I would like to know whether there is a set age for marriage in
Islamfor men and women? I hope you can explain with reference to the
Qur'aan and saheeh hadeeths.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Islam does not give a specific age for marriage,either for the husband
orfor the wife. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"And for such of your women as despair of menstruation, if ye doubt,
their period (of waiting) shall be three months, along with thosewho
have it not"
[al-Talaaq 65:4].
Al-Sa'di (may Allah have mercy on him) said: "along with those who
have it [menses] not" means minors, those whohave not yet started to
menstruate. Adult women who have never menstruated at all are like
those who "despair of menstruation" (i.e., have passed
menopause);their 'iddah is three months. End quote.
Tafseer al-Sa'di, p. 870
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) married
'Aa'ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) when she was six years old
and the marriage was consummated when she was nine years old. Narrated
by al-Bukhaari (4840) and Muslim (1422).
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allahhave mercy on him) said in al-Sharh al-Kabeer, 7/386:
With regard to females, the father may give his minor, virgin daughter
who has not yet reached the age of nine in marriage, and there is
nodifference of opinion concerning that, if he gives her in marriage
to someone who is compatible. Ibn al-Mundhir said: All of those
scholars from whom we acquired knowledge unanimously agreed that it is
permissible for a father to give his minor daughter in marriage if he
arranges her to someone who is compatible, and it is permissible for
him to do that even if she is reluctant. End quote.
Secondly:
No one may give a minor daughter in marriage except her father
according to the view of Maalik and Ahmad. This was also the view of
al-Shaafa'i, but he regarded the grandfather as being likethe father
in that regard. Abu Haneefah said – and it was also narrated from
Ahmad – that it is permissible for a guardian other than the father to
give (the minor girl) in marriage, but the more correct view is the
former one.
See: al-Mughni, 7/33
Thirdly:
The father should not give a minor daughter in marriage except in a
casewhere he thinks it is in her best interests. Just as he may only
dispose of her wealth in that which is in her best interests, the same
applies with regard to arranging her marriage. Islam only permits that
to the Muslim father who is pious and pays proper attention to the
best interests of his children, and who understands very well that he
is a shepherd and that he is responsible for his flock.
Ibn Wahb narrated that Maalik said, with regard to a man arranging a
marriage for an orphan girl under his care: If he thinks that (the
husband)is a man of virtue, righteousness and wisdom, it is
permissible for him to do that.
Ahkaam al-Qur'aan by al-Jassaas, 2/342
Fourthly:
A man should not consummate marriage with his young bride until she is
physically ableto bear intercourse. This varies from one time, place
and environment to another.
What young men and guardians of girls should do is hasten to arrange
marriages, so as to guardchastity and protect honour, and so as to
attain the great purposesfor which Allah ordained marriage.
And Allah knows best.
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Is there a set age for marriage in Islam?
The Concept of Brotherhood
Another fundamental element in the value system of Islam is the value
of human brotherhood. This value also is founded on the same
principles which have been discussed in connection with freedomand
equality. Besides those foregoing principles, human brotherhood in
Islam is based on an unshakable belief in the Oneness and Universality
of God the worshipped, the unity of mankind the worshippers, and the
unity of religion the medium of worship. For the Muslim, God is One,
Eternal and Universal. He is the Creator of all men, the Provider for
all men, the Judge of all men, and the Lord over all men. To Him,
social status, national supermanship, and racial origin are
insignificant. Before Him,all men are equal and brothers of one
another.
The Muslim believes in the unity of mankind with regard to the
sourceof creation, the original parentage, and the final destiny. The
source of creation is God Himself. The original common parentage is
that of Adam and Eve. To this first parentage, every human being
belongs and of it he partakes. As for the final destiny, there is no
doubt in the Muslim's mind that it will be to God, the Creator, to
Whom all men shall return.
The Muslim believes in the unity of God's religion. This means that
God does not confine His religion or favors to any particular nation,
race, orage. It further means thatthere can be no contradiction or
fundamental differences in the Religion of God. When all this is
interpreted properly, it will leave no ground for pretended supremacy
or presumptuous exclusivity. And when it isimparted into the
humanmind, it will provide man with a clear concept and a solid basis
of human brotherhood. Because the Muslim believes in the Oneness of
God, the unity of mankind, and the unity of religion, he believes in
all the Messengers and Revelations of God without discrimination.
