Dought & clear, - She did ‘Umrah, then she got her period, and she has some questions

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I hope that you can explain to me the ruling on these ‘Umrahs:
- The first ‘Umrah was a few years ago. I did ‘Umrah, then I got my period, but I do not remember whether that was during the ‘Umrah or afterwards.
- The second ‘Umrah: my family intended to do ‘Umrah, and I had my period, but I travelled with them and I do not remember what my intention was on that occasion. Then my family entered ihram at the miqaat, and I do not remember whether I entered ihram or not, or whether I had the intention that if anything prevented me (from going ahead with ‘Umrah) and I stipulated the condition of the period, then I travelled. My family did ‘Umrah, and I sat and waited for them until they had finished. What I remember is that I think I did not do ‘Umrah, but there is something not correct.
- The third ‘Umrah: I did ‘Umrah in the company of my sister and her husband, and I did ‘Umrah. What is the ruling on that?
- The fourth ‘Umrah: I intended to do ‘Umrah, then my family told me that we were going to go to another city, then do ‘Umrah. We set out from our city, without passing by the miqaat, and we stayed in the other city for a few days, then we decided to do ‘Umrah, but when I was doing ghusl I saw some blood (menses), and I do not remember what my intention was after that. My family went to the miqaat and entered ihram, but I do not remember what my intention was, whether I formed the intention or I mentioned menses (as an impediment to completing ‘Umrah) when forming my intention. My family went ahead and did ‘Umrah, whilst I waited for them.
- The fifth ‘Umrah: in sha Allah I did a proper ‘Umrah
What is the ruling on the previous ‘Umrahs? Do I have to do repeat them? Can I make them up in a single journey? Please note that I have received a marriage proposal; what is the ruling on that?
Praise be to Allah
- With regard to the first ‘Umrah, concerning which you did not remember whether the period came during it or after it, it is a valid ‘Umrah, because the basic principle with regard to acts of worship is that they are sound, and uncertainty after having completed an act of worship does not matter.
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said: Doubt or uncertainty after having completed an act of worship does not matter. For example, if a person is uncertain as to whether he did five or six circuits of tawaaf, we say: if he is still in tawaaf, let him do what he is uncertain of, and that will be the end of the matter. If it is after he has finished tawaaf and he has left (the mataaf), and he says, “By Allah, I do not know whether I did six or seven circuits,” that uncertainty does not matter; he should ignore this doubt and regard it as seven.
This is a very useful principle; if a person has a lot of doubt and uncertainty, he should not pay any attention to that. If the uncertainty arises after he has finished an act of worship, he should not pay any attention to it, unless he is certain. If he is certain, then he must do that which he had omitted.
End quote fromFataawa Noor ‘ala ad-Darb
- With regard to the second ‘Umrah, as you cannot remember whether you entered ihram and did ‘Umrah or not, you do not have to do anything about it. The basic principle is that you are free of obligation, so do not pay any attention to these doubts.
- With regard to the third ‘Umrah which you did with your sister and her husband, it is a valid ‘Umrah, but you did a mistake by travelling to Makkah without a mahram, so you have to repent and seek forgiveness. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “No woman should travel except with a mahram.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3006; Muslim, 1341
Please see the answer to question no. 316, 6057
- With regard to the fourth ‘Umrah, we say concerning it what we said concerning the first and second ‘Umrahs, which is that you should not pay any attention to this uncertainty, because the basic principle is that you are free of obligation.
To sum up, you are now free of obligation, and you do not have to repeat any of these ‘Umrahs.
However we should point out that what you should have done is to ask about matters that affected your acts of worship at the time when it happened, and not delay doing so. Rather you should hasten to find out what you need to know about acts of worship, and hasten to do that which is required of you. We also advise you not to pay attention to doubts and waswaas (whispers from the Shaytaan), and not to let them affect your worship, otherwise it will ruin your entire life, for the Shaytaan is eager to make the believer feel sad. So turn away from him and his traps, and seek refuge with Allah from him. We ask Allah to help you to remember Him, be grateful to Him and to worship Him properly.
And Allah knows best.








