He studies in a mixed environment and when he interacts with his female classmate she doubts his actions

The learning environment am in forces me to be close to this
particular sister in islam. I treat her with all da respect a muslim
brother should give to a sister. However she doubts most of my actions
to her, and most of my favours to her, even though she acceptsthem
sometimes. please note that I dont do this very often or in a manner
that would suggest evil thoughts. This behaviour hurts me,considering
the fact thatI know I am very much sincere in all that I do to her and
I have no bad intentions. I always think of explaining this to her but
the only thingthat stops me from doing so is the hope thatmaybe by
enduring the pain to myself I'll have a better reward infront of Allah
in akhera, I haven'tfound another choice. Is there any or shuold I
stick to the one I have?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Free mixing in schools, universities and other places is haraam
because of the evils and negative consequences to which it leads. This
has been discussed previously in the answers to questions no. 1200 and
50398
The one who is faced with that and cannot find a school or university
that is not mixed has to fear Allah, lower his gaze, and keepaway from
women and talking to them, let alone making friends with them, except
for when there is a real need to talk to them, in which case he should
talk with them only as much as is necessary.
What appears to be the case from your question is that you are not
compelled to do these things, in addition to thedoubt that it causes
in this sister's mind. Hence what you have to do is give it up and
avoid this girl and others, and remember that if it werenot for the
need for education, it would not be permissible to you to remain in
this mixed environment.
If you can change to a study group other than the one in which this
sister is, then do that. If not, then refrain from these interactions
that are making her doubt you, and keep it to the minimum of
interaction between you.
We ask Allah to forgive you and to protect you from evils both
apparentand hidden.
And Allah knows best.

He loves his kaafir Professor dearly; what is the ruling on that?

I am 20, male and a thirdyear medical student. Im a devout Muslim. My
family is also deeply religious. But I'm in a very complex situation.
When I was in college at the age of 17, I started developing a
father-son relationship with one of my teachers. That would be fine if
he was a Muslim. But he was born in a Hindu family, an atheist now for
a long time and also critical about all religions including Islam. He
loves me too much and beyond imagination. I know it because he talksto
me everyday though now he lives in a foreigncountry. Everyday we keep
contact- literally everyday. And honestly I love him too much too; I
go crazy if he doesn't call me even just one day. I always think he is
my father. All my family and friends know about our relation and
accept it.
But I don't like him being critical about religions including my
religion. I also told him that. It's true that he never told me
anything definitive about Islam like other atheists say for example
'Islam suppresses women' etc. etc. nor did he ever say to me to become
an atheist. He sometimes talks about different 'ayats' and points out
that this 'ayat' says so, that 'ayat' tells Muslims to do so etc. etc.
as he studies religions and theholy books. He read the Koran and the
Hadiths few times.
Now the big issue is:
Does Islam approve of such relation with a non-Muslim who is also
critical about Islam? Please give references from the Koran and
Hadiths when you answer me back. Islam comes first to me, every one
else later. If Islam does not approve of it, I'll surely cut this
relation. But that will definitely take a huge toll on me.
Praise be to Allaah.
If the matter is as you describe in your question, we advise you to
strive hard to distanceyourself from this man and to cut off this
relationship that is based on great love for him, because that is
damaging to your religious commitment, and the affect of that is clear
from your words about your deep attachment to him, your lengthy
relationship with him and your not being able to leave him. All of
that is very damaging to the Muslim's 'aqeedah (belief) which requires
him to disavow the disbelievers and to take as close friends and love
the believers. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the
meaning):
"You (O Muhammad SAW) will not find any people who believe in Allah
and the Last Day, making friendship with those who oppose Allah and
His Messenger (Muhammad SAW ), eventhough they were their fathers, or
their sons, or their brothers, or their kindred (people). For such He
has written Faithin their hearts, and strengthened them with Rooh
(proofs, light and true guidance) from Himself. And We will admit them
to Gardens (Paradise) under which rivers flow, to dwell therein
(forever). Allah ispleased with them, and they with Him. They are the
Party of Allah. Verily, it is the Party of Allah that will be the
successful."
[al-Mujaadilah 58:22].
This love of the heart is aserious matter, because it is contrary to
the teachings of al-wala' wa'l-bara' (love and loyalty versus
disavowal and enmity), which is one of the most important basic
principles of Islam and one of the strongest bonds of faith, which is
indicated by a great dealof evidence from the Qur'an and Sunnah.
Please see the answer to question no. 47322 and 23325
This does not mean that you cannot treat him kindly if you meet him or
you have a class together or work together, without being eager to
meet him outside of school or work. So strive to correctyourself and
end this forbidden friendship. If it so happens that you meet for any
reason, make it your main concern to make him love Islam and call him
to it, and warn him of the grave situation that he is in, in the hope
that Allah may decree that hebe guided out your hand. At that time,
your love for him will be beneficial to him when you to call him to
Islam. We ask Allah to help you to do that which is good.
And Allah knows best