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of human brotherhood. This value also is founded on the same
principles which have been discussed in connection with freedomand
equality. Besides those foregoing principles, human brotherhood in
Islam is based on an unshakable belief in the Oneness and Universality
of God the worshipped, the unity of mankind the worshippers, and the
unity of religion the medium of worship. For the Muslim, God is One,
Eternal and Universal. He is the Creator of all men, the Provider for
all men, the Judge of all men, and the Lord over all men. To Him,
social status, national supermanship, and racial origin are
insignificant. Before Him,all men are equal and brothers of one
another.
The Muslim believes in the unity of mankind with regard to the
sourceof creation, the original parentage, and the final destiny. The
source of creation is God Himself. The original common parentage is
that of Adam and Eve. To this first parentage, every human being
belongs and of it he partakes. As for the final destiny, there is no
doubt in the Muslim's mind that it will be to God, the Creator, to
Whom all men shall return.
The Muslim believes in the unity of God's religion. This means that
God does not confine His religion or favors to any particular nation,
race, orage. It further means thatthere can be no contradiction or
fundamental differences in the Religion of God. When all this is
interpreted properly, it will leave no ground for pretended supremacy
or presumptuous exclusivity. And when it isimparted into the
humanmind, it will provide man with a clear concept and a solid basis
of human brotherhood. Because the Muslim believes in the Oneness of
God, the unity of mankind, and the unity of religion, he believes in
all the Messengers and Revelations of God without discrimination.
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Your faith is your key to happiness
'Aa ' ishah was once asked, "Who is the best of women?" Sheanswered,
"She who does not usefoul language, who is unaware ofmen's cunningness
(so she does not become their rival), and whose heart is occupied with
nothing but adorning herself for her husband and caring for her
children."
Know, my dear sister, that believing in Allaah The Exalted is the
essence of your happiness and the source of comfort and tranquillity.
Indeed, misery, suffering, and constant agonies are caused by
abandoning faith inAllaah The Almighty, and neglecting His
remembrance, thankfulness to Him, and failing to fulfil the due rights
of the acts of worship. Allaah The Exalted Says (what means): } "Those
who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of
Allaah. Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allaah the hearts are
assured." { [Quran 13:28 [H.S1 [
} "And whoever turns away from My remembrance – indeed, he will lead a
depressed life, and We will gather him on the Day of Resurrection
blind." { [Quran 20:124]
A young Muslim immigrant to theUSA narrates that he had worked for a
wealthy businessman who owns companies there. Whenever this
businessman passed by this young man, he would find him smiling and
appearing happy, whereas, the employer was sad, worried and gloomy all
the time. Once he asked the young Muslim man about the secret behind
his smilewhich reflects happiness and joy. The young man simply
answered him, "Because I am Muslim." Thenthe businessman exclaimed,
"WillI find this happiness that you feelif I embrace Islam?" The young
man answered, "Yes." Then he accompanied his employer to an Islamic
Centre where he embraced Islam and then burst into tears. When he was
asked about the reason why he was crying, he answered, "This is the
first time in my entire life that I have experienced real happiness."
] Tareek As-Sa'aadah (The Way to Happiness)]
A mother's advice to her daughter
When 'Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybaani, one of the most highly respected
leaders of the Arab nobility during the Jaahiliyyah , (pre-Islamic
era) married his daughter Umm Iyaas to al-Haarith ibn 'Amr al-Kindi,
she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother, Umaamah
came in to her, and advised her daughter saying,
My dear daughter, you are leavingthe home in which you have
beenbrought up and were raised, to a home which you do not know, and
with a new companion who you are not accustomed to. By marrying you,
he has become your guardian and superior. Therefore, be a slave to him
and he will be a slave to you.
My dear daughter, maintain theseten traits and he will always support
you. As for the first and second trait: Be content in your life with
him and be an obedient companion.
The third and fourth: Continuously be attentive to what his eyes fall
on and to what his nose might smell. Do not let him behold you
unattractive, and let him only smell pleasant scentsfrom you.
The fifth and the sixth: Be attentive to the time of his meals, and be
quiet during his sleep; for hunger is agitating, anddisturbing one's
sleep arouses anger.
