* [This Dua is very helpful for a person who recites it daily between
Maghrib and Isha Prayers.(for Safety and Protection)
A person in his dream saw the Holy Prophet of Islam, very sad and the
person ask him the reason of sadness and he said: that during Mehraj
he saw many believers being led towards hell and the reason was Iman.
His umma was very weak in their Iman and He recommended this Dua for
protection of his umma and it will help them in the world, after death
and also in theBarzak (resurrection). This Dua is recommended by the
Prophet. PUT YOUR TRUST IN ALLAH. ALLAH IS A SUFFICIENT PROTECTOR]
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In the name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
O Allah, (please do) send blessings to Muhammad and the Household of Muhammad,
بِسْمِ ٱللَّهِ ٱلرَّحْمٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ
اَللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَىٰ مُحَمَّدٍ وَآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection: on the day when theycan
neither delay (the event) by a single moment, nor can they hasten it
(death).
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : at the time of the parting of
the soul from the bodyand in the presence of death.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : at the time of the narration
(of our sins) and at the time of our tarrying in front of Thee.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : from the dread of Doom and
its severity.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : When mankind shall swarn like
moths (resurrection ofmankind).
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : On the day when mankind shall
stand before Thee, Lord of the worlds.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : on the day when some faces
will be bright and some faces will be black.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : When man will flee from his
brother, and his mother and his father, and his wife, and his
children; for everyone of themthey shall be in such anxiety for his
own self as will make him oblivious of all other things.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : on the day when the angles
and the spirit shall stand to order, lined up, and none shall be able
to speak, except those whom the All-merciful shall permit, and they
shall say only what is proper.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : on the day when man shall see
what his hands have sent before him, and the disbeliever shall say,
"Would that I were dust."
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : on the day, the duration
whereof is equal to fifty thousand years.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : on the day when the sinner
would wish that he could reason himself from the torment of that day
by substituting for himself his son, or wife, or brother, or the
kindred with whom he passed his life or all theinhabitants of the
earth put together, and thus save himself, But no! Verily it is a
flaming fire, and it will scorch the skin.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : on the day when the earth
quake will shake the earth, and its sequel (another earthquake) shall
follow it. Heartson that day shall palpitate, and eyes shall be down
caste.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : on the day when the angels
shall say : "There is no good news today for the sinners"And "Be gone,
away with you"
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : on the day when the wrongdoer
shall bite his own hands and say " Ah! Would that I had chosen a way
of life with the prophet; also for me! Ah ! Would that I had not taken
so and so fora friend.
My God, Thy protection, Thy protection : on the day when neither
wealth nor sons shall avail any man, except one who comes to God with
a pure man, except one who comes to God with a pure heart by Thy
mercy, Omost Merciful of all.
There is no god except Allah, whois present at all times.
There is no god except Allah, whois worshipped in every place.
There is no god except Allah, whois known by His Kindness.
There is no god except ALLAH.
Thy protection, Thy protection, O Eternally Good,
O Anciently Kind, O Guide of thosewho go astray.
Thee (alone we worship, and Thee (alone) we ask fo help.
O Forgiver, O All (forgiving).
By Thy mercy, O Most Merciful of all;
Bless Mohammed and his progeny, all of them.
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Dua-e-Amaan / Hifz
Self-Sacrifice
Those who think that lifeis restricted to this earthly life do not put
themselves out for others unless they stand to get something out of
it, and they will not take the initiative to help someone in need.
This is because they do not realise that we will receive perfect
recompense in the afterlife for the good and the evil we have done in
this world. In some verses of the Qur'an, Allah draws our attention to
their perverse way of thinking:
Truly man was created headstrong in greed. (Surat al-Ma'arij: 19)
Have you seen him who turns away and gives little, and that
grudgingly? (Surat an-Najm: 33-34)
As for those who are tight-fisted and direct others to be
tight-fisted, and hide the bounty Allah has given them, Wehave
prepared a humiliating punishment for those who disbelieve. (Surat
an-Nisa': 37)
A person must rid himself of the selfishnessand meanness of his
self.In this regard, our Lord reveals the following:
So have taqwa of Allah, as much as you are able to, and listen and
obey and spend for your own benefit. It is the people who are
safe-guarded from the avarice of their own selves who are successful.
(Surat at-Taghabun: 16)
For this reason, a person who lives according to the teachings of the
Qur'an will avoid selfishness and make an effort during the day to
share what he owns with others around him. For example, he will
takepleasure in sharing his food with someone whois hungry. He will
happily give prized possessions to someone whose need for them is
greater than his own. Hewill give whatever is surplus to his needs to
the needy (Surat al-Baqara: 219). He knows that he will receive a
greater rewardfor it in the afterlife. In the Qur'an, Allah shows us
the exemplary behaviour in this regard of the Companions of our
Prophet:
Those who were alreadysettled in the abode, andin faith, before they
came, love those who have emigrated to them and do not find in their
hearts any need for what they have been given and prefer them to
themselves even if they themselves are needy. It is the people who are
safeguarded from the avarice of their own selves who are successful.
(Surat al-Hashr: 9)
Believers take delight in the knowledge that their act of
self-sacrifice has made someone else happy. They live with the inner
peace of mind that comes from acting out of a good conscienceand
knowing that Allah is pleased. Even when they themselves are in need,
they will give up their own rights withouta thought. They will never
mention their act of self-sacrifice, they willnot behave in order to
be praised or singled outand they will try to makethe other party not
feel obliged because of the favour they have done.
themselves out for others unless they stand to get something out of
it, and they will not take the initiative to help someone in need.
This is because they do not realise that we will receive perfect
recompense in the afterlife for the good and the evil we have done in
this world. In some verses of the Qur'an, Allah draws our attention to
their perverse way of thinking:
Truly man was created headstrong in greed. (Surat al-Ma'arij: 19)
Have you seen him who turns away and gives little, and that
grudgingly? (Surat an-Najm: 33-34)
As for those who are tight-fisted and direct others to be
tight-fisted, and hide the bounty Allah has given them, Wehave
prepared a humiliating punishment for those who disbelieve. (Surat
an-Nisa': 37)
A person must rid himself of the selfishnessand meanness of his
self.In this regard, our Lord reveals the following:
So have taqwa of Allah, as much as you are able to, and listen and
obey and spend for your own benefit. It is the people who are
safe-guarded from the avarice of their own selves who are successful.
(Surat at-Taghabun: 16)
For this reason, a person who lives according to the teachings of the
Qur'an will avoid selfishness and make an effort during the day to
share what he owns with others around him. For example, he will
takepleasure in sharing his food with someone whois hungry. He will
happily give prized possessions to someone whose need for them is
greater than his own. Hewill give whatever is surplus to his needs to
the needy (Surat al-Baqara: 219). He knows that he will receive a
greater rewardfor it in the afterlife. In the Qur'an, Allah shows us
the exemplary behaviour in this regard of the Companions of our
Prophet:
Those who were alreadysettled in the abode, andin faith, before they
came, love those who have emigrated to them and do not find in their
hearts any need for what they have been given and prefer them to
themselves even if they themselves are needy. It is the people who are
safeguarded from the avarice of their own selves who are successful.
(Surat al-Hashr: 9)
Believers take delight in the knowledge that their act of
self-sacrifice has made someone else happy. They live with the inner
peace of mind that comes from acting out of a good conscienceand
knowing that Allah is pleased. Even when they themselves are in need,
they will give up their own rights withouta thought. They will never
mention their act of self-sacrifice, they willnot behave in order to
be praised or singled outand they will try to makethe other party not
feel obliged because of the favour they have done.
Allah is near to man
Many people think Allah is far away. However, as stated in the Qur'an,
"...Surely your Lord encompasses the people with His knowledge..."
(Surat al-Isra': 60), He is very near. He sees and knows every aspect
of a human being, and hears every word he utters. He is knowledgeable
of even one's inner thoughts. This is related in the Qur'an as
follows:
We created man and We know what his own self whispers to him. We are
nearer to him than his jugular vein. (Surah Qaf: 16)
Allah is so near to man that He hears the prayer of everyone-even if
he prays inwardly-and it is He Who answers it:
If My servants ask you about Me, I am near. I answer the call of the
caller when he calls on Me. They should therefore respond to Me and
believe in Me so thathopefully they will be rightly guided. (Surat
al-Baqara: 186)
Allah knows what a person harbours in his heart. He knows whether he
engages in adeed to earn His consent, or to satisfy his own lower
soul. Allah reminds us that He knows our inner thoughts:
...Know that Allah knows what is in your selves, sobeware of Him! And
know that Allah is Ever-Forgiving, All-Forbearing. (Surat al-Baqara:
235)
Though you speak out loud, He knows your secrets and what is even more
concealed. (Surat Ta Ha: 7)
Allah's Messenger, the Prophet Muhammad (may Allah bless him and grant
him peace) also reminded Muslims that when they prayed Allah is very
close to them by saying, "You are calling aHearer, One very close by;
The One Who you arecalling is closer to each one of you."(Al-Bukhari
and Muslim)
As He is with you at every moment, Allah is with you as you are
reading this article; He sees what you are doing and knows what you
arethinking. This fact is related in the Qur'an as follows:
Do you not see that Allahknows what is in the heavens and on the
Earth? Three men cannotconfer together secretly without Him being the
fourth of them, or five without Him being the sixth of them, or fewer
than that or more without Him being with them wherever they are.Then
He will inform them on the Day of Resurrection of what they did. Allah
has knowledge of all things. (Surat al-Mujadala: 7)
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"...Surely your Lord encompasses the people with His knowledge..."
(Surat al-Isra': 60), He is very near. He sees and knows every aspect
of a human being, and hears every word he utters. He is knowledgeable
of even one's inner thoughts. This is related in the Qur'an as
follows:
We created man and We know what his own self whispers to him. We are
nearer to him than his jugular vein. (Surah Qaf: 16)
Allah is so near to man that He hears the prayer of everyone-even if
he prays inwardly-and it is He Who answers it:
If My servants ask you about Me, I am near. I answer the call of the
caller when he calls on Me. They should therefore respond to Me and
believe in Me so thathopefully they will be rightly guided. (Surat
al-Baqara: 186)
Allah knows what a person harbours in his heart. He knows whether he
engages in adeed to earn His consent, or to satisfy his own lower
soul. Allah reminds us that He knows our inner thoughts:
...Know that Allah knows what is in your selves, sobeware of Him! And
know that Allah is Ever-Forgiving, All-Forbearing. (Surat al-Baqara:
235)
Though you speak out loud, He knows your secrets and what is even more
concealed. (Surat Ta Ha: 7)
Allah's Messenger, the Prophet Muhammad (may Allah bless him and grant
him peace) also reminded Muslims that when they prayed Allah is very
close to them by saying, "You are calling aHearer, One very close by;
The One Who you arecalling is closer to each one of you."(Al-Bukhari
and Muslim)
As He is with you at every moment, Allah is with you as you are
reading this article; He sees what you are doing and knows what you
arethinking. This fact is related in the Qur'an as follows:
Do you not see that Allahknows what is in the heavens and on the
Earth? Three men cannotconfer together secretly without Him being the
fourth of them, or five without Him being the sixth of them, or fewer
than that or more without Him being with them wherever they are.Then
He will inform them on the Day of Resurrection of what they did. Allah
has knowledge of all things. (Surat al-Mujadala: 7)
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Story - , Moons Peak [FINISHED]- Epilogue (chapter 30)
AFTER THE NEWS broke out when they'd found Peter's body, I felt
relieved. Satchel and I were in the clear, no longer potential
suspects,and I felt like a huge weight had lifted of my shoulders.
He'd been found under a hedge bush by the local search party, with a
clear report of a rabid dog attack, that he might possibly have had
avoided, had he not been in that particular part of the woods. Since
they'd found his shot gun by his side, officer reports claimthat he'd
been illegally poaching in the area. No one had tied him to the
killings that Grams had instigated, but had he been alive, he would
have been imprisoned for treason. A formidable death sentence in
itself if Peter was alive to tell the tale, death was probably
something he'd rather be, than serving a life time sentence in a jail
cell. Knowing him, he'd think he was too pretty to be jailed. Still,
the thought of him gone forever still didn't sit wellwith me, and the
weirdest part of all, is that Veronica—my red haired dramatic
ex-bestfriend—turned out to be the grieving girlfriend of said victim
according to reports. Go figure.
Satchel had later told me about Cairo being the mysterious guy who'd
brought Satchel home the night he almost froze to death. He also did
him a favor with keeping Peter's body out of our territory, in
exchange forSheeba's wolf and a permanent truce on behalf of his
family, so that we could all live in perfect harmony together.
I still didn't entirely trust the guy, since he was after all the
cause of the permanent scar I had scored into my flesh, but Ilet it
be, for Satchel's sake. Over the past month, they'd performeda
customary Native American ritual, by burning Sheeba's wolf form on the
old Native American burial grounds just west from Denvers Drove, with
Trench by her side. Satchel being the new Alpha of the state of
Colorado made it impossible for Cairo to beanything but nice, and
hehadn't caused any trouble since. Satchel's mom was the hardest to
say goodbye, after Satchel had spread the rest of her ashes over Point
Lake, he'd taken to his wolf form a lot. I think he refused to talk
about it, and I didn't push him either.
"You need any help over there?"Satchel's soft Southern drawl brought
me out of my reverie.
I swiped the back of my hand over my forehead, wiping off excess sweat
that had conjured up over the hours I'd been digging the hole.
Narrowing my eyes over at Satchel, as he relaxed against the willow
tree, one knee up, one leg down, while I continued digging a hole in
the ground.
He was still missing the bottom half of his left limb, but somehow, it
reattached itself every time he changed into a wolf. Since that night
of the Moon Ceremony, he's been in his wolf form more often than I
liked toadmit. Today, I made himstay in human form, if I agreed to do
his chores, and mine for the day, and because of it, he's making me
pay for it. I was starting to regret mentioning such things as he
pointed out things like 'you missed a spot', and 'my grandma could dig
faster than you'. I was this close to throwing something at him.
