She got burned and it left scars; does she have to tell her fiancé?

I am a girl, twenty-five years old. I was in an accident as a result
of which I suffered burns, the scars of which are still present on
both my legs. Now I am engaged; do I have to tell my fiancé about
these scars before doing the marriage contract? I would like to tell
him about it but I feel too shy to talk to him.
Praise be to Allaah.
If the scars from the burns are large and disfiguring in a way
thatcould be off-putting to the husband, it is essential to tell him
before doing the marriage contract, because withholding that
information is regarded as deceit. The basic principle is that any
defect that could be off-putting to the husband and prevent fulfilment
of the aims of marriage, namely compassion and love, must be disclosed
and it is not permissible to conceal it.
This has been discussed previously in the answerto question no. 103411
But if the scars are not very visible or they are unlikely to cause
the husband to be put off, then you do not have to tell your fiancé
about it, because that is not regarded as one of the defects that
would affectthe marriage.
In the event that it is obligatory to tell the husband about it, that
could be done through your father or brother, so that you can avoid
talking to your fiancé unnecessarily, because he is still a non-mahram
to you like any other non-mahram.
We ask Allah to help and guide us and you.
And Allah knows best.

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Allah Will Protect Me

Once Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was taking rest under a tree
when he was returning from an expedition and hung his sword from the
tree. A Non-Muslim person came quietly, took hold of the sword and,
addressing the Prophet said to him: "O Muhammad! now who will save you
from my hand?" The Prophet heard it, rose up from his seat and said:
"Allah will save me." Hearing the name of Allah, he was overawed and
the sword slipped from his hand. The Prophet rose up from his place,
took the sword into his hand and questioned him:"Now who will save you
from my hand?" He felt sorry and begged apology. The Prophet forgave
him. He was so impressed by this kindness that he embraced Islam. He
then went to his tribesmen and expressed that he never found a man
better than Muhammad (peace be upon him).
Source: "The Miracles of the Prophet" by Shaikh Ahmed S. Dehalvi; also
related in Bukhari and other sources with slightvariations.
Related to the protectionof the Prophet Muhammad, Allah has mentioned
in the Quran"O Apostle! proclaim the message which has beensent to you
from your Lord. If you do not do it, you would not have fulfilled and
proclaimed this mission. And Allah will defend you against men who
mean mischief.For Allah guides not those who reject faith." (Al Quran
5:67).

How Kind is Allah!

There lived an idolator in the past who made anidol out of stone and
would worship it everyday. He would call it upon it by saying "Ya
Sanam." For seventy years, he worshipped this idol. One day by mistake
he uttered "Ya Samad" instead of Ya Sanam. Samad is a name of Allah
which means The Self Sufficient Master. Allah Ta'ala immediately
replied back to this idolator by saying "I am present oh My slave."
The angels asked Allah why He replied to him since he didn't even call
upon Him intentionally. Allah told the angels that for seventy years I
have been waiting for this servant of mine to turn towards Me!
If a mother has only one child then how much would she love him? He
would be the coolness ofher eyes and the comfortof her heart. But if
this son calls her saying"Mommy" more than four or five times, she
would get irritated even though she loves him more than her ownself.
On the other hand, whenwe call Allah once, He replies back to us 70
times by saying "LabbaikYa Abdi (I am here oh Myslave)." How
unfortunatewe are that we have not recognized our Allah who is so
Kind, Merciful and Forgiving.
Source: Extracted from the lecture by Shaikh Tariq Jameel.

116 hadith found in ' Purity ' of Malik's Muwatta.

2.1.2
Yahya related to me fromMalik from Abu'zZinad from al-Araj from Abu
Hurayra that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, said, "When you do wudu, snuff water into your nose andblow it
out, and if you use stones to clean your private parts use an odd
number."
2.1.3
Yahya related to me fromIbn Shihab from Abu Idrisal-Khawlani from Abu
Hurayra that the Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him
peace, said, "The person doing wudu should snuff water up hisnose and
blow it out again."
2.1.4
Yahya said that he heard Malik say that there was no harm in washing
the mouth and cleaning the nose with only one handful of water.
2.1.5
Yahya related to me fromMalik that he had heard that Abd ar-Rahman ibn
Abi Bakr was visiting A'isha, the wife of the Prophet, may AIIah bless
him and grant him peace, on the day that Sad ibn Abi Waqqas died,and
he asked for some water to do wudu. A'isha said to him, ''Abd
ar-Rahman! Perform yourwudu fully, for I heard the Messenger of Allah,
may Allah bless him and grant him peace, say, 'Woe to the heels in the
fire.' "
2.1.6
Yahya related to me fromMalik from Yahya ibn Muhammad ibn Talhafrom
Uthman ibn Abd ar-Rahman that his father related to him thathe had
heard that Umar ibn al-Khattab used to wash what was beneath his waist
wrapper with water.


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