The seventh and eighth: Preserve his money, and look after his
household and children, for guarding his money is a good
characteristic, and looking after his household and children is a way
of honoring him.
As for the ninth and tenth traits: Never expose his secrets or disobey
his orders, for if you expose his secrets you will not besafe from his
betrayal, and if you disobey his orders you will make him angry.
In addition, avoid expressing happiness while he is sad, or being
gloomy while he is happy, for the first quality is an act of
negligence, and the second displeases him.
Honor him the best you can, and he will honor you the best he can.
The more you agree with him, the longer he will stay in your company.
Know, that you will not attain what you aspire for unless you favor
his contentment over yours,and his desires over yours whether
concerning something that pleases or displeases you.
Steps to marital happiness
· Remember that you are not a man:
Many wives face marital failure due to developing complexes about
their femininity. Such women are not proud of their femininity, and do
not acknowledge their husbands' roleof being in charge and their right
to lead the family. Such women are paranoid, constantly feeling that
their husbands are trying to subdue them and exercise their
masculinity over them. Consequently, such a wife will try to prove
that she is equal to him. These poisonous beliefs will ruin their
lives and turn it into a living hell.
Such a woman should know that men and women complete one another; men
enjoy the qualities that women lack, and similarly, women enjoy the
qualities that men lack. Men's right to take charge over women does
not mean humiliation or suppression;rather, it means leadership,
responsibility, wisdom, compassion, mercy and affection.By virtue of
man's right to take charge, he can take his wife through their life
journey tosafety and happiness.
· Search for the positive side:
Many wives do not feel happy in their marriages because of their
negative perspective of their husbands; they only see their flaws and
defects. Their husbands might have countless good qualities that
surpass their defects, but their melancholic perspective of their life
blinds them from such good traits, thusshe is only able to see her
husband's weaknesses.
A wise wife should look for her husband's positive traits, enumerate
them, try to foster them and praise him for them. Moreover, she should
be patient with his flaws and defects, and try to overlook them. Were
she toconfront her husband's abuse with kindness, it would deeply
affect him and perhaps drive him to change his bad behavior with her,
and replace his flaws and defects with positive qualities.
· Make sure of your husband's love for you:
Verifying your husband's love for you is essential for the wife to
attain marital happiness. On the one hand, a husband should affirm his
love for his wife from time to time. On the other hand, a wife should
remind herself of her husband's love for her and tryto find reasons
which could verifythat love; the first of which was his proposal to
marry her in the first place which proves his attraction towards her
and his love for her. Besides, the fact thathe is still married to her
also indicates this. Add to that, the fact that he financially
supports her, tends to her, cares for her, and feels protective
jealousy over her. All this highlights his love forhis wife.
· Your happiness lies in your contentment:
How many women have deprived themselves of attaining marital happiness
because of wishing for what others have? The wife pushes her husband
to satisfy herdesires by providing her with luxuries that are not
necessary at all, knowing that he cannot afford that. On seeing her
husband unable to provide her with what she wants, she loses respect
for him and sees him as alazy and passive person.
If such a wife were to judge her life fairly, she would have seen
countless positive points and the bright side of the pages of her
life, that can guarantee her happiness if she is content with the
blessings that Allaah The Exalted has bestowed upon her. In the past,
the Muslim wife would stand at her porch biddingher husband farewell,
as he wentto work and remind him, "Fear Allaah The Almighty, and
beware,beware of bringing back home anything that is unlawful; we
canendure hunger, but we can never endure Hell." It is worth
mentioning that a happy person is not he who gets all that he wishes
for; since one's desires cannot be fully satisfied, and wishes
continue until the last breath. Actually, true happiness isfound in
contentment.
"She who does not usefoul language, who is unaware ofmen's cunningness
(so she does not become their rival), and whose heart is occupied with
nothing but adorning herself for her husband and caring for her
children."
Know, my dear sister, that believing in Allaah The Exalted is the
essence of your happiness and the source of comfort and tranquillity.
