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Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Fathwa, - Changing the intention from offering a voluntaryprayer to offering an obligatory one

Question
Is it permissible for one praying alone to change the intention from
offering an obligatory prayer to offering a voluntary one?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad
isHis slave and Messenger.
In principle, the individual is obliged to complete offering the
prayer if he started it as an obligatory prayer. However, he may
change his intention from offering an obligatory prayer to offering a
voluntary one with a legitimate excuse. An example of this is an
individual who started offering a prayer and then remembered that he
did not offer the prayer that precedes it inorder after he bowed. So
he is to change his intention from offering an obligatory prayer
intooffering a voluntary one and then he is to offer hisobligatory
prayers in dueorder.
He has to change his intention from offering an obligatory prayer so
as not to violate the prohibition of the Prophet , who forbadeto offer
the same prayer twice on the same day.[Ahmad and Abu Daawood].
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Fathwa, - Reciting Quran during the prayer with an injured tongue

Question
Is it permissible for an individual whose tongue is injured and
covered with a swathe, which makes him unable to utter the letters,
recite Qur'an during the prayer by heart without moving his tongue,
whether he isamong the congregation or alone?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad
, is His Slave and Messenger.
Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): { Allaah Does not Charge a soul
except [with that within] its capacity } [Quran 2: 286]
- (what means): { andHas not Placed upon you in the religion
any difficulty. }[Quran 22: 78 ]
- (what means): { So fear Allaah as much as you are able }
[Quran 64: 16]
Therefore, an individual whose tongue is injured so that he cannot
utter the letters or that the utterance harms him is not obliged to
recite withhis tongue and he may recite it with his heart.
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Fathwa, - Ruling on swallowing blood during prayer

Question
What is the ruling if one, who has a cut on the inside of his mouth,
swallows blood during prayer?
Answer
All perfect praise be to Allaah, The Lord of the Worlds. I testify
that there is none worthy of worship except Allaah, and that Muhammad
, is His Slave and Messenger.
Swallowing blood from cuts in the mouth and tongue during prayer does
not invalidate the prayer, if it was done unintentionally. In such
acase, there is no harm in it and the prayer is valid. However, if the
worshipper swallows blood intentionally, the prayer is invalid. If one
swallows a very small amount of blood outside of prayer, there is no
harm in it, whereas it is better to spit it out. If theamount of blood
was significant, he is obliged to spit it out.
Allaah Knows best.

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Assassination of the Woman’s Personality

