Ideal character of Muslim women

In the Qur'an, Allah informs us how belief benefits a woman:
Do not marry women who associate [others with Allah] until they
believe. A slave girl who is one of the believers is better for you
than a woman who associates [others with Allah], even though she may
attract you. And do not marry men who associate [others with Allah]
until they believe. A slave whois one of the believers is better for
you than a man who associates [others with Allah], even though he may
attract you. Such people call you to the Fire, whereas Allah calls
you, with His permission, to the Garden and forgiveness. He makes His
Signs clear to people so that, hopefully, they will pay heed. (Surat
al-Baqara: 221)
Allah reveals that belief, fear and respect of Allah,and Islamic
morality are the foremost causes of the believers' strength
ofcharacter and virtue. Belief makes all of a person's qualities
meaningful. In addition, the Qur'an's morality helps women, and
everyone else, to acquirea most strong, solid, and virtuous character.
As Allah revealed in the verse, "No indeed! We have given them that by
which they are remembered [i.e. their honor, eminence and dignity]"
(Surat al-Mu'minun: 71), this morality gives people their dignity and
honor. Therefore, women who live by this morality will be respected
and enjoy their deserved honor and dignity.
As we mentioned earlier,Allah has not determinedseparate characters
for men and women and therefore calls on all people to abide by one
Muslim character. Therefore, Muslims fear and respect Allah, seek His
good pleasure, and seek only to win the Hereafter, in the full
knowledge that this worldly life is temporary and that he or she will
die one day.
Muslim Women Submit to God:
Muslim women believe in Allah with a true heart, submit completelyto
Him, are aware that there is no other deity, that He is the Lord of
every being and thing, and that He is All-Powerful. Therefore, she
fears and respects only Him and seeks to win only His good pleasure.
She worships only Him, accepts only Him as her closest friend,and
seeks only His help. She also knows that onlyHe can direct good and
bad toward her, and so lives in the full knowledge that she is
dependent on Him. She knows that He keeps heralive, provides and
caresfor her, and protects andguards her. For these reasons, she has
no expectations of other people.
She believes in Allah without the slightest doubt in her heart for her
whole life, never losing heart or belief regardless of the
circumstances. She knows how to be grateful and content with her
closeness to Him both when her life is good and when she is undergoing
difficulties. She is in a state of constant submission, certain of our
Lord's love, compassion, forgiveness, and providence.
When she encounters a problem, she knows thatAllah has provided a
solution in the Qur'an, and that what matters most is her continued
sincere love, submission,and trust in Allah. She is certain of Allah's
promise that He creates everything according to His justice and with
wisdom and goodness.
Even if her problems seem to go on forever, she never surrenders to
hopelessness or worries when His help will come.Content with what He
has sent her way, she maintains her patience and submission, knowing
that somethinggood will come out of it. She remembers what theQur'an
says about those who abandon their belief in such times. In addition,
she recites "My Lord is with me and will guide me" (Surat
ash-Shu'ara': 62), just as the Prophets did when faced with hardship.
Throughout her life, her profound faith enables her to see Allah's
compassion, closeness, love, help, and friendship at all times.
This superior character becomes even more distinctive when compared
with that of unbelieving women. Some unbelieving women do not show the
appropriate degree of submission in their encounters, because they
ignore the fact that Allah creates everything and inserts much wisdom
and goodness hidden therein. One of the best-known characteristics of
such women is their impatience, lack of determination, panic, and
throwing tantrums when experiencing various hardships.
For this reason, and to save themselves the hassle, men often try to
keep women away from potentially troublesome situations. Movies and
novels are full of such stories. Since they do notplace their trust in
Allah and do not submit to Him, they cannot find the patience and
resolution to endure hard times. In fact, their strength is in direct
proportion to the size of the gain they can expect from working
through these difficulties.
Believing women derive their strength from theirbelief and their
determination to win Allah's good pleasure. Therefore, their
resistance can be quite powerful. The Qur'an reveals this truth in the
following verse: "Allah's guidance, that is true guidance. We are
commanded to submit asMuslims to the Lord of allthe worlds" (Surat
al-An'am: 71). Allah givesgood news to those whosubmit to Him:
Those who submit themselves completely toAllah and do good have
grasped the Firmest Handhold. The end resultof all affairs is with
Allah.(Surah Luqman: 22)
Not so! All who submit themselves completely toAllah and are
good-doers will find their reward with their Lord. They will feel no
fear and will know no sorrow. (Surat al-Baqara:112)
Muslim Women Have Great Ideals:
One of the unbelievers' most misguided character traits is the
restrictions that they placed on people's ideals, thoughts, and
lifestyle. In the case of women, society tells them that they have
certain duties and responsibilities that theyare expected to fulfill
to the best of their ability. Usually, they are not encouraged to
acquire different ideals or develop their personalities. Only when
women become aware of this reality do they begin to perceive the need
to seek greater ideals, widen their horizon, and develop their
personalities.
rimarily, women are expected to provide for and cater to their
families' needs and raisetheir children. Otherwise, they focus
onthemselves, according tothe conditioning they received when young.
They concentrate on their physical appearance, hair style, make-up,
clothing and fashion in general; keeping their homes clean; and
talking with their friends. While there is nothing wrong with such
activities, it is wrong to limit their livesjust to these tasks
without even knowing why this is so.
Allah created men and women for a purpose and revealed their
responsibilities in the Qur'an. Most importantly, each woman is
responsible to our Lord, for He created her, gave her life, protected
and watched over her, and provided for her. Men and womenare required
to lead the moral life prescribed by Allah, worship and serve Him, and
to win His goodpleasure. They are required to tell people who are far
from the happy and contented life of following the Qur'an's values
about Islam's values and to make a genuine effort tohelp them draw
closer toAllah's pleasure, mercy, and Paradise. They must strive to
save people from negative frames of mind, and from suffering under the
influence of the chaos and disorder, all of which are presented by
Satan and thus are devoid of true love, respect, and friendship.
