Worth of Women in Islam

1) Worth of Women in Islam
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The Prophet's narrationsspeak of women with praise and respect. He once said:
"The world and all things in it are precious, and the most precious
thing in the world is a virtuous woman." (Ahmad and Muslim)
He also said:
"Shall I not inform you about the best treasure a man can have? It is
a virtuous woman who pleases him when he looks at her, who obeys him
when he commands her, and who guards herself when he is absent from
her."
The Prophet said:
"Made beloved to me from your world are women and perfume, and the
coolness of my eyes is in prayer." (Ahmad and An-Nasa 'i)
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2) Biologically Men and Women are two different sexes but
complementary to each other)
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One may well ask that if there is such a complete and comprehensive
spiritual equality between the two sexes, why is this identical
treatment not found in other rights, duties and privileges. Muslims
and especially non-Muslims question why men go out to work while women
are encouraged to stay at home, why women have to wear the Hijab
(veil), why a brother receives a largershare of inheritance than his
sister, why a man can be a ruler but a woman can not, etc., and they
then conclude that Islam treats women as inferior beings. Laws can
never be discussed without being explainedfirst, so we must first
consider the fundamental Islamic ethos that men and women are two
different yet complementary sexes. It is an established medicalfact
that men and women have different biological compositions and
temperaments. Allahthe All-Mighty created and knows this biological
difference better than we do, and has thus assigned to men and women
the roles that each excels in due to its nature. Neither gender is
inferior or superior to the other; instead they complement each other
like the two halves of a whole. In everyday life we see that society
consists of many different kinds of people, all of whom playtheir
particular roles to keep society intact. The farmer and the doctor
make different contributions to the society, but both are equally
important. Each excels in his own field, and each provides a service
for the other. Similarly, men and women are different sexes and play
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3) The Reward of upbringing Girls
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In the days when it was a custom to cherish the birth of male children
and to bury the female children alive because ofshame and poverty, the
Prophet has said:
"Whoever looks after two girls till they reach maturity, he and I will
enter Paradise together like these two (fingers).�(Muslim and At-
Tirmidhi)

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Mutual Rights - Good Companionship - II

4- In disputes and arguments. Living in kindness implies that when a
dispute arises between the spouses, the husband should define the
points of dispute and explain her mistake to her, if she is the one
who is mistaken. This should be done in a way that involves no reproof
or scolding, particularly if he wants her to admit something. When she
admits, he has the choice to either reproach or forgive her. Attacking
her hastily before explaining her mistakes would end the love and
intimacy and hinder the process of living equitably, because she would
feelthat she has been wronged. Therefore, it is best that the husband
explains to his wife her mistake kindly.
The Prophet knew when his wife Aa'ishah was pleased or displeased with
him. When she was pleased with him, she would say, "By the Lord of
Muhammad"; otherwise, she would say, "By The Lord of Ibraaheem
[Abraham ]." The Prophet knew that she wouldnot swear by the Lord of
Ibraaheem unless there was something wrong. In both cases, she swore
by Allaah, who is of course the Lord of Muhammad and the Lord of
Ibraaheem but she would use the latter to show that she was upset.
This practice was the perfect politeness that only a noble and
honorable lady would practice. Such a lady neither attacks nor scolds
her husband for his mistakes, but rather behaves patiently and
bashfully. Surely, nowoman behaves patiently and bashfully, but Allaah
will grant her success and a good end.
Also, no man encounters harm from his wife patiently and without
saying hurtful or unpleasant words to her but Allaah The Almighty will
grant him a good end in this life and a great Hereafter. It is
reported that one day a student visited a scholar and saw his son
serving him and showing him dutifulnessin an amazing way. When the
sonleft, the scholar asked his student, "Are you amazed at his
dutifulness?" The student replied in the affirmative and said that he
was very amazed at the dutifulness of the son. The scholar explained,
"I lived with his mother for more than twenty years and she never
smiled at me,but I reacted patiently. Thus, Allaah The Almighty
compensated me with what you have seen."
When a man encounters the harm of his wife with abuse, revilement and
curses, she disdains and disparages him. As aresult, she will not
speak of his love or affection in his absence. People say that man
becomes a subject of discussion after his death, so he should choose
for himself the best speech. It meansthat all people who dealt with
him will talk about him after his death. They will mention what hesaid
and did.
The perfection of man appears in the flame of his anger when he
controls himself and does not sayanything but good. May Allaah endow
His mercy upon a husbandwho abstains from saying unpleasant words to
his wife!
