'' Our Lord ! grant us good in this world and good in the hereafter and save us from the torment of the Fire '' [Ameen]
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{in Arab} :->
Rabbanaa aatinaa fid-dunyaa hasanatan wafil aakhirati hasanatan waqinaa 'athaaban-naar/-
(Surah Al-Baqarah ,verse 201)
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have sex with her before pronouncing the khula'?
Praise be to Allah.
It should be noted that one of the essential parts of khula', without
which it is not valid, is the pronouncing of the word khula' or words
that have the same meaning, whether that is explicit or implicit. It
is essential that the husband pronounce the word khula' or words that
carry the same meaning, so that the ruling may be applied and its
consequences follow on.
It says inal-Mawsoo'ah al-Fiqhiyyah(19/245): According to scholars
other than the Hanafis, there are five essential parts of khula':
moojib, qaabil, mu'awwad, 'iwad and seeghah.
The moojib (the one who issues the khula') is the husband.
The qaabil (the one who guarantees compensation) is the one who is
committed to pay compensation.
The mu'awwad (the thing for which compensation is given in return for
giving it up) is intimacy with the wife.
The 'iwad (what is agreed upon in return for foregoing the right to
intimacy) is the thing in return for which khula' is given
The seeghah is the wording by which khula' takes place.
With regard to the offer of khula' and acceptance thereof, these are
essential parts of khula' according to the Hanafis, if khula' is in
return for compensation. With regard to both, it is stipulated – as
was stated by the Shaafa'is – that the husband begins with an offer of
exchange, such as saying "I offer you khula' in return for such and
such." Acceptance is done by uttering words on the part of one who can
speak, or by gestures or writing in the case of one who cannot speak
(non-verbal). There should be no discussion of different matters, in
between the offer and acceptance, on the part of the one who is
expected to give an answer; however, a little general talk is allowed.
End quote.
See the answer to question no. 191484
Shaykh as-Sa'di (may Allah have mercy on him) said: If they have
agreed on khula' but have not done it yet – rather they only agreed
that he will give her khula' if she gives him compensation – this does
not count as an annulment of the marriage. Rather it is only a promise
from him to annul it. If he has not yet annulled it, he may change his
mind and not do it. End quote.
Fataawa al-Mar'ah al-Muslimah, 2/785; fatwa from Shaykh 'Abd
ar-Rahmaan as-Sa'di.
Based on that:
If the conditions of khula' are fulfilled by both husband and wife,
and he has indeed uttered the word of khula', then it is not
permissible for the wife to let the husband be intimate with her
because she is completely divorced from him [and if they want to
remarry they must do a new marriage contract].
But if the conditions of khula' have not been met – rather it is only
an agreement and a promise, and the husband has not uttered the word
of khula', or the qaadi (judge) has not yet decreed it – then she is
still his wife and she may allow him to be intimate with her. Who
knows, perhaps that will lead to them wanting to stay together and
reconcile.
And Allah knows best.
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