All believers are obliged to help and guide those who are weak and
distressed to His path:
What reason could you have for not fighting in the Way of Allah-for
those men, women, and children who are oppressed and say: "Our Lord,
take us out of this city whose inhabitants are wrongdoers! Give us a
protector from You! Give us a helper from You!?" (Surat an-Nisa': 75)
Allah further reminds Muslims that they are obliged to assist orphans,
people who are stranded, and other needy people:
Worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him. Be good to your
parents and relatives, orphans and the very poor, neighborswho are
related to you and neighbors who are not related to you, and
companions, travelers, and your servants. Allah does not love anyone
vain or boastful. (Surat an-Nisa': 36)
A Muslim woman is aware of all these responsibilities and so does not
focus only on herself. Rather, she does her best to solve the problems
around the world, such as helping people who are suffering, fighting
infectious diseases, working with children displaced or orphaned by
war and conflict, and taking care of the elderly and other women as if
they were her own problems.
She gives her full attention to every matter in her daily life,
because she knows that the truly important thingis to win Allah's good
pleasure, live the Qur'an's morality, and spread this morality in
order to bring true contentment and happiness to all others. For this
reason, she acts in the knowledge that what she encounters each day is
not so important when put intothe overall context of what she was
created to do.
Muslim Women Are Dignified:
... And the soul and whatproportioned and inspired it with depravity
or heedfulness; he who purifies it has succeeded, he who covers it up
has failed. (Surat ash-Shams: 7-10)
The above verses warn people about the selfish ego that, when not
brought under control, will lead them to limitless evil. A person's
fear and respect of Allah,as well as his or her belief in the
Hereafter, gives each person the strength and reason to resist these
temptations.
Without this awareness, people will follow their desires and not worry
about their meeting with Allah in the Hereafter, where they will be
held accountable for their deeds. If his ego demands anger, jealousy,
or ill-treatmentof someone else, he will indulge it. If her selfish
ego encourages her to vent her anger or jealous frustration with
insinuations, mockery, slander, lies, conspiracies, or hypocritical
behavior, she will oblige it withoutgiving it a second thought. Such
people will commit all of these sins without reservation,because they
believe that they will never haveto account for their deeds.
Allah, however, reveals that all of these activitiesare unconstrained
evils called for by the selfish ego. When people act onthese impulses,
things just get worse. People who cannot control theiremotions, even
when they know that what they are doing is wrong,show that they are
both weak and ignore their conscience. In other words, they seem to
grow smaller. It is debasing to be unable toact maturely or respond
rationally when their selfish egos suggest otherwise. As Allah
reveals, the dignifying and rightful response to such evil suggestions
is to ignore them and act conscientiously. This character trait needs
to be worked on, for eventually it will earn other people's respect
and love and raise the person's ranks in His eyes, as well as in the
eyes of other people.
Muslim women have enough dignity and character to reject such debasing
behavior for small gains. Allah informs us of the conspiring nature of
unbelieving women: "Hesaw the shirt torn at the back and said: 'The
source of this is women'sdeviousness. Without a doubt your guile is
very great'" (Surah Yusuf: 28).Unbelieving women often try to resolve
situations by conspiring, intriguing, or lying instead of seeking
rational solutions. Indulging Satan's suggestions, they fall back on
hypocrisy, cowardice, or devious methods. Believing women, on the
other hand, resolve their problems by honesty, openness, and
sincerity, for their awareness of Allah totally removes them from such
inappropriate behavior.
Unbelieving women alsoare characterized by envy. Allah mentions
envious people and warns others about theirevil: "Say: 'I seek refuge
with the Lord of Daybreak, from the evil of what He has created and
from the evil of the darkness when it gathers, and from the evil of
women who blowon knots and from the evil of an envier when he envies'"
(Surat al-Falaq: 1-5). Some unbelieving women are prone to such
behavior, which causes distrust, tantrums, broken relationships, and
endless arguments, all ofwhich result in an unfulfilled and unhappy
life. In addition, they cause great suffering and damage to themselves
and to those around them. Believing women, however, will disregard
this aspect of human ego, knowing that it leads to great losses in
this life as well as in the next.
Mockery is another character defect of unbelieving women. In the
following verse Allahwarns them against suchbehavior: "O you who
believe! People should not ridicule others who may be better than
themselves; nor should any women ridicule other women who may be
better than themselves. And do not find fault with one another or
insult each other with derogatory nicknames" (Surat al-Hujurat: 11).
Those women who are shaped by the unbelief that rules their societies
do not hesitate to ridicule people for their shortcomings or to
mockothers, because they do not think of the Hereafter. They do not
consider this behavior aswrong, but rather as a kind of humor. Often
thismockery is not even verbal, but is expressed by making faces,
rolling one's eyes, imitating their mannerisms, or whispering about
them. Believing women shun such activities, because they know that
Allah requires them to live according to the Qur'an'smorality.
In another verse, Allah reminds people not to speculate or gossip
about others: "O you who believe! Avoid most suspicion. Indeed, some
suspicion is a crime. Do not spy and do not backbite one another.
Would any of you like to eat his brother's dead flesh? No, you would
hate it. And have fear of Allah. Allah is Ever-Returning, Most
Merciful" (Surat al-Hujurat: 12).
Believing women live dignified lives. Instead of mocking others, they
try to help. They compliment people who are successful, instead
ofsuccumbing to envy and gossip. And, when in the company of
unbelieving people who might somehow offend them, they do not
compromise their integrity or dignity.