Living equitably through speech is an important element in the
reformation of Muslim homes, and Allaah The Almighty increases the
reward of His slave according to the degree of his patience. Allaah
The Almighty favored men over women and endowed upon them patience and
wisdom that are not grantedto others. Thus, the husband should show
patience regardless of whatever he hears or sees from his wife. Also,
the righteouswoman should patiently endure any hurtful and harsh words
of her husband, for Allaah The Almighty will make these words a cause
for elevating her degrees,multiplying her good deeds and forgiving her
sins. Indeed, when Allaah The Almighty loves a people, He tests them.
So Allaah may test a woman by giving her a husband who harms her and
whom she hears unpleasant words from.
Kind treatment:
Living in kindness also entails kind treatment, which emanates from
being an ideal husband, concord and mutual faithfulness of the
spouses. Muslim homes will not be reformed except through righteous
deeds and good companionship that reflect a person's good nature, high
morals and virtue. The Prophet testified that the best of menare those
who treat their wives kindly and become superior with their good
deeds, manners and noble qualities.
It is not enough for the man to claim these qualities; he should
translate them into action. When Allaah The Almighty wants to complete
His favors over His slaveand shower him with His blessings, He
beautifies him with good conduct. So, a Muslim who adheres to Islam
and follows the way of Allaah The Almighty should, after obeying Him,
be keen to maintain noble morals and Islamic etiquettes whereby Allaah
The Almighty would increase His reward. The Prophet said: "Shall I
inform you of those among you who will be closest to me in position on
the Day of Resurrection? [They are] those of you who have the best
morals" [At-Tirmithi]
The Companions eagerly asked the Prophet about what causes men and
women to enter Paradise, saying, "What are the deeds that cause man to
enter Paradise the most?" The Prophet replied: "Fearing Allaah and
[having] high morals." [At-Tirmithi] Words and actions are required
for the spouses to live equitably, and the best person is the one who
has the best and most perfect manners. The Prophet said: "The most
perfect believers in faith are those among them with high morals."
[At-Tirmithi]
The Prophet made man's wifeand relatives the most entitled tohis good
manners. Therefore, he ordered dutifulness to one's parents due to
their closeness. A man asked, "O Messenger of Allaah, who is the most
deservingperson of my good companionship?" The Prophet replied: "Your
mother." The man again, "Then who?" "Your mother," The Prophet
replied.The man asked again, "Then who?" He said: "Your mother."
Hethen asked, "Then who?" Thereupon, the Prophet said: "Your father."
[Al-Bukhaari & Muslim]
The Prophet made the greatest share of man's good manners for his
relatives, so the first thing we look for in the manwhom Allaah has
beautified and enhanced in his manners is his good manners with his
family. This is because a man might behave in a kind and gentle way in
front of people, but once he enters his own house, he behavesbadly –
this is the most evil creation even if he is kind with people. His
kindness in this case is pretentious and hypocritical, but if he were
to behave peacefully, kindly, mercifully and gently with his weak wife
and children who are under his authority and power, it would be
considered a sure sign that he is truthful in his good manners.
For this reason, the man who wants to behave in a good way should
begin with his family. The Prophet led the Muslim Ummah (nation) and
stood on the pulpit, permitting what Allaah The Almighty made
lawful,prohibiting what Allaah The Almighty made unlawful, explaining
the Sharee'ah of Allaahand guiding to His way. He ledthe armies to
make the religion of Allaah The Almighty dominant and His word reign
supreme. Yet, when he entered his house, he would enter with
compassion, mercy, gentleness and kindness.
The Prophet was the best man in treating his wives; the first thing he
would do was to use a Siwaak (toothstick) so that his wife would not
find a bad odor. This indicates that the husband, through living
equitablywith his wife, should take care of his appearance. Ibn
'Abbaas would bring a Kohl container andapply Kohl before the mirror,
saying, "I like adorning myself formy wife, as I like my wife adorning
herself for me." This is the perfection of Islam.
A Muslim man adopts certain practices and perfections with people when
he goes out of his house. Once he returns to his family and wife, he
treats each of them properly. The first thing theProphet would do upon
entering his house was to use the Siwaak. When he was alone with his
wives, he would be kind, use the best speech and act in the best way.
When 'Aa'ishah was asked about the manners of the Prophet at home, she
said, "He was in the service of his family." Sometimes he would stitch
his clothes and had no feeling of belittlement; it was an honor and
perfection as he was the most perfect, most honored and the highest in
rank and status in the sight of Allaah The Almighty.
