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A man has two wives, and it is the custom among us that when one of them gives birth, he should give her a gift after she finishes her nifaas (post-partum bleeding). Does he have to give a gift to both wives when one of the gives birth, or can he give a gift only to the one who has given birth? - Praise be to Allaah. The basic principle is that he does not have to give a gift to the wife who has not given birth; if she later gives birth, he does not have to give a gift to the other wife. Fairness means that he should give them gifts of equal value, i.e., if he gives the first wife one hundred when she gives birth, he should give his other wife one hundred when she gives birth. He does not have to give her anything before she gives birth, but if he is afraid that problems may arise, and he wants to give a gift to both wives each time one of them gives birth in order to avoid problems, then this is fine and is regarded as kind treatment in the interests of harmony. And Allaah knows best. Liqa’ al-Baab al-Maftooh by Ibn ‘Uthaymeen, 59/200

General, Dought & clear, - * If a Muslim has doubts, will it harm him to ask about the truthfulness of some miracle?

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- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M. MD, IRI (Managing Director, Islamic Research Institution)

If a Muslim has some doubts about Islam and the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), and he seeks to put his mind at rest regarding these doubts that are troubling him, so he asks about the soundness of reports that speak of a miracle that occurred at the hands of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), does this put him beyond the pale of Islam? Will Allah forgive such sins?
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Praise be to Allah
The Muslim should praise Allah, may He be exalted, and thank Him for the blessing of Islam and right guidance, for it is the greatest of blessings, as Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Is he who was dead (without Faith by ignorance and disbelief) and We gave him life (by knowledge and Faith) and set for him a light (of Belief) whereby he can walk amongst men, like him who is in the darkness (of disbelief, polytheism and hypocrisy) from which he can never come out? Thus it is made fair-seeming to the disbelievers that which they used to do”
[al-An‘aam 6:122]
“Is he whose heart Allah has opened to Islam, so that he is in light from His Lord (as he who is non-Muslim)? So, woe to those whose hearts are hardened against remembrance of Allah! They are in plain error!”
[az-Zumar 39:22]
“And had it not been for the Grace of Allah and His Mercy on you, not one of you would ever have been pure from sins. But Allah purifies (guides to Islam) whom He wills”
[an-Noor 24:21].
If this Muslim looks at the world around him and reflects upon what the people of polytheism and idolatry, such as the Christians and others, follow, he will realise the greatness of the blessing that Allah has bestowed upon him.
Yet despite that, the Muslim may experience some doubts, because of his lack of knowledge or weakness of faith, or because there is someone who tries to make him doubt. In that case, he has to dispel the doubt by asking people of knowledge, and reflecting upon the words of Allah, may He be exalted, and the words of His Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him), and by studying the Seerah (Prophet’s biography) and signs and miracles, for these are things that will increase his faith and bring him peace of mind and reassurance.
There is nothing wrong with asking about a miracle and how sound it is, so as to increase one’s certainty and steadfastness. Asking such questions is not regarded as going beyond the bounds of Islam, but he should beware of persisting in doubts or stopping good deeds, such as giving up prayer – Allah forbid – because giving up prayer constitutes disbelief (and puts a person beyond the bounds of Islam), according to the more sound of the two scholarly opinions.
The Muslim should understand that no matter what sins he may commit, if he then repents and seeks forgiveness, Allah, may He be exalted, will forgive him no matter what his sins are. Allah, may He be exalted, turned in mercy to people who had lived all their lives in disbelief, polytheism and barring people from the path of Allah, then they became leaders of guidance, lights that illuminated the darkness and beacons on the path of truth and righteousness. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Know they not that Allah accepts repentance from His slaves and takes the Sadaqat (alms, charities) and that Allah Alone is the One Who forgives and accepts repentance, Most Merciful?”
[at-Tawbah 9:104]
“And He it is Who accepts repentance from His slaves, and forgives sins, and He knows what you do”
[ash-Shoora 42:25].
No matter how great the sin, Allah’s mercy, forgiveness and generosity are greater.
The poet spoke well who said:
O Lord, although my sins are great and many, I know that Your forgiveness is greater
If it be the case that only doers of good can hope for Your grace, then who could the sinner turn to for mercy?
Our advice to the one who is faced with doubts is that he should turn to the Book of Allah, may He be exalted, for it is a remedy and a healing, as Allah, may He be glorified, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And We send down from the Quran that which is a healing and a mercy to those who believe (in Islamic Monotheism and act on it), and it increases the Zalimoon (polytheists and wrong-doers) nothing but loss”
[al-Isra’ 17:82].
So let him turn to Allah, calling upon Him and hoping that He will remove his worry, relieve his distress, illuminate his heart and free him from the tricks of the Shaytaan.
If his doubt is based on a particular specious argument, let him ask the scholars about it, for the religion of Islam is so great and strong that no specious argument can stand up to it or resist it.
If what he is dealing with is a kind of waswasah (whispers from the Shaytaan) that is not based on a particular argument, then the remedy for that is remembering Allah (dhikr), doing acts of obedience and worship, seeking refuge with Allah, keeping busy and ignoring it.
We ask Allah to help us all to do that which He loves and which pleases Him.
And Allah knows best.