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Abdullah Ibn Sailam_ - Biographies of the Companions (Sahabah)

Al-Husayn ibn Sailam was a Jewish rabbi in Yathrib who was widely
respected and honoured by the people of the city even by those who
were not Jewish. He was known for his piety and goodness, his upright
conduct and his truthfulness.
Al-Husayn lived a peaceful and gentle life but he was serious,
purposeful and organized in the way he spent his time. For a fixed
period each day, he would worship, teach and preach in thetemple. Then
he would spend some time in his orchard, looking after date palms,
pruning and pollinating. Thereafter, to increase his understanding and
knowledge of his religion, he would devote himself to the study of the
Torah.
In this study, it is said he was particularly struck by some verses of
the Torah which dealt with the coming of a Prophet who would complete
the message of previous Prophets. Al-Husayn therefore took an
immediate and keen interest when he heard reports of the appearance of
a Prophet in Makkah. He said:
"When I heard of the appearance of the Messenger of God, peace be on
him, I began tomake enquiries about his name, his genealogy, his
characteristics, his time and place and I began to compare this
information with what is contained m our books. From these enquiries,
I became convinced about the authenticityof his prophethood and I
affirmed the truth of his mission. However, I concealed my conclusions
from the Jews. I held my tongue...
Then came the day when the Prophet, peace be on him, left Makkah and
headed for Yathrib. When he reached Yathrib and stopped at Quba, a man
came rushing into the city, calling out to people and announcing the
arrival of the Prophet. At that moment, I was at the top of a palm
tree doing some work. My aunt, Khalidah bint al-Harith, was sitting
under the tree. On hearing the news, I shouted:
'Allahu Akbar! Allahu Akbar! (Godis Great! God is Great!' When my aunt
heard my takbir, she remonstrated with me: 'May Godfrustrate you...By
God, if you hadheard that Moses was coming you would not have been
more enthusiastic.'
'Auntie, he is really, by God, the 'brother' of Moses and follows his
religion. He was sent with the same mission as Moses.' She was silent
for a while and then said: 'Is he the Prophet about whom you spoke to
us who would be sent to confirm the truth preached by previous
(Prophets) and complete the message of his Lord?' 'Yes,' I replied.
Without any delay or hesitation, I went out to meet the Prophet. I saw
crowds of people at his door. I moved about in the crowds until I
reached close to him. The first words I heard him say were:
'O people! Spread peace...Share food...Pray during the night while
people (normally) sleep... and you will enter Paradise in peace...'
I looked at him closely. I scrutinized him and was convinced that his
face was not that of an imposter. I went closer to him and made the
declaration of faith that there is no god but Allah and that Muhammad
is the Messenger of Allah.
The Prophet turned to me and asked: 'What is your name?' 'Al-Husayn
ibn Sailam,' I replied.
'Instead, it is (now) Abdullah ibnSallam,' he said (giving me a new
name). 'Yes,' I agreed. 'Abdullah ibn Sailam (it shall be).By Him who
has sent you with the Truth, I do not wish to have another name after
this day.'
I returned home and introduced Islam to my wife, my children and the
rest of my household. They all accepted Islam includingmy aunt
KhaIidah who was thenan old lady. However, I advised them then to
conceal our acceptance of Islam from the Jews until I gave them
permission. They agreed.
Subsequently, I went back to theProphet, peace be on him, and said: 'O
Messenger of God! The Jews are a people (inclined to) slander and
falsehood. I want you to invite their most prominent men to meet you.
(During the meeting however), you should keep me concealed from them
in one of your rooms.Ask them then about my status among them before
they find out of my acceptance of Islam. Then invite them to Islam. If
they were to know that I have become a Muslim, they would denounce me
and accuse me of everything base and slander me.'
The Prophet kept me in one of his rooms and invited the prominent
Jewish personalities to visit him. He introduced Islamto them and
urged them to havefaith in God...They began to dispute and argue with
him about the Truth. When he realized that they were not inclined to
accept Islam, he put the question to them:
'What is the status of Al-Husayn ibn Sailam among you?'
'He is our sayyid (leader) and the son of our sayyid. He is our
rabbiand our alim (scholar), the son of our rabbi and alim.'
'If you come to know that he has accepted Islam, would you accept
Islam also?' asked the Prophet.
'God forbid! He would not acceptIslam. May God protect him
fromaccepting Islam,' they said (horrified).
At this point I came out in full view of them and announced: 'O
assembly of Jews! Be conscious of God and accept what Muhammad has
brought. By God, you certainly know that he is the Messenger of God
and you can find prophecies about him and mention of his name and
characteristics in your Torah. I for my part declare that he is
theMessenger of God. I have faith in him and believe that he is true.
I know him.'
'You are a liar,' they shouted. 'ByGod, you are evil and ignorant, the
son of an evil and ignorant person.' And they continued to heap every
conceivable abuse on
me..."
Abdullah ibn Sailam approached Islam with a soul thirsty for
knowledge. He was passionately devoted to the Quran and spent much
time reciting and studyingits beautiful and sublime verses. He was
deeply attached to the noble Prophet and was constantly in his
company.
Much of his time he spent in the masjid, engaged in worship, in
learning and in teaching. He wasknown for his sweet, moving and
effective way of teaching study circles of Sahabah who assembled
regularly in the Prophet's mosque.
Abdullah ibn Sallam was known among the Sahabah as a man from
ahl-al-Jannah "- the people of Paradise. This was because of his
determination on the advice of the Prophet to hold steadfastly to the
"most trustworthy handhold" that is belief in and total submission to
God.

