Manners of Greeting with Salaam, Dought & clear, - * When do the rulings on an adolescent girl begin to apply to a little girl?

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With regard to little girls, when should we not greet them with salaam, and start to lower our gaze and not look at them – from what age?.
Praise be to Allaah.
The scholars are unanimously agreed that it is haraam to look at a little girl or shake hands with her if that is accompanied by desire and pleasure. But if there is no desire, then some of the fuqaha’ stated a guideline of when the girl reaches an age at which she would normally become desirable. When she reaches this age, it becomes haraam to look at her and shake hands with her. If she has not reached an age at which she has become desirable, then there is nothing wrong with shaking hands with her and looking at her. This is the view of the Maalikis, and is the more correct view according to the Shaafa’is.
The Hanafis and Hanbalis set as a guideline the age of ten years. They said that when the little girl reaches the age of ten, her ‘awrah becomes like that of a free adult woman, so it is not permissible to look at her or touch her or shake hands with her.
It says inal-Mawsoo’ah al-Fiqhiyyah al-Kuwaitiyyah(31/52):
The Hanafis are of the view that up to the age of ten, the ‘awrah of the young boy or young girl is that which is regarded as the extreme ‘awrah of the adult, and after that age the ‘awrah is the same as an adult’s.
The Maalikis narrated that for a girl who is seen as desirable, her ‘awrah is the same as that of an adult woman with regard to looking and washing.
The more correct view according to the Shaafa’is is that it is permissible to look at a little girl who is not seen as desirable, apart from the private part, which it is not permissible to look at.
The Hanbalis said: if the small child is female and ten years old, then her ‘awrah with regard to non-mahram men is her entire body. End quote.
See:Haashiyat Ibn ‘Aabideen(1/407, 408);al-Bahr al-Raa’iqby Ibn Nujaym al-Hanafi (1/285);Mughni al-Muhtaaj(3/130);Haashiyat al-‘Adawi(1/185, 336);Kashshaaf al-Qinaa’(1/266);al-Mughni(7/462).
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) favoured the view that she comes under the same ruling as an adult woman when she reaches an age at which she becomes desirable, even if she has not reached the age of ten.
He (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: There is no ruling on the ‘awrah of a little girl, and she does not have to cover her face, neck, hands and feet, and the little girl should not be obliged to do that, but when the girl reaches an age where men may be attracted to her and desire her, then she should observe hijab so as to ward off fitnah and evil. That varies from one woman to another; some of them may develop quickly and look mature, and others may be the opposite.
And Allaah knows best.
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Manners of Greeting with Salaam, Dought & clear, - * Ruling on saying Sabaah al-khayr (Good morning) and Masa’ al-khayr (good evening)

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What is the ruling on saying Sabaah al-khayr (Good morning) and Masa’ al-khayr (good evening)?.
Praise be to Allaah.
We do not know of there being anything wrong with that, but it should be said after starting with the salaam and after the prescribed response, if the person was greeted with salaam.
And Allaah is the Source of strength; may Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions. End quote.
Standing Committee for Academic Research and Issuing Fatwas
Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Baaz, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Ghadyaan, Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn Qa’ood.
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah li’l-Buhooth al-‘Ilmiyyah wa’l-Ifta(24/115).
The Standing Committee was also asked:
Here in Egypt we customarily greet people in the morning by sayingSabaahal-khayr ya fulaan(Good morning, O So and so). What is the ruling on this greeting in Islam?
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
The greeting of Islam isal-salaamu ‘alaykum(peace be upon you). If the wordswa rahmat-Allaah wa barakaatuhu(and the mercy of Allaah and His blessings) are added, that is better. If he says after that to the one whom he meets,Sabaah al-khayr(Good morning), for example, there is nothing wrong with that. But if the greeting upon meeting is limited to sayingSabaah al-khayr, without saying Al-salaamu alaykum, that is bad.
And Allaah is the Source of strength; may Allaah send blessings and peace upon our Prophet Muhammad and his family and companions. End quote.
Standing Committee for Academic Research and Issuing Fatwas
Fataawa al-Lajnah al-Daa’imah li’l-Buhooth al-‘Ilmiyyah wa’l-Ifta(24/119).

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Manners of Greeting with Salaam, Dought & clear, - * Shaking hands with a non-mahram woman

