The father said: I give my daughter in marriage to So and so, in front of Muslim witnesses, then he changed his mind and recanted his words

A father says that he giveshis daughter in marriage to X in front of
Muslim witnesses, including two males, and gives them permission to
inform friends and family relatives about it. After everybody has been
informed and the boy has given the mehr to the girl,the father changes
his mind.
Is it permissible for the father to stop them from starting to live
together? Are they considered to be married or not?
Praise be to Allah.
The marriage contract is completed with the proposal and acceptance.
The proposal is when the wife's guardian says, "I give So and so to
you in marriage." The acceptanceis when the groom says, "I accept" or
"I accept marriage to So and so." It is not essential for it to bein
these exact words; rather the marriage contract is completed by
whatever phrases indicatemarriage.
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy onhim) said: The basic
principle is that all contracts are completed by means of whatever
signifies them according to custom, whether it is inthe words
mentioned or otherwise, in the case of the marriage contract andother
contracts. This is thecorrect opinion and it is the view favoured by
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah havemercy on him).
End quote from ash-Sharhal-Mumti', 12/40
And he (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Some of the scholars
stipulated specific phrases in some contracts and said that they must
be used, as in the marriage contract for example, where they said that
it is essential (for the guardian) to say: "I give to you in
marriage…", andfor (the groom) to say, "I accept."
Other scholars say that all contracts are completed by means of
whatever phrases signify them according to custom. This view is the
one that is correct, and this is the view favoured by Shaykh al-Islam
Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy onhim), because transactionsare not
acts of worship in which one should adhere strictly to what has been
narrated; rather they are transactions between people. So whatever
people regard as a sale is a sale, whatever they regard as a pledge
(or mortgage) is a pledge (or mortgage), whatever theyregard as a waqf
(endowment) is a waqf, and whatever they regardas marriage is
marriage.
The correct opinion is thatthere is no specific format for any
contract; rather the contract is completed by means of that which
signifies it, and no one can prove that there is any difference
between sale transactions and other types of transactions. If they
say, for example, that Allah mentioned marriage by using the word
nikaah, we say: likewise, He mentioned sales by using the word bay';
are you saying that it is essential to say, "Bi'tu (I have sold)"?
They will say that this is not essential, as buying and selling are
done by whatever wording signifies that according to custom, witha
proposal and acceptance(after the proposal).
End quote from ash-Sharhal-Mumti', 8/101
If the father of the girl said: "I have given my daughter in marriage
to So and so," and the husband responded in a way that signified
acceptance, then the proposal and acceptance have taken place.
Moreover, there are essential conditions for marriage which must be
met: there should be consent from both spouses, and the
marriagecontract should be done by the woman's guardian issuing his
proposal in thepresence of two witnesses. If these conditions were
met, thenthe marriage has been done and the guardian does not have the
right toretract it or annul it unlessthere is a reason that makes
annulment permissible, such as annulment due to a physical defect (in
one of the spouses) or annulment for going against the conditions.
Our advice is to refer the matter to a scholar whomyou trust, so that
he can listen to the guardian, andthe husband and wife.
We ask Allah to help and guide us and you.
And Allah knows best.

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institutions, management units, education systems and press and
broadcasting organizations has been using various media institutions
for the last 150 years to convince people that the evolution deception
is true. It has kept 300 million fossils proving Creation carefully
hidden away, spread Darwinist frauds across the world in a highly
organized manner and sought to give the impression that science
corroborates evolution. The Darwinist dictatorshipkeeps evolution in
the public eye through despotism and fraud. Thatis the sole reason why
evolution is taught in schools and insistently defended in the world's
best-known scientific journals despite being an utter fraud.
· Proof of evolution is not, therefore, the fact
that everyone is forced to espouse evolution. If evolutionists want to
prove evolution THEY MUST PRODUCE SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE AND THAT
SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE MUST DE EXPLICIT AND IRREFUTABLE.
· Darwinists MUST NOT RUN AND HIDE when scientific
evidence isdemanded. When fossils proving Creation are produced THEY,
TOO, MUSTPRODUCE TRANSITIONAL FOSSILS CORROBORATING THEIR THEORIES.
THEY MUST PROVE THAT PROTEIN CAN COME INTO EXISTENCE SPONTANEOUSLY.
THEY MUST PROVIDE EVIDENCE showing that they hypotheses about the
beginning of life can be confirmed, even under conscious laboratory
conditions. THEY MUST BE ABLE TO SHOW, WITH SUPPORTING SCIENTIFIC
EVIDENCE, HOW ONE SPECIES CAN TURN INTO ANOTHER.
· DARWINISTS MUST ABANDON ALL THEIRSPECULATION.
They must not respond with demagoguery to questions such as "How did a
protein come into being?", "How did a fish with fins grow wings and
begin to fly?" "How can a bear turn into a whale?" or "Where are all
the transitional fossils?" THEY MUST PRODUCE GENUINE, EXPLICIT AND
SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE.
· But Darwinists can never, everproduce any
explicit, irrefutable and scientific evidence corroborating evolution.
