Should my brother marry the girl he made pregnant?

I need an advice, my brother impregnated a non-Muslim girl. At first
we were open to the idea of marriage between them, but the problem is,
we cannot take the girl's attitude. She causes a lot of drama in my
brother's life and even to us.
She makes scandalous posts on networking sites, she lacks decency in
the situation. And usually she causes trouble to people who are linked
to my brother's life like his own friends and co-workers and when you
confront her she has no remorse to what she did.
There have also been times when she utters unbearable word about my
family and my religion.She is known to have a bad reputation; she's
the cause of most fights.
So we decided to cancel the wedding, since it will only cause more
problemsand we are pretty sure they will not live a harmonious life
together.
Now here's where the problem arises: since the child is considered
illegitimate, and accordingto the law the mother has the only right to
the custody of a child, we are afraid that the baby will turn out a
non Muslim believer, since obviously, she's the one whose goingto rear
the child. We reallywanted the baby to be a Muslim.
Now her family will not allow us to have share custody of the baby
unlessmy brother will marry her,what should we do?
Do we need to let them marry for the baby's sake even though we know
first hand that she will create more trouble and problems?
Please help me.
~Misha

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The smart thing to do

Here is another story about Sultan Mahmud of Afghanistan and his
servant, Ayyaz. Sultan Mahmud wouldrespect Ayyaz for his wisdomeven
though he was a servant. This made the ministers and other people of
high positions very jealousof Ayyaz. They talked wrong against him and
started a rumour that Ayyaz was nothing but a fool. The king came to
know of this and he decided to prove to them who were the real fools.
An announcement was made to all the people that the King will
distribute his belongingson a particular date. Whatever a person touch
will become his on that day. When the day came, many people appeared
by the king's palace. The king made his announcement again thata
person can have whatever he touches. The door was opened and everyone
ran to touch whatever was of valuein the palace. Some touched jewelery
of gold while others touched fancy furnitures, etc. But Ayyaz wasjust
standing by the king and was not touching anything. People thought
that Ayyaz was crazy as he wasn't takingadvantage of this great event.
Now, Ayyaz asked the king if the announcement hemade was certain. The
king said "Yes, whatever you touch is yours." Immediately, Ayyaz
placed his right hand on the king's head and the left hand on his
shoulder. He then shouted, "Listen everyone. I was waiting for this
moment to aquire the most expensive thing. All of you took whatever
the king possessed, but you forgot about the owner of all these, which
is the king himself. I hereby declare that my hands are on the king,
so the king is mine. You cannot remove one thing from this palace
because I am the owner of all these now." After hearing this from
Ayyaz, everyone realized that actually, Ayyaz is the only smart one
and everyoneelse was in error.
Today people are only running after the creations but, very few are
running towards the Creator Himself. If Allah, the King of all kings,
becomes our Friend then what else do we need?
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A farmer and stones

A farmer in Bangladesh was preparing his land for planting crops. As
he dug through the soil the equipments kept getting stuck in one
place. Out of curiosity he decided to check out what was in there. He
dug the ground and discovered a big box. The farmer quickly openedthe
box to see what was in it but to his disappointment, there were only
black stones inside the box. He decided to throw those stones at the
birds when they come to eat the crops at the time for harvesting.
Eventually, a day came when the crops were ready and the birds come to
eat them. So, he startedthrowing the stones at thebirds from where
ever they showed up. One day a man was walking by thefield who sells
precious stones such as pearls, diamonds, rubies etc. Two stones
happened to fall right in front of him when the farmer threw them at
the birds. The man brought the stones to the farmer and asked if he
was willing to sell them tohim for $5,000 each. The farmer thought
that the man was joking so he replied, "No." Then the man offered
$50,000 for each stone and explained that they were precious jewels.
Now the farmer started crying saying that he had only 1 or 2 stones
left and the rest were thrown away.
This story is mentioned in the book "20 Reminders" by Muhammad Abu Yusuf.
In fact, every second of our time is very valuable. Today, we are just
throwing them away here and there. But on the Day of Judgement, we
will realize how valuable they were but it will be too late. Now is
the chance to use our time properly.

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Shall I stay with my husband or listen to my family and leave him?
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Salaam,
I am very confused on what I shall do. I got married 10 months ago
tomy boyfriend, both our families were against it as I fell pregnant
before I gotmarried. After I terminatedmy pregnancy, I forced myfamily
to get me married to my husband, he left his family to marry me and my
family broke all ties with me.
My mother and one of my sisters kept in touch with me a few months
after to see if I was okay. Mine andmy husbands relationship had been
going well, apartfrom his anger issue. We started to have heated
arguments a few months after we got married but I did not tell anyone.
My husband has to go abroad every 6 months regarding his visa. This
time he is going in July and does not want to leave me home alone and
says he was worried about me.
So, he texted my sister to ask her if my mum could keep me for 6 days
till he is away and as my family still dont trust him and think he
only married me for my visa said no. He then had a heated argument
with my sister and brother, after the argument he came home and said
he is throwing me out of the house because my family doesn'tcare about
me and nor does he. After he walked out, I was really upset andtook
lots antibiotics tablets. My husband rushed me to the hospital to make
sure I was okay.
He said he was sorry for the way he spoke to me and treated me and
said he was worried and that was the cause for his behaving like that.
He alsosaid to me I am not allowed to meet my family or even speak to
them anymore. (My husbands family have started to meet him and he
works with them in their business, and is also at home with them
duringthe day.)
My family contacted me the next day and and my mum was asking me to
leave my husband and shewill support me always. She said to me that he
is only with me for the visa and as soon as he gets thepassport he
will leave me. My sister contacted me and told me to do the same
thing.
Now, I am very confused on what to do? My husband has refused to letme
go to university, I'm not allowed to meet my friends. He goes out with
his family to parties but I'm not allowed to go as his family haven't
announced our wedding, they are waiting for his sister to get married
as she is older than him.
I know my family don't want me to be with him because they don't like
him and don't trust him, but I know he loves me, he cares for me so
much. IfI leave him, I gain my family back but if I choose him then I
lose my family again. He said to me we will make it work, but I'm not
sure. I don't know what I want? or don't know what to do?
Please help me, what is right islamically.
Raihaanaa. Thanks

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