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I would like a detailed answer on the ruling on a man shaking hands with a woman, and the views of the four imams and the majority of scholars on that.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
It is not permissible for a man who believes in Allaah and His Messenger to put his hand in the hand of a women who is not permissible for him or who is not one of his mahrams. Whoever does that has wronged himself (i.e., sinned).
It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.”
Narrated by al-Tabaraani inal-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said inSaheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh.
This hadeeth alone is sufficient to deter and to instill the obedience required of us by Allaah, because it implies that touching women may lead to temptation and immorality.
It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When the believing women migrated to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), they would be tested in accordance with the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):
‘O Prophet! When believing women come to you to give you the Bay‘ah (pledge), that they will not associate anything in worship with Allaah, that they will not steal, that they will not commit illegal sexual intercourse’
[al-Mumtahanah 60:12]
‘Aa’ishah said: Whoever among the believing women agreed to that had passed the test, and when the women agreed to that, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to them: “Go, for you have given your oath of allegiance.’ No, by Allaah, the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman, rather they would give their oath of allegiance with words only.” And ‘Aa’ishah said: “By Allaah, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) only took the oath of allegiance from the women in the manner prescribed by Allaah, and the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman. When he had taken their oath of allegiance he would say, ‘I have accepted your oath of allegiance verbally.’”
(narrated by Muslim, 1866)
It was narrated from ‘Urwah that ‘Aa’ishah told him about the women’s oath of allegiance: “The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched any woman with his hand. He would explain to the woman what the oath of allegiance implied, and when she accepted, he would say ‘Go, for you have given your oath of allegiance.’”
Narrated by Muslim, 1866
This infallible one, the best of mankind, the leader of the sons of Adam on the Day of Resurrection, did not touch women. This is despite the fact that the oath of allegiance was originally given by hand. So how about men other than the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)?
It was narrated that Umaymah the daughter of Raqeeqah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “I do not shake hands with women.”
Narrated by al-Nasaa’i (4181) and Ibn Maajah, 2874; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh al-Jaami’, 2513.
Secondly:
It is not permissible to shake hands even with a barrier in between, such as shaking hands from beneath a garment and the like. The hadeeth that was narrated allowing that is da’eef (weak).
It was narrated from Ma’qal ibn Yassaar that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to shake hands with women from beneath a garment.”
Narrated by al-Tabaraani inal-Awsat, 2855.
Al-Haythami said:
This was narrated by al-Tabaraani inal-Kabeerandal-Awsat. Its isnaad includes ‘Ataab ibn Harb, who is da’eef (weak).
Majma’ al-Zawaa’id, 6/39.
Wali al-Deen al-‘Iraaqi said:
The words of ‘Aa’ishah, “He used to accept the women’s oath of allegiance by words only” mean that he did so without taking their hands or shaking hands with them. This indicates that the bay’ah of men was accepted by taking their hands and shaking hands with them, as well as by words, and this is how it was. What ‘Aa’ishah mentioned was the custom.
Some of the mufassireen mentioned that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) called for a vessel of water and dipped his hand in it, then the women dipped their hands in it. And some of them said that he did not shake hands with them from behind a barrier and had a Qatari cloak over his hand. And it was said that ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) shook hands with them on his behalf. None of these reports are sound, especially the last one, How could ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) have done something that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who was ma’soom (infallible), would not do?
Tarh al-Tathreeb, 7/45
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
The most correct view is that this (i.e., shaking hands with women from behind a barrier) is not allowed at all, because of the general meaning of the hadeeth, according to which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, “I do not shake hands with women;” and so as to ward off the means that may lead to evil.
(Adapted fromHashiyat Majmoo’at Rasaa’il fi’l-Hijaab wa’l-Sufoor, p. 69)
The same ruling applies to shaking hands with old women; this is also haraam because of the general meaning of the texts on this issue. The reports that say it is permissible are da’eef (weak).
Al-Zayla’i said:
“As for the report that ‘Abu Bakr used to shake hands with old women, it is also ghareeb.”
(Nasab al-Raayah, 4/240)
Ibn Hajar said:
I cannot find this hadeeth.
(al-Diraayah fi Takhreej Ahaadeeth al-Hidaayah, 2/225)
Fourthly:
With regard to the views of the four imams, they are as follows:
1 – The Hanafi madhhab:
Ibn Nujaym said:
It is not permissible for a man to touch a woman’s face or hands even if there is no risk of desire because it is haraam in principle and there is no necessity that would allow it.
Al-Bahr al-Raa’iq, 8/219
2 – The Maaliki madhhab:
Muhammad ibn Ahmad (‘Ulaysh) said:
It is not permissible for a man to touch the face or hand of a non-mahram woman, and it is not permissible for him to put his hand on hers without a barrier. ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never accepted a woman’s oath of allegiance by shaking hands with her; rather he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to accept their oath of allegiance by words only.” According to another report, “His hand never touched the hand of a woman, rather he would accept their oath of allegiance by words only.”
(Manh al-Jaleel Sharh Mukhtasar Khaleel, 1/223)
3 – The Shaafa’i madhhab:
Al-Nawawi said:
It is not permissible to touch a woman in any way.
Al-Majmoo’, 4/515.
Wali al-Deen al-‘Iraaqi said:
This indicates that the hand of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not touch the hand of any woman apart from his wives and concubines, whether in the case of accepting the oath of allegiance or in other cases. If he did not do that despite the fact that he was infallible and beyond suspicion, then it is even more essential that others heed this prohibition. It appears from the texts that he refrained from doing that because it was haraam for him to do so. The fuqaha’ among our companions and others said that it is haraam to touch a non-mahram woman even if that is not touching parts of her body that are not ‘awrah, such as her face. But they differed with regard to looking when there is no desire and no fear of fitnah. The prohibition on touching is stronger than the prohibition on looking, and it is haraam when there is no necessity that would allow it. If it is the case of necessity, e.g. medical treatment, removing a tooth or treating the eyes, etc., if there is no woman who can do that, then it is permissible for a non-mahram to do that because it is the case of necessity.
Tarh al-Tathreeb, 7/45, 46
4 – The Hanbali madhhab
Ibn Muflih said:
Abu ‘Abd-Allaah – i.e., Imam Ahmad – was asked about a man who shakes hands with a woman. He said, No, and was emphatic that it is haraam. I said, Should he shake hands with her from beneath his garment? He said, No.
Shaykh Taqiy al-Deen also favoured the view that it is prohibited, and gave the reason that touching is more serious than looking.
AlAdaab al-Shar’iyyah, 2/257
And Allaah knows best.

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