That is the reason for the existing demagoguery. That is the sole
reason for the theory being protected by the Darwinist dictatorship.
Evolution IS THE WORST AND WIDEST RANGING SCIENTIFIC FRAUD IN HISTORY,
PERPETRATED WITH NO SLIGHTEST SENSEOF SHAME.
For comprehensive articles about the Darwinist dictatorship, see:
http://darwinistdictatorship.com/
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Hazrat Mahdi (as) Will Begin Communicating The Religion In Hijri 1400 (1980 ad)
PEOPLE WILL GATHER AROUND HAZRAT MAHDI (AS) IN THE YEAR 1400. (Risalat
al-Khuruj al-Mahdi, p. 108)
This hadith makes it clear that Hijri 1400 will be the year when
Hazrat Mahdi (as) begins his work in Istanbul and people first start
collecting around him. In addition, Bediuzzaman also states in his
works that Hazrat Mahdi (as) will begin communicating the religion in
the Hijri year 1400:
... [THEY] SUPPOSE[D] A FACT [the coming of Hazrat Mahdi (as)] THAT
WOULD OCCUR IN THE FUTURE OF THE WORLD ONE THOUSAND FOUR HUNDRED YEARS
LATER TO BE CLOSE TO THEIR CENTURY... (Bediuzzaman Said Nursi, Words,
'The Twenty-fourth Word: Third Branch, Eight Principle)
In addition, Bediuzzaman has aldo revealed that Hazrat Mahdi (as) will
begin communicating the word in Hijri 1400:
COUNT TWO OR THREE DECADES AFTER THE YEAR/DECADE OF HIJRI 1400. AT
THAT TIME, HAZRAT MAHDI (AS) EMERGES… (Asmal Masalik Lieyyam Mahdiyy
Maliki Li Kull-id Dunya Biemrillah-il Malik, Qalda bin Zayd, p. 216)
The Walayat (Saintship) Will Come To An End With Hazrat Mahdi (as)
In his work "al-Jawab al-Mustaqim," written as an answer to questions
posed by al-Hakim al-Tirmidhi in his "Hatm'al-awliya," Muhyiddin Ibn
Arabi writes:
" The age of propertywill come to an end with him , [Hazrat Mahdi
(as)], and walayat will end with him ..." (Muhyiddin IbnArabi,
al-Jawab al-Mustaqim amma Seele anhu al-Hakim al-Tirmidhi, Bayazid,
no: 3750, sheet 242b)

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The number of such examples one encounters in his daily life are
numerous. For this reasonit is of vital importance to very well
understand this issue and to always keep it in mind. Whether trivial
or significant, any incidentone encounters in daily life is utterly
preordained. Muslims must always be vigilant against the whisperings
of satan saying, "These are the common needs of daily life; they have
no relation whatsoever with destiny."Having a good grasp of this issue
and keeping it in mind, considering everyincident with an eye of
wisdom, and assessing all events evolving within the beautiful destiny
of Allah is a great blessing inthis world and the Hereafter. It is a
fact that is instrumental for one's wisdom, will, comfort andpeace.
The True Face Of TheClaim That ''Everyone In The World Believes In Evolution''
Darwinists maintain that "there is no need to dot the 'i's and cross
the 't's" in order to prove evolution and that "all theworld already
believes in evolution," and that this istherefore enough to prove the
validity of the theory. In order to corroborate their claims, they
suggest that there is nobody in the world's greatest universities who
does not know about and support evolution.
It is true that evolution is espoused in the great universities of the
world, taught in almost all countries and known to the entire world.
The reason for that is EVOLUTION IS PROTECTED UNDER NATIONAL LAWS
UNDER IMPOSITION FROM THE DARWINIST DICTATORSHIP and that opponents of
evolution ARE SILENCED by this sinister dictatorial system.
· It is in fact quite astonishing that Darwinists
make such a claim in order to corroborate evolution. Because we have
many times revealed how the pressure and imposition on the part of the
Darwinist dictatorship affects the entire world. The fact that
evolution is imposed on the whole world through force and intimidation
is therefore well known to everyone.
· The Darwinist dictatorship hasbrought almost all
official institutions in the world under its protection and control,
and evolution hasbecome enshrined in law in all countries. As a
resultof pressure from the Darwinist dictatorship, all official bodies
have become obliged to support evolution.
· The dictatorship in question removes people who
stand up against evolution from their university chairs and posts,
prevents students from passing their exams, and puts an end to the
activities and careers of anti-evolutionists, also preventing them
from finding other work in the future.
· Some Darwinists behave as if they were unaware of this and even
claim that "it is religious types who are removed from their posts"
and that a psychological tactic is being employed here. Thefact is,
however, these people removed from their posts for opposing evolution
are not usually known for being religious,but are influential
scientists who have concluded that evolution is a deception as a
result of their research.
· Some examples of this appearedin, Ben Stein's
documentary film "Expelled: No Intelligence Allowed" in 2008.
Scientists removed from their posts described theirexperiences in
their own words, how they were declared to be "intellectual
terrorists" simply for questioning evolution.