Seeing one's family should be featured with modesty and humbleness.
The Prophet said: "Shall I inform you of those among you who are
closest to me in position on the Day of Resurrection? [They are] those
of you who have the best morals, and are the most humble."
[At-Tirmithi] The wife is most entitled to this humbleness. When the
Prophet visited his wives, he was keen to bring them happiness, so
that they would feel his love, fidelity and the bond with him after
his departure. To help strengthen this feeling, the Prophet would kiss
his wives before he left, not out of sexual desire because once he
heard the Athaan (call to prayer) he would be busied by that, but
rather because the Prophet would kiss his wife out of affection and
mercy so that she would realize her place in his heart and sentiment.
A guided Muslim, who wishes to abide by the Sharee'ah of Allaah
regarding living equitably, should treat his family in an honorable
manner. Moreover, the Prophet was keen to bring happiness to his wives
when sitting with them, being sad on the sad occasions and being happy
on the happy occasions. Nevertheless, he would never say anything but
thetruth.
(To be continued)

Mutual Rights-Good Companionship - I

The mutual rights that Allaah TheAlmighty has enjoined on both the
spouses represent His utmostjustice. There are two major rights. There
are two main rights:the right to good companionship, and the right to
overnight stay and equal distribution. In this series we willaddress
the first of these rights.
First: The right to good companionship
Muslims will never find happinessor tranquility in their homes unless
they live together in a kindmanner. Allaah The Almighty enjoined the
right of good companionship because it helps maintain the affairs of
the spouses and brings them happiness. Moreover, it was set to serve
as a real test for the spouses. Allaah The Almighty Says(what means):
#{And live with them in kindness.}## [Quran 4:19] This is a command
from Allaah The Almighty, which implies a sense of obligation.
Scholars said that living in kindness is an obligatory right whose
violator bears a sin while the one who fulfils it deserves reward.
Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): #{Either retain them in
kindness or part with them kindness.}## [Quran 65:2]
Good companionship requires essential matters that appear in aperson's
heart, which is only known to Allaah The Almighty, in his speech and
words and in his behavior and actions.
Intention:
Good companionship has three aspects, the first and foremost ofwhich
is the intention and what is hidden in the hearts of the spouses. The
husband cannot livein kindness with his wife, nor canshe live in
kindness with him unless each has a good intention towards the other.
This is what Allaah The Almighty means by hisSaying (what means):
#{And do not keep them, intending harm, to transgress [against
them].}## [Quran 2:231] If the husband wants to keep his wife, he
shouldhave a good intention towards her. Therefore, scholars have
saidthat Allaah The Almighty reveals whatever man conceals in his
heart, good or bad, in the slips ofhis tongue. For the man who intends
good when marrying a woman or bringing her into wedlock with the
intention to treat her kindly and live with her in kindness, Allaah
will guide himand grant him success in his life. Allaah The Almighty
Says (what means): #{If Allaah Knows [any] good in your hearts, He
Will Give you [something] better.}
## [Quran 8:70]
When Allaah The Almighty finds good intentions in the hearts of the
spouses, He will grant them success in their apparent behavior and
actions and bring about goodness through them.
Thus, the first advice given to the person who wants to live in
kindness is to have good intention. Some scholars said that the
husband has to renew his intention every day so that Allaah The
Almighty would increase his reward, particularly when his wife is
righteous or has an extra right over him, such as being his relative.
He should have in his heart a good intention towards her, and in this
case, Allaah The Almighty would reveal this intention through his
sayingsand actions. Similarly, the womanshould have in her heart good
intention towards her husband. Once this intention changes, Allaah The
Almighty will change the conditions of the spouses. Allaah The
Almighty Says (what means): #{Indeed, Allaah will not change the
condition of a people until they change what is in themselves.}##
[Quran 13:11]
When the spouses change their good intentions, Allaah The Almighty
will consequently change their conditions from good to evil, and from
better to worse. Thus, every husband should consider his intention
andlook into his heart when he suffers troubles with his wife. In
principle, good companionship emanates from good and righteous
intention, and from a heart that harbors goodness. Theeffects of these
things are reflected on a person's actions. The Prophet said:
~"Indeed, there is a piece of flesh in the body which, if it is sound,
the whole body is sound, and if it is corrupt, the whole body is
corrupt. Indeed, that is the heart."~~
Speech:
The second point related to goodcompanionship in one's speech isthat
just as man should have good intention in his heart in order to live
in kindness, his speech should also be in accordance with the Pleasure
of Allaah The Almighty. Some scholars said regarding #{And livewith
them in kindness}## that kindness is everything that is in accordance
with the Sharee'ah of Allaah The Almighty, and that evilis everything
that contradicts the Sharee'ah of Allaah The Almighty. Thus, the
husband, who wants tolive on good terms with his wife, should fear
Allaah The Almighty regarding what he say, and likewise for wife. The
principle that the Book of Allaah and Sunnah of the Prophet have
affirmed is that every believing man and woman should preservehis/her
tongue and utter good words. The Prophet said:~"Whoever believes in
Allaah and the Last Day, let him say something good or keep silent."~~
The signs of belief in Allaah The Almighty include controlling one's
tongue from saying anything but good to people in general and the
family in particular. Allaah The Almighty enjoined the believers in
the past,addressing us as well, Saying (what means): #{And speak to
people good [words].}## [Quran 2:83] Allaah The Almighty orderedus to
say good words that please Him, because good words benefitthe person
who says them both in this world and in the Hereafter.On the other
hand, bad words harm the speaker in this life and in the Hereafter.