Indeed, misery, suffering, and constant agonies are caused by
abandoning faith inAllaah The Almighty, and neglecting His
remembrance, thankfulness to Him, and failing to fulfil the due rights
of the acts of worship. Allaah The Exalted Says (what means): } "Those
who have believed and whose hearts are assured by the remembrance of
Allaah. Unquestionably, by the remembrance of Allaah the hearts are
assured." { [Quran 13:28 [H.S1 [
} "And whoever turns away from My remembrance – indeed, he will lead a
depressed life, and We will gather him on the Day of Resurrection
blind." { [Quran 20:124]
A young Muslim immigrant to theUSA narrates that he had worked for a
wealthy businessman who owns companies there. Whenever this
businessman passed by this young man, he would find him smiling and
appearing happy, whereas, the employer was sad, worried and gloomy all
the time. Once he asked the young Muslim man about the secret behind
his smilewhich reflects happiness and joy. The young man simply
answered him, "Because I am Muslim." Thenthe businessman exclaimed,
"WillI find this happiness that you feelif I embrace Islam?" The young
man answered, "Yes." Then he accompanied his employer to an Islamic
Centre where he embraced Islam and then burst into tears. When he was
asked about the reason why he was crying, he answered, "This is the
first time in my entire life that I have experienced real happiness."
] Tareek As-Sa'aadah (The Way to Happiness)]
A mother's advice to her daughter
When 'Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybaani, one of the most highly respected
leaders of the Arab nobility during the Jaahiliyyah , (pre-Islamic
era) married his daughter Umm Iyaas to al-Haarith ibn 'Amr al-Kindi,
she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother, Umaamah
came in to her, and advised her daughter saying,
My dear daughter, you are leavingthe home in which you have
beenbrought up and were raised, to a home which you do not know, and
with a new companion who you are not accustomed to. By marrying you,
he has become your guardian and superior. Therefore, be a slave to him
and he will be a slave to you.
My dear daughter, maintain theseten traits and he will always support
you. As for the first and second trait: Be content in your life with
him and be an obedient companion.
The third and fourth: Continuously be attentive to what his eyes fall
on and to what his nose might smell. Do not let him behold you
unattractive, and let him only smell pleasant scentsfrom you.
The fifth and the sixth: Be attentive to the time of his meals, and be
quiet during his sleep; for hunger is agitating, anddisturbing one's
sleep arouses anger.
The seventh and eighth: Preserve his money, and look after his
household and children, for guarding his money is a good
characteristic, and looking after his household and children is a way
of honoring him.
As for the ninth and tenth traits: Never expose his secrets or disobey
his orders, for if you expose his secrets you will not besafe from his
betrayal, and if you disobey his orders you will make him angry.
In addition, avoid expressing happiness while he is sad, or being
gloomy while he is happy, for the first quality is an act of
negligence, and the second displeases him.
Honor him the best you can, and he will honor you the best he can.
The more you agree with him, the longer he will stay in your company.
Know, that you will not attain what you aspire for unless you favor
his contentment over yours,and his desires over yours whether
concerning something that pleases or displeases you.
Steps to marital happiness
· Remember that you are not a man:
Many wives face marital failure due to developing complexes about
their femininity. Such women are not proud of their femininity, and do
not acknowledge their husbands' roleof being in charge and their right
to lead the family. Such women are paranoid, constantly feeling that
their husbands are trying to subdue them and exercise their
masculinity over them. Consequently, such a wife will try to prove
that she is equal to him. These poisonous beliefs will ruin their
lives and turn it into a living hell.
Such a woman should know that men and women complete one another; men
enjoy the qualities that women lack, and similarly, women enjoy the
qualities that men lack. Men's right to take charge over women does
not mean humiliation or suppression;rather, it means leadership,
responsibility, wisdom, compassion, mercy and affection.By virtue of
man's right to take charge, he can take his wife through their life
journey tosafety and happiness.
· Search for the positive side:
Many wives do not feel happy in their marriages because of their
negative perspective of their husbands; they only see their flaws and
defects. Their husbands might have countless good qualities that
surpass their defects, but their melancholic perspective of their life
blinds them from such good traits, thusshe is only able to see her
husband's weaknesses.
A wise wife should look for her husband's positive traits, enumerate
them, try to foster them and praise him for them. Moreover, she should
be patient with his flaws and defects, and try to overlook them. Were
she toconfront her husband's abuse with kindness, it would deeply
affect him and perhaps drive him to change his bad behavior with her,
and replace his flaws and defects with positive qualities.