Some of the scientists removed from their posts simply for questioning
forevolution
· Some of these people removed from their posts
were subjected to smear campaigns to prevent them finding work in the
future.
· Authorities at the universities or institutions
these people worked in had no compunction about making use of
statementsthese people made questioning evolution in order to remove
them from their posts. In other words, there is no other underlying
reason behind their removal, as some Darwinists allege.
· We must notforget Michael Reiss, who was removed
from his post before the eyes of the world for opposing evolution. The
entire world knows that Reiss was sacked for wanting Creation to be
taught in schools alongside evolution.
Evolution is of course known across the world, and people are forced
to support it as a result of this unpleasing imposition. People have
to appear to support this theory if they are not to lose their jobs
and careers. The administrations of the world's most eminent
universities make supportfor evolution a precondition in teaching.
Because of this pressure, everyone from the first person in the
world's top 500 universities to the last knows about evolution and has
to appear to support it.
This Darwinist dictatorship that has taken control of all
officialinstitutions, management units, :->

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Nothing occurs, either in the earth or in yourselves, without its
being in a Book before We make it happen. That is something easy for
Allah. (Surat al-Hadid, 22)
You have asked from Allah about durations of life already set, and the
length of days already allotted and the sustenance the share of which
has been fixed. Allah would not do anything earlier before itsdue
time, or He would notdelay anything beyond itsdue time. (Muslim)
Destiny is flowing in favorof Islam. For example, haddestiny been
going the antichrist's way, then no matter how much we strove, whether
we had 7,000 channels, 70,000 radio stations of hundredsof thousands
of professorson our side, we would stillbe defeated. Destiny would
work that way. Butsince Allah has ordained the victory of the way of
the Mahdi, since that is destined, you will still wineven if there are
only 12 of you. (A9 TV, April 18, 2012)
Following The Destiny Is A Great Ease For All Muslims
There is no creature on the earth which is not dependent upon Allah
for its provision. He knows where it lives and where it dies. They are
all in a Clear Book. (Surah Hud, 6)
Destiny is Allah's perfect knowledge of all events past or future, as
if a single moment. This expresses the absolute sovereignty of Allah
over all beings and events. People can be aware of a certain event
when they experience it. But Allah knows all events prior to their
occurrence. For Allah,past, present and future are all the same. They
are all within the knowledge of Allah since He is the One Who creates
them.
For a Muslim, encountering various suffering and difficulties in daily
life is both a trial and a means by which he can make comparison with
the rewards he hopes to attain in Paradise. It is a source of great
pleasure that will bederived from the comparison of hardship and ease,
comfort and relief. Also for a sincere Muslim it is a beauty that will
be instrumental in earning other Muslims' appreciation and love when
they see them in the infinite life. These trials are blessings which
offer many benefits and beauties; by Allah's leave they become
instrumentalin making believers draw closer to Allah. Unbelievers, on
the other hand, secretly or sometimes openly appreciate them.
A person who thinks that an incident he encounters is not
"preordained" is intensively under satan's influence. Satan's
influence may cause such delusions and a person's coming to such a
state that lowers one's rank in Allah's Sight pleases satan.Under the
satan's influence, deeming that a seemingly trivial issue is not
preordained and is thus out of Allah's mercy, knowledge and plan or
totally forgetting this totally is a disease. A Muslim must
cautiously, meticulously treat this disease and avoid contracting this
malady.
As the verse, "Indeed, all things We created with predestination."
(Surat al-Qamar, 49) also suggests, every thing in the world is part
of that destiny. The majority of people do not give a moment's
consideration to the nature of destiny, and, thus, fail to
recognizethat it is Allah's infinite might that exists behind this
flawless order. Some consider that destiny encompasses only human
beings. However, everything in the universe, from the furniture in
your home, toa pebble on the road, or a dried-up weed, a fruit or ajar
on the super-market shelf, are all part of the destiny predetermined
byAllah. The fate of every created thing has been determined within
the infinite wisdom of Allah.
…He knows everything in the land and sea. No leaf falls without His
knowing it. There is no seed in the darkness of the earth, and nothing
moist or dry which is not in a Clear Book. (Surat al-An'am, 59)
For instance there is goodness in all events such as missing a
favorite TV show or forgetting to order food. Sometimes people can see
the wisdom in them with all their details but sometimes they fail to
seethem totally or can only see some part of it. For instance he
misses a TV show but during this timehe earns some time for rendering
a service in the way of Allah or devoting some time to ponder upon
Allah. As a result of this reflection he may attain some understanding
that will increase his strength of service for the rest of his life.
Alternatively during this time he remembers Allah and earns rewards
incomparably greater than the rewards he attains by watching TV. When
he forgets placing an order for food, this may turn out to be a diet
that will be instrumental in curing his sickness. If a person with
high blood pressure forgets to purchase cheese and doesnot eat cheese
that day, then his tension returns to normal levels. He engages in a
good act that earns Allah's admiration because he puts his trust in
Allah and thinks for the good. :->