When words emerge from the tongue, they never return, and when hurtful
and harsh words are uttered, they break hearts, ruin them and alter
affection and love to an extent that only Allaah Knows. Allaah The
Almighty therefore enjoined preserving the tongue in the Quran and
through the words of His Messenger .
Scholars listed the situations in which living in kindness through
speech occurs between the spouses:
1- When the spouses call one another.
2- When they request something from one another.
3- During discussion, conversation and jesting.
4- In disputes and arguments.
1- When the woman calls her husband or when he calls her, it should be
done in a nice manner. The Prophet would call'Aa'ishah saying: "O
'Aa'ish, O'Aa'ish." Scholars said that this manner of calling his wife
showed how the Prophet honored, jested and fulfilled his role as a
good husband to his wives. This is a method for Muslim husbands - to
use words of love and kindness when callingtheir wives. Harsh and
coarse addressing, which involves a coercive and forceful style on the
part of the husband or mockery and sarcasm on the part of the wife,
ruins love and severs ties of intimacy between the spouses. Thus, the
wife should call her husband by the best names and so should her
husband.
'Umar said that affection and love increases when a Muslim calls his
Muslim brother with the best of his names. This is one of the three
factors that strengthen intimacy among Muslims, so what would be its
effect on the spouses? It is a mistake when thehusband chooses for his
wife a name that embarrasses her or exposes her to ridicule or
belittlement. The same thing applies to the wife with her husband.
Some scholars would say that it is preferable that the spouses do not
call one other by their names; it is most honorablethat they call each
other by their nicknames (i.e. father of so and so or mother of so and
so). This is the best manner to adopt. Scholars have also said that
whena husband is used to calling his wife affectionately, she does the
same or even better since women were created inclined to affection and
love for gentleness, mercy and intimacy. So, when thehusband treats
his wife on that basis, she would react with him in a better way.
2- When the man requests something from his wife, he should ask her in
a manner that does not give her the feeling of servitude, humiliation,
contempt or belittlement. Similarly, when the woman requests something
from her husband, she should not overburden, hurt or harm him, nor
should she use troublesome words. This behavior helps to preserve
one's tongue and fulfill living equitably through speech. The Prophet
once asked 'Aa'ishah while he was in the mosque (Masjid): ~"Give me
the straw mat."~~ She said, "I am menstruating." The Prophet said:
~"Your menstruation is not in your hands."~~ [Muslim].
Just look at how the Prophet asked a Mother of the Believers for
something, and when she declined, she mentioned her Sharee'ah-based
excuse. She did not say no or that she could not without a
justification; rather, she said that she was in her menstruation,
awaiting instructions on what to do. The Prophet replied: ~"Your
menstruation is not in your hands,"~~ meaning that she could simply
hand it over since entering a hand into the mosque is not like
entering the whole body.
The lesson we learn here is kindness in calling or requesting
something. Marital problems mayarise due to frequent requests.
Scholars mentioned that when a man burdens his wife with many demands
and his manner of demanding is bothersome, this would be one of the
major reasons that ruin affection and love. A woman in this case feels
as if she is a humiliated servant inher husband's house.
Wise men, with the Prophet before them, advised giving reward upon
request, at least with kind words. For example, when the husband asks
his wife to do something, and she does it,he should say kind words to
her, such as supplicating to Allaah TheAlmighty to grant her goodness
and bless her. Once the wife realizes that her favor and goodness are
appreciated, thanked and not denied, she will appreciate this from her
husbandand will actively do good to him and fulfill his needs. This
will greatly help them live equitably together.