"You know I could get used to this, women doing the hard work, while
us men sit and watch," he said, with a teasing smirk.
I flicked dirt at him. "Wellyou better not, because I sure as hell
ain't gonna give you a free show."
His eyebrows knit into a frown. "You mean you pay by the hour?"
I shot him a droll look. "Shut up," I said, lightly pushing him in the
shoulder. He toppled over chuckling, pulling me down with him and the
rumble sent a delightful tremor through my arms. The shovel soon
forgotten, as I fell on top of him, straddling him by the waist. His
blinding green eyes making my heart palpitate on its own accord.
He smoothed his hands up my legs, stopping just inches from my hips,
and pulled me forward. He regarded me with a longing gaze, flicking
his eyes over me like he enjoyed the view. I liked the way he looked
at me,even the gentle caresses of his fingers never failedto amaze me,
as a warm shiver traveled up my spine.
"You're a fine piece of art, you know that? I can't stop staring at
you."My face hovered over his,making my hair dangle like a veil, my
breathing matching his pulses. I could just make out the slow circles
he was making with his thumbs at my waist.
"Hmm, that's funny, I could've sworn you said it's rude and annoying
tostare," I said, poking him in the side abdomen, andhe grunted,
catching a hold of my wrist.
"That's true," he murmured, beaming a smile. "But I can't help it if
you insist on throwing yourself at me."
"I did not throw myself atyou, you pulled me down."
"How do you explain thattime you first came here, and you fell out of
the carriage, then? Are you gonna say I pulled you down, too?" He
laughed when I hit him in the chest.
That seemed like a long time ago, now that I thought about it. I can't
believe he remembered that.
"That was an accident, and you know it," I protested.
"Right, I know the drill. You pretend to fall; so I can catch you and
swoopyou off your feet. Just admit it; you can't keep your hands off
me."
I scoffed, knowing very well it was him who couldn't keep his hands
off me. "Oh really? So the second I do this," I asked,hovering over
his mouth,straddling his hips, molding my body with his. Though we
both had our clothes on, I could still feel the heat simmering between
us, "You'll keep your hands to yourself?"
The hungry look in his eyes as he gazed at my lips longingly made me smirk.
"I never said anything about my hands," he said, squeezing the side of
my hip to pull me closer, all the while keeping his lips tilted up
into a crooked smile. "You're the one who can't resist me."
I laughed, my lips twitching into a sly smirk when he lifted his head
to meet mine, but I was too fast, slamming my index finger over his
pouted lips.
"Well, this is me, keeping my hands to myself," I said, swinging my
legs off him, to stand up, leaving him to the likes of the ground. I
shot him one last teasing smile, picking up the shovel to continue
with my digging.
"Oh come on! You can't do that," he groaned.
I laughed, whacking his hands away playfully when he tried to reach for me.
He rushed to his feet—though it took a lotmore effort since his
prosthetic foot refused tocomply with him—picking me up by the waist,
and wrapping me up from behind. "I was kidding; you can have free
range to put your hands wherever youplease."
I shook my head, giggling out of his arms. "Satchel, we're burning
daylight, and this fence isn't going to fix itself."
He only hugged me tighter, pressing light kisses to my ears, "But
mywounds need attention, and only you can heal them."
"Wounds, where?" I asked, fretting over his face and body with my hands.
A smile flirted with his lips, "A couple over here,"he said pointing
to his cheek. "And a couple over here," he dotted at his lips, nodding
eagerly. "Definitely there."
Rolling my eyes, I pushed at his chest, reluctantly so, though I
couldn't keep my smile off my face. "Not a chance."
"They're throbbing with pain."
I laughed harder.
"Willy, you're making me crazy."
He caught me, pinning me to the willow tree, hissix foot two
completely swallowing my stature.
"Satchel, I need to get this done." I giggled, as he started a trail
of kissesdown my neck, tickling me senseless.
"It can wait," he said between kisses, as he picked me up off the
ground, wrapping my legs around him. I gasped when he captured his
lips with mine, catching me by surprise. The force of his lips
devoured any sense of rational thoughts I had, and the chores, and
everything briefly dissipated from my mind in that kiss. I pulled
awayreluctantly, and he growled in protest, catching my bottom lip
between his teeth.
Ever since he'd marked me as his mate, he couldn't seem to keep
hishands off me, or his lips, though I wasn't one to complain, but
chores did not get done by themselves. And I will notgive him the
satisfaction of giving up, since his earlier comment about girls not
being able to handle hard labor.
I stifled a laugh, delving deeper into the cavern ofhis mouth, as I
explored the sweetness of Satchel.
"Satchel, this fence isn't going to build itself," I said through kisses.
He mumbled something incoherent against my lips, something like
'urgent needs, call for urgent matters' as his tongue swiped my lower
lips, asking for invitation,and I caved. I gave in to his sweetness,
his gentle caresses. I was lost in all his six foot two glory, as
Iwrapped my legs around his waist to pull him closer. My hands weren't
a stranger to his chest, as they explored every ripped surface of his
smooth stomach, pushinghis shirt over his head. We lost ourselves in
the midst of the spring morning, and got lost wrapped up in each
other's embrace, I felt Satchel inside me, and not for the first time,
but the second, I felt a terminal lust and need for him to have his
way with me. Just me, Satchel,and the bare-naked sanctuary of the
forest at the tip of our fingers.
After Satchel and I made love, I put his shirt on, while he sat on the
picnicblanket with a pair of slacks. I nibbled on a few sandwiches,
while he polished off nearly a whole chicken to himself.
"Remind me to catch a deer for you, next time."
He grinned. "Well, you know what they say, 'food is a way to a man's heart'."
I laughed, and his arms wrapped around me from behind, and the both of
us just sitting in comfortable silence, as we listened to the slow
hush of Point Lake stream by in front of us.
"Oh, I almost forgot. I have something for you."
This piqued my curiosity, and I whipped my head around, as he
presented a bamboo scroll with a plaited string of flax tied around as
a makeshift bow.
I raised my eyebrows. "What is it?"
"Open it," he urged.
I did, and I had trouble untying the knot, so Satchel cut it off with
his handy hunter's knife he kept in his steel caps. I unrolled what
looked like leather, and frownedwondering what I was looking at.
Tilting my head, I could just make out a picture burnt into the
leather, of some girl, with her neck craned in the air holding out her
arm to show off the little butterfly that perched on her index finger,
while a swarm of butterflies were airborne, that connected to the name
scrawled on top: Willow.
I looked up at Satchel, who'd been watching meclosely, and I raised my
eyebrows. "You did this?"
He nodded, and before I could ask the question of how, I noticed a
blush forming on his cheeks. It's probably the first time I've seen
him nervous. "Coal and a very hot metal blade."
I let my fingers run over the picture, liking the ruddy feel of it, as
I studied it in awe. The intricate design and detail of every line
made memories of that day flit through my mind. I counted eleven
butterflies, and he stifled a wistful smile.
"A butterfly for every year you were gone."
Saying it was beautiful is an understatement. There was really no
words to describe how I felt then. Sighing, I struggled to keep my
tears at bay, this was not a time to cry, but I was moved by this huge
gesture, I felt I had to repay him. Satchel just swiped my hair to the
side, and placed a gentle kiss on my shoulder, inhaling my scent that
I was sure had mixed with his. He'd somehow endedup behind me again,
as we both studied the picture before us. I looked so innocent, and so
carefree, I wondered where that girl had gone.I wished I had
somethingto give to him in return.
I wondered what gave him the motivation to take the time out to create
such a masterpiece, and didn't realize I'd spoken out loud, when he
replied, "Because, I love you, Willy," he whispered against my ears.
I froze, wondering if I was having trouble with my hearing, and had
dreamed up those very words, but as he burrowed his lips deeper in the
side of my neck, those five words sounded like an echo in my chest,
making my heart spasm. I gasped, pulling back, regarding him
speculatively over my shoulder.
"What did you say?" I rasped.
He chuckled. "You look surprised, is it that hard to believe?" My face
was a sure give away, I could tell by the look on his face.
"No, it's just…" I stammered, shaking my head in bewilderment. I'd
been so caught up in wanting to say those three words since forever, I
hadn't thought about what it would be like hearing them from his mouth
first.
He raised his eyebrows. "Falling in love with you wasn't a choice,
Willy. Neither was choosing you as a mate. I just didn't understand it
until now."
Gulping down that lump in the back of my throat, I just blinked in
confusion. I'd been tryingto tell him for ages abouthow I feel, but
somehow he'd stolen the perfect moment, and shocked mybreath out of
me. Saying that it was unexpected was the understatement of the year.
I was stumped speechless, and I forced myself to say something, though
it wasa lost cause.
"Willy, you okay?"
I blinked, shaking my head, and then nodding. My mouth opened and
closed, but nothing came out.
"You're making me nervous, say something."
"I'm just...that was unexpected…"
He chuckled. "You look pale, are you sure you're okay?"
"No, I'm fine. It's just…I'vebeen wanting to hear that for so long…it
feels alittle surreal right now, and…"
"And?" he prompted.
"I kinda wanted to be thefirst one to say it," I said finally. It was
a stupid thing to say, but my mouth tended to ramble whenever I was in
current company.
He stifled a smile. "Well, technically you did. WhenI jumped out of
your window that night, I heard you." He smiled as if he was hiding
millions of secrets in his eyes. "I was an idiot for not saying it
back, and from now on, I'll work on saying it more often. Deal?"
"Deal," I agreed and we sealed it with a kiss. "I love you, too," I whispered.
"Willy and Satchel up the tree! K.I.S.S.I.N.G!" We broke apart at
Derryn's soft teasing voice, as she stood poking her tongue."First
comes love, then comes marriage. Then comes a baby in a baby
carriage!"
"Derryn, don't you have homework?" Satchel grumbled.
"Nope, I finished. Mrs. Steeple said I could take a break," she sang,
throwing a handful of pine that showered our faces. "I have an hour to
do whatever I please." We'd hired a tutor for Derryn, since Mrs. Heins
used to home school her and Satchel, and though we barely afforded to
have a tutor five times a week, three days would have to do, since she
couldn't go to a public school with her unstable condition. We'd have
trouble trying to explain why a red wolf would be running around
campus, since she liked to change when it suited her, and not anyone
else.
Satchel grunted in annoyance, wiping at his hair and clothes
muttering, "Just don't go too far," when Derryn ran into the trees,
her clothes destroyed in seconds, as she transformed into a wolf.
"Derryn!" he bellowed, shuffling to his feet. He was about to run
after her, but I stopped him.
"She's going to be okay, you've gotta start trusting her."
Derryn now in wolf form looked back, and bared her teeth, and it
almost looked like she was grinning.
"I know, it's just…did yousee that? She changed faster than I've ever
seen a wolf change."
I nodded, stripping free of my clothes. "She maybe fast in her
transitioning, but she's not fast on her legs." I knew as much when
I'd go running in the woods with her, I'd always have to hang back so
she could keep up.
"What are you doing?" He looked at me now, his face knit into a
confused expression. I unbuttoned his large shirt I was wearing, as I
smirked up at him.
"A lot happened while you were gone Satchel, but there's one thing
thathasn't changed. I'm still a fast runner."
"Yeah? You wanna put money on that?" he challenged.
I shook my head. "Nope. Taking your money is tooeasy."
"Okay, what are the stakes?" he asked, shrugging off his suspenders.
I shrugged. "I beat you, and you do my chores forthe rest of the week."
He frowned. "And what ifI win?"
"Not gonna happen," I said, throwing his shirt into his face, giggling
at his frustrated grunt.
I ran through the pine, and leapt in the air, letting my white fur
sprawl out around me, and let my wolf instincts kick in, as a muzzle
formed, and the familiar brown paw was visible asI pounded into the
earth.Satchel's footfalls sounded seconds behind me, and I felt a
light playful nip on my tail thatreminded me that Satchelcould keep
up. I made a point to kick up mud andpine needles with my back limbs,
and I could hear a rough chuckle coming from behind me. I'll get you
for that, he sent me through his mind, shaking the pine off his coat.
Oh yeah? You have to catch me, first, I taunted. Shaking my head, I
scooped up a pile of pineneedles in my mouth, and spat them over my
back so they could go flying in Black Wolf's direction. He dodged it
ofcourse, gunning for me. You're smart, I'll give you that, he
commended, but his praise was short lived as he leapt over me.
I huffed, slightly unimpressed as he looked back with his glowing
green eyes in triumph. His wolf-like chuckle rumbled throughthe
forest, and I liked the sound of it.
We raced through the trees, leaving our mundane worries behindus,
keeping our eyes on the path ahead of us.
The feel of freedom within arms reach, the world at the tip of our
paws, and the smell of home wafting through our muzzles as we
passedthe sign of Moon's Peak, that marked the forest of our newfound
kingdom.
I nudged him in his hind, causing him to stumble off track, and I flew
past him as following the soft melodic cadence of our pack in the
distance. We sent our replies with a croon of our own, and pounded our
paws in theEarth.
My wolf found freedom, and looking back at the Black Wolf trailing
behind me, for the first time, she found peace.
THE END
---
This chapter seemed less cheesy in my head, but after rereading it, I
don't know. LOL
I'm going to be editing this over the next few weeks, and probably
change a few things in here to make it clear, andcheck spelling errors
and stuff. This book will be renamed Moons Peak, and I'll be playing
aroundwith a cover too, so yeah.
THANK YOU to all the readers who've supported me through the long
journey, and continually expressed your enthusiasm throughout. For
ignoringmy grammar errors, and for your undying attention and
patience. It's been so long since I started this book, and I didn't
think I'll ever get to finish it. Thank you from the bottom of my
heart! Because of you, I have made it this far. Although I am sad to
see that Willow's and Satchel's story is over, I am somewhat relieved
that I've finished a book (eventhough it is a short story, it took so
long to create it). I'll probably post some fun facts for this story
over the next day or two, just to give you an idea of what it took to
get me this far, and my inspiration for writing this book.
xoxo Tiny.
relieved. Satchel and I were in the clear, no longer potential
suspects,and I felt like a huge weight had lifted of my shoulders.