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Dought & clear, - He incited a woman toleave her husband, then he married her and claimed that her son from her first husband was his child

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A man encouraged a woman to run away from her husband, with whom she had a child. She went to the court and got divorced from him by means of khul‘, then after that, that man married her and claimed that the child was his and not the child of the first husband.
What is the Islamic view on this matter?
Praise be to Allah
Firstly:
What this man did of encouraging the woman to run away from her husband and get divorced from him by means of khul‘ is a haraam action and a grievous sin. It is not permissible for a Muslim to propose marriage to any married woman, or to turn her against her husband, even if that is not with the aim of marrying her and he has no interest in her, no matter what the reason. A stern warning concerning that was narrated in the hadeeth of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him): “He is not one of us who turn a woman against her husband.” Narrated by Abu Dawood, 2125; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh Abi Dawood.
Secondly:
What the woman did of getting divorced from her husband by means of khul‘ with no good reason is also the subject of a stern warning, in the hadeeth in which the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Any woman who asks her husband for a divorce with no good reason, the fragrance of Paradise will be forbidden to her.”
Narrated by at-Tirmidhi, 1187; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani inSaheeh Abi Dawood.
Thirdly:
Because of the crime that they have committed and the abhorrent nature of what they have done, some of the scholars are of the view that if a man turns a woman against her husband, it is not permissible for him to marry her; rather it is permanently forbidden for him to marry her. This is the view of the Maalikis. However, the majority of scholars think that the marriage is valid, despite the sinful nature of their actions.
Fourthly:
It is not permissible for this man, or anyone else, to claim the child of another man as his own; rather this comes under the heading of lies and false declarations, transgression against the rights of others and corruption of lineage, and it leads to serious evil consequences. For that reason, Allah has forbidden adoption (in the sense that the adopted child is claimed as one’s own flesh and blood) and claiming the child of another as one’s own, even if the birth parents agree to that or his father is not known. So how about if he usurped the child and falsely claimed him as his own? This is even worse and even more abhorrent.
Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Allah has not put for any man two hearts inside his body. Neither has He made your wives whom you declare to be like your mothers backs, your real mothers. (Az-Zihar is the saying of a husband to his wife, ‘You are to me like the back of my mother’ i.e., You are unlawful for me to approach.), nor has He made your adopted sons your real sons. That is but your saying with your mouths. But Allah says the truth, and He guides to the (Right) Way.
Call them (adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just with Allah. But if you know not their fathers (names, call them) your brothers in faith and Mawaleekum (your freed slaves). And there is no sin on you if you make a mistake therein, except in regard to what your hearts deliberately intend. And Allah is Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”
[al-Ahzaab 33:4-5].
What they must do is fear Allah and repent to Him from these sins: his sin of turning a woman against her husband and her sin of obeying him in that and getting divorced from him by means of khul‘, then his sin of claiming the child of another man as his own, and her helping that evildoer in his evil act and transgression. They should both beware of the wrath and punishment of Allah, and they should realise that Allah is severe in punishment and that He may or may not give a respite. Allah, may He be exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“Consider not that Allah is unaware of that which the Zalimoon (polytheists, wrong-doers, etc.) do, but He gives them respite up to a Day when the eyes will stare in horror”
[Ibraaheem 14:42].
Muslim narrated in hisSaheeh(2583) that Abu Moosa (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, grants respite to the wrongdoer, but when He seizes him He will not let him off.” Then he recited:“Such is the Seizure of your Lord when He seizes the (population of) towns while they are doing wrong. Verily, His Seizure is painful (and) severe” [Hood 11:102].
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Dought & clear, - She feels sad and depressed, and is asking forthe solution

