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof..." [Quran 24:31] Allaah's Messenger said: "The best woman is the one who when you look at her, you are pleased; when you order her, she obeys; if you are absent from her,she guards herself and your property." [At-Tabarani] An other right of the husband over his wife is that the husband may ask his wife not do something, including, but not limited to voluntary acts of worship, other than obligatory, which cause her to lessen the time that her husband may have to enjoy her. Allaah’s Messenger stated: “A wife is not allowed to observe fast (other than fasting in the month of Ramadhaan, the prescribed, unless she has his permission. She may not allow any one to come into his house, unless he permits.” [At-Tirmithi] Moreover, Allaah’s Messenger placed the satisfaction and pleasure of a husband to be one of the reasons to enable the wife to enter Paradise. At-Tirmithi reported from Umm Salamah, the mother of the believers that Allaah’s Messenger said: “Any woman whose husband dies while he is pleased, happy and satisfied withher (acts, attitudes and behavior) will enter Jannah (Paradise).” These are but few items of the many rights that Islam, the religion of truth, imposes upon those who commit themselves tofollow and practice it as a way of life. We vividly see that such rights, if maintained properly, will lead a society to peace, happiness and tranquility. A husband becomes caring, affectionate, loving and responsible, yet directing and capable of discipline when needed to improve a troublesome situation, regardless of his tender care and love for his wife, so that vise and wickedness will not spread in thesociety. A wife becomes more respected, adored, cared for, highly needed and appreciated if she respects the rights of her husband, and equally given the rights she is entitled for by Islam. In such a coherent way, the religion of truth, goodness, justice, equity, and all fairness coincide with basic requirements of life including harmony between all the members of the society, especially between the husband and the wife .

The rights of the husbandupon the wife

The rights of the husband upon his wife are greater than the rights of the wife upon her husband for the simple reason that Allaah, the Almighty, stated in the Glorious Quran what means: “…And due to the wives issimilar to what is expected of them, according to what is reasonable. But the men have a degree over them [in responsibility and authority]. AndAllaah is Exalted in Might and Wise." [Quran 2: 228] Man is the caretaker of his wife and household. He is responsible for all her affairs. He is responsible for training, directionand discipline if needed. Allaah Almighty Says what means: “Men are in charge of women by [right of] what Allaah has given one over the other and what they spend [for maintenance] from their wealth…” [Quran 4:34] It is an essential right of man over his wife to be obeyed so long as his commands do not conflict or contradict the commands of Allaah, the Almighty, Allaah’s Messenger and the general teachings and codes of ethics of Islam. Allaah Almighty Says in the same verse mentioned above (what means): "...But if they obey you [once more], seek no means against them. Indeed, Allaah is ever Exalted and Grand.." [Quran 4:34] A Muslim wife must protect her husband’s secrets, privacies, honor and dignity. She also must protect his wealth, children, finance, belongings and other aspects of his household, as much as possible. Allaah Almighty Says in the same verse (what means): "...So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allaah would have them guard..." [Quran4:34] Allaah's Messenger said: "The wife is the guardian over the house of her husband and his children." [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim] And, “If I were to command a single person to bow in prostration to another person, I could have commanded a womanto bow down (in obedience and respect, not in worship) to her husband.” [Abu Daawood] Allaah’s Messenger also said: “If a husband calls his wife to his bed, but the latter refused to fulfill the call (for any reason other than a lawful one), which drives the man to become upset with his wife, then angels will curse such a wife until she gets up in the morning.” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim] He furthermore, said: "Their (husbands') rights over you (wives) is that you do not allow anyone whom they dislike onto your bedding and you do not allow anyone whom they dislike into your house." [At-Tirmithi] The wife must not leave the house except with her husband's permission and approval. She must also lower her gaze, keep her voice low, keep her hands from reaching out to anything evil and keep her tongue from any lewd or foul speech. She also must not harm his parents or near relatives. This is because Allaah Almighty has said (what means): "And abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as [was] the display of the former times of ignorance...." [Quran 33:33] Allaah Almighty also has said (what means): "...Do not be soft in speech [to men], lest he in whose heart is disease should covet, but speak with appropriate speech." [Quran 33:32] In another verse, Allaah Sayas (what means): "And tell the believing women to reduce [some] of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which [necessarily] appears thereof..." [Quran 24:31] Allaah's Messenger said: "The best woman is the one who when you look at her, you are pleased; when you order her, she obeys; if you are absent from her,she guards herself and your property." [At-Tabarani] An other right of the husband over his wife is that the husband may ask his wife not do something, including, but not limited to voluntary acts of worship, other than obligatory, which cause her to lessen the time that her husband may have to enjoy her. Allaah’s Messenger stated: “A wife is not allowed to observe fast (other than fasting in the month of Ramadhaan, the prescribed, unless she has his permission. She may not allow any one to come into his house, unless he permits.” [At-Tirmithi] Moreover, Allaah’s Messenger placed the satisfaction and pleasure of a husband to be one of the reasons to enable the wife to enter Paradise. At-Tirmithi reported from Umm Salamah, the mother of the believers that Allaah’s Messenger said: “Any woman whose husband dies while he is pleased, happy and satisfied withher (acts, attitudes and behavior) will enter Jannah (Paradise).” These are but few items of the many rights that Islam, the religion of truth, imposes upon those who commit themselves tofollow and practice it as a way of life. We vividly see that such rights, if maintained properly, will lead a society to peace, happiness and tranquility. A husband becomes caring, affectionate, loving and responsible, yet directing and capable of discipline when needed to improve a troublesome situation, regardless of his tender care and love for his wife, so that vise and wickedness will not spread in thesociety. A wife becomes more respected, adored, cared for, highly needed and appreciated if she respects the rights of her husband, and equally given the rights she is entitled for by Islam. In such a coherent way, the religion of truth, goodness, justice, equity, and all fairness coincide with basic requirements of life including harmony between all the members of the society, especially between the husband and the wife .

