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Monday, May 14, 2012

Qur'an Ayath :- Our Lord, make us not [objects of] torment for thedisbelievers and forgive us,our Lord. Indeed, it is You who is the Exalted in Might,the Wise." Surat Al-Mumtahanah [60:5]

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HADEES:->-Enthusiasm when one first repents, followed by slackening off:

It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him)
said: TheMessenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said:
"No one of you will be saved by his deeds." They said: Not even you, O
Messenger of Allaah? He said: "Not even me, unless Allaah bestows
mercy uponme. So do good deeds properly, sincerely and moderately, and
worship Allaah in the forenoon and in the afternoon and during a part
of the night, and always adopt a moderate course whereby you will
reach your target (Paradise)." Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 6098
Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
"So do good deeds"
means, strive to do what is right.
"moderately" means, do not go to extremes in worship, lest you become
tired and give up, and thus fall short.
This hadeeth indicates that we are encouraged to be gentle and
moderate in worship; the words used liken worship to walking atvarious
times of day and night, with the aim of reaching one's abode, namely
Paradise.
"Always adopt a moderate course"
means adhere to the middle way. The literal translation would be,
"Moderation, moderation"; the word is repeated for emphasis. Fath
al-Baari, 11/297
Conclusion: We invite you to ponder the ahaadeeth quoted above and
think about what they mean. Remember that the one who repents should
be grateful, and the best way of showing gratitude is to persist in
repentance, which means persisting in worship./

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Islam

I'm just a guy who has lived an unorthodox life. I have been alone and
chained. I have seen frightening violence. I havealso wandered the
mountain trails in Central America, camped in the snows of the
Sierras, and laid on my back in the Sahara, watching a meteor shower
decorate the sky. I have witnessed the birth ofmy child, and received
great gifts. I have been so blessed by Allah, so cared for, as He
rescues me and heals my heart, again and again. I have been loved
monumentally, and have learned to love in return.
Maybe I've learned a little something, and maybe I possess the talent
to put it into words. Am I someone special? Yes, but so are you!Some
of you amaze me. Young or old, married or single parents raising
children with no help, sacrificing for your families,finding your way
in the world, working, creating, struggling, studying, teaching. I
have much to learn from you. I have a long ways to go in this life
Insha'Allah, and many strange paths to walk, and so do you. I am happy
that we are walking this path together, in this moment.

Advise - DU’AA FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE

DU'AA FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE
'Allaahummaj-al min azwaajinaa wa dhurriyyaatinaa qurrata a-ayunin
waj-alnaa lil muttaqeena imaamaa'
" O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who have a coolness of
the eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing. "
' Bismillahi aladeeni wanafsi wawaladi wa ahli wamali.'
"May the blessings of Allah be on my Deen, life, children, family and wealth."

Advise -

Although many Muslims may right now be in failingmarriages and on a
fast track to divorce and its terrible consequences, there are many
ways to put their marriage back on the right track if the husband and
wife are sincere in their desire to reconcile. The following
principles can be used by Muslims whose marriages are already in
trouble or byMuslims who would like to avoid trouble in their
marriage.
Examples of negative relationship of Husband & Wife
Many Muslim husbands andwives treat each other like adversaries rather
than partners. The husband feelsthat he is the boss, and whatever he
says goes. Thewife feels that she must squeeze everything she canout
of her husband. Some wives never show their husband that they are
satisfied with anything he does or buys for them in order to trick him
into doing and buying more. They make him feel like a failure if he
does not give them the lifestyle that theirfriends and families enjoy.
Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and
even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in
the family.
Do not be a Tyrant, Be Partners in the Decision Making Process, Never
be Emotionally, Be Careful of Your Words, Show Affection, Be Your
Spouse's Friend, Work Together in the House, Show Appreciation,
Communication is Important, Don't bring up past problems once they
have been solved, Live Simply, Give Your Spouse Time Alone, Admit Your
Mistakes, Have Meals Together, Be Mindful of Your discussion Topics,
Physical Relationship is Important, Be available to your mate
sexually, and don't let your sexual relationship be characterized by
selfishness. The Prophet (SAWS) was reported to have said: " It is not
appropriate that you fall upon your wives like a beast but you must
send a message of love beforehand."
Marriage In The Eyes of Allah
It is very sad that this relationship which Allah (SWT) has
established for the good has been made a source of contention,
deception, trickery,tyrann y,humiliation,and abuse. Thisis not the way
marriage is supposed to be.
Allah (SWT) described marriage very differently inthe Holy Quran: '. .
. He created for you mates fromamong yourselves, that ye may dwell in
tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your
(hearts) . . . " (Holy Quran 30:21).
DU'AA FOR HAPPY MARRIED LIFE
'Allaahummaj-al min azwaajinaa wa dhurriyyaatinaa qurrata a-ayunin
waj-alnaa lil muttaqeena imaamaa'
" O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who have a coolness of
the eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing. "
' Bismillahi aladeeni wanafsi wawaladi wa ahli wamali.'
"May the blessings of Allah be on my Deen, life, children, family and wealth."