He'd been found under a hedge bush by the local search party, with a
clear report of a rabid dog attack, that he might possibly have had
avoided, had he not been in that particular part of the woods. Since
they'd found his shot gun by his side, officer reports claimthat he'd
been illegally poaching in the area. No one had tied him to the
killings that Grams had instigated, but had he been alive, he would
have been imprisoned for treason. A formidable death sentence in
itself if Peter was alive to tell the tale, death was probably
something he'd rather be, than serving a life time sentence in a jail
cell. Knowing him, he'd think he was too pretty to be jailed. Still,
the thought of him gone forever still didn't sit wellwith me, and the
weirdest part of all, is that Veronica—my red haired dramatic
ex-bestfriend—turned out to be the grieving girlfriend of said victim
according to reports. Go figure.
Satchel had later told me about Cairo being the mysterious guy who'd
brought Satchel home the night he almost froze to death. He also did
him a favor with keeping Peter's body out of our territory, in
exchange forSheeba's wolf and a permanent truce on behalf of his
family, so that we could all live in perfect harmony together.
I still didn't entirely trust the guy, since he was after all the
cause of the permanent scar I had scored into my flesh, but Ilet it
be, for Satchel's sake. Over the past month, they'd performeda
customary Native American ritual, by burning Sheeba's wolf form on the
old Native American burial grounds just west from Denvers Drove, with
Trench by her side. Satchel being the new Alpha of the state of
Colorado made it impossible for Cairo to beanything but nice, and
hehadn't caused any trouble since. Satchel's mom was the hardest to
say goodbye, after Satchel had spread the rest of her ashes over Point
Lake, he'd taken to his wolf form a lot. I think he refused to talk
about it, and I didn't push him either.
"You need any help over there?"Satchel's soft Southern drawl brought
me out of my reverie.
I swiped the back of my hand over my forehead, wiping off excess sweat
that had conjured up over the hours I'd been digging the hole.
Narrowing my eyes over at Satchel, as he relaxed against the willow
tree, one knee up, one leg down, while I continued digging a hole in
the ground.
He was still missing the bottom half of his left limb, but somehow, it
reattached itself every time he changed into a wolf. Since that night
of the Moon Ceremony, he's been in his wolf form more often than I
liked toadmit. Today, I made himstay in human form, if I agreed to do
his chores, and mine for the day, and because of it, he's making me
pay for it. I was starting to regret mentioning such things as he
pointed out things like 'you missed a spot', and 'my grandma could dig
faster than you'. I was this close to throwing something at him.
"You know I could get used to this, women doing the hard work, while
us men sit and watch," he said, with a teasing smirk.
I flicked dirt at him. "Wellyou better not, because I sure as hell
ain't gonna give you a free show."
His eyebrows knit into a frown. "You mean you pay by the hour?"
I shot him a droll look. "Shut up," I said, lightly pushing him in the
shoulder. He toppled over chuckling, pulling me down with him and the
rumble sent a delightful tremor through my arms. The shovel soon
forgotten, as I fell on top of him, straddling him by the waist. His
blinding green eyes making my heart palpitate on its own accord.
He smoothed his hands up my legs, stopping just inches from my hips,
and pulled me forward. He regarded me with a longing gaze, flicking
his eyes over me like he enjoyed the view. I liked the way he looked
at me,even the gentle caresses of his fingers never failedto amaze me,
as a warm shiver traveled up my spine.
"You're a fine piece of art, you know that? I can't stop staring at
you."My face hovered over his,making my hair dangle like a veil, my
breathing matching his pulses. I could just make out the slow circles
he was making with his thumbs at my waist.
"Hmm, that's funny, I could've sworn you said it's rude and annoying
tostare," I said, poking him in the side abdomen, andhe grunted,
catching a hold of my wrist.
"That's true," he murmured, beaming a smile. "But I can't help it if
you insist on throwing yourself at me."
"I did not throw myself atyou, you pulled me down."
"How do you explain thattime you first came here, and you fell out of
the carriage, then? Are you gonna say I pulled you down, too?" He
laughed when I hit him in the chest.
That seemed like a long time ago, now that I thought about it. I can't
believe he remembered that.
"That was an accident, and you know it," I protested.
"Right, I know the drill. You pretend to fall; so I can catch you and
swoopyou off your feet. Just admit it; you can't keep your hands off
me."
I scoffed, knowing very well it was him who couldn't keep his hands
off me. "Oh really? So the second I do this," I asked,hovering over
his mouth,straddling his hips, molding my body with his. Though we
both had our clothes on, I could still feel the heat simmering between
us, "You'll keep your hands to yourself?"
The hungry look in his eyes as he gazed at my lips longingly made me smirk.
"I never said anything about my hands," he said, squeezing the side of
my hip to pull me closer, all the while keeping his lips tilted up
into a crooked smile. "You're the one who can't resist me."
I laughed, my lips twitching into a sly smirk when he lifted his head
to meet mine, but I was too fast, slamming my index finger over his
pouted lips.
"Well, this is me, keeping my hands to myself," I said, swinging my
legs off him, to stand up, leaving him to the likes of the ground. I
shot him one last teasing smile, picking up the shovel to continue
with my digging.
"Oh come on! You can't do that," he groaned.
I laughed, whacking his hands away playfully when he tried to reach for me.
He rushed to his feet—though it took a lotmore effort since his
prosthetic foot refused tocomply with him—picking me up by the waist,
and wrapping me up from behind. "I was kidding; you can have free
range to put your hands wherever youplease."
I shook my head, giggling out of his arms. "Satchel, we're burning
daylight, and this fence isn't going to fix itself."
He only hugged me tighter, pressing light kisses to my ears, "But
mywounds need attention, and only you can heal them."
"Wounds, where?" I asked, fretting over his face and body with my hands.
A smile flirted with his lips, "A couple over here,"he said pointing
to his cheek. "And a couple over here," he dotted at his lips, nodding
eagerly. "Definitely there."
Rolling my eyes, I pushed at his chest, reluctantly so, though I
couldn't keep my smile off my face. "Not a chance."
"They're throbbing with pain."
I laughed harder.
"Willy, you're making me crazy."
He caught me, pinning me to the willow tree, hissix foot two
completely swallowing my stature.
"Satchel, I need to get this done." I giggled, as he started a trail
of kissesdown my neck, tickling me senseless.
"It can wait," he said between kisses, as he picked me up off the
ground, wrapping my legs around him. I gasped when he captured his
lips with mine, catching me by surprise. The force of his lips
devoured any sense of rational thoughts I had, and the chores, and
everything briefly dissipated from my mind in that kiss. I pulled
awayreluctantly, and he growled in protest, catching my bottom lip
between his teeth.
Ever since he'd marked me as his mate, he couldn't seem to keep
hishands off me, or his lips, though I wasn't one to complain, but
chores did not get done by themselves. And I will notgive him the
satisfaction of giving up, since his earlier comment about girls not
being able to handle hard labor.
I stifled a laugh, delving deeper into the cavern ofhis mouth, as I
explored the sweetness of Satchel.
"Satchel, this fence isn't going to build itself," I said through kisses.
He mumbled something incoherent against my lips, something like
'urgent needs, call for urgent matters' as his tongue swiped my lower
lips, asking for invitation,and I caved. I gave in to his sweetness,
his gentle caresses. I was lost in all his six foot two glory, as
Iwrapped my legs around his waist to pull him closer. My hands weren't
a stranger to his chest, as they explored every ripped surface of his
smooth stomach, pushinghis shirt over his head. We lost ourselves in
the midst of the spring morning, and got lost wrapped up in each
other's embrace, I felt Satchel inside me, and not for the first time,
but the second, I felt a terminal lust and need for him to have his
way with me. Just me, Satchel,and the bare-naked sanctuary of the
forest at the tip of our fingers.
After Satchel and I made love, I put his shirt on, while he sat on the
picnicblanket with a pair of slacks. I nibbled on a few sandwiches,
while he polished off nearly a whole chicken to himself.
"Remind me to catch a deer for you, next time."
He grinned. "Well, you know what they say, 'food is a way to a man's heart'."
I laughed, and his arms wrapped around me from behind, and the both of
us just sitting in comfortable silence, as we listened to the slow
hush of Point Lake stream by in front of us.
"Oh, I almost forgot. I have something for you."
This piqued my curiosity, and I whipped my head around, as he
presented a bamboo scroll with a plaited string of flax tied around as
a makeshift bow.
I raised my eyebrows. "What is it?"
"Open it," he urged.
I did, and I had trouble untying the knot, so Satchel cut it off with
his handy hunter's knife he kept in his steel caps. I unrolled what
looked like leather, and frownedwondering what I was looking at.
Tilting my head, I could just make out a picture burnt into the
leather, of some girl, with her neck craned in the air holding out her
arm to show off the little butterfly that perched on her index finger,
while a swarm of butterflies were airborne, that connected to the name
scrawled on top: Willow.
I looked up at Satchel, who'd been watching meclosely, and I raised my
eyebrows. "You did this?"
He nodded, and before I could ask the question of how, I noticed a
blush forming on his cheeks. It's probably the first time I've seen
him nervous. "Coal and a very hot metal blade."
I let my fingers run over the picture, liking the ruddy feel of it, as
I studied it in awe. The intricate design and detail of every line
made memories of that day flit through my mind. I counted eleven
butterflies, and he stifled a wistful smile.
"A butterfly for every year you were gone."
Saying it was beautiful is an understatement. There was really no
words to describe how I felt then. Sighing, I struggled to keep my
tears at bay, this was not a time to cry, but I was moved by this huge
gesture, I felt I had to repay him. Satchel just swiped my hair to the
side, and placed a gentle kiss on my shoulder, inhaling my scent that
I was sure had mixed with his. He'd somehow endedup behind me again,
as we both studied the picture before us. I looked so innocent, and so
carefree, I wondered where that girl had gone.I wished I had
somethingto give to him in return.
I wondered what gave him the motivation to take the time out to create
such a masterpiece, and didn't realize I'd spoken out loud, when he
replied, "Because, I love you, Willy," he whispered against my ears.
I froze, wondering if I was having trouble with my hearing, and had
dreamed up those very words, but as he burrowed his lips deeper in the
side of my neck, those five words sounded like an echo in my chest,
making my heart spasm. I gasped, pulling back, regarding him
speculatively over my shoulder.
"What did you say?" I rasped.
He chuckled. "You look surprised, is it that hard to believe?" My face
was a sure give away, I could tell by the look on his face.
"No, it's just…" I stammered, shaking my head in bewilderment. I'd
been so caught up in wanting to say those three words since forever, I
hadn't thought about what it would be like hearing them from his mouth
first.
He raised his eyebrows. "Falling in love with you wasn't a choice,
Willy. Neither was choosing you as a mate. I just didn't understand it
until now."
Gulping down that lump in the back of my throat, I just blinked in
confusion. I'd been tryingto tell him for ages abouthow I feel, but
somehow he'd stolen the perfect moment, and shocked mybreath out of
me. Saying that it was unexpected was the understatement of the year.
I was stumped speechless, and I forced myself to say something, though
it wasa lost cause.
"Willy, you okay?"
I blinked, shaking my head, and then nodding. My mouth opened and
closed, but nothing came out.
"You're making me nervous, say something."
"I'm just...that was unexpected…"
He chuckled. "You look pale, are you sure you're okay?"
"No, I'm fine. It's just…I'vebeen wanting to hear that for so long…it
feels alittle surreal right now, and…"
"And?" he prompted.
"I kinda wanted to be thefirst one to say it," I said finally. It was
a stupid thing to say, but my mouth tended to ramble whenever I was in
current company.
He stifled a smile. "Well, technically you did. WhenI jumped out of
your window that night, I heard you." He smiled as if he was hiding
millions of secrets in his eyes. "I was an idiot for not saying it
back, and from now on, I'll work on saying it more often. Deal?"
"Deal," I agreed and we sealed it with a kiss. "I love you, too," I whispered.
"Willy and Satchel up the tree! K.I.S.S.I.N.G!" We broke apart at
Derryn's soft teasing voice, as she stood poking her tongue."First
comes love, then comes marriage. Then comes a baby in a baby
carriage!"
"Derryn, don't you have homework?" Satchel grumbled.
"Nope, I finished. Mrs. Steeple said I could take a break," she sang,
throwing a handful of pine that showered our faces. "I have an hour to
do whatever I please." We'd hired a tutor for Derryn, since Mrs. Heins
used to home school her and Satchel, and though we barely afforded to
have a tutor five times a week, three days would have to do, since she
couldn't go to a public school with her unstable condition. We'd have
trouble trying to explain why a red wolf would be running around
campus, since she liked to change when it suited her, and not anyone
else.
Satchel grunted in annoyance, wiping at his hair and clothes
muttering, "Just don't go too far," when Derryn ran into the trees,
her clothes destroyed in seconds, as she transformed into a wolf.
"Derryn!" he bellowed, shuffling to his feet. He was about to run
after her, but I stopped him.
"She's going to be okay, you've gotta start trusting her."
Derryn now in wolf form looked back, and bared her teeth, and it
almost looked like she was grinning.
"I know, it's just…did yousee that? She changed faster than I've ever
seen a wolf change."
I nodded, stripping free of my clothes. "She maybe fast in her
transitioning, but she's not fast on her legs." I knew as much when
I'd go running in the woods with her, I'd always have to hang back so
she could keep up.
"What are you doing?" He looked at me now, his face knit into a
confused expression. I unbuttoned his large shirt I was wearing, as I
smirked up at him.
"A lot happened while you were gone Satchel, but there's one thing
thathasn't changed. I'm still a fast runner."
"Yeah? You wanna put money on that?" he challenged.
I shook my head. "Nope. Taking your money is tooeasy."
"Okay, what are the stakes?" he asked, shrugging off his suspenders.
I shrugged. "I beat you, and you do my chores forthe rest of the week."
He frowned. "And what ifI win?"
"Not gonna happen," I said, throwing his shirt into his face, giggling
at his frustrated grunt.
