HADEES:->-Enthusiasm when one first repents, followed by slackening off:

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him)
said: TheMessenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said:
"No one of you will be saved by his deeds." They said: Not even you, O
Messenger of Allaah? He said: "Not even me, unless Allaah bestows
mercy uponme. So do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately, and
worship Allaah in the forenoon and in the afternoon and during a part
of the night, and always adopt a moderate course whereby you will
reach your target (Paradise)." Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6098
Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
"So do good deeds"
means, strive to do what is right.
"moderately" means, do not go to extremes in worship, lest you become
tired and give up, and thus fall short.
This hadeeth indicates that we are encouraged to be gentle and
moderate in worship; the words used liken worship to walking atvarious
times of day and night, with the aim of reaching one's abode, namely
Paradise.
"Always adopt a moderate course"
means adhere to the middle way. The literal translation would be,
"Moderation, moderation"; the word is repeated for emphasis. Fath
al-Baari, 11/297
Conclusion: We invite you to ponder the ahaadeeth quoted above and
think about what they mean. Remember that the one who repents should
be grateful, and the best way of showing gratitude is to persist in
repentance, which means persisting in worship./

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Islam

I'm just a guy who has lived an unorthodox life. I have been alone and
chained. I have seen frightening violence. I havealso wandered the
mountain trails in Central America, camped in the snows of the
Sierras, and laid on my back in the Sahara, watching a meteor shower
decorate the sky. I have witnessed the birth ofmy child, and received
great gifts. I have been so blessed by Allah, so cared for, as He
rescues me and heals my heart, again and again. I have been loved
monumentally, and have learned to love in return.
Maybe I've learned a little something, and maybe I possess the talent
to put it into words. Am I someone special? Yes, but so are you!Some
of you amaze me. Young or old, married or single parents raising
children with no help, sacrificing for your families,finding your way
in the world, working, creating, struggling, studying, teaching. I
have much to learn from you. I have a long ways to go in this life
Insha'Allah, and many strange paths to walk, and so do you. I am happy
that we are walking this path together, in this moment.

Advise - DU’AA FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE

DU'AA FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE
'Allaahummaj-al min azwaajinaa wa dhurriyyaatinaa qurrata a-ayunin
waj-alnaa lil muttaqeena imaamaa'
" O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who have a coolness of
the eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing. "
' Bismillahi aladeeni wanafsi wawaladi wa ahli wamali.'
"May the blessings of Allah be on my Deen, life, children, family and wealth."

Advise -

Although many Muslims may right now be in failingmarriages and on a
fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many
ways to put their marriage back on the right track if the husband and
wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. The following
principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in
trouble or byMuslims who would like to avoid trouble in their
marriage.
Examples of negative relationship of Husband & Wife
Many Muslim husbands andwives treat each other like adversaries rather
than partners. The husband feelsthat he is the boss, and whatever he
says goes. Thewife feels that she must squeeze everything she canout
of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are
satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him
into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he
does not give them the lifestyle that theirfriends and families enjoy.
Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and
even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in
the family.
Do not be a Tyrant, Be Partners in the Decision Making Process, Never
be Emotionally, Be Careful of Your Words, Show Affection, Be Your
Spouse's Friend, Work Together in the House, Show Appreciation,
Communication is Important, Don't bring up past problems once they
have been solved, Live Simply, Give Your Spouse Time Alone, Admit Your
Mistakes, Have Meals Together, Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics,
Physical Relationship is Important, Be available to your mate
sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by
selfishness. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: " It is not
appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must
send a message of love beforehand."
Marriage In The Eyes of Allah
It is very sad that this relationship which Allah (SWT) has
established for the good has been made a source of contention,
deception, trickery,tyrann y,humiliation,and abuse. Thisis not the way
marriage is supposed to be.
Allah (SWT) described marriage very differently inthe Holy Quran: '. .
. He created for you mates fromamong yourselves, that ye may dwell in
tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your
(hearts) . . . " (Holy Quran 30:21).
DU'AA FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE
'Allaahummaj-al min azwaajinaa wa dhurriyyaatinaa qurrata a-ayunin
waj-alnaa lil muttaqeena imaamaa'
" O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who have a coolness of
the eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing. "
' Bismillahi aladeeni wanafsi wawaladi wa ahli wamali.'
"May the blessings of Allah be on my Deen, life, children, family and wealth."

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