He told his wife to make food for him during the day in Ramadan!

I have a daughter who is married and she and her husband came to stay
with us during the month of Ramadan. After we hadfasted for one week
of themonth, my daughter's husband went with his friends for an
excursion, and the shaytaan tempted them and they ate and drank during
the day in Ramadan. On the morning of the next day, my daughter's
husband asked her to make food for him but she refused. He swore that
he would divorce her if she did not make it, and she swore that she
would not make it. In order to get out of this situation, I asked my
son's wife to make food for him and she refused, but I forced her to
do it, so she made food for him reluctantly, and he sat and ate on his
own and none of us ate with him. Were we sinning in this case? What do
we have todo in order to expiate thissin?.

Praise be to Allaah.
There is no doubt that breaking the fast in Ramadan with no legitimate
excuse is a major sin and grave evil. If it is done because of an
excuse such as travelling -- which means a journey of approximately 70
or 80km, which is the distance that could be covered in one night on
mounts and on foot, which is what is called travelling -- there
isnothing wrong with breaking the fast in this case. But if one is at
homeor on the outskirts of the city, that is not called travelling and
breaking the fast in this case is a major sin. The one who helps the
person to break his fast shares with him inthe sin, because Allah, may
He be glorified, says (interpretation of the meaning):
"Help you one another in Al-Birr and At-Taqwa (virtue, righteousness
andpiety); but do not help one another in sin and transgression"
[al-Maa'idah 5:2].
The one who helps a person who breaks the fast in Ramadan without an
excuse, by offering himfood or coffee or tea or any other food or
drink is a sinner who is a partner in sin with the one who breaks the
fast, but his fast is still valid and is not invalidated by his
helping that person. But he is a sinner and he has to repent to Allah.
As you forced your daughter or your son's wife to make the food, you
have to repent to Allah. You did wrong by telling her to make food for
him. She did right by not obeying him, because there is no obedience
to acreated being if it involvesdisobedience towards the Creator. The
Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Obedience is
only in that which is right and proper." If her husband ordered her to
bring him food during the day in Ramadan, without any excuse that
would make it permissible for him to break the fast, such as sickness
or travelling, she has no right to help him to do that which Allah
hasforbidden, even if he gets angry or divorces her, because obedience
to Allah takes precedence over obedience to one's husband or father or
ruler,because the Messenger (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
said: "Obedience is only in that which is right and proper"; he also
said: "There is no obedience to any created being if it involves
disobedience towards Allah."
This man is not regarded as a traveller because he stayed with them
for a week and it seems that hehad decided to stay for more than four
days. This means that he was obliged to fast according to the correct
scholarly view, which is the view ofthe majority of scholars. As they
had decided to stay for more than four days with their in-laws, they
should have fasted with them. If the stay is four days or less, they
are not obliged to fast because they are travellers, but if they do
fast, there is nothing wrong with that. But as they intended to stay
with them for more than four days, what they should have done in this
case is fast, so as to avoid an area of scholarly disagreement and so
as tofollow the view of the majority, because the basic principle is
that one should fast in Ramadan, and there is some doubt as to whether
it was permissible to break the fast. End quote.
Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him)

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The fasting person should try hard eat sahoor even if it is a little

We often hear about sahoor during the blessedmonth of Ramadan, and we
hear in the hadeeths that are quoted in the mosques that sahoor is a
blessing. But sometimes we do not want to eat sahoor because we had
supper late, so we omit this blessing. Is there any sin on us for
that?.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is no doubt that sahoor is a Sunnah and anact of worship,
because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him)
enjoined that. He said: "Eat sahoor, for insahoor there is barakah
(blessing)." And he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
"The difference between our fasting and the fasting of the people of
the Book is eating sahoor." The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah
be upon him) used to eat sahoor, so sahoor isSunnah but it is not
obligatory. The one who does not eat sahoor is notsinning but he is
forsakinga Sunnah.
So people should eat sahoor even if it is only a little; it does not
have to be a lot. So one should eatsahoor using whatever is available,
whether it is a few dates or some other kind of food, at the end ofthe
night. If there is no food or he does not feel like eating, then he
can drink a little milk or at least water, whatever he can, and he
should not forgo sahoor, because there is barakah and a great deal of
goodness in eating it; it will help the fasting person in whatever he
does during the day. So the fasting person should not forgo sahoor
even if it is a little, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of
Allah be upon him) said: "Eat sahoor, for in sahoor there is barakah
(blessing)." This is what the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be
upon him) said, and this kind of barakah should not be ignored; rather
thebeliever should be keen to attain it even if that is by eating a
small amount of food or dates or milk, which will help him in both
religious and worldly acts during the day. End quote.
Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allah have mercy on him)

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Should Maghrib prayer be given precedence over food or should food be given precedence over prayer?

How should the Muslim break his fast? Because many people are
distracted by eating until the time for Maghrib prayer ends, and if
you ask them they tell you: There is no prayer in the presence of
food. Is it permissible to quote these words as evidence, because the
time for Maghrib is short? Now what should I do? Should I break my
fast with somedates and then pray Maghrib and after that finish
eating, or should I finish eating completely and then pray Maghrib?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The Sunnah is for the fasting person to hasten to break the fast as
soon as he is certain that the sun has set, because of the hadeeths
"The people will continue to be fine solong as they hasten to break
the fast" and "The most beloved of the slaves of Allah to Allah
arethose who are quickest tobreak the fast." The best way for the one
who is fasting is to break his fast with a few dates, then delay
eating until after Maghrib prayer, so that hemay combine the Sunnah of
hastening to break the fast and praying Maghrib at the beginning of
its time, in congregation, following the example of the Prophet
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him).
With regard to the hadeeths, "There is no prayer in the presence of
food or when resisting the urge to relieve oneself" and "If 'Isha' and
dinner come at the same time, start with dinner," and similar reports,
what is meant is if a person is offered food or if he comes to eat,
then he should start with the foodbefore praying, so that he can pray
without his mindbeing focused on the foodand his prayer then will be
offered with proper focus and humility. But heshould not ask for food
tobe brought before praying if that means thathe will miss out on
offering the prayer at the beginning of its time or praying in
congregation.
And Allah is the source of strength; may Allah send blessings and
peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and Companions. End
quote.
Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeez ibn Baaz, Shaykh 'Abd al-'Azeez Aal al-Shaykh,
Shaykh 'Abd-Allah ibn Ghadyaan, Shaykh Saalih al-fawzaan, Shaykh Bakr
Abu Zayd.

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2a] Getting Children Accustomed to Fasting

2a]
It should be noted that if the child becomes too exhausted, you should
not insist that he completes the fast, so thatthis will not make him
hate acts of worship or lead to him lying or make him sick, because he
is notyet one of those who are accountable. It is important to pay
attention to this and not be harsh with regard to telling the child to
fast.
And Allah knows best.

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