Woman suffered many woes for centuries because of the statements of
Paul and those like him. The men of this religion who are attributed
to Christ considered that, "The woman is filth which should be
avoided, and her beauty is the weaponof Satan." The Popes were eager
to confirm that woman was the source of evil and sin in this world.
For this reason, she should be oppressed as much as possible and
psychologically consumed under the pressure of the feelings of
disgrace and the shame of her human nature and entity.
This belief crept into Christianity from many ideas and customs from
ancient pagan religions, which considered the woman an embodiment of
wicked spirits, and consented to scorning and humiliating women, if
not exterminating them in the most brutal ways, like, for example, to
enjoin upon the woman whose husband died to burn herself afterhis
death immediately after burning his dead body.
Simone de Beauvoir stated that the contribution of the Christian creed
in persecuting woman was significant.
According to Marcuse the idea that the woman carries the perpetual
sin, to which the creed of Christianity inseparably adheres, has
strongly influenced the woman's social and legal status.
According to Denis Diderot, all life's customs and traditions, the
onslaught of popular lawand that of nature conspired against the
woman. This is because under these laws, the woman was treated as a
being that had lost its mind.
The history of the woman was written by men who took her as their
enemy from the early ages of Popedom. During the past ages of the
Roman Empire, man regarded her as a domestic animal and he had the
right to dispose of her by selling or killingher if he wished. If a
mankilled the daughter of another, he had to deliver his daughter to
them and they were free to either kill, sell or own her.
During the Germanic age, man had power over the woman. The husband had
the right to discipline his wife by beating her and was allowed to
kill his wife in case she betrayed him, and no punishment was due on
him for that.
Moreover, she was regarded as a secondary creature and the partner of
Satan in perpetual sin, which relegated her to the second rank after
man, even at the level of the church.
The People of the Book always viewed the woman as the source of sin
and the fountainheadof misdeeds and wickedness. They also saw the
woman as man's door to Hell, being the source of the movement which
leads him to sin, and from her sprang all calamities that afflicted
all mankind.
For this reason, they seized every opportunity concerning the woman to
frustrate her, even if it was related to her clothing. Tertullian
wrotean epistle in the 3 rd century CE about the woman's clothing, in
which he said, "It was more fitting for the woman to come out in a
despicable dress, and walk like Eve, lamenting her state, in regret
for what she did, so that her grief-expressing clothing would be
expiation of the shame she inherited from Eve, i.e. the original sin,
and then the disgrace of eternal destruction of humanity. The Lord
said to the woman: 'I will greatly increase your labor pains; with
pain you will give birth to children. You will want to control your
husband, but he willdominate you.' Have you not learnt that every one
of you (O women) is Eve?" [Genesis 3:16]
Saint Bernard, who did his best to transmit the worship of Mary the
virgin into the church, said about his sister after she had visited
him in hismonastery wearing a new uniform , "A dirty prostitute and a
lump of dung."
The assembly of Bacon
In the 5 th century CE, the assembly of Bacon gathered to discuss
whether the woman was merely a body or a body with a soul responsible
for salvation and destruction. They decided that the woman does not
have a saved soul which could deliver her from Hell. None of Eve's
daughters was exempted from that stainexcept Maryam (Mary), may Allaah
exalt her mention.
Another assembly decided that the woman was a filthy animal
whichshould be avoided, and that she had no soul, no eternity, and the
principles of religion should not be dictated to her for her worship
was not accepted, nor would she enter Paradise and the dominion of the
Hereafter. All she had to do was serve and be a slave, with her mouth
tied up like a camel or a rabid dog to be prevented from laughter and
speech for she was the snare of Satan.
Scandals from the heart of Popedom
In his Thawrat Al-Fikr (Revolution of Thought) , Dr. Lewis 'Awad said that,
The scandals in Rome, thecentre of Popedom, wereextremely troubling.
The Catholic creed, in principle, states that menof religion never
marry, and that monks, including Popes and cardinals, make three vows
to God once they enter the gate of the church: the vow of chastity,
the vow of poverty and the vow of obedience. However, Pope Alexander
VI (1431-1503 CE), publicly and openly had three illegal children:
Cesare Borgia (1475-1507 CE), Lucrezia Borgia (1480-1519 CE), and Don
Candia. The time of his predecessor, Pope Innocent VIII (pope from
1484-1492 CE), was known for severe corruption, and he was succeeded
by Alexander VI. Innocent VIII was infamous for his nepotism and
dishonesty,and he was the first popeto publicly acknowledge his
illegitimate children. He endeavored to increase the possessions of
his family, to say nothing of his selling of deeds of pardon and
terrorizing his opponentswith deprivation resolutions. Similarly, it
was the habit of all men of the church, from the greatest to the least
significant priest, to amass wealth and possess estates. The sexual
practices of ecclesiastics were visible everywhere, and regarded as
acceptable. Sexual deviation was alsonegligently overlooked.
Why did God create woman?
According to Augustine , "If what Adamneeded was only good company,
then, it would have been better to have two men living together as
friends instead of a couple that is made up ofa man and a woman."
Thomas Aquinas was also confused, like Augustine, his predecessor, as
to why God had created the woman. He wrote the following, "As for the
individual's nature, the woman is a defective creature, fitting for
contempt. That is because the efficient power of the male's semen
produces the perfect match of the malesex, while the woman is produced
from the defectiveness of that efficient power, or from body trouble,
or even as a result of an external effect."
The idea that the individual's nature in the woman is defective was
taken from Aristotle's biological opinions, according to which, the
male is the perfect type or standard pattern, and the woman is but a
defective model of man.
The woman was regarded as insignificant to the extent that Luther
said, "If women are tired or even die, it does not matter; let them
die during the operation of childbirth, because they are created only
for that."
Is woman a human being that has a soul like man?
In France, the French men of religion held a conference, i.e. the
abovementioned assembly of Bacon in 586 CE at which time the Prophet,
, was a youngman, to discuss whether the woman was to be regarded as a
human or non-human being, whether or not she had asoul, and if she did
have a soul, was it human or animal, and if it was human, was it equal
to orless than that of the man.Their final resolution wasthat she was
a human being, but was created only to serve man.
The woman is legally incompetent
According to French Post-Revolutionary Civil Law, a minor was a child,
or an insane person, or a woman. It remained so until it was modified
in 1938 CE, and it still has many restrictions on howthe married woman
should behave.
Hence, she had no right to possess any fixedestates or movable
assets,nor to open a bank account in her name, andeven after she was
allowed to open a bank account in her name, she had no right to
withdrawmoney from it by herself; rather, her husband had to come to
withdraw money for her from her account, just like what is done with
minor childrenand the insane.
Selling or lending thewife is legitimate
Until the end of the 10th century CE, there was in Britain a common
law that gave the husband the right to sell or lend his wife, or even
kill her if she had an incurable disease. If one knows that a farmer
would refuse to lend his cow to a friend, then what would he think
about the one who lends his wife to another man? Was the woman
regarded as so insignificant in their sight to the extent that they
made her inferior toan animal? Was the law intended to convert the man
into a cuckold and the woman into a prostitute? Did this law show
respect for the woman? Did this law givewoman superiority to an animal
or even a non-being? What kind of life was this law seeking for its
society and what kind of love did the church find in that law?
Pouring boiling oil over the bodies of women just for entertainment
was legitimate
In 1500 CE, a social council was formed in Britain to punish women,and
new means of punishing them were invented. Thousands of women were
burnt alive,and boiling oil was poured over their bodies merely for
the sake of entertainment.
There is no comment other than a question to be raised for
consideration: what was the position of a woman when men entertained
themselves by pouring boiling oil over her body?
Prohibition for a woman to read the Bible
During the time of King Henry VIII of England, parliament issued a
decree forbidding a woman from reading the New Testament, i.e. the
Gospel, for she was considered impure. If shewas impure for half of
her life because of menstruation in addition to seven days after every
menses, and this is why she was forbidden from holding and reading the
Bible, then what would one think about Christ, who used to enter the
privy, and during his early childhood, urinatedand excreted in his
clothes? Was a woman considered more impure than urine and excrement?
The woman had no right to citizenship
According to English common law, women, until the middle of the 19 th
century CE, were not considered "persons" or"citizens" who were
entitled to be called as such by law. They had no personal rights,
they had no right to possess the property they gained, or anything -
even the clothes they wore.
In 1567 CE, the Scottish parliament issued a decree stating that a
woman should not be given authority over anything.
The wife's price was half a shilling
Until 1805 CE, English law gave the man the right to sell his wife,
and priced her at sixpence, i.e. half a shilling. It happened that a
man sold his wife for 500 pounds in 1931 CE. In defending this
husband, his lawyer argued that in 1801 CE, English law priced the
wife at 6 pence, provided that the wife agreed on the sale. However,
the court replied that this law was abrogated by another law in 1805
CE that forbade selling or giving up wives. After deliberation, the
court ordered that the man who sold his wife should be imprisoned for
ten years.
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'Our Hearts are Still Adhering to the Truth'