· Make sure of your husband's love for you:
Verifying your husband's love for you is essential for the wife to
attain marital happiness. On the one hand, a husband should affirm his
love for his wife from time to time. On the other hand, a wife should
remind herself of her husband's love for her and tryto find reasons
which could verifythat love; the first of which was his proposal to
marry her in the first place which proves his attraction towards her
and his love for her. Besides, the fact thathe is still married to her
also indicates this. Add to that, the fact that he financially
supports her, tends to her, cares for her, and feels protective
jealousy over her. All this highlights his love forhis wife.
· Your happiness lies in your contentment:
How many women have deprived themselves of attaining marital happiness
because of wishing for what others have? The wife pushes her husband
to satisfy herdesires by providing her with luxuries that are not
necessary at all, knowing that he cannot afford that. On seeing her
husband unable to provide her with what she wants, she loses respect
for him and sees him as alazy and passive person.
If such a wife were to judge her life fairly, she would have seen
countless positive points and the bright side of the pages of her
life, that can guarantee her happiness if she is content with the
blessings that Allaah The Exalted has bestowed upon her. In the past,
the Muslim wife would stand at her porch biddingher husband farewell,
as he wentto work and remind him, "Fear Allaah The Almighty, and
beware,beware of bringing back home anything that is unlawful; we
canendure hunger, but we can never endure Hell." It is worth
mentioning that a happy person is not he who gets all that he wishes
for; since one's desires cannot be fully satisfied, and wishes
continue until the last breath. Actually, true happiness isfound in
contentment.
Hijaab is not a personal choice
Contrary to whatever you may believe, Hijaab (Islamic covering) is not
a free personal choice. As aMuslim woman, you are not free; you are a
slave of Allaah The Almighty. What is the relationship between freedom
and uncovering parts of your body, adorning yourself, and uncovering
your face? Does the belief that 'beauty of the soul is the real
beauty' entitle a woman to be indecently dressed?
The enemies of Islam have turnedwomen into a cheap commodity; they
despise you; they do not respect your mind, thought or character; they
are only concerned about your body. Otherwise, let me know: What is
the rationale behind an attractivewoman appearing on an advertisement
for razors or tires? Does this show respect for a woman's mind? Or
does this point to the fact that the media and marketing industry only
think about exploiting her body? Why do they not let women who are
covered in Hijaab be shown in their ads?
If you could listen to what your colleagues in the university or work
say about you behind your back, you would be horrified. They speak
about your looks. They do not care for your intelligence or
personality; they are only concerned about your femininity. This is
the nature of man, and whoever claims otherwise is either a liar or
abnormal.
Wearing Hijaab is not a free personal choice, and you are certainly
not free to do as you think fit; you are a slave of Allaah The
Almighty. You have no right to disobey His orders. Allaah The Almighty
Says (what means): } And whoever turns away from Myremembrance –
indeed, he will have a depressed life, and We willgather him on the
Day of Resurrection blind." He will say,"My Lord, why have You raised
me blind while I was [once] seeing?" [Allaah] will say, "Thus did Our
signs come to you, and you forgot them; and thus will you this Day be
forgotten." And thus do We recompense he who transgressed and did not
believe in the signs of his Lord. And the punishment of the Hereafter
is more severe and more enduring. { [Quran 20:124-127]
Hijaab is not a free personal choice because it is the commandof
Allaah The Almighty and His Messenger , and the consensus of the
Muslim scholars. Furthermore, Hijaab gives you the chance to test the
truthfulness of those who claim that they are only concerned withyour
mind and character. If the case is true as they claim, wearing Hijaab
will help them focus on your character, not your make-up, clothes, or
charms. At this point you will discover the truth, and you will not
find any man paying you attention or speaking to you because they do
not need anything from you except your femininity.
It is shameful that a woman whopretends to respect herself and cherish
her honor and dignity seeks to impress people with her body. Surely,
you humiliate your humanity by failing to adhere to correct Hijaab and
by showing off your face in place.