I ran through the pine, and leapt in the air, letting my white fur
sprawl out around me, and let my wolf instincts kick in, as a muzzle
formed, and the familiar brown paw was visible asI pounded into the
earth.Satchel's footfalls sounded seconds behind me, and I felt a
light playful nip on my tail thatreminded me that Satchelcould keep
up. I made a point to kick up mud andpine needles with my back limbs,
and I could hear a rough chuckle coming from behind me. I'll get you
for that, he sent me through his mind, shaking the pine off his coat.
Oh yeah? You have to catch me, first, I taunted. Shaking my head, I
scooped up a pile of pineneedles in my mouth, and spat them over my
back so they could go flying in Black Wolf's direction. He dodged it
ofcourse, gunning for me. You're smart, I'll give you that, he
commended, but his praise was short lived as he leapt over me.
I huffed, slightly unimpressed as he looked back with his glowing
green eyes in triumph. His wolf-like chuckle rumbled throughthe
forest, and I liked the sound of it.
We raced through the trees, leaving our mundane worries behindus,
keeping our eyes on the path ahead of us.
The feel of freedom within arms reach, the world at the tip of our
paws, and the smell of home wafting through our muzzles as we
passedthe sign of Moon's Peak, that marked the forest of our newfound
kingdom.
I nudged him in his hind, causing him to stumble off track, and I flew
past him as following the soft melodic cadence of our pack in the
distance. We sent our replies with a croon of our own, and pounded our
paws in theEarth.
My wolf found freedom, and looking back at the Black Wolf trailing
behind me, for the first time, she found peace.
THE END
---
This chapter seemed less cheesy in my head, but after rereading it, I
don't know. LOL
I'm going to be editing this over the next few weeks, and probably
change a few things in here to make it clear, andcheck spelling errors
and stuff. This book will be renamed Moons Peak, and I'll be playing
aroundwith a cover too, so yeah.
THANK YOU to all the readers who've supported me through the long
journey, and continually expressed your enthusiasm throughout. For
ignoringmy grammar errors, and for your undying attention and
patience. It's been so long since I started this book, and I didn't
think I'll ever get to finish it. Thank you from the bottom of my
heart! Because of you, I have made it this far. Although I am sad to
see that Willow's and Satchel's story is over, I am somewhat relieved
that I've finished a book (eventhough it is a short story, it took so
long to create it). I'll probably post some fun facts for this story
over the next day or two, just to give you an idea of what it took to
get me this far, and my inspiration for writing this book.
xoxo Tiny.
Praised Manners - , Arguments with her husband – she is asking how to become a righteous wife .
I am a new muslimah and am fromthe U.S. I have been raised not to let
a man controll me. Now the problem is that my husband is not from here
and we tend to argue alot.I know more of the laws and commoneveryday
things more than he does.His english is not that great, so, I have to
explain to him sometimes and he is used to how his country and culture
are, so, in public I tend to do the talking alot.This makes him mad
sometimes but I feel it is the only way toget things done right most
of the time. Now we argue alot and I don't know how to be the "wife"
that I am supposed to be Islamically. I am still in the learning
process, butthat is were I have my biggest problem.How can I change
that or try to make the problem better.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We praise Allaah for guiding you to Islam, which is the greatest
blessing that Allaah can bestow upon His slaves.
We would like to tell youthat Allaah has given yourights over your
husband, and has enjoined upon you duties towards him. You can read
question no. 10680 to find out more about this.
You have to do the duties towards your husband which Allaah has
enjoined upon you. Islam regards the husband's rights as greatbecause
of the husband's great importance in building the Muslim household,
and because Allaah has enjoined him (the husband) to look after his
family's interests and take care of them.
The Muslim woman should be wise in her dealings with her husband,
because man – usually – is pleased with kind words and appreciates
kind treatment. So if that comes from his life-partner, that will
have a greater effect. The wise woman must also keep away from all
kinds of behaviour that will offend her husband,and rid herself of
every kind of action that annoys him, and try not to control him. The
man has the role of qawwaam (protector and maintainer), and
theresponsibility is his. Making him feel that he is falling short in
certain situations may make himangry and not treat his wife well. One
of them said: "The best wife is the one who knows howto create harmony
in hermarriage and strikes a balance between obeying and respecting
her husband and expressing her own strong personality."
Your speaking to people on his behalf – because he does not speak your
people's language well –is permissible according to sharee'ah, but as
stated above, you have to be wise in doing this. When doing these
thingsyou should not make him feel that he is lacking or that he is
not important. Rather you should refer to him when speaking to the
people, and consult withhim, and do not make decisions in his
presencewithout asking his permission. You should do that in front of
the people to whom you arespeaking so that he will feel that he is
important.Try to make him feel thathe speaks his own language better
than you do, and that you complement one another; and you can help him
to learn your language, and he can help you to learn his language.
This is what we advise you to do, and this is what may reduce his
anger and stop him frombehaving in this manner.It seems that it is
only a matter of time, and you have to be careful in handling this
situation until he becomes more fluent in your language and is able to
do things himself, on his own.
Secondly:
In order to become a good wife, you have to learn what Allaah has
enjoined upon you, so that you can do it. You have to know how
righteous women behave, their attitude and the way they interact with
their husbands. You will need to strive hard until you get used to it,
but it is not impossible. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) said: "Knowledge comes by learning, and patience comes by
trying to be patient. Whoever seeks goodness will be given it, and
whoever fears evil will be protected from it." Narrated by
al-Daaraqutni in al-Afraad; this is a hasan hadeet, as was stated by
al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami', 2328.
Some of these characteristics and attitudes are those of which a wise
mother advised her daughter before marriage, which is comprehensive
advice.We ask Allaah to help you to achieve this. That mother said to
her daughter:
"O my daughter, you are leaving your house in which you grew up, and
going to live with a man whom you do not know,a companion whom you are
unfamiliar with. Be like a slave woman to him and he will be like a
slave to you. Remember ten characteristics whichwill be a stored
treasure for you:
The first and second are to be devoted to him and be content, listen
to him and obey.
The third and the fourth are to consider his nose and eyes; do not let
him see anything ugly of you, or let him smell anything but a good
fragrance.
The fifth and the sixth are consider the time of his sleeping and
eating, for hunger burns and disturbance of sleep causes anger.
The seventh and the eighth are to look after his wealth and to take
care of his family and hisdependents.
The ninth and the tenth are to look after his wealth and take care of
his dependents."
Thirdly:
The husband has to fear Allaah his Lord, and not transgress the rights
of his wife. He should give her her rights as Allaah has enjoined upon
him. He should realize that people vary, and that what he knows, many
people are ignorant of, and what he is ignorant of, many people know.
For him to have a wife who will translate for him and show him what
will benefit him and how things are done is better for him than having
someone with him whom he cannot trust. Knowledge can only be acquired
by learning, and the way tolearn is by striving and working hard.
Advise him to try to control himself at times of anger, and not to get
angry unless you have transgressed one of the sacred limits of Allaah.
This is the kind of anger that is regarded as praiseworthy.
And Allaah knows best.
a man controll me. Now the problem is that my husband is not from here
and we tend to argue alot.I know more of the laws and commoneveryday
things more than he does.His english is not that great, so, I have to
explain to him sometimes and he is used to how his country and culture
are, so, in public I tend to do the talking alot.This makes him mad
sometimes but I feel it is the only way toget things done right most
of the time. Now we argue alot and I don't know how to be the "wife"
that I am supposed to be Islamically. I am still in the learning
process, butthat is were I have my biggest problem.How can I change
that or try to make the problem better.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We praise Allaah for guiding you to Islam, which is the greatest
blessing that Allaah can bestow upon His slaves.
We would like to tell youthat Allaah has given yourights over your
husband, and has enjoined upon you duties towards him. You can read
question no. 10680 to find out more about this.
You have to do the duties towards your husband which Allaah has
enjoined upon you. Islam regards the husband's rights as greatbecause
of the husband's great importance in building the Muslim household,
and because Allaah has enjoined him (the husband) to look after his
family's interests and take care of them.
The Muslim woman should be wise in her dealings with her husband,
because man – usually – is pleased with kind words and appreciates
kind treatment. So if that comes from his life-partner, that will
have a greater effect. The wise woman must also keep away from all
kinds of behaviour that will offend her husband,and rid herself of
every kind of action that annoys him, and try not to control him. The
man has the role of qawwaam (protector and maintainer), and
theresponsibility is his. Making him feel that he is falling short in
certain situations may make himangry and not treat his wife well. One
of them said: "The best wife is the one who knows howto create harmony
in hermarriage and strikes a balance between obeying and respecting
her husband and expressing her own strong personality."
Your speaking to people on his behalf – because he does not speak your
people's language well –is permissible according to sharee'ah, but as
stated above, you have to be wise in doing this. When doing these
thingsyou should not make him feel that he is lacking or that he is
not important. Rather you should refer to him when speaking to the
people, and consult withhim, and do not make decisions in his
presencewithout asking his permission. You should do that in front of
the people to whom you arespeaking so that he will feel that he is
important.Try to make him feel thathe speaks his own language better
than you do, and that you complement one another; and you can help him
to learn your language, and he can help you to learn his language.
This is what we advise you to do, and this is what may reduce his
anger and stop him frombehaving in this manner.It seems that it is
only a matter of time, and you have to be careful in handling this
situation until he becomes more fluent in your language and is able to
do things himself, on his own.
Secondly:
In order to become a good wife, you have to learn what Allaah has
enjoined upon you, so that you can do it. You have to know how
righteous women behave, their attitude and the way they interact with
their husbands. You will need to strive hard until you get used to it,
but it is not impossible. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) said: "Knowledge comes by learning, and patience comes by
trying to be patient. Whoever seeks goodness will be given it, and
whoever fears evil will be protected from it." Narrated by
al-Daaraqutni in al-Afraad; this is a hasan hadeet, as was stated by
al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami', 2328.
Some of these characteristics and attitudes are those of which a wise
mother advised her daughter before marriage, which is comprehensive
advice.We ask Allaah to help you to achieve this. That mother said to
her daughter:
"O my daughter, you are leaving your house in which you grew up, and
going to live with a man whom you do not know,a companion whom you are
unfamiliar with. Be like a slave woman to him and he will be like a
slave to you. Remember ten characteristics whichwill be a stored
treasure for you:
The first and second are to be devoted to him and be content, listen
to him and obey.
The third and the fourth are to consider his nose and eyes; do not let
him see anything ugly of you, or let him smell anything but a good
fragrance.
The fifth and the sixth are consider the time of his sleeping and
eating, for hunger burns and disturbance of sleep causes anger.
The seventh and the eighth are to look after his wealth and to take
care of his family and hisdependents.
The ninth and the tenth are to look after his wealth and take care of
his dependents."
Thirdly:
The husband has to fear Allaah his Lord, and not transgress the rights
of his wife. He should give her her rights as Allaah has enjoined upon
him. He should realize that people vary, and that what he knows, many
people are ignorant of, and what he is ignorant of, many people know.
For him to have a wife who will translate for him and show him what
will benefit him and how things are done is better for him than having
someone with him whom he cannot trust. Knowledge can only be acquired
by learning, and the way tolearn is by striving and working hard.
Advise him to try to control himself at times of anger, and not to get
angry unless you have transgressed one of the sacred limits of Allaah.
This is the kind of anger that is regarded as praiseworthy.
And Allaah knows best.
Praised Manners - , Ruling on accepting an invitation, and the conditions for doing so .
Sometimes I am invited to a meal or to a party. What should I do if
thesegatherings are mostly filled with backbiting, slander, showing
off andcompeting in clothes, where they make fun of those who wear
simple clothes (like me)? There may also be gossip, and Ihave
housework to do (I don't want to bring a servant, but nearly everyone
who attends these parties has a servant so she has free time).
My husband and my house need me, and every moment I spend athome
matters in sha Allaah. This is my primary mission. I also want to
spend any extra time I have in reading Qur'aan or a useful book. I
don't want to attend worldly gatherings whose harm, as I see it,
outweighs thebenefits – if there are any benefits. Please advise me,
how should I deal with this? What suitable excuse can I give for not
attending, ifI have the right not to attend?
What should I do if the hostess of the party looks down on me and
enjoys seeing me in an embarrassing situation and talks about me? Do I
have to accept her invitation?
Praise be to Allaah.
It was narrated in Saheeh al-Bukhaari (1164) and Saheeh Muslim (4022)
that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "I heard the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say:
'The rights of a Muslim over his fellow Muslim are five: returning
greetings, visiting the sick, attending funerals, accepting
invitations, and saying Yarhamuk Allaah (may Allaah have mercy on you)
when he sneezes.'"
The scholars divided the invitations which the Muslim is commanded
toaccept into two categories:
1 – Invitation to a wedding party (waleemah). The majority of scholars
said that it is obligatory to accept such an invitation, unless there
isa legitimate shar'i excuse – some such excuses will be mentioned
below, in shaAllaah. The evidence (daleel) that it is obligatory to
accept these invitations is the hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari (4779)
and Muslim (2585) from Abu Hurayrah, that the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The worst kind of food is
thefood of a wedding feast that is withheld from those who would come
and to which people are invited who mayrefuse it. Whoever does not
accept the invitation hasdisobeyed Allaah and HisMessenger."
2 – Invitation to various kinds of gatherings other than
wedding-feasts. The majority of scholars say that accepting these
invitations is mustahabb,and no one differed from that apart from some
of the Shaafa'is and Zaahiris, who said it is obligatory. If we say
that it is strongly mustahabb that is close enough. And Allaah knows
best.
But the scholars have stipulated conditions foraccepting an
invitation; if these conditions are not met then it is not obligatory
or mustahabbto accept the invitation, rather it may be haraam to
attend. These conditions were summed up by Shaykh Muhammad ibn
'Uthaymeen, who said:
1- There should be nothing objectionable (munkar) in the place
where the party etc. is tobe held. If there is something
objectionableand it is possible to remove it, then it is obligatory to
attend for two reasons: to accept the invitation and to change the
objectionable thing. If it is not possible to removeit then it is
haraam to attend.
2- The person who invited him should not be someone whom it is
obligatory or Sunnah to forsake (such as one who openly commits
immoral actions or sin, where forsaking him may be of benefit in
bringing about his repentance).