In his book, Siyar A'laam An-Nubalaa' (11/238), Ath-Thahabi said that
during the ordeal of Imaam Ahmad it was said to him, "O Abu
'Abdullaah! Do you not see that falsehood is being victorious over the
truth?" He replied, "No. The victory of falsehood over truth is when
the hearts change from guidance to error but ourhearts are still
adhering to the truth."
How badly are we in need for this accurate criterion that shows the
reality of the victory of falsehood over truth, especially in this age
when many hearts have been affected by trials of doubtful issues and
desires, we seek refuge with Allaah The Almighty from them.
One of the most serious trials is confusion about the reality of the
victory of the truth in one's heart which may be induced by any cause,
since confusion about the criteria of judgment necessarily leads to an
unstable methodology. Atthis point, the person on his way of Allaah
The Almighty becomes confused because of the confusion of criteria, as
he sometimes links the truth to the greater number of followers; some
other times, he links it to power; and sometimes to victory of the
people of falsehood or any other thing. None of this brings any
benefit to man.
Indeed, the conviction of Imam Ahmad in refuting this allegation, that
some of his companions mentioned, was not an instant reaction, but it
was the result of his profound understanding of the Book of Allaah and
the Seerah (biography) of HisMessenger, along withhis scrutiny of the
historyof the people of the truthin their struggle against falsehood
and the peoplewho follow it.
Allaah The Almighty Says (what means):
· } That He should establish the truth and abolish falsehood, even
ifthe criminals disliked it. { [Quran 8:8]
· } And say, "Truth has come, and falsehood has departed. Indeed is
falsehood, [by nature], ever bound to depart." { [Quran 17:81]
· } Rather, We dash the truth upon falsehood, and it destroys it, and
thereupon it departs. Andfor you is destruction from that which you
describe. { [Quran 21:18]
Anyone who contemplates the previous verses and those that are similar
cannever be shaken regarding the fact that the truth must be
victorious and must triumph over falsehood and those who follow it.
Since this is addressed to our dear Muslim sisters, they should bear
this factin mind especially at this time when many women are awed by
the glamourof falsehood and have weakened belief in the truth.
This entails that women should recognize the truth by means of its
evidence so that it wouldremain an established belief in the heart and
cannot be shaken by temporary changes or temptations.
The concealed Fitnah (trial) in this regard is represented in two matters:
The first one is the confusion between truth and falsehood because
ofthe great number of those who call to falsehood and the powerful
means that they use to propagate it.
The second one is that many Muslim women have become negligent in
seeking the truth and knowing its supporting proof which gives
strength to their 'Aqeedah (creed) and faith. Supporting proof islike
a weapon that is necessary for the one who is engaged in fighting. If
someone goesto war without a weapon, what would happen to him?
Because of this, the evidence that a woman holds to support the
correctness of what she isdoing will be vulnerable and she will be in
a state of emotional defence without being able to show the proofs and
make her true argument victorious. She will be criticized by others
and will soon receive a fatal blow because of attacks of criticism.
When this happens, she will becomeweak enough to be a recipient which
is a disaster as she surrendersand her faith deteriorates (we seek
refuge with Allaah The Almighty from this).
In conclusion, Muslim women nowadays, are badly in need to be armed
with knowledge that is coupled with proof, not only to be enlightened
and certain regarding religious matters, but also to transfer this
knowledge to others before they are swept away by the flood, and
before they become confused about the criteria of judging the victory
of the truth. To Allaah The Almighty belongs the command before and
after. Allaah The Almighty Says (what means): } He whom Allaahguides
is the [rightly] guided, but he whom He leaves astray -- never willyou
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The Intelligent Educator