An American woman says that she got fed up with such widespread
corruption in her society, where a woman is judged only according to
her appearance, and this greatly influences her field of work,
promotions, and the opportunities of practical and emotional life. She
adds that a woman has to always appear beautiful and attractive in
order to attain easy success in every stage of her life.
This woman converted to three religions that could not soothe her
agony. Now she adheres to a sect of Judaism because she admires the
fact that this sect obliges women to dress modestly and admonishes
them not to intermix with men except in case of necessity.
Another American woman says that she has embraced one of theold pagan
religions of the Native Americans because that religion pays special
respect to women, orders them to wear decent clothes and prohibits
extramarital and premarital relationships. She adds that she feels
that this religion respects women and protects values in society.
A practicing Muslim woman relates that she had been fully covered in
Hijaab when she was obliged to travel to a European country with her
family to receivemedical care for her father. In thehospital, a nurse
asked her permission to see her face, and when the nurse saw it, she
was shocked. She thought that the woman covered her face because she
was ugly or had a defect. When the nurse asked the woman why she was
covering up, the woman explained to her that Islam sees women as a
jewelthat must be kept away from the eyes of strangers. The woman said
that the nurse was listening attentively, and later, she said,"How
wonderful! I wish I could cover myself up like you. I suffer alot from
people's looks at the details of my body and feel that I am a dummy;
even here I feel that all people are staring at me."
Professor Sigrid Hunke, author of the famous book Allah's Sun
Risesover the West , outlines the glory of the Arabs and Muslims and
theinfluence of their civilization on the Western renaissance. In an
Islamic conference, she was asked to give advice to a Muslim woman who
wanted to discard her Hijaab . She said,
"A Muslim woman should not take the European or American women as role
models. By doing so, she loses the elements of her character. Thus,
she has to abide by the original guidance of Islam and follow in the
footsteps of theearly righteous women. She should cherish their
values and adapt them to the needs of modern times. She should also
focus on her significant mission of being a mother of the future Arab
generation."
Helen Stanberry, an American writer and a freelance journalist for
more than 250 American newspapers, publishes a daily article read by
millions of Americans. She spent several weeks in an Arab country, and
when she returned home, she said that the Arab society is perfect and
sound, and it should adhere to its customs which limitthe freedom of
young women and men reasonably. She adds that the Arabs have inherited
manners which necessitate limiting the freedom of the woman,
respecting the mother and father, and, more than that, eliminating the
immorality of theWest which is destroying the society and families in
Europe and America. She advises the Arabs to continue preventing the
free intermixing between the two sexes, narrow the freedom of the
girl, and adhere to Hijaab like the earlier generations did. This
would be better for the Arabs than immorality, liberty and the
profligacy of Europe and America.
Anger with this inferior look at women was condemned in the words of
Meryl Streep, an American actress, and the 1983 Academy Award winner.
In a press conference, she said that every time she visited a public
place, people would scrutinize the measurements of her body tomake
sure that she was a beautiful and worthy of being thebest American
actress. This disturbed her a lot because she knew that people looked
at her only to judge her body. .
She contested the so-called Women's Liberation Movement, saying that
she does not like the present-day concepts about women because they
view the ideal woman to be the one who has a slim body. [ Excerpted
from the book "Risaalah Ila Hawaa' by Rasheed Al-'OOwayid [
A woman so fond of the Abaya that she wears it at home
A Korean girl wrote on the internet, "I love your dress…yes…Ilove this
Abaya which fully covers the body. I love it so much and love to wear
it. I asked my cousin, who works in the Gulf region to send me one.
Once it was sent to me, I wore it immediately. Although many people
mocked me and were surprised at my appearance, I stillwear it from
time to time and sometimes at home. I feel greatlycomfortable and
content when wearing it."
At a time when women all over the world are searching for their
identity by returning to decency and covering up, many Muslim women
are trying to find ways and justifications to say that Hijaab is not a
religious obligation, or that the essence is more important than
appearances.
Muslim sister, do not sacrifice theeverlasting life in the Hereafter;
do not risk it. You cannot do that.It is either everlasting bliss or
everlasting doom. Many women before you followed the way of liberation
and pride, but they reaped loss, failure, depression and misery. What
will you lose if you put on Hijaab ? What will you lose if you cover
your hair, arms and legs? Please, answer: What loss will you incur?