3- The person who invited him should be a Muslim. If he is not,
then it is not obligatory to accept the invitation, because the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The rights
of a Muslim over his fellow Muslim are five…"
4- The food offered should be permissible for us to eat.
5- Accepting the invitation should not lead to ignoring a more
important duty; if that is the case then it is haraam to accept the
invitation.
6- It should not cause any trouble to the person who is invited.
For example, if he needs to travel or to leave his family who need him
there, and so on. (al-Qawl al-Mufeed, 3/111).
Some scholars added:
7- If the host issued a general invitation, saying that everyone
is welcome, then it is not obligatory to accept the invitation.
From the above it shouldbe clear to you that you do not have to accept
such invitations, rather itmay be haraam for you to do so, if you
cannot change the reprehensible things (munkar) or if your attending
the gatherings will affect your duties towards your husband and
children and prevent you from taking care of them as you are supposed
to do. Moreover you will not besafe from their evil and harm. This is
an excuse which frees you from having to accept invitation which you
areobliged to accept, let alone those which are not obligatory at all.
Women should also notethat they have to ask their husband's permission
to go out to parties etc. to which they are invited. You should advise
these sisters to try to make thebest use of their time and their
gatherings in ways that will benefit them either in religious or
worldly terms. For theMessenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) warned us of the consequences of attending
gatherings in which Allaah is not mentioned. He (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: "No people sit in a gatheringin which
they do not remember Allaah or sendblessings upon their Prophet, but
they will regret it, if He wills He will punish them and if He wills
He will forgive them." (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3302; he said, this
is a saheeh hasan hadeeth. It was also classed as saheeh byal-Albaani
in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 3/140)
In Sunan Abi Dawood (4214) and elsewhere it is narrated that Abu
Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "The Messenger of
Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: 'People who
get upfrom an assembly in which they did not remember Allaah will be
just as if they had got upfrom a donkey's carcass, and it will be a
cause of grief to them." (Classed as saheeh by al-Nawawi in Riyaadh
al-Saaliheen, 321, and by al-Albaani).
Convey this advice to them, either verbally or in writing. In
addition, you could invite them to your house and make the most of
this opportunity to hold a dhikr circle, in addition to doing some
permissible things that they will like. Perhaps Allaah will make you
the means of starting a goodtrend of benefiting fromsuch gatherings.
And Allaah is the Source of strength.
thesegatherings are mostly filled with backbiting, slander, showing
off andcompeting in clothes, where they make fun of those who wear
simple clothes (like me)? There may also be gossip, and Ihave
housework to do (I don't want to bring a servant, but nearly everyone
who attends these parties has a servant so she has free time).
My husband and my house need me, and every moment I spend athome
matters in sha Allaah. This is my primary mission. I also want to
spend any extra time I have in reading Qur'aan or a useful book. I
don't want to attend worldly gatherings whose harm, as I see it,
outweighs thebenefits – if there are any benefits. Please advise me,
how should I deal with this? What suitable excuse can I give for not
attending, ifI have the right not to attend?
What should I do if the hostess of the party looks down on me and
enjoys seeing me in an embarrassing situation and talks about me? Do I
have to accept her invitation?
Praise be to Allaah.
It was narrated in Saheeh al-Bukhaari (1164) and Saheeh Muslim (4022)
that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "I heard the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say:
'The rights of a Muslim over his fellow Muslim are five: returning
greetings, visiting the sick, attending funerals, accepting
invitations, and saying Yarhamuk Allaah (may Allaah have mercy on you)
when he sneezes.'"
The scholars divided the invitations which the Muslim is commanded
toaccept into two categories:
1 – Invitation to a wedding party (waleemah). The majority of scholars
said that it is obligatory to accept such an invitation, unless there
isa legitimate shar'i excuse – some such excuses will be mentioned
below, in shaAllaah. The evidence (daleel) that it is obligatory to
accept these invitations is the hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari (4779)
and Muslim (2585) from Abu Hurayrah, that the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The worst kind of food is
thefood of a wedding feast that is withheld from those who would come
and to which people are invited who mayrefuse it. Whoever does not
accept the invitation hasdisobeyed Allaah and HisMessenger."
2 – Invitation to various kinds of gatherings other than
wedding-feasts. The majority of scholars say that accepting these
invitations is mustahabb,and no one differed from that apart from some
of the Shaafa'is and Zaahiris, who said it is obligatory. If we say
that it is strongly mustahabb that is close enough. And Allaah knows
best.
But the scholars have stipulated conditions foraccepting an
invitation; if these conditions are not met then it is not obligatory
or mustahabbto accept the invitation, rather it may be haraam to
attend. These conditions were summed up by Shaykh Muhammad ibn
'Uthaymeen, who said:
1- There should be nothing objectionable (munkar) in the place
where the party etc. is tobe held. If there is something
objectionableand it is possible to remove it, then it is obligatory to
attend for two reasons: to accept the invitation and to change the
objectionable thing. If it is not possible to removeit then it is
haraam to attend.
2- The person who invited him should not be someone whom it is
obligatory or Sunnah to forsake (such as one who openly commits
immoral actions or sin, where forsaking him may be of benefit in
bringing about his repentance).
3- The person who invited him should be a Muslim. If he is not,
then it is not obligatory to accept the invitation, because the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The rights
of a Muslim over his fellow Muslim are five…"
4- The food offered should be permissible for us to eat.
5- Accepting the invitation should not lead to ignoring a more
important duty; if that is the case then it is haraam to accept the
invitation.
6- It should not cause any trouble to the person who is invited.
For example, if he needs to travel or to leave his family who need him
there, and so on. (al-Qawl al-Mufeed, 3/111).
Some scholars added:
7- If the host issued a general invitation, saying that everyone
is welcome, then it is not obligatory to accept the invitation.
From the above it shouldbe clear to you that you do not have to accept
such invitations, rather itmay be haraam for you to do so, if you
cannot change the reprehensible things (munkar) or if your attending
the gatherings will affect your duties towards your husband and
children and prevent you from taking care of them as you are supposed
to do. Moreover you will not besafe from their evil and harm. This is
an excuse which frees you from having to accept invitation which you
areobliged to accept, let alone those which are not obligatory at all.
Women should also notethat they have to ask their husband's permission
to go out to parties etc. to which they are invited. You should advise
these sisters to try to make thebest use of their time and their
gatherings in ways that will benefit them either in religious or
worldly terms. For theMessenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) warned us of the consequences of attending
gatherings in which Allaah is not mentioned. He (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: "No people sit in a gatheringin which
they do not remember Allaah or sendblessings upon their Prophet, but
they will regret it, if He wills He will punish them and if He wills
He will forgive them." (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3302; he said, this
is a saheeh hasan hadeeth. It was also classed as saheeh byal-Albaani
in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 3/140)
In Sunan Abi Dawood (4214) and elsewhere it is narrated that Abu
Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "The Messenger of
Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: 'People who
get upfrom an assembly in which they did not remember Allaah will be
just as if they had got upfrom a donkey's carcass, and it will be a
cause of grief to them." (Classed as saheeh by al-Nawawi in Riyaadh
al-Saaliheen, 321, and by al-Albaani).
Convey this advice to them, either verbally or in writing. In
addition, you could invite them to your house and make the most of
this opportunity to hold a dhikr circle, in addition to doing some
permissible things that they will like. Perhaps Allaah will make you
the means of starting a goodtrend of benefiting fromsuch gatherings.
And Allaah is the Source of strength.
Praised Manners - , The meaning of being sincere towards Allah and how the Muslim can achieve that.
Worship has three pillars, one of which is being sincere towards
Allah. How can we be sincere towards Allah? I am very ambitious, and
Iwant to acquire the greatest amount of shar'i knowledge, and I want
to be a daa'iyah. Allah has blessed me with many talents whichare
needed for da'wah and spreading knowledge, and I want to be strong
enough to pray qiyaam and fast. I have memorised the Book of Allah in
full and now I am in the process of reinforcing my memorisation and
learning how to recite it properly. I am learning shar'i knowledge and
I have a number of projects and ideas for serving the Book of Allahand
supporting the Deen, but my progress is slow for a number of reasons
and because of many obstacles, especially from my family and the
society around me -- how much I am suffering from them! Because of
physical weakness and health problems, I am not able to expend a great
deal of effort, and if I do, I will spend several days unable to move.
I always write out schedules for all these tasks and I try to follow
them, but I cannot do that because of changing circumstances. I live
on my own and I cannot find a sister to share my goals or a leader to
help me and follow up with me so that I can fulfil my ambitions. I
have lookeda great deal but I cannotfind anyone and I do notknow the
reason why I am so slow; is it because sincerity towards Allah
issomething that I have not achieved yet or what? This makes me very
sad and pains me a great deal, and holds meback from reaching my
goals. If there is any advice, then do not withhold it from me,
because I am in the greatest need.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Sincerity towards Allah isthe best type of sincerity. The Muslim is
being sincere towards his Lord if he achieves sincerity in three
aspects: faith and properbelief, acts of obedience,and morals and
manners. Faith does not mean mere wishful thinking. The one who
issincere in his faith is the one who attains faith in the way his
Lord wants from him, which includes sincerity in faith, sincerity in
intention, and sincerity in fear of Allah, may He be exalted. Not
every actof obedience is sincere unless it is done, both outwardly and
inwardly,in a manner which Allah likes.
Allah has described the sincere in one verse, in which He says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"It is not Al-Birr (piety, righteousness, and each and every act of
obedience to Allaah) that you turn your faces towards east and (or)
west (in prayers); but Al-Birr is (the quality of) the one who
believes in Allaah, the Last Day, the Angels, the Book, the Prophets
and gives his wealth, in spite of love for it, to the kinsfolk, to the
orphans, and to Al-Masaakeen (the poor),and to the wayfarer, andto
those who ask, and toset slaves free, performs As-Salaah
(Iqaamat-as-Salaah), and gives theZakât, and who fulfil their covenant
when they make it, and who are patient in extreme poverty and ailment
(disease) and at the timeof fighting (during the battles)." Then Allah
says,after listing all these attributes: "Such are the people of the
truth and they are Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)"
[al-Baqarah 2:177].
Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
This verse includes a number of great meanings, important principles
and sound beliefs.
Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 1/485.
Shaykh 'Abd al-Rahmaanal-Sa'di (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
"Such" means those whohave the characteristics mentioned, such as
goodbeliefs and actions which are the effect, evidence and light of
faith; the morals and manners which lend dignity to man and are the
essence of humanity.These are the ones who are "the people of the
truth", whose faith is sincere, because their actions confirm their
faith. "And they are Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)", because they refrained
from what is forbidden and did what is enjoined, because these things
include all good attributes by implication, and becausefulfilling
one's covenant is the essence of the entire religion, and because the
acts of worship mentioned in this verse are the greatest acts of
worship and the one who does them will undoubtedly do other acts of
worship.They are the righteous, the sincere people of truth, the
pious.
Tafseer al-Sa'di, p. 83
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Among the things we learn from this verse is that what is mentioned is
true sincerity towards Allah and towards His creation, because Allah
says: "Such are the people of the truth"; they are sincere
towardsAllah, as on the basis of these good beliefs they establish
faith and beliefin Allah, the Last Day, theAngels, the Book and
theProphets, and they establish prayer, pay zakaah, and give what
isdear to them to the charitable causes mentioned. As for their
sincerity towards Allah's creation, that is includedin the words of
Allah: "who fulfil their covenant when they make it", which is one
ofthe signs of sincerity. Hence Allah says: "Such are the people of
the truth", as they are sincere in their beliefs, in their
interactions withAllah and with other people.
Tafseer Soorat al-Baqarah, 2/293, 294
Secondly:
You should note that sincerity with Allah is notsomething that we can
make a show of and convince ourselves of whilst abandoning righteous
deeds. Rather sincerity towards Allah isin the intention and in the
action when we do it and when the means of doing it become available.
The one who is sincere towards his Lord will, by means of the
sincerity of his intention, attain that (reward) which the one who
does the action attains, if something keeps him from doing the action.
It was narrated from Sahl ibn Hunayf (may Allah be pleased with him)
that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
"Whoever sincerely asks Allaah for martyrdom, Allaah will cause him to
attain the status of the martyrs, even if he dies in his bed."
Narrated by Muslim, 1909.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
A person can have nothing more beneficial than sincerity towards his
Lord in all his affairs, along with sincerity of resolve, so he should
be sincere towards Him in his resolve and in his actions. Allah says
(interpretation of the meaning): "And when the matter (preparation for
Jihaad) is resolved on, then if they had been true to Allaah, it would
have been better for them" [Muhammad 47:21]. So his happiness lies in
sincerity of resolve and sincerity of action. Sincerity of resolve
means certain desire to do an action and not hesitating to do it. If
his resolve is sincere, all that is left is sincerity of action, which
is doing one's best and striving one's utmost when doing it , and not
letting anything,outward or inward, holdhim back from it. Resolveof
purpose prevents him from becoming weak-willed and sincerity of action
prevents him from becoming lazy or lethargic. If a person is sincere
towards Allah in all his affairs, Allah will give him more than He
gives to others, and this sincerity results from true love of Allah
and true trust in Him. So the most sincere of people isthe one who is
loves Allah most and puts mosttrust in Him.
Al-Fawaa'id, p. 186, 187
Thirdly:
A Muslim may be confused as where to begin, and how he should order
his affairs by night and day. But this should not form an obstacle for
the one whoseeks to do good or seekknowledge or call people to Allah.
The Muslim may rid himself of this confusion by organising his time.
He can allocate the first partof his day for memorizing Qur'aan, and
he can organise the rest of his days for seeking knowledge by means of
tapes, reading books, and attending classes and study circles, and
fulfilling whatever duties he or she may have as a husband or wife,
whether he or she is working or not.
What we advise our sister to do is to start and not delay, and to be
sincere in your intentionso that Allah will make your affairs easy for
you.
