Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * She saw blood after she had done ghusl following menses and had intercourse with her husband. Whatshould they do?

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A man copulated his wife after she made ghusl following menstruation. On the same day and before she made ghusl of janaba (impurity after intercourse) she found blood. It is very rare for her to have longer period than normal. Did he copulate her while she is still menstruating? If so, then how should they expiate? Should the wife make ghusl to clear the impurity of intercourse, or can she wait till the end of the day so that she can make ghusl to clear the impurity of both intercourse and menstruation? Are they sinful? Bear in mind that she was sure that her period stopped, she made ghusl and prayed.
Praise be to Allaah.
If she was certain that she had seen the tuhr (sign of purity i.e., that the menses had ended), either complete dryness or the white discharge by which women know that the end of the menses has come, then any blood that appears after that is not regarded as menses, so it does not mean that she cannot pray, fast and have intercourse.
But if you were not certain about the tuhr, rather you based it on the usual end of your menses, then the blood was menses, because the period may be longer or shorter than usual.
Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allaah preserve him) was asked:
What is the ruling on the blood that appears on days other than the monthly period? My period is usually nine days but in some months I bleed on days other than the days of my period, but it is a very small amount of blood, and it may last for a day or two. Do I have to pray and fast during that, or make them up?
He replied: This blood that is extra to the period is bleeding from a vein and is not counted as part of the period. The woman who knows the nature of her period should, during the time of her usual period, not pray, fast, touch the Mus-haf or let her husband have intercourse with her in the vagina. When she becomes pure and her period is over, she should do ghusl, then she comes under the same ruling as women who are pure (not menstruating). If she sees a little blood or yellowish or brownish discharge, that is istihaadah (non-menstrual bleeding) and it does not mean that she cannot pray and so on. End quote.
Fataawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah(1/277).
With regard to what took place of intercourse, there is no sin on you for that, because you thought that the period had ended.
There is no sin on the woman if she delays ghusl for janaabah so that she can do ghusl for menses and janaabah together, although it is better for her to do ghusl for janaabah, because by doing so it becomes permissible for her to read Qur’aan, as the one who is in a state of janaabah is not allowed to read Qur’aan, whereas the menstruating woman may read Qur’aan.
And Allaah knows best.

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Menstruation and Post-Natal bleeding, - Dought& clear, - * She bled after having a coil inserted after her nifaas ended

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My postnatal bleeding has stopped ten days before Ramadan started. I visited the doctor and she inserted coil two days before Ramadan. I started bleeding again till this day, should I fast and pray? Bear in mind that I am fasting and praying currently.
Praise be to Allaah.
Firstly:
The basic principle is that the bleeding experienced by women is menstrual blood, so long as it does not last for more than fifteen days, in which case it is istihaadah (non-menstrual bleeding) according to the majority of fuqaha’. According to some scholars, it is menstrual blood unless it continues for most of the month; if it does that, then it becomes istihaadah.
Secondly:
The menses may be longer or shorter, or it may come early or late. The blood that comes in these cases is regarded as menstrual blood, and there is no need to repeat the fast, according to the more correct of the two scholarly opinions. So your usual period may be seven days, then it increases to ten for example, so the ruling is that it is all menses.
Thirdly:
Having a coil inserted usually causes some disruption of the cycle, such as making the period longer, or making it come earlier, or changing the nature of the blood.
Fourthly:
What we understand from your question is that the bleeding started after the coil was inserted, two days before Ramadaan, and it has lasted until today (the seventh of Ramadaan), but you did not tell us what your previous cycle was like, or whether the period came at the usual time or not.
Based on this information, the bleeding you are experiencing comes under the heading of menstrual blood, unless it lasts for more than fifteen days, in which case you will be mustahaadah (experiencing istihaadah or non-menstrual bleeding). [According to some scholars, you will not be mustahaadah unless the bleeding lasts for most of a month.]
If it is established that you are mustahaadah, then one of three scenarios must apply:
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You previously had a regular cycle, so you should count on your former cycle and refrain from prayer etc. accordingly, then do ghusl and pray. Any bleeding outside of your normal period is istihaadah.
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If you did not previously have a regular cycle, then you have to distinguish between types of bleeding: menstrual blood is dark and thick, and has an unpleasant odour, and is usually accompanied by pains (cramps). The blood of istihaadah is light and thin. So your menses is the days when the blood is dark and thick, and the other blood is istihaadah.
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If you cannot make this distinction, then you should refrain from praying for six or seven days, because that is the usual length of women’s menses, then do ghusl and pray.
The woman who is mustahaadah may fast, pray and have intercourse, but she must do wudoo’ for every obligatory prayer after the time for it begins, and she may offer whatever naafil prayers she wants to with that wudoo’.
And Allaah knows best.