In front of the school headmaster's room
Faaris entered the headmaster's room hurriedly and without seeking
permission, for the matter was serious and needed to be addressed
urgently. He cried at the top of his voice, "Sir! Sir! I have to tell
you about something of great importance."
The headmaster sat straight in his chair and paid great attention to
Faaris, put his hand on his shoulder and said to him, "Calm down! Calm
down, my son! What happened? Lower your voice and speak quietly."
The child said, "I have to tell you, headmaster, about something
dangerous that takes place in our class."
"What is happening, son?" the headmaster asked interestedly.
"I have seen some children in the class ridiculing the Mathematics
teacher," the child said, "and sticking clips on his clothes
containing some humorous words while he did not notice. After that
they joke with each other, laugh at and ridicule my teacher whom I
love so much, and do not like anyone to ridicule. I warned them more
than once that I would tell the headmaster, but they mocked my words
and gave no importance to it."
"May Allaah reward you, Faaris, for telling me about that," the
headmaster said, "and I appreciate your protective zeal for your
teacher, and promise youthat I will take suitable measures."
"May Allaah reward you, sir," the child said.
In the class
"Beware, Maajid," Ad-ham said.
"What is it, Ad-ham?" Maajid asked.
"Get into the classroom quickly and take your seat," Ad-ham said, "for
the headmaster is inspecting the classes of the school."
Suddenly, the headmaster entered the class where Maajid and Ad-ham
were mocking the Mathematics teacher. The headmaster stood in front of
all the pupils.
He said, "As-salaamu 'alaykum."
"Wa 'alaykum as-salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh," all the pupils
replied together.
"How are your studies progressing? The time of the exams is very
near," the headmaster said.
"Fine, sir," they all repliedtogether.
"I am sure that only thosestudents who make a great deal of effort
will succeed in the end and Allaah The Almighty will grant them
excellence," the headmaster said.
He added,
"No doubt, whoever has high ambitions should work day and night. But
those who engage in playing and mocking teachers and particularly the
Mathematics teacher will suffer great loss and failure. It is enough
disgrace to ridicule one's teacher and role model, which is also
enough reason for failure. I have been informed that manyboys do so.
But I will not mention their names in order not to expose themto
scandal. But I ask them to return to the right path lest Allaah The
Almighty become angry with them. Allaah The Almighty Says (what
means): } O you who havebelieved, let not a peopleridicule [another]
people;perhaps they may be better than them; nor let women ridicule
[other] women; perhaps they may be better than them.And do not insult
one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames.
Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one's] faith. And whoever
does not repent- then it is those who are the wrongdoers. { [Quran
49:11]
The headmaster concluded his speech with this Noble Verse. Then he
turned his back to the pupils after he greeting them and left.
Both Ad-ham and Maajid were confounded, and none of them dared to
speak, as if they were mute. But after the lesson, both Maajid and
Ad-ham agreed to go to the Mathematics teacher to apologize to him,
and go to the headmaster to thank him for his valuable advice.
An intelligent educator always uses hints rather than explicit condemnation.
Dear educator,
The headmaster was capable of entering the class, catching hold of a
stick and beating all the pupils, or at least both Maajid and Ad-ham,
and forcing them to apologize to the Mathematics teacher while the
other pupils watched. An intelligent educator favors hinting to
explicit condemnation,dialogue to clashing, anddiscussion to shouting.
This is one of the means of successful education that each educator
should choose in raising his children.
Parents should admonish their children when they act improperly. But
the problem lies in the fact that during the process of admonishment,
we ignore the child's identity, and think that because of the relation
ofkinship and his being under our care (as parents), he should listen
and comply with all that we say to him. This is wrong. A child has
overflowing emotions and an immature mentality. Therefore, we have to
reduce the direct instruction and severe criticism as much as
possible. No parent wants to destroy his child's self-esteem for
thesake of rectifying him. Indirect hinting and advice always lead to
the desired result, and are more palatable to the child, whereas
continuous disparagement deprives him of his self-confidence.
You should learn, dear educator, that if you understand the psychology
of your child well, particularly when he approaches the stage of
adolescence, you would not resort to condemnation.
"What is the matter with some people who say such and such things?"
That was the same method used by the Prophet, with his Companions .
With thismethod, the Prophet, , saved the face of those who made
mistakes and made them correct their mistakes without disgracing them
before the people.
The effectiveness of hinting
When the headmaster used this method of hinting with the children,he
saved the child's honor and did not humiliate him before others lest
this would result in future psychological complexes.
Moreover, this method boosts mutual confidenceand coherence between
the headmaster and the children; and also boosts love, for the child
always loves reassurance and comfort when his mistake is treated by
his teacher and educator without putting shame on him before the
people. This method will also correct the educational mistakes of
other children who were not intended by the hinting.
When an educator defames a child at the first slip and humiliates him
before his fellows in the name of "guidance", or insults him with foul
words, perhaps before his friends with the goal of rectifying his
behaviorand preventing him frommaking any further mistakes, this,
indeed, establishes in the child's heart rebellion and feelings of
inferiority.
To clarify the importance of subtlety in changing the child's
behavior, the author of The Sound Disposition says that when we ask
some fathers about what they do when they are overwhelmed by anger,
they usually say that they shout at or insult their children. Some say
that they beat a little, and throw or kick things. However, even this
response only curbs the behavioral problem temporarily. Therefore,
what do their children learn? They learn how to shout, beat, throw and
kick things when annoyed.
The method of hinting is highly effective and indicates the educator's
intelligence, forbearance and patience.

