Story - Past Event:-/- -Live the Moment – It’s All You Have:

Try to appreciate the present moment and truly live it, rather than
using it up by feeling guilty about the past, or fretting about the
future. Regret for the past is a waste of spirit, and worrying about
the future is pointless.
Hanan Bilal, a community activist and motivator fromFlorida, asks,
"When will we stop living in the past and longing for our future?All
we really have is this moment. The question is what are we going to do
right now? Our time is now!"
The Past
That's not to say that contemplation of past and future is verboten.
The Quran tells stories of the past in order to educate us.The
Messenger of Allah (sws) told us many stories of past Prophets and the
Bani Israa'il, for the same reason. We study world history, we study
the seerah of our Prophet and the lives of the Sahabah, because it
inspires and informs.
I taught a martial arts classseveral hours ago and I'm still reviewing
it in my mind, examining what I could do better next time. That's part
of the learning process for me.
I have a sweet young daughter named Salma and I often think about my
time with her, something funny that she said, or the small gifts that
she likes to make for me. Yesterday she made me a card that says "I
love Baba." A few days ago we had a poetry reading at our local
Muslimcommunity center, and in between readings our host told jokes.
For some reasonSalma positioned herself in the front row, and every
time our host told a joke I heard Salma laughing loudly, even though
I'm sure she did not understand the jokes ("do vegetarians eat animal
crackers?"). Crazy kid, ha ha. So yeah, I think about past moments.
But I'm not stuck in the past. I think about those moments because
they educate me or make me smile, so they become a part of my present
and future.
On the other hand, I occasionally think about my former marriage, and
those are usually not good thoughts, because I tend todwell on the
mistakes I made, and I feel sadness orguilt. I've already contemplated
deeply on that period in my life, and I've learned my lessons. I don't
need to keep returning there in my mind, punishing myself. If Idid,
then I would indeed bestuck in the past, unable to move forward. That
is the kind of pointless regret that weighs people down and burdens
their spirits.
The Future
We plan for the future by having goals, getting an education, working
hard, saving money, always learning and improving ourselves. We plan
for our aakhirah by dedicating ourselves to Allah, worshiping, giving
our money to the poor and orphans, and humbling ourselves. We build
our futures step by step. But it's not productive to sit around biting
our nails andthinking, "What if I fail my exam, oh, when will I get
married, what's going to happen if I lose my job, how will I pay my
bills…" You make yourself sick andit doesn't help.
Don't worry, plan . There's ahuge difference! Then acknowledge that
you don't control the future. That's Allah's province. Trust in Him,
let him be your guide, find your security in Him.

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Qur'an Ayath - Explanation :-/

Being grateful to Allah means that our hearts become filled with love
for Him; our bodies are obedient to Him; our tongues praise Him; we
receive His favors with humility; we thank Him for everything we have
received; and we use what He has given us for good. We could never
repay Allah. The least we can do is thank him.
By being grateful and separating ourselves from the consumerist
craziness, we set an example of how to live without avarice. We free
our spirits, remove a burden from our backs, andshine a light for
ourselves and others.

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Story - :- Love Defeats Bigotry

Love Defeats Bigotry
I don't mean to portray myself as an enlightened soul. I've made my
share ofmistakes and I still strugglenot to be judgmental or reactive.
But I've also had experiences that have shown me the way forward. One
was with my former sister-in-law, Crystal. I am divorced now, but I
was married for ten years. Laura (my ex-wife) and her family were not
Muslim, and her family had their reservations about our marriage. Her
mother expressed a fear that I would kidnap our future children and
take them to Egypt (even though I've never lived in Egypt). "Like
Sally Field in 'Not Without my Daughter'", she said.
One day I was at a restaurant with Laura, her mother and her sister.
When the waiter came to our table, he said to me, "As-salamu alaykum."
I did not know him, but I was wearing a kufi and had a beard. I
replied, "Wa alaykum as-salam." Crystal began laughing, and after the
dinner was over, when we were going to the car, she began saying,
"Salami, salami, baloney."
At the time I was in a mental state where I was fed up with bigotry. I
had experienced a lot of it, and I had no more patience for it. I told
Crystal that her behavior was rude and bigoted. She got
extremelyangry, and after that I was a persona non-grata at my
in-laws' house. I was not invited to their home for any reason, and
there was no communication whatsoever between me and them for more
than a year. After that my mother-in-law reached out to me
tentatively, and offered a makeshift apology, which I accepted. But
Crystal remained angry.
Later, Laura and I moved toPanama. The place where we lived was so
beautiful and peaceful, and the natives were so accepting of us, that
I found my hearthealing. The in-laws still didn't quite accept me – in
fact Laura's father came to visit once and told me angrily that my
religion was ridiculous and backwards – but I found that it did not
bother me so much. When I returned to the USA for a visit I spoke to
Crystal. I said, "I apologize for my attitude in the past. I love you
and your family. You all mean alot to me." I said that sincerely,
holding in my mind all the good I had experienced from Crystal over
the years, and forgiving the bad.
From that moment on, my relationship with Crystal was transformed. She
cameto visit us in Panama and had a great time. After my divorce, when
I returned toCalifornia, Crystal actually began attending my martial
arts class. She became more open minded, began exploring religious
thinking outside of the narrow Christian fundamentalist box she had
always lived in. I'm notsaying that any of that is because of me. But
what I can attest to is that ever since I gathered the resolveto say
to her, "I love you and I value you," she has not showed a hint of
bigotry or anger toward me, and in fact has becomea pleasant person to
relate to.
I"m afraid I may be telling a string of random stories here. I don't
know if I'm communicating this thesis Ihave, this understanding, that
sincere love is transformational. When you can love someone without
desire, expectation, or judgment, it utterly changes your relationship
with that person, even with those who hate you. I believe this is the
essence of faith. It is the heart of da'wah. It is the Golden Rule.
I have given examples of one-on-one interaction, but I believe that
love and kindness can work their wonders just as well when it's one to
a thousand, or ten to a million, just as a single great ocean wave can
flood a whole city, except that love is a good flood that washes away
the fires of hatred.

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''Advise'':-:-

"The one who remembers Allah amongst a heedless people is like a man
who protects an army group on the verge of being defeated. Were it not
for this man, they would be utterly defeated. Likewise, were it not
for the one who remembers Allah amongst a heedless people, the people
would've been destroyed." -

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