Dought & clear - , She makes cards for festivals and sells them – is that permissible

I make handcrafted eid cards as a hobby and a source of income. I would like to know whether it is Bidah to dothis? I have been told that everything is halal unless it has been specifically made haram.Please help as this is the time of year that people buy the cards from me and I really need to know whether I am doing something wrong. Praise be to Allaah. Yes, the basic principle isthat transactions are permitted and allowed, and it is not permissible to describe anything as haraam except with evidence. The ruling on the cards that you make for festivals varies according to the festivalsin question. If they are cards with greetings for the festivals of the kuffaar, such as Christmas, or for festivalsthat are bid’ah (innovation), such as thebirthday of the Prophet (al-Mawlid) or al-Isra’ and al-Mi’raaj, or festivals that involve imitating the kuffaar, such as national holidaysand birthdays, then it is not permissible for you to make them or sell them, and it is not permissible for anyone to buy them, because that implies approval of those festivals that go against Islam, and because it is cooperatingin sin and transgression. But if they are for Islamicfestivals – and there are no Islamic festivals except Eid al-Fitr and Eid al-Adha – then it is permissible for you to make greetings cards forthem, and it is permissible for you to sell them, so long as you make sure to use phrases that are prescribed or permissible according tosharee’ah, such as “May Allaah accept from us and from you” and so on. In the answer to question no. 947 we stated that it is haraam to congratulate the kuffaar on their festivals.In the answer to question no. 782 we stated that it is haraam to sell cards for Christian festivals. In the answer to question no. 50074 wequoted the statement of the Standing Committee for Issuing Fatwas about taking part in the millennium celebrations,in which it was noted that it is not permissible to help the kuffaar in their festivals, and among the ways of helping them that the scholars mentioned are: making clothes, mementoes and cards.” In the answers to questions no. 49014 , 49021 and 36442 you willfind that it is permissibleto offer greetings on theIslamic festivals. And Allaah knows best.

Dought & clear - , Do the shayaateen (devils) enter the mosques?

Do the shayaateen (devils) enter the mosques? Praise be to Allaah. There are proven reportsin the Sunnah which indicate that the devils do enter the mosques, because they go into thegaps in the rows and whisper (waswaas) to the individual when he is praying so as to distract him and rob himof proper focus (khushoo‘). Abu Dawood (667)and Ahmad (27552) narrated,in a report that was classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in al-Mishkaat (1093), from Anas ibn Maalik (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Consolidate your rows, make them close together and stand with your necks in line with one another, for by the One in Whose hand is mysoul, I see the devils going into the gaps in the rows as if they are little lambs.” Muslim narrated in his Saheeh (2203) from Abu’l-‘Alaa’ that ‘Uthmaan ibn Abi’l-‘Aas came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) and said: O Messenger of Allaah, the shaytaan interferes between me and my prayer and my recitation, and he makesme confused. The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “That is a devil called Khinzab. If you feel that, then seek refuge with Allaah from him and spit drily to your left three times.” He said: I did thatand Allaah took him away from me. Muslim also narrated (542) that Abu’d-Darda’ said: The Messenger of Allaah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) stood up (to pray) and we heard him saying: “I seek refuge with Allaah from you.” Then he said: “I curse you with the curse of Allaah” three times, and he stretched out his hand as if to take something. When he hadfinished praying, we said: O Messenger of Allaah, we heard you saysomething during the prayer that we have not heard you say before, and we saw you stretch out your hand. He said: “The enemy of Allaah, Iblees, came with a brand of fire to throw it in my face… Al-Bukhaari, Muslim and others narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “When the call to prayer is given, the Shaytaan runs away breaking wind loudly so that he will not hear the call. Then when the call has ended, he comes but when iqaamah for prayer is given he runs away, then when the iqaamah has ended, he comes back so that he can whisper to the individual, saying: Remember such and such, remember such and such -- about things that he was not thinkingabout, until he confuses the man and he does notknow how many (rak‘ahs) he prayed. These hadeeths and others clearly indicate that the devils do enter the mosques, but when they hear the adhaan they run away to somewhere where they cannot hear the call, then they come back after that and distract a person from his prayer and recitation. And Allah knows best.