3- In conversations and jesting. The spouses should not talk to one
another at inappropriate times. Some scholars said that it is harmful
that a woman talks to her husband when he is tired andexhausted or
that a man talks to his wife when she is tired and exhausted. This
entails boredom and contradicts living in the kindness that Allaah The
Almighty enjoined. They added that when a man jests with his wife, he
should use the best words, and when he relates something to her, he
should select the best event that positively and fruitfully affects
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She always feels distressed when plane crashes happen

I am newly converted to the Islamic religion. To get to know Allah and
beable to know that He is with us in our daily life, it is a great
comfort. However, I was so stunning by the air plane crash of JFK jr.,
I could not stop crying. I don't understand why Allah sometimes acts
in asuch mysteroius way. I feel that we as human beings really don't
have control over lives. When I am in a difficult situation, I often
pray to Allah to help me go through the tough time, sometimes I feel
my prayers are being answered,that Allah is soclose to me; yet other
times I feel He is so distanced from us, prayers to Allah are the only
way for me to get comforts from the Almighty, but I still don't
understand why tragedyhappened so often.
Praise be to Allaah.
Praise be to Allaah for your coming to Islam. Allaah has blessed you
by making you Muslim. And praise be to Allaah for the fact that you
feel Allaah is with you, for this is what brings peaceto the heart and
makes deeds righteous.
Please understand that Allaah sends trials upon people so as to
distinguish between them, so that it will be known who will bear it
with patience and the hope of reward from Allaah, and who will be
filled with despair and will resent the decree of Allaah. So those who
are patient will be rewardedwith Paradise and those who despair will
be punished with torment, grief and pain in this world, before the
Hereafter.
The plane crash which you mentioned is of this nature. The people on
board were either committed Muslims, so this disaster is an expiation
for their sins and will raise their status, as it is a kind of
martyrdom (shahaadah) for which they will be rewarded, and their
families will be rewarded if they bear their loss with patience; or
they were kuffaar and evildoers who did not obey their Lord, so the
accident was a punishment from Allaah and vengeance from Him.
A Muslim must not feel sad for the death of non-Muslims because every
human being is destined to die. But dying before we Muslimswere able
to guide themto Islam is our source of grief and sadness because who
ever is not Muslim is doomed in hell.
There is nothing mysterious about this as you claim. It is the decree
of Allaah which happens at every instant; we must bear it with
patience and not let grief overwhelm us. The crash of this airplane is
a sign from Allaah to mankind, to remind them of the greatness of the
power of Allaah.
Allaah says concerning ships (interpretation of the meaning):
"And among His Signs are the ships in the sea like mountains.
If He wills, He causes the wind to cease, then they would become
motionless on the back (of the sea). Verily, in this are signs for
everyone patient and grateful.
Or He may destroy them (by shipwreck) because of that which their
(people) have earned. And He pardons much.
And those who dispute (polytheists, with Our Messenger Muhammad) as
regards Our Ayaat (proofs, signs, verses of Islamic Monotheism) may
know that there is no place of refuge for them (from Allaah's
punishment)
So whatever you have been given is but (a passing) enjoyment for this
worldly life, but thatwhich is with Allaah (Paradise) is better and
more lasting for those who believe (in the Oneness of Allaah
IslamicMonotheism) and put their trust in their Lord (concerning all
of their affairs)."
[al-Shoora 42:32-36]
Plane crashes and other disasters serve to remindpeople that no matter
how much progress theymake in earthly terms and how much strength they
gain, Allaah is stronger and more powerful than they. What they do and
the developments they have made will not save them from the punishment
and decree of Allaah if it comes to them. Let people go back and
lookat themselves, and realize how incapable and weak they really are,
and how strong, mighty and powerful Allaah is.
Please realize that Allaah is close and that He responds to the call
of the one who is in need. Allaah does not distance Himself from man
unless man distances himself from Allaah and becomes arrogant.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And when My slaves askyou (O Muhammad) concerning Me, then (answer
them), I am indeed near (to them by My Knowledge). I respond to the
invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any
mediator or intercessor).So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so
that they may be led aright" [al-Baqarah 2:186]
So no one should feel that Allaah is far away from him, unless he has
done something to affect the relationship between him and Allaah.If he
puts matters right between him and Allaah,then he will not feel
thatgrief and distance.