What has your friend who puts on Hijaab lost? Do not expose yourself
to the anger of Allaah The Almighty; otherwise, you live in suffering,
misery and pain. You have to put on Hijaab and quit the futile
argument. Just put it on. You arenot wiser than the women who wore
it, nor are you more beautiful or smarter than they are. You may ask
them about it. Oslave of Allaah, The Compeller, return to your Lord,
submit and surrender to Him; beware of the anger of Allaah The
Sovereign. Hijaab is not a free, personal choice and you are not free.
Islamhas its rules and principles, so whoever claims to adhere to it
is not allowed to violate its rules. Whoever accepts Islam as a
religion should submit to its orders and avoid its prohibitions.
Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): } Whoever does righteousness,
whether male or female, while he is a believer, We will surely cause
him to live a good life, and We will surely give them their reward [in
the Hereafter] according to the best of what they used to do. { [Quran
16:97]
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a free personal choice. As aMuslim woman, you are not free; you are a
slave of Allaah The Almighty. What is the relationship between freedom
and uncovering parts of your body, adorning yourself, and uncovering
your face? Does the belief that 'beauty of the soul is the real
beauty' entitle a woman to be indecently dressed?
The enemies of Islam have turnedwomen into a cheap commodity; they
despise you; they do not respect your mind, thought or character; they
are only concerned about your body. Otherwise, let me know: What is
the rationale behind an attractivewoman appearing on an advertisement
for razors or tires? Does this show respect for a woman's mind? Or
does this point to the fact that the media and marketing industry only
think about exploiting her body? Why do they not let women who are
covered in Hijaab be shown in their ads?
If you could listen to what your colleagues in the university or work
say about you behind your back, you would be horrified. They speak
about your looks. They do not care for your intelligence or
personality; they are only concerned about your femininity. This is
the nature of man, and whoever claims otherwise is either a liar or
abnormal.
Wearing Hijaab is not a free personal choice, and you are certainly
not free to do as you think fit; you are a slave of Allaah The
Almighty. You have no right to disobey His orders. Allaah The Almighty
Says (what means): } And whoever turns away from Myremembrance –
indeed, he will have a depressed life, and We willgather him on the
Day of Resurrection blind." He will say,"My Lord, why have You raised
me blind while I was [once] seeing?" [Allaah] will say, "Thus did Our
signs come to you, and you forgot them; and thus will you this Day be
forgotten." And thus do We recompense he who transgressed and did not
believe in the signs of his Lord. And the punishment of the Hereafter
is more severe and more enduring. { [Quran 20:124-127]
Hijaab is not a free personal choice because it is the commandof
Allaah The Almighty and His Messenger , and the consensus of the
Muslim scholars. Furthermore, Hijaab gives you the chance to test the
truthfulness of those who claim that they are only concerned withyour
mind and character. If the case is true as they claim, wearing Hijaab
will help them focus on your character, not your make-up, clothes, or
charms. At this point you will discover the truth, and you will not
find any man paying you attention or speaking to you because they do
not need anything from you except your femininity.
It is shameful that a woman whopretends to respect herself and cherish
her honor and dignity seeks to impress people with her body. Surely,
you humiliate your humanity by failing to adhere to correct Hijaab and
by showing off your face in place.
An American woman says that she got fed up with such widespread
corruption in her society, where a woman is judged only according to
her appearance, and this greatly influences her field of work,
promotions, and the opportunities of practical and emotional life. She
adds that a woman has to always appear beautiful and attractive in
order to attain easy success in every stage of her life.
This woman converted to three religions that could not soothe her
agony. Now she adheres to a sect of Judaism because she admires the
fact that this sect obliges women to dress modestly and admonishes
them not to intermix with men except in case of necessity.
Another American woman says that she has embraced one of theold pagan
religions of the Native Americans because that religion pays special
respect to women, orders them to wear decent clothes and prohibits
extramarital and premarital relationships. She adds that she feels
that this religion respects women and protects values in society.
