For children, - 10-90 Rule or Attitude

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How much do you see of an Iceberg?
Only 10% of any Iceberg is visible. The remaining 90% is below the sea level.
The Iceberg phenomenon is also applicable to we human beings ...
Do you know how?
Only 10% is what happens around us and 90% is how we react or respond to what happens and that's our Attitude.
Similarly, only 10% is our knowledge and skills. And remaining 90% is our Attitude.
In other words, our Attitude (values, standards, judgments, motives, ethics and beliefs) impact our Behavior. Hence, our life is a reflection of our attitudes.
Let each letter of the alphabetic has a value equals to it sequence of the alphabetical order:
ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ
0102030405060708091011121314151617181920212223242526
SKILLSTotal
191109121219=82%
KNOWLEDGETotal
111415231205040705=96%
HARDWORKTotal
0801180423151811=98%
But:
ATTITUDETotal
0120200920210405=100%
Then, look how far the love of God will take you?
LOVEOFGODTotal
1215220515060715O4=101%
Therefore, one can conclude with mathematical certainty that:
While Skills, Knowledge and Hard Work will get you close, and Attitude will get you there, It's the Love of Godthat will put you over the top!
Note:A positive attitude is like a magnet for positive results. Positive attitudes create a chain reaction of positive thoughts. It's your attitude and not your aptitude that determines your altitude.
Holy month of Ramadhan is best to practice and follow the above laws, because the Holy month of Ramadhan is a month of becoming Abdullah [an obedient servant of Allah (SWT)]. It is a month of adopting the etiquette of Allah (SWT) in the language of tradition or adopting the divine color in the language of the Noble Qur'an: "(We take our) color from Allah, and who is better than Allah at coloring. We are His worshippers". (Noble Qur'an 2:138) And the Holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) is reported to have said: "Adopt the etiquette of Allah (SWT)."

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Womens Work, - Dought & clear, - * It is notpermissible fora woman to beappointed as a judge

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Is it permissible for a woman to be appointed as a judge (qaadi) in Islamic sharee’ah?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Shaykh Ibn Jibreen was asked whether it is permissible for a woman to be a qaadi. He replied:
It is not permissible for a woman to be appointed to public positions which generally require speaking with men, mixing with them and going out frequently, asking questions of non-mahram men, and answering their questions. Such behaviour indicates that a woman is careless and audacious, which will lead to her giving up her modesty. This position also requires her to raise her voice. That is contrary to her femininity and modesty. Similarly a woman cannot become an imam or khateeb or lawyer who has to frequent the courts and offices which are filled with men.
This is also a kind of imitating men, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed women who imitate men.
With regard to jobs which a woman may need, there is nothing wrong with a woman being appointed to them, such as teaching female students, being a doctor or nurse treating female patients. A woman may also work in offices that are visited only by women, so that women will not be forced to mix with men, which may be a cause of spreading wanton display (tabarruj) and unveiling, and other things that lead to evil and immorality. And Allaah knows best.
Al-Lu’lu’ al-Makeen min Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Jibreen, p. 304.

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Womens Work, - Dought & clear, - * Is it permissible fora father to force his daughter to work in a mixed environment?

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Can a father force his daughter to work in a mixed environment?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Working in mixed environments is not free of the risk of some haraam things happening, such as looking, being alone with a person of the opposite sex, or feeling attracted. Hence the scholars have issued fatwas stating that it is haraam, based on what usually happens. It says inFataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah(12/156):
Mixing of men and women in schools and elsewhere is a great evil and has serious implications for people’s religious and worldly interests. It is not permissible for a woman to study or work in a place where men and women mix, and it is not permissible for her guardian to allow her to do that.
Based on that, the father has no right to force his daughter to work in a mixed workplace. If he forces her to do that then she does not have to obey him, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no obedience in sinful matters, rather obedience is only (required) in that which is good and proper.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 7257; Muslim, 1840.
This daughter must explain to her father the dangers of working in a mixed environment, and that it is haraam. She should remind him of his duty to protect his family and save them from the Fire, and she should do so in a wise manner and with beautiful preaching.
And Allaah knows best.

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Womens Work, - Dought & clear, - * Does she have to obey her husband if he tells her to work outside the home?

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To begin, I state that I embraced Islam about 15 years ago, part of what is so impressive to me is the true revolution to women and their rghts which Islam has made, alhumdo lillah. But regretfully, so many Muslims do not acknowledge nor apply these standards and I have seen many women taken advantage of due to it. So my question is rgarding "Womens Rights"...
men are obligated to certain maintanance of women, but women are not prohibited from certain things with her husbands permission. So how can a woman protect herself from being taken advantage of by her husband?
For instance, he wants her to work within his business, still take care of the children an even have more children, bringing the infant to work following the delivery as early as the first week out of the hospital. She is repsonsible for the grocery shopping, taking the older child to day care, working at his business, preparing meals, and keeping the house neat. He will assist periodically but not without stating that he has done so as if she should have done it herself.
Can she insist on staying home and being supported? Or must she obey her husband - since he is not asking her to do something haram? But she is tired of being tired and unable to convince him her place is in the home, or even be considerate of her needs and he is always unsatisfied by how she isn't performing to his level of satisfaction.
Sorry this is so lengthy, but it is a common problem among many sisters I have seen, taking the rights Allah gave us and not being taken advantage of.
Praise be to Allaah.
Allaah has made men the protectors and maintainers of women for two reasons, what Allaah has given to men and what men earn. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means”
[al-Nisa’ 4:34]
The fact that Allaah has given men more than women in terms of reasoning, thinking and physical strength is something concerning which there is no dispute. This is what Allaah has given to men. With regard to what men earn, this refers to the husband’s spending on his wife, which is something that is obligatory and is the basis for the man being the protector and maintainer of the wife.
It was narrated that Jaabir (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Fear Allaah with regard to women for Allaah has entrusted them to you and intimacy with them has become permissible for you by the word of Allaah. Their rights over you are that you should provide for them and clothe them on a reasonable basis.”
Narrated by Muslim, 1218.
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: This indicates that it is obligatory for the husband to spend on his wife and clothe her. This is established by scholarly consensus.Sharh Muslim, 8/184.
One of the reasons why it is obligatory for the husband to spend on the wife is that the wife is prevented from earning an income because of her duties towards her husband, children and house.
Al-Bukhaari (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “The obligation of spending on one's wife and children.”
Then he narrated the hadeeth of Abu Hurayrah, according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of charity is that which leaves one independent of means, and the upper hand is better than the lower hand, and start with those who are dependent upon you.”
Al-Bukhaari, 1426; Muslim, 1034.
Al-Haafiz ibn Hajar said:
The reason why it is obligatory to spend on the wife is that she is prevented from earning because of her duties to fulfil the husband’s rights. There is scholarly consensus that this is obligatory.
Al-Fath, 9/625.
The husband has to fear Allaah his Lord, and take care of the wife and children that Allaah has entrusted to him. It is not permissible for him to force his wife to do that which she is unable to do. She does not have to work and spend on the house and on him; rather it is obligatory for him to spend on her even if she is rich.
The role that the woman plays in the home is very important, because she looks after the house and takes care of it, and she fulfils her husband’s rights by preparing the house for him, keeping it clean and tidy, making food, looking after the children, and many other things.
The woman does not have to work outside the house, especially if going out will expose her to mixing with non-mahram men and failing or falling short in her duties towards her house and children.
As mentioned above, it is obligatory for the husband to spend on her, according to scholarly consensus. He has to realize this and make his wife feel safe and protected in her house so that she can do that which Allaah has enjoined upon her.
And Allaah knows best.

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