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Allah. How can we be sincere towards Allah? I am very ambitious, and
Iwant to acquire the greatest amount of shar'i knowledge, and I want
to be a daa'iyah. Allah has blessed me with many talents whichare
needed for da'wah and spreading knowledge, and I want to be strong
enough to pray qiyaam and fast. I have memorised the Book of Allah in
full and now I am in the process of reinforcing my memorisation and
learning how to recite it properly. I am learning shar'i knowledge and
I have a number of projects and ideas for serving the Book of Allahand
supporting the Deen, but my progress is slow for a number of reasons
and because of many obstacles, especially from my family and the
society around me -- how much I am suffering from them! Because of
physical weakness and health problems, I am not able to expend a great
deal of effort, and if I do, I will spend several days unable to move.
I always write out schedules for all these tasks and I try to follow
them, but I cannot do that because of changing circumstances. I live
on my own and I cannot find a sister to share my goals or a leader to
help me and follow up with me so that I can fulfil my ambitions. I
have lookeda great deal but I cannotfind anyone and I do notknow the
reason why I am so slow; is it because sincerity towards Allah
issomething that I have not achieved yet or what? This makes me very
sad and pains me a great deal, and holds meback from reaching my
goals. If there is any advice, then do not withhold it from me,
because I am in the greatest need.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Sincerity towards Allah isthe best type of sincerity. The Muslim is
being sincere towards his Lord if he achieves sincerity in three
aspects: faith and properbelief, acts of obedience,and morals and
manners. Faith does not mean mere wishful thinking. The one who
issincere in his faith is the one who attains faith in the way his
Lord wants from him, which includes sincerity in faith, sincerity in
intention, and sincerity in fear of Allah, may He be exalted. Not
every actof obedience is sincere unless it is done, both outwardly and
inwardly,in a manner which Allah likes.
Allah has described the sincere in one verse, in which He says
(interpretation of the meaning):
"It is not Al-Birr (piety, righteousness, and each and every act of
obedience to Allaah) that you turn your faces towards east and (or)
west (in prayers); but Al-Birr is (the quality of) the one who
believes in Allaah, the Last Day, the Angels, the Book, the Prophets
and gives his wealth, in spite of love for it, to the kinsfolk, to the
orphans, and to Al-Masaakeen (the poor),and to the wayfarer, andto
those who ask, and toset slaves free, performs As-Salaah
(Iqaamat-as-Salaah), and gives theZakât, and who fulfil their covenant
when they make it, and who are patient in extreme poverty and ailment
(disease) and at the timeof fighting (during the battles)." Then Allah
says,after listing all these attributes: "Such are the people of the
truth and they are Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)"
[al-Baqarah 2:177].
Ibn Katheer (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
This verse includes a number of great meanings, important principles
and sound beliefs.
Tafseer Ibn Katheer, 1/485.
Shaykh 'Abd al-Rahmaanal-Sa'di (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
"Such" means those whohave the characteristics mentioned, such as
goodbeliefs and actions which are the effect, evidence and light of
faith; the morals and manners which lend dignity to man and are the
essence of humanity.These are the ones who are "the people of the
truth", whose faith is sincere, because their actions confirm their
faith. "And they are Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)", because they refrained
from what is forbidden and did what is enjoined, because these things
include all good attributes by implication, and becausefulfilling
one's covenant is the essence of the entire religion, and because the
acts of worship mentioned in this verse are the greatest acts of
worship and the one who does them will undoubtedly do other acts of
worship.They are the righteous, the sincere people of truth, the
pious.
Tafseer al-Sa'di, p. 83
Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Among the things we learn from this verse is that what is mentioned is
true sincerity towards Allah and towards His creation, because Allah
says: "Such are the people of the truth"; they are sincere
towardsAllah, as on the basis of these good beliefs they establish
faith and beliefin Allah, the Last Day, theAngels, the Book and
theProphets, and they establish prayer, pay zakaah, and give what
isdear to them to the charitable causes mentioned. As for their
sincerity towards Allah's creation, that is includedin the words of
Allah: "who fulfil their covenant when they make it", which is one
ofthe signs of sincerity. Hence Allah says: "Such are the people of
the truth", as they are sincere in their beliefs, in their
interactions withAllah and with other people.
Tafseer Soorat al-Baqarah, 2/293, 294
Secondly:
You should note that sincerity with Allah is notsomething that we can
make a show of and convince ourselves of whilst abandoning righteous
deeds. Rather sincerity towards Allah isin the intention and in the
action when we do it and when the means of doing it become available.
The one who is sincere towards his Lord will, by means of the
sincerity of his intention, attain that (reward) which the one who
does the action attains, if something keeps him from doing the action.
It was narrated from Sahl ibn Hunayf (may Allah be pleased with him)
that the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
"Whoever sincerely asks Allaah for martyrdom, Allaah will cause him to
attain the status of the martyrs, even if he dies in his bed."
Narrated by Muslim, 1909.
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
A person can have nothing more beneficial than sincerity towards his
Lord in all his affairs, along with sincerity of resolve, so he should
be sincere towards Him in his resolve and in his actions. Allah says
(interpretation of the meaning): "And when the matter (preparation for
Jihaad) is resolved on, then if they had been true to Allaah, it would
have been better for them" [Muhammad 47:21]. So his happiness lies in
sincerity of resolve and sincerity of action. Sincerity of resolve
means certain desire to do an action and not hesitating to do it. If
his resolve is sincere, all that is left is sincerity of action, which
is doing one's best and striving one's utmost when doing it , and not
letting anything,outward or inward, holdhim back from it. Resolveof
purpose prevents him from becoming weak-willed and sincerity of action
prevents him from becoming lazy or lethargic. If a person is sincere
towards Allah in all his affairs, Allah will give him more than He
gives to others, and this sincerity results from true love of Allah
and true trust in Him. So the most sincere of people isthe one who is
loves Allah most and puts mosttrust in Him.
Al-Fawaa'id, p. 186, 187
Thirdly:
A Muslim may be confused as where to begin, and how he should order
his affairs by night and day. But this should not form an obstacle for
the one whoseeks to do good or seekknowledge or call people to Allah.
The Muslim may rid himself of this confusion by organising his time.
He can allocate the first partof his day for memorizing Qur'aan, and
he can organise the rest of his days for seeking knowledge by means of
tapes, reading books, and attending classes and study circles, and
fulfilling whatever duties he or she may have as a husband or wife,
whether he or she is working or not.
What we advise our sister to do is to start and not delay, and to be
sincere in your intentionso that Allah will make your affairs easy for
you.
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Children and Good Behavior
What is good behavior?
Is it to help one's mother at home?
Is it not to raise one's voice when speaking with her?
Is it to help one's father with his work?
Is it to be quiet and not disturb others?
Is it to do homework on time?
Is it one or all of these things?
The situation differs fromone home to another andfrom one family to another.
Therefore, dear people who are responsible for the children's
upbringing, dealing withchildren's bad behavior isthe most difficult
task related to upbringing. This is because each of ushas a strong
legacy of feelings towards this issue. With such diversity of feelings
and views towards the bad behavior of our children, we can answer this
question: Why don't our children learn good behavior?
The following are the main reasons enumerated by specialists as being
behind the children's inability to learn good behavior. They emanate
from the diversity of feelings towards the behavior that we are about
to change:
1. Rejecting the way we were raised:
You may harbor some unpleasant memories of the way you were
raised;(for example, you might have been slapped, locked up in your
room, punished with your siblings for an offense committed by one of
you,following the principle ofgeneralized punishment).
As such, you are resolved to avoid all of such methods, whether right
or wrong. Consequently, you bring up your children in a different way,
because you think that your parents followed a mistaken approach with
you.
This way of thinking is sound if you want to avoid the mistakes that
your parents made towards you and, therefore, do not want torepeat the
same mistakesin dealing with your ownchildren. However, it is wrong
when a child misbehaves and his parents do not react, because they
used to reject their parents' reaction to their misconduct. With this,
the child does not learn good behavior but instead, maintains the bad
one.
2. Raising children following the approach of one's parents:
On the contrary, some may boast about their parents and of how they
brought up the preceding generation. Hence, they wish to emulate their
method while considering other methods as quite mistaken, because they
believe that their parentswere more experienced, older and had a
deeper understanding. Thus, fathers imitate their fathers and mothers
copytheir mothers in bringingup their children, while maintaining all
the pros and cons.
This approach might be good if those responsiblefor the children's
upbringing want to benefit from the experience of their parents in
bringing up their children and adopting the relevant points of
distinction in this regard. The terrible mistake, however, is to make
only our parents the standard of correctness, for they are fallible
humans and it would not be wise to copy their mistakes.
3. Differences in methodsof upbringing and parents' beliefs:
Behavior that is bad in the eyes of the father may not be the same to
the mother, and vice versa, due to differences in beliefs and methods
whereby the father and mother have been brought up. This creates a
great deal of discord between the spouses who turn to dispute in front
of the children. The children would probably think that they are the
cause behind the problems taking place between their parents.
4. Reactions of grown-ups to us when we want to deal with children's misconduct:
Whether they are grandfathers, grandmothers, uncles or aunts, many
people cannot help making comments and expressing their opinionson
what they think is correct. Moved by good intentions, these people who
might be relatives ofthe child, or friends of the parents, or even
strangers, certainly have a great effect on parents and their children
when they interfere.
5. Parents' lack of focus on the child's individual needs and character:
Many parents follow the principle of generalization in dealingwhen
they change children's misbehavior. They do not differentiate between
those who make a mistake for the first time and those who regularly
make mistakes. Moreover, they do not distinguish between those who
misbehave intentionally and those who do so unintentionally; the old
and the young, males and females, and the obstinate and the compliant.
Thus, for many parents, it does notmake a difference to change the
children's misconduct in all these cases. They apply the principle of
generalization, which in reality incorporates grossinjustice and
affects the child's responsiveness to changing their bad behavior.
6. Not overlooking some matters:
A ten-month-old child enjoys throwing things off the chair, yet he
quickly grows up and, after eighteen months, he becomes adequately
capable of recognizing wrong behavior. Therefore, the challenge faced
by the family is to determine the suitable time to encourage the
children to apply the ideal behavior. A further challenge is to
cleverly disregard the children's behavior in the formativeyears;
because they do not realize the reality of their
behavior.Therefore,parents should have infinite patience with children
in this stage of life. They should maintain their safety, without
repressing their freedom.
7. Keeping in mind the norms of society:
Each society is dominatedby certain habits and traditions. Some of
these conform to Sharee'ah (Islamic legislation) and, therefore, it is
permissible to apply them.Allaah The AlmightySays (what means): }
Takewhat is given freely, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the
ignorant. { [Quran 20:199]However, certain well-established traditions
are often counter to Sharee'ah and,therefore, should be dismissed and
replaced with that which complieswith Sharee'ah . When parents try to
rectify the conduct of their children,they often experience an
opposition from society, because the adaptation might be opposite to
some social traditions. For example, when parents teach their child to
seek permission before they enter upon others, some people may say,
"Do not make things difficult for the child. Take it easy. The child
is still young." The proper attitude to be taken by parents is to
stand in the face of the bad habit thathas been established in
society, and teach their children the right conduct, and not be
affected by what others say.
8. Changing bad behaviorwith anger:
Many parents mistakenly teach their children goodconduct in a moment
of fury. They associate their instruction with shouting, a loud voice,
frowning and sometimes insulting and beating. This gives the children
anawful impression about good conduct and makes it unpalatable. This
is because in their subconscious mind, they associate good conduct
with beating, shouting and punishment. Consequently, teaching good
conduct should be separated from punishment. Rather, punishment may be
used after teaching, so as to comply with justice.Children can be
punished when they know what is right and do not adhere to it.
However, it would be unfair to punish them forsomething which they
donot know is wrong.
Before we conclude, we should provide those who are raising children
with a definition to identify good behavior:
Good behavior is what is commanded by Allaah The Almighty in the Quran
and taught by the Prophet, , and dictatedby the sound natural
disposition, conventions and traditions.
Good behavior should not be formulated from people's opinions or the
actions and traditions of relatives if they do not comply with the
Sharee'ah of Allaah The Almighty and the Sunnah (tradition) of the
Prophet, .
This is the good behaviorthat we want our children to uphold.
Is it to help one's mother at home?
Is it not to raise one's voice when speaking with her?
Is it to help one's father with his work?
Is it to be quiet and not disturb others?
Is it to do homework on time?
Is it one or all of these things?
The situation differs fromone home to another andfrom one family to another.
Therefore, dear people who are responsible for the children's
upbringing, dealing withchildren's bad behavior isthe most difficult
task related to upbringing. This is because each of ushas a strong
legacy of feelings towards this issue. With such diversity of feelings
and views towards the bad behavior of our children, we can answer this
question: Why don't our children learn good behavior?
The following are the main reasons enumerated by specialists as being
behind the children's inability to learn good behavior. They emanate
from the diversity of feelings towards the behavior that we are about
to change:
1. Rejecting the way we were raised:
You may harbor some unpleasant memories of the way you were
raised;(for example, you might have been slapped, locked up in your
room, punished with your siblings for an offense committed by one of
you,following the principle ofgeneralized punishment).
As such, you are resolved to avoid all of such methods, whether right
or wrong. Consequently, you bring up your children in a different way,
because you think that your parents followed a mistaken approach with
you.
This way of thinking is sound if you want to avoid the mistakes that
your parents made towards you and, therefore, do not want torepeat the
same mistakesin dealing with your ownchildren. However, it is wrong
when a child misbehaves and his parents do not react, because they
used to reject their parents' reaction to their misconduct. With this,
the child does not learn good behavior but instead, maintains the bad
one.
2. Raising children following the approach of one's parents:
On the contrary, some may boast about their parents and of how they
brought up the preceding generation. Hence, they wish to emulate their
method while considering other methods as quite mistaken, because they
believe that their parentswere more experienced, older and had a
deeper understanding. Thus, fathers imitate their fathers and mothers
copytheir mothers in bringingup their children, while maintaining all
the pros and cons.
This approach might be good if those responsiblefor the children's
upbringing want to benefit from the experience of their parents in
bringing up their children and adopting the relevant points of
distinction in this regard. The terrible mistake, however, is to make
only our parents the standard of correctness, for they are fallible
humans and it would not be wise to copy their mistakes.