A practicing Muslim woman relates that she had been fully covered in
Hijaab when she was obliged to travel to a European country with her
family to receivemedical care for her father. In thehospital, a nurse
asked her permission to see her face, and when the nurse saw it, she
was shocked. She thought that the woman covered her face because she
was ugly or had a defect. When the nurse asked the woman why she was
covering up, the woman explained to her that Islam sees women as a
jewelthat must be kept away from the eyes of strangers. The woman said
that the nurse was listening attentively, and later, she said,"How
wonderful! I wish I could cover myself up like you. I suffer alot from
people's looks at the details of my body and feel that I am a dummy;
even here I feel that all people are staring at me."
Professor Sigrid Hunke, author of the famous book Allah's Sun
Risesover the West , outlines the glory of the Arabs and Muslims and
theinfluence of their civilization on the Western renaissance. In an
Islamic conference, she was asked to give advice to a Muslim woman who
wanted to discard her Hijaab . She said,
"A Muslim woman should not take the European or American women as role
models. By doing so, she loses the elements of her character. Thus,
she has to abide by the original guidance of Islam and follow in the
footsteps of theearly righteous women. She should cherish their
values and adapt them to the needs of modern times. She should also
focus on her significant mission of being a mother of the future Arab
generation."
Helen Stanberry, an American writer and a freelance journalist for
more than 250 American newspapers, publishes a daily article read by
millions of Americans. She spent several weeks in an Arab country, and
when she returned home, she said that the Arab society is perfect and
sound, and it should adhere to its customs which limitthe freedom of
young women and men reasonably. She adds that the Arabs have inherited
manners which necessitate limiting the freedom of the woman,
respecting the mother and father, and, more than that, eliminating the
immorality of theWest which is destroying the society and families in
Europe and America. She advises the Arabs to continue preventing the
free intermixing between the two sexes, narrow the freedom of the
girl, and adhere to Hijaab like the earlier generations did. This
would be better for the Arabs than immorality, liberty and the
profligacy of Europe and America.
Anger with this inferior look at women was condemned in the words of
Meryl Streep, an American actress, and the 1983 Academy Award winner.
In a press conference, she said that every time she visited a public
place, people would scrutinize the measurements of her body tomake
sure that she was a beautiful and worthy of being thebest American
actress. This disturbed her a lot because she knew that people looked
at her only to judge her body. .
She contested the so-called Women's Liberation Movement, saying that
she does not like the present-day concepts about women because they
view the ideal woman to be the one who has a slim body. [ Excerpted
from the book "Risaalah Ila Hawaa' by Rasheed Al-'OOwayid [
A woman so fond of the Abaya that she wears it at home
A Korean girl wrote on the internet, "I love your dress…yes…Ilove this
Abaya which fully covers the body. I love it so much and love to wear
it. I asked my cousin, who works in the Gulf region to send me one.
Once it was sent to me, I wore it immediately. Although many people
mocked me and were surprised at my appearance, I stillwear it from
time to time and sometimes at home. I feel greatlycomfortable and
content when wearing it."
At a time when women all over the world are searching for their
identity by returning to decency and covering up, many Muslim women
are trying to find ways and justifications to say that Hijaab is not a
religious obligation, or that the essence is more important than
appearances.
Muslim sister, do not sacrifice theeverlasting life in the Hereafter;
do not risk it. You cannot do that.It is either everlasting bliss or
everlasting doom. Many women before you followed the way of liberation
and pride, but they reaped loss, failure, depression and misery. What
will you lose if you put on Hijaab ? What will you lose if you cover
your hair, arms and legs? Please, answer: What loss will you incur?
What has your friend who puts on Hijaab lost? Do not expose yourself
to the anger of Allaah The Almighty; otherwise, you live in suffering,
misery and pain. You have to put on Hijaab and quit the futile
argument. Just put it on. You arenot wiser than the women who wore
it, nor are you more beautiful or smarter than they are. You may ask
them about it. Oslave of Allaah, The Compeller, return to your Lord,
submit and surrender to Him; beware of the anger of Allaah The
Sovereign. Hijaab is not a free, personal choice and you are not free.
Islamhas its rules and principles, so whoever claims to adhere to it
is not allowed to violate its rules. Whoever accepts Islam as a
religion should submit to its orders and avoid its prohibitions.
Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): } Whoever does righteousness,
whether male or female, while he is a believer, We will surely cause
him to live a good life, and We will surely give them their reward [in
the Hereafter] according to the best of what they used to do. { [Quran
16:97]
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