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Praised Manners, - Arguments with her husband – she is asking how to become a righteous wife .

I am a new muslimah and am fromthe U.S. I have been raised not to let
a man controll me. Now the problem is that my husband is not from here
and we tend to argue alot.I know more of the laws and commoneveryday
things more than he does.His english is not that great, so, I have to
explain to him sometimes and he is used to how his country and culture
are, so, in public I tend to do the talking alot.This makes him mad
sometimes but I feel it is the only way toget things done right most
of the time. Now we argue alot and I don't know how to be the "wife"
that I am supposed to be Islamically. I am still in the learning
process, butthat is were I have my biggest problem.How can I change
that or try to make the problem better.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
We praise Allaah for guiding you to Islam, which is the greatest
blessing that Allaah can bestow upon His slaves.
We would like to tell youthat Allaah has given yourights over your
husband, and has enjoined upon you duties towards him. You can read
question no. 10680 to find out more about this.
You have to do the duties towards your husband which Allaah has
enjoined upon you. Islam regards the husband's rights as greatbecause
of the husband's great importance in building the Muslim household,
and because Allaah has enjoined him (the husband) to look after his
family's interests and take care of them.
The Muslim woman should be wise in her dealings with her husband,
because man – usually – is pleased with kind words and appreciates
kind treatment. So if that comes from his life-partner, that will
have a greater effect. The wise woman must also keep away from all
kinds of behaviour that will offend her husband,and rid herself of
every kind of action that annoys him, and try not to control him. The
man has the role of qawwaam (protector and maintainer), and
theresponsibility is his. Making him feel that he is falling short in
certain situations may make himangry and not treat his wife well. One
of them said: "The best wife is the one who knows howto create harmony
in hermarriage and strikes a balance between obeying and respecting
her husband and expressing her own strong personality."
Your speaking to people on his behalf – because he does not speak your
people's language well –is permissible according to sharee'ah, but as
stated above, you have to be wise in doing this. When doing these
thingsyou should not make him feel that he is lacking or that he is
not important. Rather you should refer to him when speaking to the
people, and consult withhim, and do not make decisions in his
presencewithout asking his permission. You should do that in front of
the people to whom you arespeaking so that he will feel that he is
important.Try to make him feel thathe speaks his own language better
than you do, and that you complement one another; and you can help him
to learn your language, and he can help you to learn his language.
This is what we advise you to do, and this is what may reduce his
anger and stop him frombehaving in this manner.It seems that it is
only a matter of time, and you have to be careful in handling this
situation until he becomes more fluent in your language and is able to
do things himself, on his own.
Secondly:
In order to become a good wife, you have to learn what Allaah has
enjoined upon you, so that you can do it. You have to know how
righteous women behave, their attitude and the way they interact with
their husbands. You will need to strive hard until you get used to it,
but it is not impossible. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah
be upon him) said: "Knowledge comes by learning, and patience comes by
trying to be patient. Whoever seeks goodness will be given it, and
whoever fears evil will be protected from it." Narrated by
al-Daaraqutni in al-Afraad; this is a hasan hadeet, as was stated by
al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami', 2328.
Some of these characteristics and attitudes are those of which a wise
mother advised her daughter before marriage, which is comprehensive
advice.We ask Allaah to help you to achieve this. That mother said to
her daughter:
"O my daughter, you are leaving your house in which you grew up, and
going to live with a man whom you do not know,a companion whom you are
unfamiliar with. Be like a slave woman to him and he will be like a
slave to you. Remember ten characteristics whichwill be a stored
treasure for you:
The first and second are to be devoted to him and be content, listen
to him and obey.
The third and the fourth are to consider his nose and eyes; do not let
him see anything ugly of you, or let him smell anything but a good
fragrance.
The fifth and the sixth are consider the time of his sleeping and
eating, for hunger burns and disturbance of sleep causes anger.
The seventh and the eighth are to look after his wealth and to take
care of his family and hisdependents.
The ninth and the tenth are to look after his wealth and take care of
his dependents."
Thirdly:
The husband has to fear Allaah his Lord, and not transgress the rights
of his wife. He should give her her rights as Allaah has enjoined upon
him. He should realize that people vary, and that what he knows, many
people are ignorant of, and what he is ignorant of, many people know.
For him to have a wife who will translate for him and show him what
will benefit him and how things are done is better for him than having
someone with him whom he cannot trust. Knowledge can only be acquired
by learning, and the way tolearn is by striving and working hard.
Advise him to try to control himself at times of anger, and not to get
angry unless you have transgressed one of the sacred limits of Allaah.
This is the kind of anger that is regarded as praiseworthy.
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Praised Manners, - Ruling on accepting an invitation, and the conditions for doing so .