3. Differences in methodsof upbringing and parents' beliefs:
Behavior that is bad in the eyes of the father may not be the same to
the mother, and vice versa, due to differences in beliefs and methods
whereby the father and mother have been brought up. This creates a
great deal of discord between the spouses who turn to dispute in front
of the children. The children would probably think that they are the
cause behind the problems taking place between their parents.
4. Reactions of grown-ups to us when we want to deal with children's misconduct:
Whether they are grandfathers, grandmothers, uncles or aunts, many
people cannot help making comments and expressing their opinionson
what they think is correct. Moved by good intentions, these people who
might be relatives ofthe child, or friends of the parents, or even
strangers, certainly have a great effect on parents and their children
when they interfere.
5. Parents' lack of focus on the child's individual needs and character:
Many parents follow the principle of generalization in dealingwhen
they change children's misbehavior. They do not differentiate between
those who make a mistake for the first time and those who regularly
make mistakes. Moreover, they do not distinguish between those who
misbehave intentionally and those who do so unintentionally; the old
and the young, males and females, and the obstinate and the compliant.
Thus, for many parents, it does notmake a difference to change the
children's misconduct in all these cases. They apply the principle of
generalization, which in reality incorporates grossinjustice and
affects the child's responsiveness to changing their bad behavior.
6. Not overlooking some matters:
A ten-month-old child enjoys throwing things off the chair, yet he
quickly grows up and, after eighteen months, he becomes adequately
capable of recognizing wrong behavior. Therefore, the challenge faced
by the family is to determine the suitable time to encourage the
children to apply the ideal behavior. A further challenge is to
cleverly disregard the children's behavior in the formativeyears;
because they do not realize the reality of their
behavior.Therefore,parents should have infinite patience with children
in this stage of life. They should maintain their safety, without
repressing their freedom.
7. Keeping in mind the norms of society:
Each society is dominatedby certain habits and traditions. Some of
these conform to Sharee'ah (Islamic legislation) and, therefore, it is
permissible to apply them.Allaah The AlmightySays (what means): }
Takewhat is given freely, enjoin what is good, and turn away from the
ignorant. { [Quran 20:199]However, certain well-established traditions
are often counter to Sharee'ah and,therefore, should be dismissed and
replaced with that which complieswith Sharee'ah . When parents try to
rectify the conduct of their children,they often experience an
opposition from society, because the adaptation might be opposite to
some social traditions. For example, when parents teach their child to
seek permission before they enter upon others, some people may say,
"Do not make things difficult for the child. Take it easy. The child
is still young." The proper attitude to be taken by parents is to
stand in the face of the bad habit thathas been established in
society, and teach their children the right conduct, and not be
affected by what others say.
8. Changing bad behaviorwith anger:
Many parents mistakenly teach their children goodconduct in a moment
of fury. They associate their instruction with shouting, a loud voice,
frowning and sometimes insulting and beating. This gives the children
anawful impression about good conduct and makes it unpalatable. This
is because in their subconscious mind, they associate good conduct
with beating, shouting and punishment. Consequently, teaching good
conduct should be separated from punishment. Rather, punishment may be
used after teaching, so as to comply with justice.Children can be
punished when they know what is right and do not adhere to it.
However, it would be unfair to punish them forsomething which they
donot know is wrong.
Before we conclude, we should provide those who are raising children
with a definition to identify good behavior:
Good behavior is what is commanded by Allaah The Almighty in the Quran
and taught by the Prophet, , and dictatedby the sound natural
disposition, conventions and traditions.
Good behavior should not be formulated from people's opinions or the
actions and traditions of relatives if they do not comply with the
Sharee'ah of Allaah The Almighty and the Sunnah (tradition) of the
Prophet, .
This is the good behaviorthat we want our children to uphold.
•●•► •►Signs of Heart Disease
There are numerous signs of a sickness of the heart. The first of
them, isfinding it difficult to live by the purpose of our creation,
which is to know Allaah The Almighty, love Him, yearnto meet Him, turn
to Him in repentance and to prefer doing all this to any other desire.
Indeed, whoever gives precedence to his or her whims, over the love
of, and obedience to, his or her Lord, then his or her heart is
certainly diseased.
Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): {Have you seen the one who
takes as god his own desire? Then would you be responsible for him?}
[Quran 25: 43]. Some of the righteous predecessors said that this
verse refers to the person who is led by his or her base wants and
whims; hence, he or she lives like an animal, with no knowledge or
worship of Allaah The Almighty, in violation of His orders and
prohibitions. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): {but those who
disbelieve enjoy themselves and eat as grazing livestock eat, andthe
Fire will be a residence for them.} [Quran 47:12]
Let us not forget that as we sow, so shall we reap.Therefore, if a
person notonly does not live life according to what pleases Allaah The
Almighty, but instead actively pursues a lifestyle of disobedience to
Him through His very blessings, he or she will neither find comfort
nor be relieved of pain, after death, in the Hereafter. Allaah The
Almighty, Says (what means): {He will gulp it but will hardly [beable
to] swallow it. And death will come to him from everywhere, but he is
not to die. And before him is a massive punishment.} [Quran 14:17]
Another sign of a diseased heart is that a person is not disturbed by
insubordination to Allaah The Almighty. A poet spoke of how a dead
person does not feel the pain of any wound; using that analogy,
conversely, a sound heart feels great pain when a sin is committed,
and, so, is quick to repent to Allaah The Almighty, as He Says (what
means):
· {Indeed, those who fear Allaah - when an impulse touches them from
Satan,they remember [Him] andat once they have insight.} [Quran 7:201]
· {And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves
[by transgression], remember Allaah and seek forgiveness for theirsins
- and who can forgive sins except Allaah? - and [who] do not persist
in what they have done while they know.} [Quran 3:135]
The meaning of "remember [Allaah] " in both verses, refers to the act
of bearing in mind Hismagnificence, His threats and His punishments,
andso, they seek His forgiveness. On the other hand, the one who has a
diseased heart will keep on committing sin upon sin.
In another place in the Quran, Allaah The Almighty Says (what means):
{No! Rather, the stain has covered their hearts of that which they
were earning.} Commenting on this verse, Al-Hasan said that this means
committing one sin after the other, to the extent that the heart
becomes blind. In contrast, a person with a sound heart will follow an
evil deed with a good one and make sure to repent after a wrongdoing.
A diseased heart, moreover, manifests itself when a person doesnot
feel any pain of being unaware of the truth, whereas, someone with an
upright mind could not tolerate that when coming across any confusing
matters, or having false beliefs. Verily, ignorance is a serious
calamity that pains anyone with a sound heart.
Some scholars would say: "Allaah was never disobeyed with anything
worse than ignorance." Also, Imaam Sahl was asked: "O father of
Muhammad! What is worse than ignorance?" He replied: "To be oblivious
of one's obliviousness." Indeed, such a state entirely hinders the
path to knowledge, for a person is unaware of his or her need for it.
It was once said that ignorance before one's death is death itself;
the bodies ofthe ignorant are like graves for the soul and they will
have no resurrection until the Dayof Resurrection.
Another sign of having a diseased heart is deviating from what is
useful to what is harmful.Many people, for instance, refrain from
listening to the Quran, about which Allaah The Almighty Said (what
means): {And We Send down of the Quran that which is healing and mercy
for the believers, but it does not increase the wrongdoers except in
loss.} [Quran 17:82]. Instead, they listen to songs that instill
hypocrisy, and perhaps disbelief, in their hearts and stir their base
desires. Such people sin, by preferring what Allaahand His Prophet, ,
hate. And that, in itself, is a consequence of having a diseased heart
and onlyincreases it in sickness.
On the other hand, the more the heart is sound, the more it loves what
Allaah The Almighty and His Messenger, , do, as He Says (what means):
{but Allaah Has endeared to you the faith and Has Made it pleasing in
your hearts and Has Made hateful to you disbelief, defiance and
disobedience. Those are the [rightly] guided.} [Quran 49:7] The
Prophet, , said: "He would taste the sweetness of faith, who is
content with Allaah as [his] Lord, with Islam as [his] religion
andwith Muhammad as [his] Prophet." [Muslim] He, , also said: "No
manfrom among you will have [perfect] faith, until he loves me more
than his own self, children, family and all mankind." [Al-Bukhaari and
Muslim]
The last symptom of an illheart is that a person settles in this
worldly life,satisfied with it and is at peace in it, feeling no sense
of alienation, such that he or she no longer looks forward to the
Hereafter or works for it. Conversely, when a heart becomes sound, it
yearns for the Hereafter, to the extent that it perceives the sickness
of others, while they do not see its soundness. The state of a person
with such a heart,in life, bears the spirit of the Hadeeth in which
theProphet, , said: "Be in this life as if you were a stranger or a
traveler." [Al-Bukhaari]
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them, isfinding it difficult to live by the purpose of our creation,
which is to know Allaah The Almighty, love Him, yearnto meet Him, turn
to Him in repentance and to prefer doing all this to any other desire.
Indeed, whoever gives precedence to his or her whims, over the love
of, and obedience to, his or her Lord, then his or her heart is
certainly diseased.
Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): {Have you seen the one who
takes as god his own desire? Then would you be responsible for him?}
[Quran 25: 43]. Some of the righteous predecessors said that this
verse refers to the person who is led by his or her base wants and
whims; hence, he or she lives like an animal, with no knowledge or
worship of Allaah The Almighty, in violation of His orders and
prohibitions. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): {but those who
disbelieve enjoy themselves and eat as grazing livestock eat, andthe
Fire will be a residence for them.} [Quran 47:12]
Let us not forget that as we sow, so shall we reap.Therefore, if a
person notonly does not live life according to what pleases Allaah The
Almighty, but instead actively pursues a lifestyle of disobedience to
Him through His very blessings, he or she will neither find comfort
nor be relieved of pain, after death, in the Hereafter. Allaah The
Almighty, Says (what means): {He will gulp it but will hardly [beable
to] swallow it. And death will come to him from everywhere, but he is
not to die. And before him is a massive punishment.} [Quran 14:17]
Another sign of a diseased heart is that a person is not disturbed by
insubordination to Allaah The Almighty. A poet spoke of how a dead
person does not feel the pain of any wound; using that analogy,
conversely, a sound heart feels great pain when a sin is committed,
and, so, is quick to repent to Allaah The Almighty, as He Says (what
means):
· {Indeed, those who fear Allaah - when an impulse touches them from
Satan,they remember [Him] andat once they have insight.} [Quran 7:201]
· {And those who, when they commit an immorality or wrong themselves
[by transgression], remember Allaah and seek forgiveness for theirsins
- and who can forgive sins except Allaah? - and [who] do not persist
in what they have done while they know.} [Quran 3:135]
The meaning of "remember [Allaah] " in both verses, refers to the act
of bearing in mind Hismagnificence, His threats and His punishments,
andso, they seek His forgiveness. On the other hand, the one who has a
diseased heart will keep on committing sin upon sin.
In another place in the Quran, Allaah The Almighty Says (what means):
{No! Rather, the stain has covered their hearts of that which they
were earning.} Commenting on this verse, Al-Hasan said that this means
committing one sin after the other, to the extent that the heart
becomes blind. In contrast, a person with a sound heart will follow an
evil deed with a good one and make sure to repent after a wrongdoing.
A diseased heart, moreover, manifests itself when a person doesnot
feel any pain of being unaware of the truth, whereas, someone with an
upright mind could not tolerate that when coming across any confusing
matters, or having false beliefs. Verily, ignorance is a serious
calamity that pains anyone with a sound heart.
Some scholars would say: "Allaah was never disobeyed with anything
worse than ignorance." Also, Imaam Sahl was asked: "O father of
Muhammad! What is worse than ignorance?" He replied: "To be oblivious
of one's obliviousness." Indeed, such a state entirely hinders the
path to knowledge, for a person is unaware of his or her need for it.
It was once said that ignorance before one's death is death itself;
the bodies ofthe ignorant are like graves for the soul and they will
have no resurrection until the Dayof Resurrection.
Another sign of having a diseased heart is deviating from what is
useful to what is harmful.Many people, for instance, refrain from
listening to the Quran, about which Allaah The Almighty Said (what
means): {And We Send down of the Quran that which is healing and mercy
for the believers, but it does not increase the wrongdoers except in
loss.} [Quran 17:82]. Instead, they listen to songs that instill
hypocrisy, and perhaps disbelief, in their hearts and stir their base
desires. Such people sin, by preferring what Allaahand His Prophet, ,
hate. And that, in itself, is a consequence of having a diseased heart
and onlyincreases it in sickness.
On the other hand, the more the heart is sound, the more it loves what
Allaah The Almighty and His Messenger, , do, as He Says (what means):
{but Allaah Has endeared to you the faith and Has Made it pleasing in
your hearts and Has Made hateful to you disbelief, defiance and
disobedience. Those are the [rightly] guided.} [Quran 49:7] The
Prophet, , said: "He would taste the sweetness of faith, who is
content with Allaah as [his] Lord, with Islam as [his] religion
andwith Muhammad as [his] Prophet." [Muslim] He, , also said: "No
manfrom among you will have [perfect] faith, until he loves me more
than his own self, children, family and all mankind." [Al-Bukhaari and
Muslim]
The last symptom of an illheart is that a person settles in this
worldly life,satisfied with it and is at peace in it, feeling no sense
of alienation, such that he or she no longer looks forward to the
Hereafter or works for it. Conversely, when a heart becomes sound, it
yearns for the Hereafter, to the extent that it perceives the sickness
of others, while they do not see its soundness. The state of a person
with such a heart,in life, bears the spirit of the Hadeeth in which
theProphet, , said: "Be in this life as if you were a stranger or a
traveler." [Al-Bukhaari]
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What is the janaabah that makes ghusl obligatory?.Dought clear - ,
There are two things that may happen during intercourse or foreplay
between a man and his wife, which is where thewoman may reach climax
but not emit anything, or she may reach it and emit something. But I
have read something that saysthat if the woman sees discharge then she
has to do ghusl, but in fact there are two types of discharge – one is
the well known "maniy" andthe other is vaginal secretions. My question
is: if a man engages in foreplay with his wife and she reaches climax
but does not emit anything, does she become junub and thus is obliged
to do ghusl?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Both spouses should know that there are twothings which make
ghuslobligatory with regard to intimate acts:
-1-
Intercourse, which is when his private part enters the wife's private
part, even if he does not ejaculate.