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For children, - Moral stories about making a difference (Starfish Story)

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We are by nature moral story tellers. Our brains are wired to tell moral stories.
Think for a moment about how many moral stories you have already told today: to your spouse or partner; to your children; to your colleagues; or to your friends. Moral stories are the currency of our lives; they are the measure of our days. We are nothing without our moral stories, because moral stories encapsulate our fears, our failures, our dreams, and our desires. We understand and make sense of our own lives by telling moral stories about ourselves and others. Moral stories are the touchstones for our emotions.
Moral stories have a way to connect and stay with us like nothing else ever could. They tap into our inner feelings and make us part of it. The reason why we remember moral stories is because they pull on our emotional strings. They make us think and they make us feel. And it's that feeling that helps us remember.
A moral story, not data or facts, shake us up and make us see other points of view through characters we can identify with. And if a story is really captivating, we continue to think about it, turning it over in our minds, savoring it. Maybe we even begin to think about things a little differently from the way we had thought about them before. Moral stories have the power to move us emotionally; stir us intellectually; and teach us, too.
The following moral stories about making a difference will never fail to inspire us, regardless of how insignificant it may seem in the eyes of others.
Once upon a time, while walking along a beach, an elderly wise man saw someone in the distance leaning down, picking something up and throwing it into the ocean.
As he got closer, he noticed that the figure was that of a young boy, picking up starfish one by one and tossing each one gently back into the water.
Elderly wise man came closer still and called out, "Good morning! May I ask what it is that you are doing?"
The young boy paused, looked up and replied, "Throwing starfish back into the ocean."
The elderly wise man smiled and said, "I must ask then, why are you throwing starfish back into the ocean?"
To this, the young boy replied, "The sun is up and the tide is going out. If I don't throw them in, they will die."
Upon hearing this, the elderly wise man commented, "But, young boy, do you not realise that there are miles and miles of beach and there are starfish all along every mile? You can't possibly make a difference!"
The young boy listened politely. Then he bent down, picked up another starfish, threw it back into the ocean past the breaking waves and said, "It made a difference for that one."
We often think we are too insignificant or too unimportant to make a difference. We couldn't be further from the truth. So, can I encourage you to take the time to do something that will make a difference to someone else's life and it doesn't have to be much and they don't need to know. Just take a moment, do something special, the universe will know and that's enough.
I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; I will not refuse to do something I can do. - Helen Keller
One is not born into the world to do everything but to do something. - Henry David Thoreau

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Welcome to Islam, - * Harvesting the Chaff

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Despite the improvement of the economic conditions of workers in Europe, the socio-economic status of the woman is still critical. The woman still earns half of the salary of the man in most fields of work, if not all. If a woman wants to marry, she has to relinquish her name and the name of her father to become a subordinate to her husband even if in terms of name. In many cases, she has no right to dispose of her property except with the permission of her husband. Many readers will be astonished to know that it is the woman in many cultures who pays the dowry to the man, not vice versa -- although many Westerners nowadays do not follow this practice. Moreover, the man is not responsible for the financial maintenance of his wife.
On the other hand, Islam gave the woman her independent character and identity. She cannot be married except after her permission and consent. She does not change her name, but keeps her father's name and family name after marriage. She has the complete authority to dispose of her property without taking her husband’s permission. She does not have to support herself or her children financially even if she is rich and her husband is poor. If she spends any money, then it is considered as charity given to her husband or a debt that he has to pay back when he has the means to do so.
The status of the Western woman, who still struggles to earn her living in return for mean wages that men would not usually accept, is pathetic.
Because of the deteriorating economic and social conditions, she has become an easy prey to the middlemen of the international prostitution trade. She is also used to promote goods. We always find the photo of a charming woman in advertisements even if the advertisement has nothing to do with women.
The commercial mind thinks actively and employs a group of women in stores and offices under the supervision of a man or two men in order to regulate work and intellectually, physically and sexually dominate the women.Because of these deteriorating conditions, the woman suffers from loneliness, from which she escapes into the arms of any man, who soon gets bored with her and takes another. The woman has to take contraceptive pills early. As a result, officials in the West have found themselves obliged to teach schoolgirls how to use contraceptives. Nevertheless, there are thousands of young girls who become pregnant every year due to their inadequate knowledge about contraceptives. Therefore, mentors and officials instituted programs to teach the use of contraceptives in secondary schools, then in preparatory schools and finally in primary schools when they found that very young girls fall prey to pregnancy the most. Officials are not concerned with the spread of fornication and prostitution; rather, their concern is focused on circulating contraceptives among children.
Western laws had to legalize abortion, even if they did so reluctantly. Cases of abortion spread to the extent that a million cases of abortion take place every year in the US. About the same number of abortions takes place in Europe.
Statistics reveal that most suicide cases take place among young girls who live an anxious desperate life. For the first time in the history of medicine, collective cases of cruel battering of young children have appeared. These cases mostly end up in death or in physical and mental damage.
The woman brought all these calamities and afflictions upon herself through the misfortune of her going out of her home to work in offices and factories. Actually, we are doing the European woman an injustice, because she did not work outside her home willingly. She was forced to go outside her home to work in search of a living after the capitalists demolished the family by taking the father to the furnace of the factories and the cellars of mines. The woman, at that time, had to go out searching for provision. Hands received her and desires exploited her. In order to achieve the goals of the Jews, all means of treachery, apparent and hidden means of crime were used to demolish values and morals and increase the unending greed of the capitalists.

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