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Health:-/- Garlic's medicinal properties are well known;so go ahead and add it to your diet:

For centuries garlic has been used as a medicinal and culinary
substance in India, China, Greece and other countries. It has beenused
as a salve for everything from headachesto colds to infections and
healing wounds. To some, however, the strong flavour of garlic is not
very appealing; in fact repelling.Therefore, although garlic is a
widely available spice, it is not very popular in some households.
Garlic does not make significant nutritional contribution to the diet
because the quantities added to recipes are small. But even these nano
amounts make a big difference to one's health.
The biological benefits and the distinct odour of garlic are
attributed to the many sulphur containing compounds; one of which is
Alliin. This compound is converted to Allicin when garlic is crushed.
Allicin is, perhaps, the principal bioactive compound present even in
processed garlic.
Limited evidence supports an association between garlic consumption
and a reduced risk of colon, prostate, oesophageal, larynx, oral,
ovary and other cancers. This is due to diallylsulde, a potent
bioactive component. Besides, the plant can also accumulate selenium,
a trace element known to possess anti-cancer properties, from the
soil.
Curtailing cardiac diseases
One inexpensive way of curtailing cardiovascular diseases is to use
generousamounts of garlic in cooking. Garlic consumption inhibits the
progression of cardiovascular diseases. It can bring about small
reductions in blood pressure. Some studies have shown it to modestly
lower cholesterol levels, which is also a protection against cardiac
diseases. Animal experiments have associated garlic ingestion with
reduction in triglyceride and LDL cholesterol, both of which
contribute to atherosclerosis and heart diseases. Garlic, like
aspirin,can reduce the tendency ofblood to coagulate and form clots.
Many human studies on garlic have shown it has the ability to dissolve
blood clots. Pharmaceutical supplements are often used by patients
with cardiac and vascular diseases.
Garlic can reduce homocysteine levels in blood. This toxic compound
damages the cells that line the blood vessels, induces blood clots,
loss of cognition and causes death of nerve cells.People with dementia
and Alzheimer's disease have elevated blood homocysteine levels.
Damage to nerve cells in Alzheimer's disease is also due to elevated
oxidative stress induced by free radicals. By scavenging freeradicals,
garlic offers protection from neuronal death, dementia and Alzheimer's
disease.
Garlic is also called 'Russianpenicillin'. Fresh — but not stored or
cooked garlic — is an antimicrobial agent against a variety of
micro-organisms, including H. Pylori, implicated in gastriccancers.
Topical applicationof garlic is effective in treating ringworm. Many
studies have shown that garlic has antifungal and antiviral effects.
Adverse effects
Are there any adverse effects associated with taking garlic? In some,
it can cause mild stomach discomfort, especially when taken on an
empty stomach. Add garlic to meals or sprinkle it on pasta, soups or
even sambhar and chutneys. Swallow a clove of crushedgarlic with
water. The common side effect is "Garlicky Breath".
Since garlic is also a blood thinner, people who take aspirin should
be careful when including garlic regularly in their diets.
Alsodiscontinue garlic at least aweek before any surgery.
How much? One clove of medium-sized garlic daily provides health
boosting effects. Numerous over-the-counter supplements are available
as are enteric-coated tablets. Those who don't like the strong flavour
can try deodorised capsules. It is indeed the cornerstone of good
health.

