Between man and wife, Dought & clear, - * He engaged in foreplay with his wife until he ejaculated

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I engaged in foreplay with my wife during the day in Ramadaan – when we were both fasting – until I ejaculated semen. Allaah knows best whether she also reached climax or not. But I feel very guilty and my heart is filled with pain because I feel that we have committed a great sin.
Is there really any burden of sin on us? If so, what is the kafaarah (expiation)?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
You committed a sin by engaging in foreplay with your wife until you ejaculated, because by doing so you invalidated your fast and violated the sanctity of this blessed month, and you missed out on the reward of fasting, concerning which Allaah says: “He gives up his desire and his food for My sake.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 1761).
Your regret for the action that you did is repentance. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Regret is repentance.” Narrated by Ahmad, 3558; Ibn Maajah, 4252; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh Ibn Maajah, 3429.
By ejaculating you broke your fast on the day when that happened, but you should refrain from eating and drinking for the rest of the day, until sunset. And you have to fast another day to make up for that day.
With regard to the kafaarah (expiation), if you had had intercourse with your wife, the expiation would have been severe, namely freeing a slave; if you could not do that then you would have to fast for two consecutive months; and if you could not do that then you would have to feed sixty poor persons. See question no. 22938
But if you ejaculated without having intercourse then you do not have to offer expiation, rather you only have to make up that day.
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: “If he kisses his wife or has intimacy without penetration, or touches the hand of a woman with his hand etc, then he ejaculates, he has broken his fast. Otherwise (his fast is not broken).”
Al-Majmoo’ , 6/322
Shaykh Muhammad ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
If (a man) touches his wife, whether he touches her with his hand, or with his face by kissing her, or with his private part (without having intercourse), then if he ejaculates he has broken his fast, but if he does not ejaculate then he does not break his fast thereby.
Al-Sharh al-Mumti’, 6/388
This ruling applies both to you and to your wife. If she reached climax as a result of this foreplay then she also broke her fast, and she has to repent to Allaah and make up this fast on another day. If she did not reach climax then she does not have to do anything.
And Allaah knows best.


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Between man and wife, Dought & clear, - * He had intercourse with his wife, thinking that dawn had not yet broken

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I had intercourse with my wife and I did not know that the adhaan for Fajr had already been given. I did not know that and I thought that the adhaan would be given a few minutes after five. After that I realized that the adhaan is given at quarter to five. What is the solution? Do I have to offer kafaarah, both me and my wife, knowing that we both did that willingly, and we had arrived from a journey 24 hours before and we did not yet know the timings of the prayer and we were taken by surprise when Ramadaan was announced the morning after our arrival?.
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Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
If the matter is as you describe, then you do not have to do anything, because the one who does something that breaks the fast thinking that dawn has not yet broken, then he finds out that it had broken, does not have to make it up, according to the more correct of the two scholarly opinions, regardless of whether the thing that breaks the fast is food, drink or intercourse.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: I have to point out that the things that break the fast, intercourse, food and drink, only break a person’s fast if three conditions are met:
1 – That he knows about that. If he does not know then his fast is not broken, because Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And there is no sin on you concerning that in which you made a mistake, except in regard to what your hearts deliberately intend. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Ahzaab 33:5]
“Our Lord! Punish us not if we forget or fall into error”
[al-Baqarah 2:286]and Allaah says: “I will do that.”
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “My ummah is forgiven for what it does by mistake, forgets or is forced to do.” The one who is ignorant is making a mistake, even if he knows what he is doing. If he does something that breaks the fast out of ignorance, he does not have to do anything and his fast is complete and valid, whether he was ignorant of the ruling or of the time.
An example of being ignorant of the ruling is if he consumes something that breaks the fast thinking that it does not break the fast, such as if he is treated with cupping, thinking that cupping does not break the fast. We say: Your fast is valid and you do not have to do anything.
And example of being ignorant of the time is if he thinks that dawn has not yet broken, so he eats. His fast is valid.
2 – That he remembers that he is fasting; if he forgets then it does not break the fast.
3 – That he does it willingly. If he does not do it willingly then he does not break his fast.
End quote fromMajmoo’ Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen(19/280).
The Shaykh (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: There is a man who is newly married and he had intercourse with his wife at the end of the night, thinking that it was still night, then the iqaamah was given. What do you think? Does he have to do anything?
He replied: No, he does not have to do anything; there is no sin on him and he does not have to offer expiation or make up that day, because Allaah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“So now have sexual relations with them and seek that which Allaah has ordained for you (offspring), and eat and drink until the white thread (light) of dawn appears to you distinct from the black thread (darkness of night)”
[al-Baqarah 2:187]
So these three things are all the same: intimacy with one’s wife, eating and drinking, and there is no evidence to suggest any distinction between them. They are all things that are not allowed when fasting, and if they happen due to ignorance or forgetfulness, it does not matter. End quote fromal-Liqa’ al-Shahri.
Thus it is clear that you do not have to do anything, you do not have to make up that fast or offer expiation. This applies if you fasted on that day. But if you did not fast thinking that the fast had been invalidated because of intercourse, then all you have to do is make up that day.
And Allaah knows best.








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