General Dought & clear, - * He prayed istikhaarah more than once about having surgery, and it was not clear to him which option was better; what should he do?

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I read about istikhara from here and did it accordingly, howerver i have a problem, If i decided on something then did istikhira, things get in the way, and it is not made easy to do, however it also became very hard for me to settle and feel ok about it. However if i do istikhara choosing to not do it, it again brings problems all ovber again. Is there anything I can do it such a situation?
as the operration in hospital cannot be undone, for which I am doing all of this for.
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Praise be to Allah
Firstly:
Praying istikhaarah is prescribed when the Muslim is faced with something and does not know what the best and correct option is concerning it. So he should pray and call upon Allah, may He be exalted, asking Him to make what is best easy for him and to avert from him what is not good.
See fatwa no. 11981.
Secondly:
As you have prayed istikhaarah more than once and are still hesitant, then what we advise you to do is to carry on consulting people and praying istikhaarah in the following manner:
Consult another doctor, other than the one who suggested surgery to you, and repeat the medical examinations and tests that you did, then pray istikhaarah and ask Allah, may He be exalted, for guidance after that, because consultation (of people) should come before istikhaarah.
Or change hospitals or the medical team that was allocated to you the first time.
Then after that, resolve either to go ahead with the surgery or not to do so, and if you find one of the two options becomes easy for you and you feel at ease about it, then that is what Allah has chosen for you.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If a person prays istikhaarah, asking Allah to guide him, then whatever his heart is opened to and he feels at ease with, and is made easy for him, is what Allah has chosen for him.
End quote fromMajmoo‘ al-Fataawa(10/539).
If you are still hesitant, then there is nothing wrong with praying istikhaarah repeatedly, until it becomes clear to you which of the two options is right.
Badr ad-Deen al-‘Ayni al-Hanafi said in‘Umdat al-Qaari Sharh Saheeh al-Bukhaari(7/225):
If you say: Can a person pray istikhaarah repeatedly concerning a single matter, if it is not clear to him what the right option is, whether to do a thing or refrain from it, so long as his heart is not open to what he should do?
I say: Yes indeed; it is mustahabb to repeatedly pray and offer supplication (du‘aa’) concerning that. End quote.
Inal-Mawsoo‘ah al-Fiqhiyyah al-Kuwaitiyyah(3/246) it says: From the views of the fuqaha’ it may be understood that istikhaarah may be done repeatedly when the matter is not clear to the one who is seeking guidance by means of praying istikhaarah. End quote.
We ask Allah, may He be exalted, to make your affairs easy for you.
And Allah knows best.

PUBLISHERM.NajimudeeN. MD,IRI

Engagment, - Dought & clear, - * She received a proposal from an engineer who works in a bank – should she accept?

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A newly graduated architectural engineer proposed marriage to me, but he works in the engineering administration department of a bank that specializes in building apartments and luxury buildings. Should I accept or refuse?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
A woman should be keen to choose a righteous husband who will fear Allaah with regard to her and will feed her and her children with halaal income and help them to avoid that which is haraam.
Hence we appreciate this question from you, as it indicates that you are concerned about this matter. We say: if the bank where this person works is a riba-based bank which markets and sells its apartments and buildings on the basis of riba, then it is not permissible to work there, or to help it with its projects in any way whatsoever.
Similarly, it is not permissible to work in building apartments or places for sin, such as leisure venues, places for gambling, riba based banks and the like.
It is on this basis that this suitor should be accepted or rejected. If his work is permissible and he is religiously committed and of good character, then accept him. But if his work is haraam or he is not religiously committed and of good character, then do not accept him, because marrying him will result in harm that will affect you and your children.
We ask Allaah for guidance.
And Allaah knows best.

PUBLISHERM.NajimudeeN. MD,IRI

Engagment, - Dought & clear, - * She rejected his proposal; should he try again?

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After putting my trust in Allaah and seeking His help and praying istkhaarah, I proposed marriage to a girl but was refused because this girl is studying. Please note that I am attracted to her and I am always thinking of her. I felt more attracted to her after praying istikhaarah, because I felt at peace. My mother says that we will try to approach her again, but I am hesitant because I feel that proposing to her again will be embarrassing for my family. Should I propose to her or not? I hope that you – after Allaah – can help me find a solution.
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Praise be to Allaah.
If the girl is religiously-committed and of good character, there is nothing wrong with trying again. If that can be done via some intermediaries, that is better, so as to avoid embarrassment to your family. But in fact we do not advise you to do that at present. If her studies are going to end soon and you can wait for that amount of time, then the intermediary can explain that, unless there is some other reason for the refusal which they did not explain.
Whatever the case, you should delegate the matter to Allaah, for no one knows what is good for him. Stop thinking and feeling attracted to her, and ask Allaah to show you what is good wherever it is. Open your mind to accepting both possibilities. If they agree, then hope that this is good and will help you in obeying Allaah, and if they refuse, then perhaps Allaah has diverted from you or from her something that would not be good, and has prepared for both of you that which is better for you.
“and it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allaah knows but you do not know”
[al-Baqarah 2:216]
The believer has enough concerns, aims and deeds that should divert him from feeling attached to a girl, no matter who she is. We ask Allaah to distract us and you with acts of obedience to Him.
And Allaah knows best.

PUBLISHERM.NajimudeeN. MD,IRI