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Am I jealous or is he a flirt?

I'm trying to find the answer to this question and it's really hard
for me, believe me!
I truly love my husband with whom we've been married for 8 years, the
first 3 of which we spent living separately in different countries.
Now we are already together. In the beginning everything was perfect
and I even feared sharingthis with others because people say "it's too
good to last".
So, I've noticed recently that when we are in a company with
handsomemen my husband is constantly around me and he is very kind and
affectionate to me. I find this normal and I'm quite pleased with it.
I considerthis the right attitude to a wife. I like showing my
feelings towards him in front of people and I'm very happy when they
notice it. The problem is that when we are in a company with
attractive women he changes abruptly – he stops touching me at all,
even keeps a distance, or if I show in some way or another that he is
my beloved husband he is unpleasantly surprised and stands as if
frozen, while his attitude to the other women is more than friendly.
There have been cases when he has spoken to a woman for about 10-15
minutes and haven't even looked at me meanwhile. (to say nothing of
including me in the conversation!). Sometimes I hesitated on leaving
the place in orderto see if he will notice myabsence. I think this
will probably last at least an hour or until he sees some handsome guy
around.
Whenever he meets a woman he will greet her with a hug, in which I
find nothing bad, but after that he will study her from head to toe
while talking to her. Another issue is that when a woman calls him on
the phone he becomes so enthusiastic that you may think this is the
happiest day in his life. However when I call him he gets so awfully
indifferent. And this happens when I'm tellinghim his favorite team
haswon an important game.
After this description of the situation (not mentioning many other
similar cases and the bad thing is unpleasant memories get more and
more) I'm asking you to help me see if I'm too jealous.
I will appreciate this a lotbecause right now I'm onthe verge of a divorce.