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''Advise'':-:-

At some point in our lives, we are all given moments where we have to
take a stand; a mawqif. It's usually a test which is personal to each
of us. But on a larger scale, it's also an opportunity from Allah
allowing us to earn His Pleasure, attain higher ranks and pretty much
'prove' ourselves to Him.
Sometimes, we're forced tomake hard decisions. We'reforced to forsake
what we love in order to uphold a greater principle, we have to fight
against our heart and soul in order to do what is right at that moment
of time as opposed to what simply pleases us.
Sometimes, our actions directly affect others because in pleasing
Allah we end up displeasing people, but what choice does the believing
man or woman have? We don't live for the sake of our ownnafs; rather
we live for Allah and higher principles, and when it comes to these
testing moments in life, we must choose what is right, even if it
means that we will lose what is very dear to our hearts or lose our
freedoms.
These are the mawaqif in our lives, and every single person has to
face them at some point. But it's a Promise from Allah that once we
take the right stand, He will take it upon Himself to lead the way and
rectify our affairs. Evenif we cannot see the light at the end of the
tunnel, we must trust that the end result will be for the believer who
chose His Lord over himself.

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Islam -Believe in Allah, Because He Believes in You

I believe in Allah because He believes in me… and He believes in you
too. Believe in His plan for you, have faith in Him, trust His
guidance to you, because He has faith in you, and trusts you.
Some people might challenge this assertion that Allah believes in us
and trusts us. To me, that's surprising. Allah created nothing in
vain. Everything He does has a purpose. His creation of humanity was
done with intent.
Why were we created? Many Muslims will automatically respond, "To
worship Allah." That's true, but why does Allah want tobe worshiped?
Furthermore, why did He create everything else – thestars, planets,
forests, seas, mountains, animals?…
Without presuming to know Allah's intentions, and returning to the
realm of the human for a moment, I will make a simple observation. As
a writer, one of the reasons Iwrite is because the act of putting my
thoughts and feelings on paper satisfies something deep within me.I've
been writing creatively since I was a child, and to me it's not a
hobby but a calling. I'm a writer, therefore I write; and I am a
writer because I write.
The same is true for a painter or any other artist. Iimagine if you
asked a painter why he paints, you might get many different answers:
*. "It makes me happy"
*. "It's my passion."
*. "To express my ideas."
*. "To make money."
*. "I don't know, I just do."
The bottom line is that it's the painter's nature to paint; it's her
calling, her function. She is a painter, therefore she paints; or
shepaints, therefore she is a painter. Same difference.
Allah is Al-Khaaliq, The Creator. That is one of His names, one of His
attributes. He expresses this attribute by creating. You are a part of
that expression, and so am I. So is a blue whale, Mount Kilimanjaro,
the Grand Canyon, a dolphin, a mouseand an amoebum. Everything that
Allah created is amazing in its function and awesomely complex in its
design. Everything that He created is beautiful and
purposeful.Including you and me.
To create is an act of love. It is an act of faith. The Creator loves
you and believes in you. Believe in Him, believe in yourself, believe
in humanity, and believe in the unique path that Allah has chosen for
you.

Qur'an Ayath - Explanation :-

Try as much as you can but you will never be able to pay her back for
herlove, care & sacrifices... One single day in an entire yearisn't
enough to show your MOM your love & respect.., you have to celebrate
her every single day & intend to do so forever!❞::: ♥
"And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother
carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his
weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me
is the [final] destination. " (Al Qur'an31:14)

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Health:-/HADEES:->-Recite & be in the protection of Allah:

Uthman bin Abbaan said that he heard the Prophet (sallAllahu 'alyhi
wasallam) say, "A person will not be harmed by anything if he says
every morning & evening 3 times:"Bismillahillaz hi la yadhurruhu..."
Uthman had been afflicted by partial paralysis at that time & the man
to whom he said this looked at him (with surprise). Uthman understood
that & said,"The hadith is as I have told you,but I did not say itthat
day and so the decree of Allah was carried out (meaning he was
afflicted by paralysis)!!/