It was narrated from AbuHurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that
the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "When
aman sits between the four parts (arms and legsof his wife) and has
intercourse with her, then ghusl is obligatory."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari,291; Muslim, 348 – the latter added: "Even if
he does not ejaculate."
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
What this hadeeth means is that the obligation of ghusl does not
depend on emission of maniy; rather when the tip of the penis
disappears inside the vagina, ghusl becomes obligatory for both the
man and the woman. There is no difference of opinion concerning this
nowadays; there was a difference of opinion concerning it among some
of the Sahaabah and those who came after them, then consensus was
formed on what we have mentioned above, and this has been discussed
previously.
Sharh Muslim, 4/40, 41
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Emission of maniy.
It was narrated from AbuSa'eed al-Khudri that theProphet (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Water is for water (i.e., ghusl
must be done when semen is emitted)."
Narrated by Muslim, 343
This water comes out of a man in spurts and it comes out of the
womanwithout spurts, but in both cases it is accompanied by feelingsof
pleasure, followed by physical exhaustion. Each of them has its
owncharacteristic smell.
See the answers to questions no. 36865 , 83570 , 2458 and 12317
Secondly:
What the married woman should know is that the discharges that may
come out during intimate activity are of two types:
-1-
That which comes out to lubricate the vagina and make intercourse
easier;this does not make ghuslobligatory; rather wudoo' is required
in this case.
-2-
That which comes out after orgasm, when climax is reached, and is
followed by physical exhaustion. This is "maniy" and if it is emitted,
ghusl becomes obligatory.
There is a difference between the "water" of the man and that of the
woman. The man's water is white and thick,and the woman's water is
yellow and thin.
It was narrated that Umm Salamah (may Allahbe pleased with her) said:
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "The
water of the man isthick and white, and the water of the woman is thin
and yellow."
Narrated by Muslim, 311.
This water (maniy) is that which makes ghusl obligatory for both men
and women if it is emitted.
And Allah knows best.
between a man and his wife, which is where thewoman may reach climax
but not emit anything, or she may reach it and emit something. But I
have read something that saysthat if the woman sees discharge then she
has to do ghusl, but in fact there are two types of discharge – one is
the well known "maniy" andthe other is vaginal secretions. My question
is: if a man engages in foreplay with his wife and she reaches climax
but does not emit anything, does she become junub and thus is obliged
to do ghusl?.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Both spouses should know that there are twothings which make
ghuslobligatory with regard to intimate acts:
-1-
Intercourse, which is when his private part enters the wife's private
part, even if he does not ejaculate.
It was narrated from AbuHurayrah (may Allah be pleased with him) that
the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "When
aman sits between the four parts (arms and legsof his wife) and has
intercourse with her, then ghusl is obligatory."
Narrated by al-Bukhaari,291; Muslim, 348 – the latter added: "Even if
he does not ejaculate."
An-Nawawi (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
What this hadeeth means is that the obligation of ghusl does not
depend on emission of maniy; rather when the tip of the penis
disappears inside the vagina, ghusl becomes obligatory for both the
man and the woman. There is no difference of opinion concerning this
nowadays; there was a difference of opinion concerning it among some
of the Sahaabah and those who came after them, then consensus was
formed on what we have mentioned above, and this has been discussed
previously.
Sharh Muslim, 4/40, 41
-2-
Emission of maniy.
It was narrated from AbuSa'eed al-Khudri that theProphet (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "Water is for water (i.e., ghusl
must be done when semen is emitted)."
Narrated by Muslim, 343
This water comes out of a man in spurts and it comes out of the
womanwithout spurts, but in both cases it is accompanied by feelingsof
pleasure, followed by physical exhaustion. Each of them has its
owncharacteristic smell.
See the answers to questions no. 36865 , 83570 , 2458 and 12317
Secondly:
What the married woman should know is that the discharges that may
come out during intimate activity are of two types:
-1-
That which comes out to lubricate the vagina and make intercourse
easier;this does not make ghuslobligatory; rather wudoo' is required
in this case.
-2-
That which comes out after orgasm, when climax is reached, and is
followed by physical exhaustion. This is "maniy" and if it is emitted,
ghusl becomes obligatory.
There is a difference between the "water" of the man and that of the
woman. The man's water is white and thick,and the woman's water is
yellow and thin.
It was narrated that Umm Salamah (may Allahbe pleased with her) said:
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "The
water of the man isthick and white, and the water of the woman is thin
and yellow."
Narrated by Muslim, 311.
This water (maniy) is that which makes ghusl obligatory for both men
and women if it is emitted.
And Allah knows best.
Is it permissible for her to accept gifts from the mothers of children whom she teaches in their homes?.
I read in a fatwa, that said: "It is not permissible for workers who
receive salaries in return for the work they do to accept tips or
gift."I work as a private tutor for some children in their homes, and
from time to time the mothersgive me some gifts such as fruit and the
like, in addition to my salary.
My question is:
Is it permissible for me to accept these gifts? They do not give them
tome by way of a bribe; rather it is by way of kindness and as a
friendly gesture. What is the ruling if these gifts are haraam? What
should I do with regard to the gifts I have accepted in the past? Is
there any expiation for that? Do I have to return them? I do not
remember exactly how many those gifts were. These mothers also
sometimes make food and give me some of it when I am in their houses;
is it permissible for me to eat this food? Iam confused and I need
advice.
Praise be to Allaah.
If you are teaching thesechildren outside of regular school and you do
not have any authority over them with regard to their grades or their
passing or failing, then there is nothing wrong with youteaching them
in their homes and the gifts that they give you are also permissible,
whether they are in the form of food or other things.
But if you are teaching them in school, it is not permissible for you
to accept these gifts from their mothers, because that comes under the
heading of bribes.
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
It is not permissible for the teacher to accept a gift from the
student, because this comes under the general meaning of the hadeeth
narrated by Ahmad in al-Musnad: "Gifts to workers are ghulool (wealth
stolen from the war booty or the bayt al-maal of the Muslims)." And
because gifts create love, as it says in the hadeeth: "Exchange
giftswith one another, you will love one another." And if the
teacher's love for this student increases, there is the fear that she
may show favouritism. So the teacher has to refuse thegift and say: I
cannot accept it.
End quote from Liqa' al-Baab al-Maftooh, 225/16
The scholars of the Standing Committee were asked:
I am a teacher in a school for eradicating illiteracy. Halfway through
the school year, when the results are done and certificates
aredistributed, I receive a number of gifts which I accepted after
they insisted and threatened to become upset in somecases. What is the
ruling on that? Is it permissible for me to accept them? Isit is
regarded as a bribe?
They replied: Giving giftsto teachers in regular schools – government
schools or otherwise – comes under the heading of bribes and it is not
permissible to givethem or accept them.
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade gifts
to workers. It is narratedfrom him in a saheeh hadeeth from Abu Humayd
as-Saa'idi (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: "Gifts to
workers are ghulool (wealth stolen from the war booty or the bayt
al-maal of the Muslims).".Narrated by Ahmad and others.
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receive salaries in return for the work they do to accept tips or
gift."I work as a private tutor for some children in their homes, and
from time to time the mothersgive me some gifts such as fruit and the
like, in addition to my salary.
My question is:
Is it permissible for me to accept these gifts? They do not give them
tome by way of a bribe; rather it is by way of kindness and as a
friendly gesture. What is the ruling if these gifts are haraam? What
should I do with regard to the gifts I have accepted in the past? Is
there any expiation for that? Do I have to return them? I do not
remember exactly how many those gifts were. These mothers also
sometimes make food and give me some of it when I am in their houses;
is it permissible for me to eat this food? Iam confused and I need
advice.
Praise be to Allaah.
If you are teaching thesechildren outside of regular school and you do
not have any authority over them with regard to their grades or their
passing or failing, then there is nothing wrong with youteaching them
in their homes and the gifts that they give you are also permissible,
whether they are in the form of food or other things.
But if you are teaching them in school, it is not permissible for you
to accept these gifts from their mothers, because that comes under the
heading of bribes.
Shaykh Ibn 'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
It is not permissible for the teacher to accept a gift from the
student, because this comes under the general meaning of the hadeeth
narrated by Ahmad in al-Musnad: "Gifts to workers are ghulool (wealth
stolen from the war booty or the bayt al-maal of the Muslims)." And
because gifts create love, as it says in the hadeeth: "Exchange
giftswith one another, you will love one another." And if the
teacher's love for this student increases, there is the fear that she
may show favouritism. So the teacher has to refuse thegift and say: I
cannot accept it.
End quote from Liqa' al-Baab al-Maftooh, 225/16
The scholars of the Standing Committee were asked:
I am a teacher in a school for eradicating illiteracy. Halfway through
the school year, when the results are done and certificates
aredistributed, I receive a number of gifts which I accepted after
they insisted and threatened to become upset in somecases. What is the
ruling on that? Is it permissible for me to accept them? Isit is
regarded as a bribe?
They replied: Giving giftsto teachers in regular schools – government
schools or otherwise – comes under the heading of bribes and it is not
permissible to givethem or accept them.
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) forbade gifts
to workers. It is narratedfrom him in a saheeh hadeeth from Abu Humayd
as-Saa'idi (may Allah be pleased with him) that he said: "Gifts to
workers are ghulool (wealth stolen from the war booty or the bayt
al-maal of the Muslims).".Narrated by Ahmad and others.
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Importance of Saying Insha-Allah
During a Jumah Khutbahin a small town, an Imamtalked about the
significance of saying"Insha Allah" (which means if Allah wills) when
planning to do something in the future. After a few days, a man who
had also attended the Khutbah was going to buy a cow from the market.
On the way, he met a friend who asked him where he was going. He told
him aboutbuying the cow but did not say Insha Allah in theend. His
friend remindedhim about the Khutbah and told him to say InshaAllah.
However, this individual said that he had the money he needsand the
energy to go to the market, thus, there isno point of saying Insha
Allah as he will certainly buy the cow. He thoughtthat saying Insha
Allah will not make any difference.
When he reached the market, he found a cow that met his expectations.
He burgained with the seller and came to a reasonable price.
Finally,he decided to pay for the cow but was dumbfounded when he
discovered that his money was missing. A thief had stolen the money
while he was walking through the busy market. The cow seller asked him
whether he was going to buy the cow or not."Insha Allah, I will buy it
next week," he said. When he reached home, his wife inquired about the
cow. He told her about how he forgot to say Insha Allah, and also
added, "Insha Allah, I wanted to buy the cow. But Insha Allah, my
money was stolen. Insha Allah, I will buy it next week." His wife
clarified to him that we should say Insha Allah for thingsthat are yet
to happen, not for those things that had already happened. He never
forgot his"Insha Allah" again.
This incident was narrated by Shaikh Wahidullah from Toronto, Canada.
significance of saying"Insha Allah" (which means if Allah wills) when
planning to do something in the future. After a few days, a man who
had also attended the Khutbah was going to buy a cow from the market.
On the way, he met a friend who asked him where he was going. He told
him aboutbuying the cow but did not say Insha Allah in theend. His
friend remindedhim about the Khutbah and told him to say InshaAllah.
However, this individual said that he had the money he needsand the
energy to go to the market, thus, there isno point of saying Insha
Allah as he will certainly buy the cow. He thoughtthat saying Insha
Allah will not make any difference.
When he reached the market, he found a cow that met his expectations.
He burgained with the seller and came to a reasonable price.
Finally,he decided to pay for the cow but was dumbfounded when he
discovered that his money was missing. A thief had stolen the money
while he was walking through the busy market. The cow seller asked him
whether he was going to buy the cow or not."Insha Allah, I will buy it
next week," he said. When he reached home, his wife inquired about the
cow. He told her about how he forgot to say Insha Allah, and also
added, "Insha Allah, I wanted to buy the cow. But Insha Allah, my
money was stolen. Insha Allah, I will buy it next week." His wife
clarified to him that we should say Insha Allah for thingsthat are yet
to happen, not for those things that had already happened. He never
forgot his"Insha Allah" again.
This incident was narrated by Shaikh Wahidullah from Toronto, Canada.
Islamic Stories - , The King and the Poor Man
There was a king who decided to take a tour ofhis country. As he
passedby different places, everyone rushed to see him. However, while
passing by a certain place, he noticed a poor old man who did not pay
any attention to the king's arrival and remained engaged in hisown
activities. The king went up to this poor man and asked why he did not
join the people to see him. The poor man replied, "Before you, there
was another king who once passed by this place. Everyone gathered to
see him as well. But, few days later he died and was buried in a place
nearby. A poorman also died during that time and was buried near the
king's grave. After some time, astrong flood passed through that area
causing those graves to overturn. As a result, the bones of the poor
man became mixed up with those of the king's. We could not
differentiate between them any longer. After seeing this, it does not
matter to me anymore as to who is a king and who is a beggar. In the
end, our home is the same."
Narrated by brother Ayyub from Toronto, Canada during one of hislectures.
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passedby different places, everyone rushed to see him. However, while
passing by a certain place, he noticed a poor old man who did not pay
any attention to the king's arrival and remained engaged in hisown
activities. The king went up to this poor man and asked why he did not
join the people to see him. The poor man replied, "Before you, there
was another king who once passed by this place. Everyone gathered to
see him as well. But, few days later he died and was buried in a place
nearby. A poorman also died during that time and was buried near the
king's grave. After some time, astrong flood passed through that area
causing those graves to overturn. As a result, the bones of the poor
man became mixed up with those of the king's. We could not
differentiate between them any longer. After seeing this, it does not
matter to me anymore as to who is a king and who is a beggar. In the
end, our home is the same."
Narrated by brother Ayyub from Toronto, Canada during one of hislectures.
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