Sometimes I am invited to a meal or to a party. What should I do if
thesegatherings are mostly filled with backbiting, slander, showing
off andcompeting in clothes, where they make fun of those who wear
simple clothes (like me)? There may also be gossip, and Ihave
housework to do (I don't want to bring a servant, but nearly everyone
who attends these parties has a servant so she has free time).
My husband and my house need me, and every moment I spend athome
matters in sha Allaah. This is my primary mission. I also want to
spend any extra time I have in reading Qur'aan or a useful book. I
don't want to attend worldly gatherings whose harm, as I see it,
outweighs thebenefits – if there are any benefits. Please advise me,
how should I deal with this? What suitable excuse can I give for not
attending, ifI have the right not to attend?
What should I do if the hostess of the party looks down on me and
enjoys seeing me in an embarrassing situation and talks about me? Do I
have to accept her invitation?
Praise be to Allaah.
It was narrated in Saheeh al-Bukhaari (1164) and Saheeh Muslim (4022)
that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "I heard the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) say:
'The rights of a Muslim over his fellow Muslim are five: returning
greetings, visiting the sick, attending funerals, accepting
invitations, and saying Yarhamuk Allaah (may Allaah have mercy on you)
when he sneezes.'"
The scholars divided the invitations which the Muslim is commanded
toaccept into two categories:
1 – Invitation to a wedding party (waleemah). The majority of scholars
said that it is obligatory to accept such an invitation, unless there
isa legitimate shar'i excuse – some such excuses will be mentioned
below, in shaAllaah. The evidence (daleel) that it is obligatory to
accept these invitations is the hadeeth narrated by al-Bukhaari (4779)
and Muslim (2585) from Abu Hurayrah, that the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The worst kind of food is
thefood of a wedding feast that is withheld from those who would come
and to which people are invited who mayrefuse it. Whoever does not
accept the invitation hasdisobeyed Allaah and HisMessenger."
2 – Invitation to various kinds of gatherings other than
wedding-feasts. The majority of scholars say that accepting these
invitations is mustahabb,and no one differed from that apart from some
of the Shaafa'is and Zaahiris, who said it is obligatory. If we say
that it is strongly mustahabb that is close enough. And Allaah knows
best.
But the scholars have stipulated conditions foraccepting an
invitation; if these conditions are not met then it is not obligatory
or mustahabbto accept the invitation, rather it may be haraam to
attend. These conditions were summed up by Shaykh Muhammad ibn
'Uthaymeen, who said:
1- There should be nothing objectionable (munkar) in the place
where the party etc. is tobe held. If there is something
objectionableand it is possible to remove it, then it is obligatory to
attend for two reasons: to accept the invitation and to change the
objectionable thing. If it is not possible to removeit then it is
haraam to attend.
2- The person who invited him should not be someone whom it is
obligatory or Sunnah to forsake (such as one who openly commits
immoral actions or sin, where forsaking him may be of benefit in
bringing about his repentance).
3- The person who invited him should be a Muslim. If he is not,
then it is not obligatory to accept the invitation, because the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: "The rights
of a Muslim over his fellow Muslim are five…"
4- The food offered should be permissible for us to eat.
5- Accepting the invitation should not lead to ignoring a more
important duty; if that is the case then it is haraam to accept the
invitation.
6- It should not cause any trouble to the person who is invited.
For example, if he needs to travel or to leave his family who need him
there, and so on. (al-Qawl al-Mufeed, 3/111).
Some scholars added:
7- If the host issued a general invitation, saying that everyone
is welcome, then it is not obligatory to accept the invitation.
From the above it shouldbe clear to you that you do not have to accept
such invitations, rather itmay be haraam for you to do so, if you
cannot change the reprehensible things (munkar) or if your attending
the gatherings will affect your duties towards your husband and
children and prevent you from taking care of them as you are supposed
to do. Moreover you will not besafe from their evil and harm. This is
an excuse which frees you from having to accept invitation which you
areobliged to accept, let alone those which are not obligatory at all.
Women should also notethat they have to ask their husband's permission
to go out to parties etc. to which they are invited. You should advise
these sisters to try to make thebest use of their time and their
gatherings in ways that will benefit them either in religious or
worldly terms. For theMessenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of
Allaah be upon him) warned us of the consequences of attending
gatherings in which Allaah is not mentioned. He (peace and blessings
of Allaah be upon him) said: "No people sit in a gatheringin which
they do not remember Allaah or sendblessings upon their Prophet, but
they will regret it, if He wills He will punish them and if He wills
He will forgive them." (Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3302; he said, this
is a saheeh hasan hadeeth. It was also classed as saheeh byal-Albaani
in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi, 3/140)
In Sunan Abi Dawood (4214) and elsewhere it is narrated that Abu
Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: "The Messenger of
Allaah(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: 'People who
get upfrom an assembly in which they did not remember Allaah will be
just as if they had got upfrom a donkey's carcass, and it will be a
cause of grief to them." (Classed as saheeh by al-Nawawi in Riyaadh
al-Saaliheen, 321, and by al-Albaani).
Convey this advice to them, either verbally or in writing. In
addition, you could invite them to your house and make the most of
this opportunity to hold a dhikr circle, in addition to doing some
permissible things that they will like. Perhaps Allaah will make you
the means of starting a goodtrend of benefiting fromsuch gatherings.
And Allaah is the Source of strength.
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Praised Manners, - What does self confidence mean for theMuslim, and is that contrary to his need for his Lord, may He be exalted?.