The feelings of grief and loneliness that have overwhelmed you are
from the accursed Shaytaan who wants to cause grief to those
whobelieve; he does not want to see them active in doing actions of
obedience to Allaah that will bring joy to their hearts.
Imaam Ibn Katheer (mayAllaah have mercy on him) said:
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And if an evil whisper from Shaytaan (Satan) tries to turn you away
(OMuhammad) (from doing good), then seek refuge in Allaah. Verily, He
is the All-Hearer, the All-Knower" [Fussilat 41:36]
"Show forgiveness, enjoin what is good, andturn away from the foolish
(i.e. don't punish them). And if an evil whisper comes to you from
Shaytaan (Satan), then seek refuge with Allaah. Verily, He is
All-Hearer, All-Knower" [al-A'raaf 7:199-200]
"Repel evil with that which is better. We are Best-Acquainted with the
things they utter.
And say: 'My Lord! I seek refuge with You from the whisperings
(suggestions) of the Shayaateen (devils).
And I seek refuge withYou, My Lord! lest they should come near me.'"
[al-Mu'minoon 23:96-98]
"Repel (the evil) with one which is better (i.e. Allaah orders the
faithfulbelievers to be patient atthe time of anger, and toexcuse
those who treat them badly) then verily he, between whom and you there
was enmity, (will become) as though he was a close friend.
But none is granted it (the above quality) except those who are
patient -- and none is granted it except the owner of the great portion
(of happiness in the Hereafter, i.e., Paradise and of a high moral
character) in this world.
And if an evil whisper from Shaytaan (Satan) tries to turn you away
(OMuhammad) (from doing good), then seek refuge in Allaah. Verily, He
is the All-Hearer, the All-Knower."
[Fussilat 41:34-36]
There is no fourth aayahwith a meaning like thatof these three, which
is that Allaah commands usto be kind to human enemies and treat them
kindly so that their inherent good nature will prevail and they
willbecome our friends. But He commands us to seek refuge with Him
from satanic enemies; there is no point in being kind to them or
treating themnicely, for they want only to destroy the sons of Adam
because of the intensity of the enmity between them and their father
Adam beforehand. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"O Children of Adam! Let not Shaytaan (Satan) deceive you, as he got
your parents [Adam and Hawwaa' (Eve)] out of Paradise" [al-A'raaf
7:27]
"Surely, Shaytaan (Satan) is an enemy to you, so take (treat) him as
an enemy. He only invites his Hizb (followers) that they may become
the dwellers of the blazing Fire" [Faatir 35:6]
"Will you then take him (Iblees) and his offspringas protectors and
helpers rather than Me while they are enemies to you? What an evil is
the exchange for the Zaalimoon (polytheists, and wrongdoers, etc)."
[al-Kahf 18:50]
Iblees swore to our father Adam that he was one of the sincere, but
he lied, so how about hisdealings with us? Especially since he said:
"By Your Might, then I will surely, mislead themall, Except Your
chosen slaves amongst them (i.e.faithful, obedient, true believers of
Islamic Monotheism)" [Saad 38:82-83 - interpretationof the meaning]
And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"So when you want to recite the Qur'aan, seek refuge with Allaah from
Shaytaan (Satan), the outcast (the cursed one). Verily, he has no
power over those who believe and put their trust only in their Lord
(Allaah). His power is only over thosewho obey and follow him (Satan),
and those who join partners with Him (Allaah, i.e. those who are
Mushrikoon, i.e., polytheists." [al-Nahl16:98-100]
(Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 1/14)
So turn to Allaah, remember Him and strive to worship Him, sothat
your soul will become pure and love for Him will become firmly
entrenched in your heart, and you will be relieved of your worry and
grief. Remember the hadeeth of the Prophet (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him):
The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: "There is no-one who is afflicted by distress and grief, and
says: 'Allaahumma inni 'abduka ibn 'abdika ibn amatija naasyati bi
yadika, maada fiyya hukmuka, 'adlun fiyya qadaa'uka. As'aluka bi kulli
ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw
'allamtahu ahadan min khalqika awista'tharta bihi fi 'ilm il-ghayb
'indaka an taj'alal-Qur'aana rabee' qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa'
huzni wa dhihaab hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave,
son of Your maidservant; my forelock is in Your hand, Your command
over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You
by every name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or
revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You
have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make
the Qur'aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a
departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety),' but Allaah
will take away his distress and grief, and replace it with joy."
(Narrated by Imaam Ahmad, 3704; it is a saheeh hadeeth). May Allaah
bless our Prophet Muhammad.