General, Dought & clear, - * Can she ask for a divorce if her husband takes a second wife?

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- PUBLISHERNajimudeeN M. MD, IRI (Managing Director, Islamic Research Institution)

Can I divorce (talaaq) my husband, because he is trying to take a second wife, but he cannot even take care of me and our children?
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Praise be to Allah
Firstly:
A woman does not have the power to divorce (talaaq) her husband; rather divorce is in the hand of the man, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “(The right of divorce) belongs to the one who takes hold of the calf [i.e., her husband].” Classed as hasan by al-Albaani inSaheeh Ibn Maajah
The calf referred to here is the calf of the wife; this is a metaphor for intercourse. Hence the one who has the right of divorce (talaaq) is the one who has the right of intercourse.
The Standing Committee was asked: If a woman divorces (talaaq) her husband, does she have to offer expiation, and what is that expiation?
They replied: If a woman divorces her husband, it does not count as such and she does not have to offer any expiation, but she should ask Allah for forgiveness and repent to Him, because her issuing a divorce to her husband is contrary to the shar‘i evidence, which indicates that divorce is in the hand of the husband or whoever is acting on his behalf according to sharee‘ah.
End quote fromFataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa’imah(vol. 1 – 20/11).
For more information, please see the answer to question no. 111881
Secondly:
The husband is not obliged to seek the permission or approval of his wife if he wants to take a second wife, but part of good treatment is to console her by taking measures to reduce the distress that women naturally feel in such situations. For more information, please see the answer to question no. 12544.
Our advice to the woman whose husband takes a second wife is to be patient, seek reward with Allah and accept what Allah has decreed for her. No one knows where goodness lies. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“…it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know”
[al-Baqarah 2:216].
But if it so happens that a woman cannot put up with that and the fears that she will not be able to fulfil her husband’s rights over her if he takes a second wife, then she may request khula‘ and return the mahr to the husband, because of the report narrated by al-Bukhaari (48677) from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allah be pleased with him), according to which the wife of Thaabit ibn Qays came to the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) “O Messenger of Allah, I do not find any fault with Thaabit ibn Qays in his character or his religious commitment, but I do not want to commit any act of kufr after becoming a Muslim.” The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to her, “Will you give back his garden?” Because he had given her a garden as her mahr. She said, “Yes.” The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to Thaabit: “Take back your garden, and divorce her.”.
Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) said: The words “but I do not want to commit any act of kufr after becoming a Muslim” mean: If I stay with him, I would hate to fall into anything that constitutes kufr. It is as if she was indicating that her intense dislike of him might prompt her to make an outward display of kufr so that her marriage to him would be annulled. She knew that that was haraam, but she feared that intense hatred might push her to do that. Or it may be that what she meant by kufr was ingratitude to her husband, which refers to the wife falling short in fulfilling the rights of the husband.
End quote fromFath al-Baari(9/399).
But if the husband is not well off and cannot afford to spend on his wife’s maintenance and do what he is obliged to do of taking care of her, then she may refer the matter to the Islamic judge (qaadi) and request an annulment of the marriage.
And Allah knows best.