How can a muslim who is really lacking self confidence become a more
confident person? He has tried so many things but has yet to overcome
his nervousness when talking to people. May Allah reward you with good
for your effort.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
Self-confidence is an acquired characteristic that the Muslim needs to
know how to acquire so that he will be one of those who have
self-confidence. But first of all he has to differentiate between
self-confidence and arrogance. Self-confidence means being aware of
what Allah has given you of good characteristics and striving
accordingly to attain that which will benefit you. If you misuse it
you will be filled with arrogance and self admiration, which are two
destructive problems. If you deny those blessingsthat have been given
to you and the good characteristics that Allah has blessed you with,
you will become lazy and apathetic; you will let yourself down and
lose the blessings that Allah has given you. Allah says
(interpretationof the meaning):
"Indeed he succeeds who purifies his ownself(i.e. obeys and performs
all that Allaah ordered, by following the true Faith of Islamic
Monotheism and by doing righteous good deeds).
10. And indeed he fails who corrupts his ownself (i.e. disobeys what
Allaah has ordered by rejecting the true Faith of Islamic Monotheism
or by following polytheism, or by doing every kind of evil wicked
deeds)"
[al-Shams 91:9-10].
It is worth pointing out something important here, which is that for
the Muslim, having self-confidence does not mean that he does not need
the help of his Lord, and it does not mean that he does not need his
brothers and people in general to advise him and help him.This is what
the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) asked his Lord
for, whichwas: not to be left to himself (or to his own devices), not
even for the blink of an eye!
It was narrated that Abu Bakrah said: The Messenger of Allah
(blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: "The supplication of
the one who is in distress: O Allaah, for Your mercy I hope, so do not
abandon me to myself even for the blink of an eye. Set all my affairs
straight, there is no god but You."
Narrated by Abu Dawood (5090); classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh
Abi Dawood.
Al-Nasaa'i (10405) narrated from Anas, in a hadeeth that was classedas
saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Nasaa'i, that these words are to be
said morning and evening.
Shaykh al-'Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) was asked:
What is the ruling on saying "So and so has self confidence" and the
like? Is this contrary to the du'aa' narrated in the hadeeth, "do not
abandon me to myself even for the blink of an eye"?
He replied:
There is nothing wrong with that, because what is meant by saying that
somebody is self-confident is that he is certain about something and
is sure ofit. There is no doubt thatthings may sometimes be attributed
to a person on the basis of certainty, and sometimeson the basis of
probability, and sometimes on the basis of doubt, and sometimeson the
basis of what is most likely to be the case. If he says, for example,
"I certain about that" or "I am certain of myself" or "So and so is
certain of himself" or "he is certainabout what he is saying", what is
meant isthat he is confident about it. There is nothing wrong with
thatand it is not contrary to the well-known du'aa', "do not abandon
me to myself even for the blinkof an eye," because the person may be
certain ofhimself by the help of Allah, based on what Allah has given
him of knowledge, ability and so on.
Fataawa Islamiyyah, 4/480
Secondly:
Some of the things which we think will increase the Muslim's
self-confidence are:
1.
Putting his trust in his Lord, depending upon Him and seeking
supportand help from Him. The Muslim cannot do without his Lord, may
Hebe exalted. As we mentioned above, self-confidence is an acquired
characteristic, and the Muslim needs help and support from his Lord.
The more he puts his trust in his Lord, the greater his
self-confidence will grow and reach the highest level.
When Moosa and his people fled from Pharaoh and his troops, and the
two sides saw one another, we see the trust that Moosa had in his
Lord. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):
"And when the two hosts saw each other, the companions of Moosa
(Moses) said: 'We are sure to be overtaken.'
62. [Moosa (Moses)] said:'Nay, verily, with me is my Lord. He will guide me'"
[al-Shu'ara' 26:61, 62].
2.
Finding out what his strong points are and increasing them; what he
does well and developing it; and what his weak points are and trying
to deal with them.
In order to develop self-confidence it is essential to look with
gratitude at what Allah has given you of skills and characteristics,
so that this will motivate you to strengthen your self-confidence.
With regard to your weak points, you have to try todeal with them and
develop them so that they reach the same level as your other,
goodskills and characteristics.
3.
It is very important for the Muslim who is seeking ways of increasing
his self-confidence not to repeat negative words, such as saying that
he has no self-confidence or that he will never succeed at work.
4.
The Muslim has to set specific goals for his life and check on the
outcome time after time,because the person who is self-confident will
make sure that his goal is achieved on the basis of good planning and
with the help of his Lord.
5.
The Muslim should seek righteous companions, because that will give
him a motive to succeed and encourage him to make greater efforts. The
righteous companions will not overlook their friend's weak points;
rather theywill guide him to follow the better path. Thus good
companions are one of the factors of success for the confidentMuslim.
6.
He should not be distracted by previous difficult experiences andpast
failures, because that will spoil his efforts and make him look down
on what he has achieved of success. This is not something that the
Muslim wants for himself.
Thirdly:
Controlling one's behaviour and actions is something that the Muslim
can do and it is within his capabilities. Part of that is anger; the
Muslim should be confident that he is able,with the help of his
Lord,to rid himself of the evilsand bad effects of anger and strive to
mend his ways and discipline himself to adhere to the laws of Allah.
This is something that is very easy indeed for the one who wants to
achieve it, so long as he has a greatdeal of resolve to complete what
he wantsto achieve of disciplining himself and purifying his soul.
In the answers to questions no. 45647 and 658 we have discussed some
Islamically prescribed ways of dealing with anger.
The one who wants to rid himself of anger has only to hasten to take
action. This, in fact, is what we are lacking. The words are many but
the actions are few. So let the Muslim who wants to purify his soul
train himself to take action, do what his Lord has commanded him and
refrain from what his Lord has forbidden him to do. Thus he will be
one of the successful, in sha Allah.
In the answer to question no. 22090 we have discussed how the Muslim
may train and discipline himself.
And Allah knows best.