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'' Dua '' :: - "Come with all your pain . Come with all the heartache. Come with all those secrets you have never shared with anyone. Come with all the emptiness, all the regrets. Come with tears, come with your sins. Come every night to Him, for du'

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Good Morning Tips

The morning is jst a few moments away. Go 2 sleepN when u wake up,
remember me as a frnd who is always there for u N never let u down
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Always welcome a new day with a Smile on Ur Lips,Love in Ur Heart N
Good Thoughts in Ur Mind...And Ull always have a WoNderFuL DaY
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Love urself ,Flirt with ur understanding,Romance with dreams, Get
engaged with simplicity,Marry genuiness,Divorce the ego..Thats Gud lf
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A prayer can go where I cannot go. Through Prayers i can be with you
without being There. I may be miles away but my prayers Good Morning

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Health:-

Healthy Juices
· Carrot+ginger+a pple à boosts and cleanses our system
· Apple+cucumber+ celery à prevent cancer , reduce cholesterol and
eliminate stomach upset and headache
...
· Tomato+ carrot + apple à improve skin complexion and eliminate bad breath
· Bitter gourd + apple + milk à avoid bad breath and reduce internal body heat
· Orange + ginger + cucumber à improve skin texture and moisture and
reduces body heat
· Pineapple+ apple + water melon à dispels excess salts,nourishes
bladder and kidney
· Apple + cucumber+ kiwi à improves skin complexion
· Pear+ banana à regulates sugar content
· Carrot + apple + pear + mango à clear body heat , decreased BP and
fight oxidation
· Honey dew + grape + water melon + milk à rich in v C and B2 that
increasescell activity and strengthenbody immunity/

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Story - Past Event:-/- -Live the Moment – It’s All You Have:

Try to appreciate the present moment and truly live it, rather than
using it up by feeling guilty about the past, or fretting about the
future. Regret for the past is a waste of spirit, and worrying about
the future is pointless.
Hanan Bilal, a community activist and motivator fromFlorida, asks,
"When will we stop living in the past and longing for our future?All
we really have is this moment. The question is what are we going to do
right now? Our time is now!"
The Past
That's not to say that contemplation of past and future is verboten.
The Quran tells stories of the past in order to educate us.The
Messenger of Allah (sws) told us many stories of past Prophets and the
Bani Israa'il, for the same reason. We study world history, we study
the seerah of our Prophet and the lives of the Sahabah, because it
inspires and informs.
I taught a martial arts classseveral hours ago and I'm still reviewing
it in my mind, examining what I could do better next time. That's part
of the learning process for me.
I have a sweet young daughter named Salma and I often think about my
time with her, something funny that she said, or the small gifts that
she likes to make for me. Yesterday she made me a card that says "I
love Baba." A few days ago we had a poetry reading at our local
Muslimcommunity center, and in between readings our host told jokes.
For some reasonSalma positioned herself in the front row, and every
time our host told a joke I heard Salma laughing loudly, even though
I'm sure she did not understand the jokes ("do vegetarians eat animal
crackers?"). Crazy kid, ha ha. So yeah, I think about past moments.
But I'm not stuck in the past. I think about those moments because
they educate me or make me smile, so they become a part of my present
and future.
On the other hand, I occasionally think about my former marriage, and
those are usually not good thoughts, because I tend todwell on the
mistakes I made, and I feel sadness orguilt. I've already contemplated
deeply on that period in my life, and I've learned my lessons. I don't
need to keep returning there in my mind, punishing myself. If Idid,
then I would indeed bestuck in the past, unable to move forward. That
is the kind of pointless regret that weighs people down and burdens
their spirits.
The Future
We plan for the future by having goals, getting an education, working
hard, saving money, always learning and improving ourselves. We plan
for our aakhirah by dedicating ourselves to Allah, worshiping, giving
our money to the poor and orphans, and humbling ourselves. We build
our futures step by step. But it's not productive to sit around biting
our nails andthinking, "What if I fail my exam, oh, when will I get
married, what's going to happen if I lose my job, how will I pay my
bills…" You make yourself sick andit doesn't help.
Don't worry, plan . There's ahuge difference! Then acknowledge that
you don't control the future. That's Allah's province. Trust in Him,
let him be your guide, find your security in Him.