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I am a twenty-four year old woman. I feel sad almost all the time, and have no desire to make contact with people. I feel very lonely and as if nothing could make me happy, even though I offer all the obligatory prayers, even Fajr on time, I pray qiyaam al-layl, I read a juz’ of Qur’an every day in order to complete it once every month, I try to draw closer to Allah and I have performed ‘Umrah more than once. But these feelings are not going away. Praise be to Allah, I am blessed, my life is pretty good and is better than many, praise be to Allah. I acknowledge that and I give thanks to Allah for it; I hope that He will not call me to account for my negative feelings. But I do not know what is the cause of these bad feelings. This has been going on for more than a year, and started before the unfortunate developments that have occurred in the Arab world. It has gotten worse with the killings in our country and the loss of relatives of some friends of mine. How can I overcome this negativity?
Praise be to Allah
Firstly:
First of all we would like to welcome you to the Islam Q&A website. We ask Allah to benefit us and you by means of what we say, and to relieve us and our Muslim ummah of distress.
Trouble is inevitable in the life of this world; this is how Allah has decreed it and He has made it a place of trials and tests, and a bridge to the hereafter. Even the best of His creation, the Prophets, were never free of troubles. Life is never plain sailing for anyone, young or old. You may have reason to rejoice one day, then reason to feel sad for many other days; this is how it always is in the life of this world and this is how people are all the time.
Who among us has not felt grief and sorrow as a result of the calamities we see befalling the Muslims, day after day? Who among us has not lost interest in this world and everything in it, because of what we hear or see?
But when these feelings of sadness and loneliness or bad moods persist and prevent us from living a normal life or carrying out the duties that are required of us, or fulfilling the rights of others, or they cause us to neglect the blessings of Allah has bestowed upon us and fail to give thanks for them as we should, at that point sadness moves from being something natural to being a case of weakness and sickness that needs to be treated.
There is no greater remedy for that than patience and fearing Allah, and thinking positively of Allah, the Lord of the Worlds, putting one’s trust in Him, delegating one’s affairs to Him and turning to Him in all times of calamity.
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:
Many people, when they see evil or when the Muslim ummah goes through a lot of trouble, panic, lose hope and start complaining as people who are beset by calamities do. But this is forbidden; rather what is enjoined is to be patient, to put one’s trust in Allah, to be steadfast in adhering to the religion of Islam and to believe that Allah is with those who fear Him and those who do good, and that the best end is for those who fear Him; whatever befalls him is because of his sins, so he should be patient, for the promise of Allah is true; he should seek forgiveness for his sins and glorify and praise his Lord morning and evening.
End quote fromMajmoo‘ al-Fataawa, 18/295
Secondly:
If the state of grief worsens and leads to some level of depression, then in addition to this spiritual remedy, showing patience, putting one’s trust in Allah and always remembering Him, medical attention from a knowledgeable and trustworthy specialist is also needed.
The symptoms of depression include the following:
· always feeling sad, anxious and in a bad mood
· loss of interest and lack of enjoyment in activities that people usually enjoy
· constant pessimism and feeling helpless in the face of life’s problems
· feelings of guilt, worthlessness and social alienation
· inability to show or express feelings towards others or to accept feelings from others
· trouble sleeping, such as insomnia, sleeping too long or waking up too early
· eating problems (overeating or loss of appetite)
· chronic physical pain from which no remedy brings relief
· weepiness
· getting tense quickly; hyperactivity and not being able to calm down and relax
· constant feelings of tiredness and inability to do any physical activity
· inability to concentrate, remember or take sound decisions
If four or more of the symptoms mentioned above are present, then you should consult a specialist in psychology, as mentioned above.
In addition to seeking medical treatment, you should try to keep yourself busy with useful activities, such as reading Qur’an and other books, and engaging in hobbies and so on. Do not forget some natural remedies that will re-energise you and help the brain to regain energy, such as honey and dried fruits.
One of the prescriptions that was often used in the past is talbeenah. According to a saheeh report, the Messenger of Allah (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said concerning it: “Talbeenah brings comfort to the sick person and it lessens grief.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5101; Muslim, 2216
Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said inZaad al-Ma‘aad:
This broth clears that from the stomach and intestines, cleanses it, makes it flow, makes it more liquid, adjusts it, and restores balance. Thus it gives relief, especially for the one who usually eats barley bread, which was the custom of the people of Madinah at that time; it was their staple food, as wheat was very expensive for them. And Allah knows best.
Talbeenah is a broth made from barley flour with its bran, to which a cup of water is added, and it is heated on a low fire for five minutes, then a cup of milk and a spoonful of honey is added.
And Allah knows best.







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