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Islamic Stories, - The last touch

The Holy Prophet (SAW) was sitting in the row of his Sahabah on the
day of the battle of Badr. He had an arrow without point in his hand.
Suwaid bin Ghazia (RA) was a little forward fromthe row. He (SAW)
pushed his belly gently with this stick asking him to stay erect. He
said"O Prophet of Allah! You have caused pain to me although Allah has
sent you for establishing truth and justice. Hence let me take my
revenge."Thereupon, he (SAW) raised his clothe from hisbody and asked
him to take his revenge. Now Suwaid (RA) hugged himand kissed his
belly."What made you to do so O Suwaid!" he (SAW) inquired. He
submitted"You see what is lying before us. I thought to have the last
meeting with you in a state that my skin get in touch with that of
yours." Hearing this, he (SAW) prayed for his welfare. Source:
Transmitted by Ibn Is'haque from Hib'ban.
The companions of the Prophet loved him (SAW)more than anyone else.
Even at the last moment, they wish to be in touch with Rasulullah
(SAW) rather than their family members. Indeed, we will be raised with
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Islamic Stories, - The truth has come

It is stated on the authority of Abdullah bin Masood that the
unbelievers of the Quraish had installed 360 idols in Ka'bah so
strongly that their feet were fixed with lead. When Makkah was
conquered and the Prophet (SAW) entered the Holy Ka'bah, he had a
stick in his hand. With it, he started pointing towards the idols and
reciting this verse: Truth has (now) arrived, and falsehood perished
(Surah Al Isra:81). The idol, to which the Prophet (SAW) pointed on
its front, fell down to its rear side and the idol,to which he pointed
from its rear side, fell down flat on its front side. Source: Combined
from Bukhari, Muslim, Bazar, Tabrani and Abu Yaala.

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