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Qur'an Ayath - Explanation :-/

Being grateful to Allah means that our hearts become filled with love
for Him; our bodies are obedient to Him; our tongues praise Him; we
receive His favors with humility; we thank Him for everything we have
received; and we use what He has given us for good. We could never
repay Allah. The least we can do is thank him.
By being grateful and separating ourselves from the consumerist
craziness, we set an example of how to live without avarice. We free
our spirits, remove a burden from our backs, andshine a light for
ourselves and others.

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Story - :- Love Defeats Bigotry

Love Defeats Bigotry
I don't mean to portray myself as an enlightened soul. I've made my
share ofmistakes and I still strugglenot to be judgmental or reactive.
But I've also had experiences that have shown me the way forward. One
was with my former sister-in-law, Crystal. I am divorced now, but I
was married for ten years. Laura (my ex-wife) and her family were not
Muslim, and her family had their reservations about our marriage. Her
mother expressed a fear that I would kidnap our future children and
take them to Egypt (even though I've never lived in Egypt). "Like
Sally Field in 'Not Without my Daughter'", she said.
One day I was at a restaurant with Laura, her mother and her sister.
When the waiter came to our table, he said to me, "As-salamu alaykum."
I did not know him, but I was wearing a kufi and had a beard. I
replied, "Wa alaykum as-salam." Crystal began laughing, and after the
dinner was over, when we were going to the car, she began saying,
"Salami, salami, baloney."
At the time I was in a mental state where I was fed up with bigotry. I
had experienced a lot of it, and I had no more patience for it. I told
Crystal that her behavior was rude and bigoted. She got
extremelyangry, and after that I was a persona non-grata at my
in-laws' house. I was not invited to their home for any reason, and
there was no communication whatsoever between me and them for more
than a year. After that my mother-in-law reached out to me
tentatively, and offered a makeshift apology, which I accepted. But
Crystal remained angry.
Later, Laura and I moved toPanama. The place where we lived was so
beautiful and peaceful, and the natives were so accepting of us, that
I found my hearthealing. The in-laws still didn't quite accept me – in
fact Laura's father came to visit once and told me angrily that my
religion was ridiculous and backwards – but I found that it did not
bother me so much. When I returned to the USA for a visit I spoke to
Crystal. I said, "I apologize for my attitude in the past. I love you
and your family. You all mean alot to me." I said that sincerely,
holding in my mind all the good I had experienced from Crystal over
the years, and forgiving the bad.
From that moment on, my relationship with Crystal was transformed. She
cameto visit us in Panama and had a great time. After my divorce, when
I returned toCalifornia, Crystal actually began attending my martial
arts class. She became more open minded, began exploring religious
thinking outside of the narrow Christian fundamentalist box she had
always lived in. I'm notsaying that any of that is because of me. But
what I can attest to is that ever since I gathered the resolveto say
to her, "I love you and I value you," she has not showed a hint of
bigotry or anger toward me, and in fact has becomea pleasant person to
relate to.
I"m afraid I may be telling a string of random stories here. I don't
know if I'm communicating this thesis Ihave, this understanding, that
sincere love is transformational. When you can love someone without
desire, expectation, or judgment, it utterly changes your relationship
with that person, even with those who hate you. I believe this is the
essence of faith. It is the heart of da'wah. It is the Golden Rule.
I have given examples of one-on-one interaction, but I believe that
love and kindness can work their wonders just as well when it's one to
a thousand, or ten to a million, just as a single great ocean wave can
flood a whole city, except that love is a good flood that washes away
the fires of hatred.

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''Advise'':-:-

"The one who remembers Allah amongst a heedless people is like a man
who protects an army group on the verge of being defeated. Were it not
for this man, they would be utterly defeated. Likewise, were it not
for the one who remembers Allah amongst a heedless people, the people
would've been destroyed." -

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